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Originally posted by: WA261
The current house is not hers because it was paid for with my $, stock that was left to me in a will. The same will apply for the 2nd home.

What are you going to do when the inevitable restraining order comes out and she claims you abused the kids?
 
Originally posted by: WA261
The current house is not hers because it was paid for with my $, stock that was left to me in a will. The same will apply for the 2nd home.

Did a lawyer tell you this or are you assuming. I know in NE it doesn't matter what funds were used to purchase a home, both parties have a legal interest in it.
 
Originally posted by: spidey07
Originally posted by: WA261
The current house is not hers because it was paid for with my $, stock that was left to me in a will. The same will apply for the 2nd home.

What are you going to do when the inevitable restraining order comes out and she claims you abused the kids?

And when she convinces the kids to lie to the court about it happening.
 
Originally posted by: surfsatwerk
Originally posted by: WA261
I understand this. But why would I not want my kids to be with their mother? I am doing this for my children, for stability in their lives. She is not a nut, we are just different people.

Yeah but she's trying to suck away your money and your soul. Best defense is a good offense, kick her out and get lawyer'd up.

Well, she is not trying to go after anything really. She said she wanted the home so the kids could keep their lives. I mean I have walked through the house telling her what rooms of furniture I want and all of that type of stuff and she was fine with it. It is not like some cat fight. She just thought she was entitled to the house and was pissed when she found out she wasn't.



SunnyD. I am not walking away from anything. The house is mine. I am letting her live there for the good of my kids. Once they are out of the house so is she.
 
Originally posted by: WA261
The current house is not hers because it was paid for with my $, stock that was left to me in a will. The same will apply for the 2nd home.

This has potential to fall into "Famous last words" category.
 
Originally posted by: WA261
Originally posted by: surfsatwerk
Originally posted by: WA261
I understand this. But why would I not want my kids to be with their mother? I am doing this for my children, for stability in their lives. She is not a nut, we are just different people.

Yeah but she's trying to suck away your money and your soul. Best defense is a good offense, kick her out and get lawyer'd up.

Well, she is not trying to go after anything really. She said she wanted the home so the kids could keep their lives. I mean I have walked through the house telling her what rooms of furniture I want and all of that type of stuff and she was fine with it. It is not like some cat fight. She just thought she was entitled to the house and was pissed when she found out she wasn't.

This also has potential to fall into "Famous last words" category.
 
Originally posted by: WA261

Well, she is not trying to go after anything really. She said she wanted the home so the kids could keep their lives. I mean I have walked through the house telling her what rooms of furniture I want and all of that type of stuff and she was fine with it. It is not like some cat fight. She just thought she was entitled to the house and was pissed when she found out she wasn't.

I'm just saying you don't know her anymore. If she gets a lawyer she can decide to do anything, so protect yourself legally as much as possible.
 
Originally posted by: JS80
Originally posted by: WA261
The current house is not hers because it was paid for with my $, stock that was left to me in a will. The same will apply for the 2nd home.

This has potential to fall into "Famous last words" category.

Keeping in mind that now apparently several divorce attorneys in his home state that he has stated to have called have all apparently reiterated this point?

Goes back to my main point though - being passive and not proactive is going to seriously kick his ass for the rest of life.
 
Originally posted by: JS80
Originally posted by: WA261
The current house is not hers because it was paid for with my $, stock that was left to me in a will. The same will apply for the 2nd home.

This has potential to fall into "Famous last words" category.


No, she can't touch anything that I purchase with the stock $. You guys keep forgetting this. I have talked to like 10 diff lawyers about it already.
 
Originally posted by: WA261
Originally posted by: JS80
Originally posted by: WA261
The current house is not hers because it was paid for with my $, stock that was left to me in a will. The same will apply for the 2nd home.

This has potential to fall into "Famous last words" category.


No, she can't touch anything that I purchase with the stock $. You guys keep forgetting this. I have talked to like 10 diff lawyers about it already.

You really think she can't find some other way(s) to fuck you?

I assure you she can.
 
Originally posted by: WA261
Originally posted by: JS80
Originally posted by: WA261
The current house is not hers because it was paid for with my $, stock that was left to me in a will. The same will apply for the 2nd home.

This has potential to fall into "Famous last words" category.


No, she can't touch anything that I purchase with the stock $. You guys keep forgetting this. I have talked to like 10 diff lawyers about it already.

