YAGT! Drinking and cheating....UPDATE! Just got a letter from her...UPDATED AGAIN!!! ANOTHER UPDATE X4!NOW WITH POLL!!

[bigredguy]

Just got a letter from her,

Yesterday was the fourth of July and I got a little tipsy and called you. I remember it vividly and I'm sure you do too. You sounded quite irritated with me or at least distracted. But, I meant everything I said. I hate the way I feel when I am drunk, I do have lower inhabitions and it is possible that some thing stupid could happen & I could let some stupid drunk boy (or even girl) kiss me, That is NOT what I want. And if alcohol affects you in remotely the same way it affects me, I don't want either of us to be drinking. Not with other people, not when we are so far away and missing each other so much. It is just a bad combination, I know this would be extremely hard for you and it's not something I am going to demand of you. I would like to think that neither of us would be able to cross the line into what is inappropriate but the truth is that neither of us REALLY know.

It goes on a bit more but nothing really to the rest. For me, i know i am faithful no matter how drunk i am. I went drinking with a girl from work and a few other co-workers and we ended up getting quite drunk (well i did) and we went back to her place so she could change ( i forgot why) and she started to change right in front of me and i just walked out of the room. It really pisses me off her saying she doesn't know what will happen if either of us get drunk around other people, because i do know.

 

[StageLeft]

Originally posted by: bigredguy
Just got a letter from her,

Yesterday was the fourth of July and I got a little tipsy and called you. I remember it vividly and I'm sure you do too. You sounded quite irritated with me or at least distracted. But, I meant everything I said. I hate the way I feel when I am drunk, I do have lower inhabitions and it is possible that some thing stupid could happen & I could let some stupid drunk boy (or even girl) kiss me, That is NOT what I want. And if alcohol affects you in remotely the same way it affects me, I don't want either of us to be drinking. Not with other people, not when we are so far away and missing each other so much. It is just a bad combination, I know this would be extremely hard for you and it's not something I am going to demand of you. I would like to think that neither of us would be able to cross the line into what is inappropriate but the truth is that neither of us REALLY know.

It goes on a bit more but nothing really to the rest. For me, i know i am faithful no matter how drunk i am. I went drinking with a girl from work and a few other co-workers and we ended up getting quite drunk (well i did) and we went back to her place so she could change ( i forgot why) and she started to change right in front of me and i just walked out of the room. It really pisses me off her saying she doesn't know what will happen if either of us get drunk around other people, because i do know.

That's because she's a) very young and more significantly b) a skanky girl. Anybody old enough to pick up a bottle knows what they're doing when they drink. Her above excuse is so pathetic as to not even really warrant attention. She sounds really pitiful.

 

[nietsni3]

Originally posted by: bigredguy

Originally posted by: nietsni3
maybe she (of the OP) was trying to make him come visit her.

i already was planning on visiting her (not thinking so now) so i don't know why this tactic would work.

but how would she know what you are planning except you telling her (if that was the case, there nothing i can say). i think women are cunning. when they dont have anything to do, they try to think of some way to make fun of men around them. although i always watch out, my ex can hoax me all the time (just for fun) by making up story. in the same manner, my mom can also manipulate me easily. when she want me to do something, she wouldnt tell me directly cuz she know i will slack off and try to refuse. she would always have a way to get me do it without me knowing until i have finished. maybe it is just me, but women are too damn smart when they want to.

 

[bigredguy]

Originally posted by: Skoorb

Originally posted by: bigredguy
Just got a letter from her,

Yesterday was the fourth of July and I got a little tipsy and called you. I remember it vividly and I'm sure you do too. You sounded quite irritated with me or at least distracted. But, I meant everything I said. I hate the way I feel when I am drunk, I do have lower inhabitions and it is possible that some thing stupid could happen & I could let some stupid drunk boy (or even girl) kiss me, That is NOT what I want. And if alcohol affects you in remotely the same way it affects me, I don't want either of us to be drinking. Not with other people, not when we are so far away and missing each other so much. It is just a bad combination, I know this would be extremely hard for you and it's not something I am going to demand of you. I would like to think that neither of us would be able to cross the line into what is inappropriate but the truth is that neither of us REALLY know.

