Siddhartha
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I don't know how old you are, but here is the voice of experience.
Step One: Be nice. Treat her in a mature and gentlemanly way. If that doesn't work, maybe she's not for you. If she acts like you are her guy, but still carries on with someone else like she's playing the field, ask her honestly what she wants, a relationship, or just be friends? If she can't be honest, she's not for you. Do you really want someone who won't tell you the truth, no matter how much you don't want to hear it?
Step Two: Get over it. You don't own her, and girlfriend or not, she doesn't owe you anything. If you think differently, your head is totally in the wrong place, and you will have nothing but suspicion and unhappiness with her or anyone else till you get it figured out.
Step One: Be nice. Treat her in a mature and gentlemanly way. If that doesn't work, maybe she's not for you. If she acts like you are her guy, but still carries on with someone else like she's playing the field, ask her honestly what she wants, a relationship, or just be friends? If she can't be honest, she's not for you. Do you really want someone who won't tell you the truth, no matter how much you don't want to hear it?
Step Two: Get over it. You don't own her, and girlfriend or not, she doesn't owe you anything. If you think differently, your head is totally in the wrong place, and you will have nothing but suspicion and unhappiness with her or anyone else till you get it figured out.
Seat down and talk to her. I have been through similiar situations so I know how it feels. 
If the two of you are serious, there should not be any mistrust issues. good luck.
--Scsi
If the two of you are serious, there should not be any mistrust issues. good luck.--Scsi
Screw the idea of talking to him. You need some good concrete proof of any cheating activity. See where this thing goes. Follow them around. Take photos. There is your proof. Confront her first. Do not mention anything about photos. If she lies, show her the photos. Take photo of her facial expression as she is looking at those photos. Make a priceless picuture out of it.
Your girlfriend is probably thinking...
My current boyfriend is kind of a jealous, untrusting, clingy, psycho. Do I really want to be with somebody like that? I wonder if XXXX is a little more mature and confident.
Seriously, I have no problem with other guys hitting on my girlfriends. But, damn dude, they either tell them to shove off or they tell me to.
My current boyfriend is kind of a jealous, untrusting, clingy, psycho. Do I really want to be with somebody like that? I wonder if XXXX is a little more mature and confident.
Seriously, I have no problem with other guys hitting on my girlfriends. But, damn dude, they either tell them to shove off or they tell me to.
Spy on them both and waylay until they meet then bust out of the trees with an icepick and solve problem. Then take your girlfriend home and saw her in half. Well, that's what Patrick Bateman would do.
Be nicer. And, surprise her by asking her bestfriend, siblings, or parents what she love to do or dream about.Originally posted by: stso
I bet she can feel it from me. I'm 100% too nice to her, at least it is what everyone says
Surprise her with flowers send to her class with a poetic card asking her out for a date at a romantic restaurant. Send it to the class that the ?NAME_guy?, and your girlfriend are in. You could also try a singing telegram if your girlfriend & prof are cool with it.
Doing the above show that you are in love with your girlfriend to the female classmate (women like to compare their men, and love creative men), and it also tell male class mates to stay away because she is taken.
Good luck!
You put his ass in a bear trap and then let him go after he promises to never try to date her until she breaks up with you.
Dude girls your age don't go for high school crap like that anymore. Spying on her and calling her phone numbers? Wheres your maturity and confidence? I know your pissed off but how is this going to make u look in her eyes? Since you already called the guy he is already going to be on the alert and probably mention it to her.
Originally posted by: lowtech
Be nicer. And, surprise her by asking her bestfriend, siblings, or parents what she love to do or dream about.Originally posted by: stso
I bet she can feel it from me. I'm 100% too nice to her, at least it is what everyone says
Surprise her with flowers send to her class with a poetic card asking her out for a date at a romantic restaurant. Send it to the class that the ?NAME_guy?, and your girlfriend are in. You could also try a singing telegram if your girlfriend & prof are cool with it.
Doing the above show that you are in love with your girlfriend to the female classmate (women like to compare their men, and love creative men), and it also tell male class mates to stay away because she is taken.
Good luck!
In all honesty I believe that this is a noble sentiment. But if you have to go out of your way to show your girlfriend that you love her because you fear she may be interested in someone else, then you have a problem. All these suggestions are great. But they should be stuff you should do without reason, without doing it because you feel you're losing her. And even then, going through all this stuff may not be enough to keep her. And at this point, it may be just a waste of time for you because she might already be gone.
I think that doing this stuff normally is great. It should be done. Little romantic touches, fun little outings. Special moments. It's what make relationships great. But take it from me, just because you do this stuff doesn't mean she's going to appreciate it completely or sway her from seeing the greener pastures. You're girlfriend will love you for you, it doesn't have to be about the stuff you do, it's about who you are with her and who she is with you. If the only way you feel confident in keeping your relationship on good terms is to go out of your way for her constantly then your relationship is in trouble.
Just know, that if she truly loves you then this spying on her will have all been for nothing. You'll feel silly and hopefully embarassed. Just don't get your jealous dragon flaming, if she loves you she'll be with you, for you. And no other man could make her see it otherwise. And if some other guy sways her, well then it's not meant to be and you should get out now.
Can't. As stated in my earlier post, she's on a trip in foreign country. Gotta til she get back.
Thanks for the advice.Originally posted by: SpiderX
Originally posted by: lowtech
Be nicer. And, surprise her by asking her bestfriend, siblings, or parents what she love to do or dream about.Originally posted by: stso
I bet she can feel it from me. I'm 100% too nice to her, at least it is what everyone says
Surprise her with flowers send to her class with a poetic card asking her out for a date at a romantic restaurant. Send it to the class that the ø?AME_guy? and your girlfriend are in. You could also try a singing telegram if your girlfriend & prof are cool with it.
Doing the above show that you are in love with your girlfriend to the female classmate (women like to compare their men, and love creative men), and it also tell male class mates to stay away because she is taken.
Good luck!
In all honesty I believe that this is a noble sentiment. But if you have to go out of your way to show your girlfriend that you love her because you fear she may be interested in someone else, then you have a problem. All these suggestions are great. But they should be stuff you should do without reason, without doing it because you feel you're losing her. And even then, going through all this stuff may not be enough to keep her. And at this point, it may be just a waste of time for you because she might already be gone.
I think that doing this stuff normally is great. It should be done. Little romantic touches, fun little outings. Special moments. It's what make relationships great. But take it from me, just because you do this stuff doesn't mean she's going to appreciate it completely or sway her from seeing the greener pastures. You're girlfriend will love you for you, it doesn't have to be about the stuff you do, it's about who you are with her and who she is with you. If the only way you feel confident in keeping your relationship on good terms is to go out of your way for her constantly then your relationship is in trouble.
Just know, that if she truly loves you then this spying on her will have all been for nothing. You'll feel silly and hopefully embarassed. Just don't get your jealous dragon flaming, if she loves you she'll be with you, for you. And no other man could make her see it otherwise. And if some other guy sways her, well then it's not meant to be and you should get out now.
Edit: Corrected spelling
The first question should be Can you kick his ass? Your options vary depending on the answer to this.
DUMP HER NOW
i had the same thing happen to me, i didnt even have to hack into her mail, just dump her now, shes already screwing ur neighbor. jk. ya dump her
i had the same thing happen to me, i didnt even have to hack into her mail, just dump her now, shes already screwing ur neighbor. jk. ya dump her
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