However you may want to discuss with a lawyer the possibility that she will be retaining the house and you're voluntarily abandoning... I mean leaving, in which case I could feasibly see a judge granting ownership of the home to your wife in order to provide housing for the kids, you know... in case you decide to do something foolish like sell the house out from under them putting them on the street.
 
I wonder if she has become a lesbian with her "yoga" partner. Or if she has started banging the yoga instructor. You are pretty naive to believe she hasn't been seeing someone else. Wait until you move out and a couple days yoga master moves into your house. You still gonna be ok with her living in that house then?
 
Originally posted by: K1052
Originally posted by: WA261
Originally posted by: JS80
Originally posted by: WA261
The current house is not hers because it was paid for with my $, stock that was left to me in a will. The same will apply for the 2nd home.

This has potential to fall into "Famous last words" category.


No, she can't touch anything that I purchase with the stock $. You guys keep forgetting this. I have talked to like 10 diff lawyers about it already.

You really think she can't find some other way(s) to fuck you?

I assure you she can.


All she can do is go after our other assets, which she would only get 1/2 of. All of that can be re-purchased. And as I said, she knows how important I am to the girls and she would never hurt them. I have been with her 17yrs, I do know her well enough to know that much.
Also, why would she try and fuck me if I am going to let her live in the house for free for 12yrs? That is like giving her 260k.

 
Originally posted by: WA261
Originally posted by: K1052
Originally posted by: WA261
Originally posted by: JS80
Originally posted by: WA261
The current house is not hers because it was paid for with my $, stock that was left to me in a will. The same will apply for the 2nd home.

This has potential to fall into "Famous last words" category.


No, she can't touch anything that I purchase with the stock $. You guys keep forgetting this. I have talked to like 10 diff lawyers about it already.

You really think she can't find some other way(s) to fuck you?

I assure you she can.


All she can do is go after our other assets, which she would only get 1/2 of. All of that can be re-purchased. And as I said, she knows how important I am to the girls and she would never hurt them. I have been with her 17yrs, I do know her well enough to know that much.
Also, why would she try and fuck me if I am going to let her live in the house for free for 12yrs? That is like giving her 260k.

Famous last words.

Are you implying she is moving out of the house after 12 years?
 
Originally posted by: WA261
Originally posted by: K1052
Originally posted by: WA261
Originally posted by: JS80
Originally posted by: WA261
The current house is not hers because it was paid for with my $, stock that was left to me in a will. The same will apply for the 2nd home.

This has potential to fall into "Famous last words" category.


No, she can't touch anything that I purchase with the stock $. You guys keep forgetting this. I have talked to like 10 diff lawyers about it already.

You really think she can't find some other way(s) to fuck you?

I assure you she can.


All she can do is go after our other assets, which she would only get 1/2 of. All of that can be re-purchased. And as I said, she knows how important I am to the girls and she would never hurt them. I have been with her 17yrs, I do know her well enough to know that much.
Also, why would she try and fuck me if I am going to let her live in the house for free for 12yrs? That is like giving her 260k.

Several possibilities have been pointed out to you in this thread already.

You're taking a substantial gamble on what you think you know about your soon to be ex-wife who just tried to financially wreck you. If you're cool with that then best of luck man.
 
Originally posted by: SunnyD
Originally posted by: WA261
Originally posted by: JS80
Originally posted by: WA261
The current house is not hers because it was paid for with my $, stock that was left to me in a will. The same will apply for the 2nd home.

This has potential to fall into "Famous last words" category.


No, she can't touch anything that I purchase with the stock $. You guys keep forgetting this. I have talked to like 10 diff lawyers about it already.

However you may want to discuss with a lawyer the possibility that she will be retaining the house and you're voluntarily abandoning... I mean leaving, in which case I could feasibly see a judge granting ownership of the home to your wife in order to provide housing for the kids, you know... in case you decide to do something foolish like sell the house out from under them putting them on the street.

Well, that is why once things start to progress the 1st thing that will be done is to have a contract drawn up where the judge sees am I going to let her live there for 12yrs. I am still in and out of the house. All me shit is still there and things. I have just been sleeping at my parents and going over to do things when she is not home. My parents also live like 6 houses away =P
 
Originally posted by: K1052
Originally posted by: WA261
Originally posted by: K1052
Originally posted by: WA261
Originally posted by: JS80
Originally posted by: WA261
The current house is not hers because it was paid for with my $, stock that was left to me in a will. The same will apply for the 2nd home.