It goes on a bit more but nothing really to the rest. For me, i know i am faithful no matter how drunk i am. I went drinking with a girl from work and a few other co-workers and we ended up getting quite drunk (well i did) and we went back to her place so she could change ( i forgot why) and she started to change right in front of me and i just walked out of the room. It really pisses me off her saying she doesn't know what will happen if either of us get drunk around other people, because i do know.

That's because she's a) very young and more significantly b) a skanky girl. Anybody old enough to pick up a bottle knows what they're doing when they drink. Her above excuse is so pathetic as to not even really warrant attention. She sounds really pitiful.

I kinda miss Tomato and his optimism. I think i am gonna just tell her i cheated on her and see what her reaction is. Either i she'll see my view point or she'll confess to her sins. I dunno, i guess i am gonna sleep on it and worry about it tomorrow when i get off of work.
'

 

[bigredguy]

Originally posted by: nietsni3

Originally posted by: bigredguy

Originally posted by: nietsni3
maybe she (of the OP) was trying to make him come visit her.

i already was planning on visiting her (not thinking so now) so i don't know why this tactic would work.

but how would she know what you are planning except you telling her (if that was the case, there nothing i can say). i think women are cunning. when they dont have anything to do, they try to think of some way to make fun of men around them. although i always watch out, my ex can hoax me all the time (just for fun) by making up story. in the same manner, my mom can also manipulate me easily. when she want me to do something, she wouldnt tell me to do it cuz she know i will slack off and try to refuse. she would always have a way to get me do it without me knowing until i have finished. maybe it is just me, but women are too damn smart when they want to.

We started planning it before she even left.

 

[shimsham]

sounds like she is just lining up her excuse for when she does cheat on you. if she hasnt already, which i think she has.

shes just bullsh!tting you to make herself feel better.

 

[txxxx]

Originally posted by: bigredguy
Just got a letter from her,

Yesterday was the fourth of July and I got a little tipsy and called you. I remember it vividly and I'm sure you do too. You sounded quite irritated with me or at least distracted. But, I meant everything I said. I hate the way I feel when I am drunk, I do have lower inhabitions and it is possible that some thing stupid could happen & I could let some stupid drunk boy (or even girl) kiss me, That is NOT what I want. And if alcohol affects you in remotely the same way it affects me, I don't want either of us to be drinking. Not with other people, not when we are so far away and missing each other so much. It is just a bad combination, I know this would be extremely hard for you and it's not something I am going to demand of you. I would like to think that neither of us would be able to cross the line into what is inappropriate but the truth is that neither of us REALLY know.

It goes on a bit more but nothing really to the rest. For me, i know i am faithful no matter how drunk i am. I went drinking with a girl from work and a few other co-workers and we ended up getting quite drunk (well i did) and we went back to her place so she could change ( i forgot why) and she started to change right in front of me and i just walked out of the room. It really pisses me off her saying she doesn't know what will happen if either of us get drunk around other people, because i do know.

I think the last sentence said it all. Something along the lines of "I feel like sleeping around". Oh dear, its pretty clear what's to be done now.

 

[StageLeft]

Just have some beer first. Goodluck Just remember that half of marriage fail, and this is not a good precident that she's setting here. You're 21. You've got years to find somebody to marry.

 

[nietsni3]

i cant guess another possibility, but i think there must be something behind her words. cuz if she really wanted to cheat on you, she wouldnt tell it. maybe she want to make you get jealous or something.

 

[bigredguy]

Originally posted by: Skoorb
Just have some beer first. Goodluck Just remember that half of marriage fail, and this is not a good precident that she's setting here. You're 21. You've got years to find somebody to marry.

Screw beer, i'll have the hard stuff.

 

[remagavon]

Originally posted by: bigredguy
So my fiancee is going to cambridge for 2 months as part of a summer program. I got a call from her on the fourth talking about doing something with some dude. She was really trashed and i couldn't understand her. So she call me again on sunday, the fifth, and explains that she was so drunk that its possible she would have done something but didn't. She then went on to say that if she got that drunk again that she was most likely to go do something with the first person who hit on her. My response was don't drink like that again, she said that wasn't an option. But not to worry because she didn't have the budget to drink like that again. So her reason for not cheating on me is money? WTF.

Cliff notes: Fiancee in UK gets really drunk doesn't cheat but says next time she most likely will. But not to worry because drinks are too expensive to drink like that again.

