You were stubborn to begin with that's why that racist symbol is still around! You need to be shamed, you need to be looked down upon, only then will you "move on". If that wasn't the case then progress would have already happened. Quite frankly, I think most Americans are tired of waiting for your ignorant asses.
Signed,
Your friendly northerner from 2015
As someone who has been working to bring the South into the 21st century, I have to tell you, it isn't helping. The South has had the perception that the Northern states look down their noses at us for generations, even on issues unrelated to the Civil War, segregation, racism, etc. All this does is to help reinforce those feelings, which makes us dig our heels in even further.
Response to bolded line: No, you don't get to tell the rest of the nation to butt out of your business just because we don't live down there. Your forefathers fought a war just for that reason and lost. Go ahead and embrace the flag and your heritage, it's all yours. Go ahead and move on... just don't try to leave the history of slavery behind to be forgotten.
Slavery and the history of the south are inseparable, just as slavery and the history of America itself are inseparable.
Forgotten? No. We are reminded of it every single day by sanctimonious Northerners who feel that the actions of 150 years ago give them free reign to criticize every part of Southern culture, whether they understand/experience it or not. It is a part of us, and we are the ones that need to make peace with it, not you. We don't deny it, but we don't hide it either.
Tens of thousands of Northerners died defeating traitors who fought for slavery under the confederate flag. So hell yes, Northerners have every right to tell you how you should feel about your former traitor flag. You lost the fucking war.
It was your ancestors' choice to preserve the union, not ours. I suppose we do have a bit of schadenfreude on that front in the form of "you break it, too bad, you bought it". We have since come to see ourselves as an integral part of the USA, and wouldn't have it any other way. However, we are distinct in who we are and what formed us. Yes, we lost the war, and we came to peace with that a long time ago and have moved on. You can quote all the confederate leaders you want about the war being solely about race, but in the end the actual people that fought and died for the CSA didn't necessarily sign on for those same reasons. Their experiences coming back from the war, especially those under the reconstruction period, were the first building blocks of what we have become today. Northerners telling us how we should feel about our own history and shaming us for it is something that hasn't really changed since that time. Its time for those sanctimonious northerners to move on and remove that "we won, you lost" schtick from their rectums too.