Originally posted by: dderidex
Originally posted by: sdaccord01
With me and my GF, sometimes we make out, but other times she gets mad at me for the smallest things. The thing is, is that I have been having a tough time finding a job since I graduated while she has a job. She gets stressed out by work nowadays and sometimes puts her stress onto me. Most of the times she treats me well, but when she gets mad, it makes me want to leave the relationship. If there was a hot girl with me right now, I would have to weigh out everything to see what I want to do, whether I want to break up with my gf and find a new girl or hope that my gf will manage her temper better. I'm not saying that I want to date a stripper or anything, it's just that the incident in the stripper made me feel good, that's it. My GF is pretty much my first one, since the first "GF" broke up with me after 12 days, while I've been with my current one for 2 1/2 years.
That sounds like pretty much every relationship everybody has ever had.
1) Women don't like working, and ESPECIALLY don't like even the thought that they might be working harder than you.
2) Money ALWAYS introduces stress into a relationship (whoever says "money doesn't buy happiness" was only half right. Maybe it doesn't buy happiness, but LACK of it is a 100% sure ticket to misery.)
3) Women are emotional rollercoasters. You love being around them when they are up, they make you miserable to be around them when they are down. In any long term relationship, they will be 'down' more often than 'up'. Unless you have enough money and they don't have to work (see points 1 and 2). This is true of 100% of women, with no exceptions. If you can't deal with it...turn gay or something.
4) You are male. You will always 'look'. They key is to control these urges when she is around, and even when she's not, NO TOUCHING. Kissing = very, very bad. Don't ever do it again. Seriously. To women, kissing a strange woman is just as bad as sex. Remember, relationships to a woman are all about emotional connections, and kissing is just as much an expression of intimacy in that context as sex is.
It will do a lot of damage to the relationship to tell her, but I wonder if it wouldn't do more damage if one of your friends mentions it to one of his girlfriends (in a "Hey, don't get mad at me, my buddy sdaccord01 did it and his girlfriend didn't dump him!") who mentions it to YOUR girlfriend. Weigh the odds of this happening (and ending your relationship) vs the damage to the relationship of you telling her and expressing guilt over it.
My inclination would be to honesty. But, then, I wouldn't do anything quite so stupid in the first place that I'd *have* this problem.
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