I was planning on going to visit her at the beginning of september for like 2 weeks, but now i am not sure. I don't want to buy a plane ticket and take time off from work and get there and find out she got really drunk again.

What would you do? How would you feel? Any advice?

UPDATE

Just got a letter from her,

quote:

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Yesterday was the fourth of July and I got a little tipsy and called you. I remember it vividly and I'm sure you do too. You sounded quite irritated with me or at least distracted. But, I meant everything I said. I hate the way I feel when I am drunk, I do have lower inhabitions and it is possible that some thing stupid could happen & I could let some stupid drunk boy (or even girl) kiss me, That is NOT what I want. And if alcohol affects you in remotely the same way it affects me, I don't want either of us to be drinking. Not with other people, not when we are so far away and missing each other so much. It is just a bad combination, I know this would be extremely hard for you and it's not something I am going to demand of you. I would like to think that neither of us would be able to cross the line into what is inappropriate but the truth is that neither of us REALLY know.
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It goes on a bit more but nothing really to the rest. For me, i know i am faithful no matter how drunk i am. I went drinking with a girl from work and a few other co-workers and we ended up getting quite drunk (well i did) and we went back to her place so she could change ( i forgot why) and she started to change right in front of me and i just walked out of the room. It really pisses me off her saying she doesn't know what will happen if either of us get drunk around other people, because i do know.

Attached girls and drinking don't mix. Inhibitions are ALL fvcked up for some people, and bad things do happen. She's being a retard.

 

[ViRGE]

Originally posted by: bigredguy
Just got a letter from her,

Yesterday was the fourth of July and I got a little tipsy and called you. I remember it vividly and I'm sure you do too. You sounded quite irritated with me or at least distracted. But, I meant everything I said. I hate the way I feel when I am drunk, I do have lower inhabitions and it is possible that some thing stupid could happen & I could let some stupid drunk boy (or even girl) kiss me, That is NOT what I want. And if alcohol affects you in remotely the same way it affects me, I don't want either of us to be drinking. Not with other people, not when we are so far away and missing each other so much. It is just a bad combination, I know this would be extremely hard for you and it's not something I am going to demand of you. I would like to think that neither of us would be able to cross the line into what is inappropriate but the truth is that neither of us REALLY know.

It goes on a bit more but nothing really to the rest. For me, i know i am faithful no matter how drunk i am. I went drinking with a girl from work and a few other co-workers and we ended up getting quite drunk (well i did) and we went back to her place so she could change ( i forgot why) and she started to change right in front of me and i just walked out of the room. It really pisses me off her saying she doesn't know what will happen if either of us get drunk around other people, because i do know.

I think you called it earlier; she's using it as leverage to stop you from drinking.

 

[bigredguy]

Originally posted by: ViRGE

Originally posted by: bigredguy
Just got a letter from her,

Yesterday was the fourth of July and I got a little tipsy and called you. I remember it vividly and I'm sure you do too. You sounded quite irritated with me or at least distracted. But, I meant everything I said. I hate the way I feel when I am drunk, I do have lower inhabitions and it is possible that some thing stupid could happen & I could let some stupid drunk boy (or even girl) kiss me, That is NOT what I want. And if alcohol affects you in remotely the same way it affects me, I don't want either of us to be drinking. Not with other people, not when we are so far away and missing each other so much. It is just a bad combination, I know this would be extremely hard for you and it's not something I am going to demand of you. I would like to think that neither of us would be able to cross the line into what is inappropriate but the truth is that neither of us REALLY know.

It goes on a bit more but nothing really to the rest. For me, i know i am faithful no matter how drunk i am. I went drinking with a girl from work and a few other co-workers and we ended up getting quite drunk (well i did) and we went back to her place so she could change ( i forgot why) and she started to change right in front of me and i just walked out of the room. It really pisses me off her saying she doesn't know what will happen if either of us get drunk around other people, because i do know.

I think you called it earlier; she's using it as leverage to stop you from drinking.

I guess, but she does get very friendly when intoxicated.

 

[MercenaryForHire]

Originally posted by: bigredguy
I guess, but she does get very friendly when intoxicated.

Do I have to personally bone your fiancee to drive make a point here? Get the ring back and toss her.

- M4H

 

[isekii]

I can't give my final advice until I see some pics

Pics or ban ?