This has potential to fall into "Famous last words" category.


No, she can't touch anything that I purchase with the stock $. You guys keep forgetting this. I have talked to like 10 diff lawyers about it already.

You really think she can't find some other way(s) to fuck you?

I assure you she can.


All she can do is go after our other assets, which she would only get 1/2 of. All of that can be re-purchased. And as I said, she knows how important I am to the girls and she would never hurt them. I have been with her 17yrs, I do know her well enough to know that much.
Also, why would she try and fuck me if I am going to let her live in the house for free for 12yrs? That is like giving her 260k.

Several possibilities have been pointed out to you in this thread already.

You're taking a substantial gamble on what you think you know about your soon to be ex-wife who just tried to financially wreck you. If you're cool with that then best of luck man.


If she wanted to wreck me she would have said she is taking the kids, going after all of the stock, changed the locks, thrown my shit out, blah blah blah. All she said is she wanted the the house. And when you are with a person for 17yrs you do know them. As to why after I calmed down I was not shocked at the divorce.

It sounds like some of you have either never been married for a long time, or have had shitty divorces. I do appreciate all the your guys thoughts thought.
 
Originally posted by: WA261
If she wanted to wreck me she would have said she is taking the kids, going after all of the stock, changed the locks, thrown my shit out, blah blah blah. All she said is she wanted the the house. And when you are with a person for 17yrs you do know them. As to why after I calmed down I was not shocked at the divorce.

It sounds like some of you have either never been married for a long time, or have had shitty divorces. I do appreciate all the your guys thoughts thought.

Why would someone who plans on taking all your shit tell you that?

You are taking a huge gamble by ASSUMING a lot of things she will or not do.
 
I'm sure all guys believe things will work out so well for them in a divorce. So I'm guessing you never made a payment on the house or did any renovations with your own money while you two have been together for 17 years? Your wife has been playing you all along so what's another 12 years. You also never responded about the fact I believe your naive to think she isn't seeing someone else. Are you ok with another man moving into the house you paid for?
 
There is nothing to take, that is just it. The stock is mine so is the house. All she can do is like go after the boat and that stuff. I don't care about that. It can all be re purchased.
 
Originally posted by: OILFIELDTRASH
I'm sure all guys believe things will work out so well for them in a divorce. So I'm guessing you never made a payment on the house or did any renovations with your own money while you two have been together for 17 years? Your wife has been playing you all along so what's another 12 years. You also never responded about the fact I believe your naive to think she isn't seeing someone else. Are you ok with another man moving into the house you paid for?



That is going to be in the contract. No co-habitation. We just moved into the house 3yrs ago, so we were still only paying interest. And the only renovations have been the patio and trees which I paid for.
 
Originally posted by: WA261

If she wanted to wreck me she would have said she is taking the kids, going after all of the stock, changed the locks, thrown my shit out, blah blah blah. All she said is she wanted the the house. And when you are with a person for 17yrs you do know them. As to why after I calmed down I was not shocked at the divorce.

It sounds like some of you have either never been married for a long time, or have had shitty divorces. I do appreciate all the your guys thoughts thought.

If you know her as well as you say you should have either seen the signs of divorce and prevented it or prepared for it. You obviously don't know her well enough.
 
Originally posted by: WA261
Originally posted by: OILFIELDTRASH
I'm sure all guys believe things will work out so well for them in a divorce. So I'm guessing you never made a payment on the house or did any renovations with your own money while you two have been together for 17 years? Your wife has been playing you all along so what's another 12 years. You also never responded about the fact I believe your naive to think she isn't seeing someone else. Are you ok with another man moving into the house you paid for?



That is going to be in the contract. No co-habitation. We just moved into the house 3yrs ago, so we were still only paying interest. And the only renovations have been the patio and trees which I paid for.

Can you equivocally prove that the funds used to purchase the home were solely derived from your stock proceeds and that none of it was earned income while you two were married? I would think any capable lawyer would point that out, and if it's the latter you will probably end up at the very least having to sell the house and split the difference.

I'd venture a guess you used some of the stock as a down payment anyway, meaning that the home itself was not fully purchased with inherited funds, but rather "communal" funds. You might want to look into that.
 
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