So..you know what can happen after you just pay off your house?

[ebaycj]

What an unbelievable wise and beautiful woman. I hope you called her that, too. I just don't understand how people can be raised so horribly as to rip their own family apart and push away their partner just to steal some assets. It's just the worst kind of person who plans against their own blood.

Oh, and I hope she gets the curb.

I agree. Curbtooth that bitch.

 

[Gothgar]

I know this will sound like a broken record... but you have got to stand your ground, kick her out of your house, NOW, FUCKING DO IT RIGHT NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!111111111111111111111111111111111111111111

 

[ebaycj]

Jeez -

1) Don't move out
2) Get a lawyer. Don't just "talk to one"
3) Stop negotiating directly with her.
4) Stop assuming so much
5) Don't rollover like you seem to be doing.

Seriously, has the OP considered the possibility that the OP's wife wants to divorce the OP because she's not a lesbian, and doesn't want to be married to a complete pussy?

 

[dguy6789]

WHY THE FUCK DO YOU NOT JUST CHANGE THE LOCKS WHEN SHE IS NOT HOME?

Let the kids back in the house, just not her.

Seriously how complicated is this?

This.

 

[ebaycj]

Sunsam you are a fucktard. No need for you here.


UPDATE: Told her I would like her to meet with a lawyer I talked with (not retained yet). She tells me she will, but that there is no way I am telling them the entire truth. She is now claiming that she told me over a month ago that she wanted a divorce. And that when I paid the house off she told me there were no guarantees we would stay together...WTF????? THEN WHY THE FUCK DID I PAY THE HOUSE OFF??? And why in the hell did she just now contact a lawyer? UGH!!! What a douche. Anyway, that is all for now.

"Going together to the lawyer" = FAIL. Even the lawyer will tell you that.

YOU GO TO YOUR LAWYER.

SHE GOES TO HER (DIFFERENT) LAWYER.

Do you not understand that there are two sides here ?

 

[ebaycj]

You were warned she would become a wise and beautiful woman, if you get fucked at this point it is your own fault. I hope the best for you but you need to take the gloves off and treat her like a mortal enemy from here on out. The kids are going to be fine so do not let her use them as leverage.

This.

Really.

 

[ebaycj]

Why don't you keep the house, AND the kids?

Also, this.

 

[Saga]

Never ceases to amaze me the level of stupidity when someone thinks they are doing things "for the children".

You sound like a spineless muppet. To be honest you probably deserve to lose the house to learn a harsh lesson about trying to be nice to someone who attempted to completely fuck you over.

Grow a pair. The fact that you even considered buying another house is absolutely fucking retarded. She attempted to steal from you. Ditch her ass like a bad fucking habit and maybe she'll get luckier with husband number two.

 

[SHANE44]

OP was pwned by his ex. Lol

 

[waffleironhead]

did you at lest get some sex before the marriage? cause you are definitely getting fucked after it was over.

 

[SunnyD]

Still time to be able to nominate for epic fail thread of the decade, right?

 

[Eli]

Damn... :Q That is insane. What a manipulative bitch.

It sucks that your kids are in the middle of this. Really, really sucks. Otherwise, I would tell you go nail her with everything you've got. She should be out on the streets for pulling a stunt like that. It's strange how many people regard life as a game...

 

[Raizinman]

As a family lawyer here is what happens everyday.
Either you bend over and take it by letting her have most everything including a high child support or you do battle in court.
If you do battle in court, you will likely lose. She will bring every skeleton from your closet and show you to be either a drunk, abuser, pervert, or whatever. You will end up losing 3/4 of your friends who will side with your wife. You will likely rarely see your kids, or they will used as ranson to get higher child support or maintenance. Yes, divorce is fun, but the only ones who profit are the attorneys. Sounds like you will be in for about $50,000, at least for round one. Most attorneys in family court want to see your wallet before we will take on a contested divorce. We don't want to get stuck holding the bill. You see, whether you lose or win, we always win! Choose an attorney carefully, it's hard to choose which are terrible and who are truly terrible.

 

[Tangerines]

So she gets to keep the house, and the kids?

Fail.

 

[Zebo]

Choose an attorney carefully, it's hard to choose which are terrible and who are truly terrible.

Classic.

Everyone man or woman here needs a prenup starting with the following save big time on lawyers.

1. There will be no spousal support
2. Child support if applicable will be 2x CPI per child
3. Assets will be split 50/50 unless one party becomes a deadbeat e.g.
-one spouse stops working full time it reduces their share by 5 basis points per month (30 days) of unemployment
- all inheritance gifts or winnings shall be sole property of spouse who won them.
-all assets parties came into marriage with shall remain their property
-man gets the dog(s) woman gets the cats(s) if applicable.

 

[alkemyst]

I am divorcing.

my wife can stay here as long as she wants.

She knows I am fucking others.

As long as she is not fucking me she can stay.

 

[Ozoned]

Maybe where you live, but not here. As I have said...I have already spoken to a lawyer.
And dude...you are the one who sounds like an asshole.


The only reason I am letting her stay is so that some stability can remain in the kids lives. I can afford to buy another house close by, so I they can walk to my house daily. There is nothing she can do to retaliate about not being able to keep the house. She does love the kids as much as me and will do what she can to make them not hurt. She knows they love me and need a father, so even though she is a wise and beautiful woman she wont do anything more that will hurt the kids...besides what she has done.