 

[bigredguy]

Originally posted by: MercenaryForHire

Originally posted by: bigredguy
I guess, but she does get very friendly when intoxicated.

Do I have to personally bone your fiancee to drive make a point here? Get the ring back and toss her.

- M4H

Well if you did it would resolve this quite quickily.

 

[bigredguy]

Originally posted by: isekii
I can't give my final advice until I see some pics

Pics or ban ?

I don't post pics, of anything ever, never have, never will.

 

[MichaelD]

Originally posted by: Staley8
Sounds like she is trying to break up. If she is telling you that she pretty much plans on cheating on you the next time she is drunk then I don't think there is much of a relationship there. And I'm sure finding someone to buy her drinks wouldn't be that hard at a normal bar/pub.

*ding-ding-ding!!* Teh Winnnnnnnnarrrrr!!!! :wine:


Got news for ya, bigredguy; your GF has already had someone else's meatpole in her calzone....maybe more than one guy, too. Though not necessarily at the same time, of course.

You must understand something; you both are early 20's; this is the "party-party" phase, and no matter how faithful YOU may be, the other person might not be that way.

Staley8 hit it right on the head. Here's MichaelD's version/translation of her letter. Ahem.

Dear Boyfriend,

I was piss fuccking drunk the other night and for some assinine reason, I called you immediately after pulling my panties back up from around my ankles, though I had not yet wiped my chin.

Sorry to say...well, not really sorry but sorry to say that I felt a bit guilty...here you are thinking that I'm all studying and stuff, and I'm out getting piss drunk and getting schmoopped by some other guy. I lied about going broke buying drinks for myself. All I had to do was show a little tit and every guy in the bar bought me drinks. Letting them cop a few feels out on the dancefloor didnt' hurt either.

Look, John; you're a nice guy and we've had some fun...but I'm not ready to settle down yet. Yes, I know I told you I loved you and I meant it. I do love you. But I also love the attention I'm getting right now. Guilt free sex is great, so is the free booze...what can I say? I'd advise you to do the same. No hard feelings and all's fair in love and war, right?

Hopefully, when I come home, we can go out or whatever and maybe hook up again. BTW, I don't expect any stupid questions...so don't waste your time grilling me, b/c I'll just hang up on your ass.

Trust me, dude. This is what she really meant. All that BS about "I almost did something...." DUDE, she SAID "If I get drunk again, I'm probably going to do somethign w/this guy.."

What that MEANS is "He's the guy that got me so piss drunk last night that I took it up the butt and liked it....I want him to do it again."

Deal, dude. Just deal.

 

[bigredguy]

Originally posted by: MichaelD

Originally posted by: Staley8
Sounds like she is trying to break up. If she is telling you that she pretty much plans on cheating on you the next time she is drunk then I don't think there is much of a relationship there. And I'm sure finding someone to buy her drinks wouldn't be that hard at a normal bar/pub.

*ding-ding-ding!!* Teh Winnnnnnnnarrrrr!!!! :wine:


Got news for ya, bigredguy; your GF has already had someone else's meatpole in her calzone....maybe more than one guy, too. Though not necessarily at the same time, of course.

You must understand something; you both are early 20's; this is the "party-party" phase, and no matter how faithful YOU may be, the other person might not be that way.

Staley8 hit it right on the head. Here's MichaelD's version/translation of her letter. Ahem.

Dear Boyfriend,

I was piss fuccking drunk the other night and for some assinine reason, I called you immediately after pulling my panties back up from around my ankles, though I had not yet wiped my chin.

Sorry to say...well, not really sorry but sorry to say that I felt a bit guilty...here you are thinking that I'm all studying and stuff, and I'm out getting piss drunk and getting schmoopped by some other guy. I lied about going broke buying drinks for myself. All I had to do was show a little tit and every guy in the bar bought me drinks. Letting them cop a few feels out on the dancefloor didnt' hurt either.

Look, John; you're a nice guy and we've had some fun...but I'm not ready to settle down yet. Yes, I know I told you I loved you and I meant it. I do love you. But I also love the attention I'm getting right now. Guilt free sex is great, so is the free booze...what can I say? I'd advise you to do the same. No hard feelings and all's fair in love and war, right?

Hopefully, when I come home, we can go out or whatever and maybe hook up again. BTW, I don't expect any stupid questions...so don't waste your time grilling me, b/c I'll just hang up on your ass.

