question.... How do you feel about your girlfriend right now? If there was a hot girl right there right now and she was all over you would you sleep with her?
I drank one beer, that's it. I was a little buzzed, but I can see why some guys like to go to strip clubs. I haven't been to one in 3 years since we threw a party for my friend. Basically, I ended up paying for $80 (4 dances, $20/song). It's a relaxing feeling that made me feeling relaxed. I drove 9 hours in hectic traffic from the Bay Area to Irvine by the way, so I was stressed and tired, and deciding that I wanted to go to a strip club to my friends was just a way for me to get rid of stress.
With me and my GF, sometimes we make out, but other times she gets mad at me for the smallest things. The thing is, is that I have been having a tough time finding a job since I graduated while she has a job. She gets stressed out by work nowadays and sometimes puts her stress onto me. Most of the times she treats me well, but when she gets mad, it makes me want to leave the relationship. If there was a hot girl with me right now, I would have to weigh out everything to see what I want to do, whether I want to break up with my gf and find a new girl or hope that my gf will manage her temper better. I'm not saying that I want to date a stripper or anything, it's just that the incident in the stripper made me feel good, that's it. My GF is pretty much my first one, since the first "GF" broke up with me after 12 days, while I've been with my current one for 2 1/2 years.
I also understand that there will be people who are frustrated with their relationship every now and then will side with me and people who aren't who won't.
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Sounds like you have no emotional attachment to her, and are staying with her out of a sense of duty (a.k.a. you don't think she's given you a good excuse for a break-up). You obviously feel emotionally starved, as you enjoyed your experience with the stripper so much and asked "why can't my g/f make me feel that way".
Since you're probably going to get herpes now, at least take a valuable lesson from it: its probably time to find a new woman, and don't kiss whores working their college tuition money out of you. Okay, that's two lessons. Whatever.
if you are having second thoughts about telling her that is because you cheated. How would you feel if the roles were reversed?
another thing. Your title is VERY misleading. When you say "look what happened", you can bet your ass we're gonna expect PICS
That sounds like pretty much every relationship everybody has ever had.
1) Women don't like working, and ESPECIALLY don't like even the thought that they might be working harder than you.
2) Money ALWAYS introduces stress into a relationship (whoever says "money doesn't buy happiness" was only half right. Maybe it doesn't buy happiness, but LACK of it is a 100% sure ticket to misery.)
3) Women are emotional rollercoasters. You love being around them when they are up, they make you miserable to be around them when they are down. In any long term relationship, they will be 'down' more often than 'up'. Unless you have enough money and they don't have to work (see points 1 and 2). This is true of 100% of women, with no exceptions. If you can't deal with it...turn gay or something.
4) You are male. You will always 'look'. They key is to control these urges when she is around, and even when she's not, NO TOUCHING. Kissing = very, very bad. Don't ever do it again. Seriously. To women, kissing a strange woman is just as bad as sex. Remember, relationships to a woman are all about emotional connections, and kissing is just as much an expression of intimacy in that context as sex is.
It will do a lot of damage to the relationship to tell her, but I wonder if it wouldn't do more damage if one of your friends mentions it to one of his girlfriends (in a "Hey, don't get mad at me, my buddy sdaccord01 did it and his girlfriend didn't dump him!") who mentions it to YOUR girlfriend. Weigh the odds of this happening (and ending your relationship) vs the damage to the relationship of you telling her and expressing guilt over it.
My inclination would be to honesty. But, then, I wouldn't do anything quite so stupid in the first place that I'd *have* this problem.
Sorry for no pics and being misleading for the topic, I don't usually post on ATOT. I realized what I did was wrong, and not something that I would want to do again. Weird thing is when I went to the strip club before I had a GF I sat down and let the stripper do her thing and this time I got more involved. Well, I also understand that many relationships need to be worked out every once in a while and I just need to spend some time with my GF to talk about our future.
the strip dance isnt considered cheating. the kiss might have been over the top, but its what strippers do to get more money.
if you want to keep your relationship you probably should not tell your GF. hopefully the guilt doesnt get to you.
the bigger question is whether or not you should find yourself a new girl. I say be on teh lookout, and hold on to her until something goes wrong with the relationship.
if you want to keep your relationship you probably should not tell your GF. hopefully the guilt doesnt get to you.
the bigger question is whether or not you should find yourself a new girl. I say be on teh lookout, and hold on to her until something goes wrong with the relationship.
I'm sure he'd disagree if he walked in on his GF getting grinded and gyrated on by a naked guy, and she started kissing him.
Originally posted by: TheLonelyPhoenix
Since you're probably going to get herpes now, at least take a valuable lesson from it: its probably time to find a new woman, and don't kiss whores working their college tuition money out of you. Okay, that's two lessons. Whatever.
So you're the guy that believes that "tuition" bullsh*t? Note to all fathers: Keep your little girl off the pole...she's not "working her way through college", she's working her way down to crack whore.
But you're probably right about the herpes part.
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