A woman that schemes isn't suddenly going to stop & you seem to be manipulated easily.
Dude, Hire a good Lawyer NOW. If the relationship between you and your children can only be nutured with her staying in the house, GIVE IT TO HER. You trying to CONTROL her by leveraging the house, and moving in 6 houses away is INSANE. With the simplest plan, she could end up with EVERYTHING. If the marriage can't be salvaged, yes, take some time to mourn, and reflect, but move on after that. Put some distance between the two of you. Being kicked in the nuts is bad enough, being reminded of it every 10 seconds will be worse.

 

[charrison]

As a family lawyer here is what happens everyday.
Either you bend over and take it by letting her have most everything including a high child support or you do battle in court.
If you do battle in court, you will likely lose. She will bring every skeleton from your closet and show you to be either a drunk, abuser, pervert, or whatever. You will end up losing 3/4 of your friends who will side with your wife. You will likely rarely see your kids, or they will used as ranson to get higher child support or maintenance. Yes, divorce is fun, but the only ones who profit are the attorneys. Sounds like you will be in for about $50,000, at least for round one. Most attorneys in family court want to see your wallet before we will take on a contested divorce. We don't want to get stuck holding the bill. You see, whether you lose or win, we always win! Choose an attorney carefully, it's hard to choose which are terrible and who are truly terrible.

Sad by true.

 

[BarneyFife]

I would have never moved out and you just lost the house when you bought another one down the street. I wonder if she will claim 50% of the new house you bought? You really bumbled this one.

 

[WA261]

UPDATE....
Still not shit. My new home is almost finished....that is cool at least. Staying with my parents has been insane. I don't get why some of you fail to understand she cant take shit from me, the new home and the one she is in was purchased with funds left to only me from my grandparents. It is called FRAUD on her part; 4 weeks after I pay the house off she wants a divorce....not cool on her end for getting anything. She can't touch any of it. I have obtained very good (2 in fact) lawyers. You really need to do some research before thinking im whacked guys. I can't believe how long this is taking. We have not even been to mediation yet. Ugghhhhhhh! Will update again later.


Side note; some of you seem to have failed at reading the thread. She not "keeping" the house. I am letting her live there with the kids. It is paid for and they (kids) have friends and go to school here. Nothing pussy about wanting your kids to be stable. Also, I am filing for joint custody. You guys really seem to want to hate. I am not like that. I am a mellow person who knows I will be keeping both my homes in the end....and seeing my little ones all of the time....that means the world.

=)

 

[Argo]

And this is why I don't plan to ever get married.

 

[alkemyst]

UPDATE....
Still not shit. My new home is almost finished....that is cool at least. Staying with my parents has been insane. I don't get why some of you fail to understand she cant take shit from me, the new home and the one she is in was purchased with funds left to only me from my grandparents. It is called FRAUD on her part; 4 weeks after I pay the house off she wants a divorce....not cool on her end for getting anything. She can't touch any of it. I have obtained very good (2 in fact) lawyers. You really need to do some research before thinking im whacked guys. I can't believe how long this is taking. We have not even been to mediation yet. Ugghhhhhhh! Will update again later.


Side note; some of you seem to have failed at reading the thread. She not "keeping" the house. I am letting her live there with the kids. It is paid for and they (kids) have friends and go to school here. Nothing pussy about wanting your kids to be stable. Also, I am filing for joint custody. You guys really seem to want to hate. I am not like that. I am a mellow person who knows I will be keeping both my homes in the end....and seeing my little ones all of the time....that means the world.

=)

Why 2 lawyers? You know they are just going to double bill the crap out of you over this? One should be enough for anyone that's not at the multiple millions of dollars in assets level. Especially if you are going insane living at home. I'd have rented a place and tried mediation first, then hire a lawyer second.

There is a lot that goes into communal property, however; inheritances are usually considered 'joint' whether you received them prior to the marriage or not....EVEN if they had clauses in them to try and prevent others from sharing them.

I do know for a fact that any lawyer is going to tell you not to post stuff up and go on a bashing spree and esp not dangle carrots out there that "she can't have".

I really can't see with two houses in the picture she is not given one of them or at least 50% of the equity in them (again if no equity, one of the homes).

 

[Spineshank]

Why 2 lawyers? You know they are just going to double bill the crap out of you over this? One should be enough for anyone that's not at the multiple millions of dollars in assets level. Especially if you are going insane living at home. I'd have rented a place and tried mediation first, then hire a lawyer second.

There is a lot that goes into communal property, however; inheritances are usually considered 'joint' whether you received them prior to the marriage or not....EVEN if they had clauses in them to try and prevent others from sharing them.

I do know for a fact that any lawyer is going to tell you not to post stuff up and go on a bashing spree and esp not dangle carrots out there that "she can't have".

I really can't see with two houses in the picture she is not given one of them or at least 50% of the equity in them (again if no equity, one of the homes).

2 is better than 1? Its obvious he has the money to use for 2 lawyers..so better to be safe than sorry i guess.

If i ever get married i am getting a prenup..women are crazy beyond belief.

 

[moshquerade]

I wonder why the OP's wife is divorcing him... He seems so pleasant and well balanced.

 

[Red Dawn]

And this is why I don't plan to ever get married.

Well that and you can't find anybody to date you.