Trust me, dude. This is what she really meant. All that BS about "I almost did something...." DUDE, she SAID "If I get drunk again, I'm probably going to do somethign w/this guy.."

What that MEANS is "He's the guy that got me so piss drunk last night that I took it up the butt and liked it....I want him to do it again."

Deal, dude. Just deal.

But....but....
<====(runs for the vodka in the freezer)

Seriously though, i am gonna talk to her in the next 24 hours and then make up my mind what i am gonna do.

 

[MercenaryForHire]

Pearls of wisdom.

- M4H

 

[MichaelD]

Originally posted by: bigredguy

Originally posted by: MichaelD

Originally posted by: Staley8
Sounds like she is trying to break up. If she is telling you that she pretty much plans on cheating on you the next time she is drunk then I don't think there is much of a relationship there. And I'm sure finding someone to buy her drinks wouldn't be that hard at a normal bar/pub.

*ding-ding-ding!!* Teh Winnnnnnnnarrrrr!!!! :wine:


Got news for ya, bigredguy; your GF has already had someone else's meatpole in her calzone....maybe more than one guy, too. Though not necessarily at the same time, of course.

You must understand something; you both are early 20's; this is the "party-party" phase, and no matter how faithful YOU may be, the other person might not be that way.

Staley8 hit it right on the head. Here's MichaelD's version/translation of her letter. Ahem.

Dear Boyfriend,

I was piss fuccking drunk the other night and for some assinine reason, I called you immediately after pulling my panties back up from around my ankles, though I had not yet wiped my chin.

Sorry to say...well, not really sorry but sorry to say that I felt a bit guilty...here you are thinking that I'm all studying and stuff, and I'm out getting piss drunk and getting schmoopped by some other guy. I lied about going broke buying drinks for myself. All I had to do was show a little tit and every guy in the bar bought me drinks. Letting them cop a few feels out on the dancefloor didnt' hurt either.

Look, John; you're a nice guy and we've had some fun...but I'm not ready to settle down yet. Yes, I know I told you I loved you and I meant it. I do love you. But I also love the attention I'm getting right now. Guilt free sex is great, so is the free booze...what can I say? I'd advise you to do the same. No hard feelings and all's fair in love and war, right?

Hopefully, when I come home, we can go out or whatever and maybe hook up again. BTW, I don't expect any stupid questions...so don't waste your time grilling me, b/c I'll just hang up on your ass.

Trust me, dude. This is what she really meant. All that BS about "I almost did something...." DUDE, she SAID "If I get drunk again, I'm probably going to do somethign w/this guy.."

What that MEANS is "He's the guy that got me so piss drunk last night that I took it up the butt and liked it....I want him to do it again."

Deal, dude. Just deal.

But....but....
<====(runs for the vodka in the freezer0

Seriously though, i am gonna talk to her in the next 24 hours and then make up my mind what i am gonna do.

Believe it or not, I'm REALLY trying to help you. I.E. spare you the heartbreak of begging for attention from some girl who has shattered your heart into so many unrecognizable shards of glass. I"ve been there and it's not pretty. Yes, I know your GF is pretty; it's always the pretty ones that whore around and break your heart. :brokenheart:

Dude, dump her like a bad habit. Want to REALLY piss her off and make her feel badly? Ignore her.
Dont' answer emails, take her off your AIM list, don't answer her phone calls...for at leat a few days.

Then, when she calls next week, casually answer the phone and sound disinterested. B/C you ARE REALLY disinterested. When she says "where you been?" Your sole answer is "Busy." *pregnant pause.* and don't say anything else.

When she starts whining about you being a vengeful SOB, you tell her "Babe, I gotta look out for #1. In fact, I learned that from YOU. Have a nice life." And slam the phone in her ear.

Dude, nookie may be hard to come by, but so is PRIDE.

 

[bigredguy]

Originally posted by: MichaelD

Originally posted by: bigredguy

Originally posted by: MichaelD

Originally posted by: Staley8
Sounds like she is trying to break up. If she is telling you that she pretty much plans on cheating on you the next time she is drunk then I don't think there is much of a relationship there. And I'm sure finding someone to buy her drinks wouldn't be that hard at a normal bar/pub.

