moshquerade
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see, that's cool. i can't figure why a guy would want one prior to having kids.
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good thing you aren't a guy then
moshquerade
No Lifer
- Nov 1, 2001
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good thing you aren't a guy then
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well now that we've established that you won't see me getting fixed at such a young age and prior to knowing for sure if i want kids.
Anyway it's a surgery and you are under a risk. So I wouldn't recommend it, unless it's your profession requirement.
skyking
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- Nov 21, 2001
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Had it done, nothing like fritzo's experience. It was less trouble than going to the dentist. (I really don't like visiting the dentist
)
Couple of days of laying about, a couple of weeks of AHEM "inactivity", then take in a sample.
What a relief, and so much better than the tricks that get played on the woman's body by birth control.
)Couple of days of laying about, a couple of weeks of AHEM "inactivity", then take in a sample.
What a relief, and so much better than the tricks that get played on the woman's body by birth control.
My god Fritzo...reading your post just made me squirm in my seat and am in shock now. I have a lot of respect for guys who'd have this done...I'm not the type that squirms around needles or having blood taken, but something like that in that area would.
You might find one that will...but most won't because they feel you might
change your mind about wanting kids.
Don't be so sure vasectomy's are totally safe. It's a rare occurrance, but they can cause, or atleast initiate, a really bad disease.
My dad has a really weird disease..the doctors are calling it Lupus as that's the closest thing it's to. Anyways, it started right when he got his vasectomy..could have been a coincidence, but it's a pretty bad one.
He now has to take like 7 pills a day just to survive.
My dad has a really weird disease..the doctors are calling it Lupus as that's the closest thing it's to. Anyways, it started right when he got his vasectomy..could have been a coincidence, but it's a pretty bad one.
He now has to take like 7 pills a day just to survive.
I had one done a couple of years ago. Aside from the anasthaesia not quite taking the first time (and the anticipation leading up to the event), I think the worst part was actually being up in stirrups. There's nothing like having your legs hiked up and your jewels hanging in mid-air to leave you feeling remarkably vulnerable.
First of all let me say that I have a lot of respect for men who choose to have a vasectomy rather than put their wife through the long term ordeal of health risks and complications of being on birth control pills, or going through the more complicated and riskier surgical procedure of a tubal ligation. That's the definition of taking one for the team. But most of them choose to do it after having had children and knowing that their family is complete. That's why I think you should reconsider having the procedure done so early in your life.
I don't think that you're immature at 24 and I do believe you when you say you've thought long and hard about it and discussed it with others and that you're sure this is what you want now. But the key word is, now. People grow and evolve throughout their lives. Their circumstances and priorities change and are redefined and refocused through experiences and relationships. I'm sure yours have. Your view of the world, yourself, and your priorities have shifted somewhat over the last 10 years haven't they? You don't expect your life to remain stagnant over the next 10 or so do you? Maybe you're right and your feelings about this one aspect of your life won't change, and maybe you'll meet someone who feels the same way and maybe the two of you will be perfectly happy and fulfilled as a couple without children, but those are a lot of maybes. Why the rush to make the decision now?
I can appreciate your wanting to be responsible and not bring any unwanted child into the world, but there are lots of other ways of being responsible. And if you are a responsible person and having casual sex, you're still going to have to use condoms to protect yourself from STDs. So why not wait until you're in a committed relationship to decide where you want to go from there instead of picking some random time frame for such a life altering decision?
I know it's none of my business what you do. To tell you the truth, the only reason I wrote this is because I had watched an old Late Show I'd taped before I read your post. David Letterman was showing a tape he'd made of his son Harry. Here's a guy in his 50's who'd always known he didn't want to have any kids. He wasn't too thrilled when he found out that his girlfriend was pregnant. Now he says, and you can tell he means it, that it's the best thing that ever happened in his life. Things change. So I just thought I'd mention that possibility when I read what you had said.
I don't think that you're immature at 24 and I do believe you when you say you've thought long and hard about it and discussed it with others and that you're sure this is what you want now. But the key word is, now. People grow and evolve throughout their lives. Their circumstances and priorities change and are redefined and refocused through experiences and relationships. I'm sure yours have. Your view of the world, yourself, and your priorities have shifted somewhat over the last 10 years haven't they? You don't expect your life to remain stagnant over the next 10 or so do you? Maybe you're right and your feelings about this one aspect of your life won't change, and maybe you'll meet someone who feels the same way and maybe the two of you will be perfectly happy and fulfilled as a couple without children, but those are a lot of maybes. Why the rush to make the decision now?
I can appreciate your wanting to be responsible and not bring any unwanted child into the world, but there are lots of other ways of being responsible. And if you are a responsible person and having casual sex, you're still going to have to use condoms to protect yourself from STDs. So why not wait until you're in a committed relationship to decide where you want to go from there instead of picking some random time frame for such a life altering decision?
I know it's none of my business what you do. To tell you the truth, the only reason I wrote this is because I had watched an old Late Show I'd taped before I read your post. David Letterman was showing a tape he'd made of his son Harry. Here's a guy in his 50's who'd always known he didn't want to have any kids. He wasn't too thrilled when he found out that his girlfriend was pregnant. Now he says, and you can tell he means it, that it's the best thing that ever happened in his life. Things change. So I just thought I'd mention that possibility when I read what you had said.
DainBramaged
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There are a number of reasons that now is a good time.
First of all, I have health insurance. Secondly, I have disposable income to pay for whatever part of the procedure that insurance won't pay, should that be needed. Third, I will be transferring to University in the fall of 2006 where I will have no job and little money to spare. Fourth, because I am going to University, the chances are decent that I will meet a woman with whom I am interested in having relations and that I will have the time to have those relations. Currently I have no time at all for women, fun, or sleep.
Assuming no drastic changes take effect, I will be in school in the above financial situation for at least six years until I get my doctorate.
Now, I have absolutely no faith in condoms. I'm not going to get into that, it's not the point of the thread. Just assume that nothing can give me any faith in them. This leaves with two options. Abstinence, which has been undesirable for the last 23 years and is pretty much out of the question for seven more, and birth control pills which have two serious downfalls. I can't trust the girl to take them regularly and they seem to be nasty little things anyway. They don't seem to be a good option.
Well, I appreciate your post. I wanted to see some good, thoughtful responces in this thread, and I haven't been dissappointed.
Edit: Man, it's really late. My English went to night night.
Well, clearly you haven't just picked some random time frame for this and you're looking at your circumstances over the next several years of your life. I won't comment on the safe sex side of this anymore except to say, be careful out there. I hope everything works out well for you in school and beyond. Good luck.
not true about the 40, a friend of mine had it done at 30, of course his wife had just had their 2nd child, so guess the doc figured he knew what he wanted.
as to OP, 24 and you want to have a vasec? i always said i'd get one once we had our 2nd child, we had a 3rd child (accident) and i still haven't gotten one. i just can't get myself to go in and have it done. it's a pretty bid deal.
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