*ding-ding-ding!!* Teh Winnnnnnnnarrrrr!!!! :wine:


Got news for ya, bigredguy; your GF has already had someone else's meatpole in her calzone....maybe more than one guy, too. Though not necessarily at the same time, of course.

You must understand something; you both are early 20's; this is the "party-party" phase, and no matter how faithful YOU may be, the other person might not be that way.

Staley8 hit it right on the head. Here's MichaelD's version/translation of her letter. Ahem.

Dear Boyfriend,

I was piss fuccking drunk the other night and for some assinine reason, I called you immediately after pulling my panties back up from around my ankles, though I had not yet wiped my chin.

Sorry to say...well, not really sorry but sorry to say that I felt a bit guilty...here you are thinking that I'm all studying and stuff, and I'm out getting piss drunk and getting schmoopped by some other guy. I lied about going broke buying drinks for myself. All I had to do was show a little tit and every guy in the bar bought me drinks. Letting them cop a few feels out on the dancefloor didnt' hurt either.

Look, John; you're a nice guy and we've had some fun...but I'm not ready to settle down yet. Yes, I know I told you I loved you and I meant it. I do love you. But I also love the attention I'm getting right now. Guilt free sex is great, so is the free booze...what can I say? I'd advise you to do the same. No hard feelings and all's fair in love and war, right?

Hopefully, when I come home, we can go out or whatever and maybe hook up again. BTW, I don't expect any stupid questions...so don't waste your time grilling me, b/c I'll just hang up on your ass.

Trust me, dude. This is what she really meant. All that BS about "I almost did something...." DUDE, she SAID "If I get drunk again, I'm probably going to do somethign w/this guy.."

What that MEANS is "He's the guy that got me so piss drunk last night that I took it up the butt and liked it....I want him to do it again."

Deal, dude. Just deal.

But....but....
<====(runs for the vodka in the freezer0

Seriously though, i am gonna talk to her in the next 24 hours and then make up my mind what i am gonna do.

Believe it or not, I'm REALLY trying to help you. I.E. spare you the heartbreak of begging for attention from some girl who has shattered your heart into so many unrecognizable shards of glass. I"ve been there and it's not pretty. Yes, I know your GF is pretty; it's always the pretty ones that whore around and break your heart. :brokenheart:

Dude, dump her like a bad habit. Want to REALLY piss her off and make her feel badly? Ignore her.
Dont' answer emails, take her off your AIM list, don't answer her phone calls...for at leat a few days.

Then, when she calls next week, casually answer the phone and sound disinterested. B/C you ARE REALLY disinterested. When she says "where you been?" Your sole answer is "Busy." *pregnant pause.* and don't say anything else.

When she starts whining about you being a vengeful SOB, you tell her "Babe, I gotta look out for #1. In fact, I learned that from YOU. Have a nice life." And slam the phone in her ear.

Dude, nookie may be hard to come by, but so is PRIDE.

What if she has been faithful? It is possible, what if all she is doing is trying to get me to say i won't drink? Then i might be ruining something great for no REAL reason. I know i may be a dumba$$ for waiting for the truth to come out, but i have to say that she is definitely worth waiting for.

 

[isekii]

Originally posted by: bigredguy

Originally posted by: MichaelD

Originally posted by: bigredguy

Originally posted by: MichaelD

Originally posted by: Staley8
Sounds like she is trying to break up. If she is telling you that she pretty much plans on cheating on you the next time she is drunk then I don't think there is much of a relationship there. And I'm sure finding someone to buy her drinks wouldn't be that hard at a normal bar/pub.

*ding-ding-ding!!* Teh Winnnnnnnnarrrrr!!!! :wine:


Got news for ya, bigredguy; your GF has already had someone else's meatpole in her calzone....maybe more than one guy, too. Though not necessarily at the same time, of course.

You must understand something; you both are early 20's; this is the "party-party" phase, and no matter how faithful YOU may be, the other person might not be that way.

Staley8 hit it right on the head. Here's MichaelD's version/translation of her letter. Ahem.

Dear Boyfriend,

I was piss fuccking drunk the other night and for some assinine reason, I called you immediately after pulling my panties back up from around my ankles, though I had not yet wiped my chin.

Sorry to say...well, not really sorry but sorry to say that I felt a bit guilty...here you are thinking that I'm all studying and stuff, and I'm out getting piss drunk and getting schmoopped by some other guy. I lied about going broke buying drinks for myself. All I had to do was show a little tit and every guy in the bar bought me drinks. Letting them cop a few feels out on the dancefloor didnt' hurt either.

Look, John; you're a nice guy and we've had some fun...but I'm not ready to settle down yet. Yes, I know I told you I loved you and I meant it. I do love you. But I also love the attention I'm getting right now. Guilt free sex is great, so is the free booze...what can I say? I'd advise you to do the same. No hard feelings and all's fair in love and war, right?

Hopefully, when I come home, we can go out or whatever and maybe hook up again. BTW, I don't expect any stupid questions...so don't waste your time grilling me, b/c I'll just hang up on your ass.

Trust me, dude. This is what she really meant. All that BS about "I almost did something...." DUDE, she SAID "If I get drunk again, I'm probably going to do somethign w/this guy.."

What that MEANS is "He's the guy that got me so piss drunk last night that I took it up the butt and liked it....I want him to do it again."

Deal, dude. Just deal.

But....but....
<====(runs for the vodka in the freezer0

Seriously though, i am gonna talk to her in the next 24 hours and then make up my mind what i am gonna do.

Believe it or not, I'm REALLY trying to help you. I.E. spare you the heartbreak of begging for attention from some girl who has shattered your heart into so many unrecognizable shards of glass. I"ve been there and it's not pretty. Yes, I know your GF is pretty; it's always the pretty ones that whore around and break your heart. :brokenheart:

Dude, dump her like a bad habit. Want to REALLY piss her off and make her feel badly? Ignore her.
Dont' answer emails, take her off your AIM list, don't answer her phone calls...for at leat a few days.

Then, when she calls next week, casually answer the phone and sound disinterested. B/C you ARE REALLY disinterested. When she says "where you been?" Your sole answer is "Busy." *pregnant pause.* and don't say anything else.

When she starts whining about you being a vengeful SOB, you tell her "Babe, I gotta look out for #1. In fact, I learned that from YOU. Have a nice life." And slam the phone in her ear.

Dude, nookie may be hard to come by, but so is PRIDE.

What if she has been faithful? It is possible, what if all she is doing is trying to get me to say i won't drink? Then i might be ruining something great for no REAL reason. I know i may be a dumba$$ for waiting for the truth to come out, but i have to say that she is definitely worth waiting for.

The rest of us are unable to determine/conclude on a decision.
Pics will definitely help.

 

[bigredguy]

Originally posted by: isekii

Originally posted by: bigredguy

Originally posted by: MichaelD

Originally posted by: bigredguy

Originally posted by: MichaelD

Originally posted by: Staley8
Sounds like she is trying to break up. If she is telling you that she pretty much plans on cheating on you the next time she is drunk then I don't think there is much of a relationship there. And I'm sure finding someone to buy her drinks wouldn't be that hard at a normal bar/pub.

*ding-ding-ding!!* Teh Winnnnnnnnarrrrr!!!! :wine:


Got news for ya, bigredguy; your GF has already had someone else's meatpole in her calzone....maybe more than one guy, too. Though not necessarily at the same time, of course.

You must understand something; you both are early 20's; this is the "party-party" phase, and no matter how faithful YOU may be, the other person might not be that way.

Staley8 hit it right on the head. Here's MichaelD's version/translation of her letter. Ahem.

Dear Boyfriend,

I was piss fuccking drunk the other night and for some assinine reason, I called you immediately after pulling my panties back up from around my ankles, though I had not yet wiped my chin.

Sorry to say...well, not really sorry but sorry to say that I felt a bit guilty...here you are thinking that I'm all studying and stuff, and I'm out getting piss drunk and getting schmoopped by some other guy. I lied about going broke buying drinks for myself. All I had to do was show a little tit and every guy in the bar bought me drinks. Letting them cop a few feels out on the dancefloor didnt' hurt either.

Look, John; you're a nice guy and we've had some fun...but I'm not ready to settle down yet. Yes, I know I told you I loved you and I meant it. I do love you. But I also love the attention I'm getting right now. Guilt free sex is great, so is the free booze...what can I say? I'd advise you to do the same. No hard feelings and all's fair in love and war, right?

Hopefully, when I come home, we can go out or whatever and maybe hook up again. BTW, I don't expect any stupid questions...so don't waste your time grilling me, b/c I'll just hang up on your ass.

Trust me, dude. This is what she really meant. All that BS about "I almost did something...." DUDE, she SAID "If I get drunk again, I'm probably going to do somethign w/this guy.."

What that MEANS is "He's the guy that got me so piss drunk last night that I took it up the butt and liked it....I want him to do it again."

Deal, dude. Just deal.

But....but....
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Seriously though, i am gonna talk to her in the next 24 hours and then make up my mind what i am gonna do.

Believe it or not, I'm REALLY trying to help you. I.E. spare you the heartbreak of begging for attention from some girl who has shattered your heart into so many unrecognizable shards of glass. I"ve been there and it's not pretty. Yes, I know your GF is pretty; it's always the pretty ones that whore around and break your heart. :brokenheart:

Dude, dump her like a bad habit. Want to REALLY piss her off and make her feel badly? Ignore her.
Dont' answer emails, take her off your AIM list, don't answer her phone calls...for at leat a few days.

Then, when she calls next week, casually answer the phone and sound disinterested. B/C you ARE REALLY disinterested. When she says "where you been?" Your sole answer is "Busy." *pregnant pause.* and don't say anything else.

When she starts whining about you being a vengeful SOB, you tell her "Babe, I gotta look out for #1. In fact, I learned that from YOU. Have a nice life." And slam the phone in her ear.

Dude, nookie may be hard to come by, but so is PRIDE.

What if she has been faithful? It is possible, what if all she is doing is trying to get me to say i won't drink? Then i might be ruining something great for no REAL reason. I know i may be a dumba$$ for waiting for the truth to come out, but i have to say that she is definitely worth waiting for.

The rest of us are unable to determine/conclude on a decision.
Pics will definitely help.

I don't post pics, of anything ever, never have, never will.

 

[Yo Ma Ma]

Originally posted by: bigredguy
So my fiancee is going to cambridge for 2 months as part of a summer program. I got a call from her on the fourth talking about doing something with some dude. She was really trashed and i couldn't understand her. So she call me again on sunday, the fifth, and explains that she was so drunk that its possible she would have done something but didn't. She then went on to say that if she got that drunk again that she was most likely to go do something with the first person who hit on her. My response was don't drink like that again, she said that wasn't an option. But not to worry because she didn't have the budget to drink like that again. So her reason for not cheating on me is money? WTF.

Cliff notes: Fiancee in UK gets really drunk doesn't cheat but says next time she most likely will. But not to worry because drinks are too expensive to drink like that again.

I was planning on going to visit her at the beginning of september for like 2 weeks, but now i am not sure. I don't want to buy a plane ticket and take time off from work and get there and find out she got really drunk again.

What would you do? How would you feel? Any advice?

UPDATE

Just got a letter from her,

quote:

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Yesterday was the fourth of July and I got a little tipsy and called you. I remember it vividly and I'm sure you do too. You sounded quite irritated with me or at least distracted. But, I meant everything I said. I hate the way I feel when I am drunk, I do have lower inhabitions and it is possible that some thing stupid could happen &amp; I could let some stupid drunk boy (or even girl) kiss me, That is NOT what I want. And if alcohol affects you in remotely the same way it affects me, I don't want either of us to be drinking. Not with other people, not when we are so far away and missing each other so much. It is just a bad combination, I know this would be extremely hard for you and it's not something I am going to demand of you. I would like to think that neither of us would be able to cross the line into what is inappropriate but the truth is that neither of us REALLY know.
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It goes on a bit more but nothing really to the rest. For me, i know i am faithful no matter how drunk i am. I went drinking with a girl from work and a few other co-workers and we ended up getting quite drunk (well i did) and we went back to her place so she could change ( i forgot why) and she started to change right in front of me and i just walked out of the room. It really pisses me off her saying she doesn't know what will happen if either of us get drunk around other people, because i do know.

With her family history of alcoholims, she shouldn't be drinking and seems to know that. She will probably never really trust that someone can drink without being an alcoholic or at least without being out of control of their actions, and if you decide to stay engaged and she means enough to you, then perhaps you could consider not drinking while you are apart, even though you know you can 'hande' it.

That said, even though she "hates" the feeling, it isn't too far fetched to expect it might happen again, and she has said herself she cannot be trusted to be faithful while under the influence.

Basically, how much can you put up with, and for how long?