Reasons why anyone should get married

[Nik]

Originally posted by: nakedfrog

Originally posted by: DisgruntledVirus
No, because with a pay-as-you-go you can leave anytime, but make the choice to stay with them. With a 2 year contract, you can leave anytime still, but don't want to due to the financial consequences of breaking the contract. I stay with the 2 year contract, because I don't want to get hit with a $150+ early cancelation fee not because it makes me happy to stay in the contract. I might be miserable in the contract, but "tough it out" so I don't get penalized for breaking the contract. With the pay-as-you-go plan, the company actually has to work to ensure that I am happy and don't leave (as I have to make them happy from my end by buying their pay-as-you-go cards).

edit for formating

Yeah. It's a higher level of commitment. I never said you can't make a commitment to someone without getting married. Are we using different notions of the term "commitment" here or what?

I don't see what a silly expensive piece of paper with some ink on it has to do with how much I love my significant other, how much I'm dedicated to them, how much I sacrifice and compromise with them, etc. Getting married satisfies nothing outside of legal obligation.

Nothing.

 

[darkxshade]

Originally posted by: actuarial

Originally posted by: sash1
no, it's a smarter commitment because i'm not locked into it, i can switch plans anytime i want, or choose to sign up for that 2year contract later if i so choose

But you never get the prettiest phones that way!

But you can get plenty of used phones... some might even come with the herps app free.

 

[Red Dawn]

Originally posted by: OCguy

Originally posted by: Red Dawn
I dunno but I do like being married to my wife. I guess I like the commitment we made to each other.

Does she read your posts or something? :laugh:

Edit: darkxshade beat me

If I was worried about her reading my posts I wouldn't have posted in this thread:laugh:

You deal with me in P&N so you know what kind of asshole I am. You think it's easy to find a woman who'd commit to a son of a bitch like me?:shocked:

 

[lokiju]

Originally posted by: moshquerade

Originally posted by: lokiju
Because you love someone and want to spend the rest of your life with them.

That's all gooshy-gooshy romantic, but it's been reasoned that you can love someone and spend the rest of your life with them married or not.

It's also been reasoned that it's symbolic and also has legal aspects (such as if they're injured and you need to make decisions for them in a hospital setting).

Just because a part of it is symbolic doesn't me that symbolism has no meaning or weight.

 

[Svnla]

Originally posted by: darkxshade

Originally posted by: Red Dawn
I dunno but I do like being married to my wife. I guess I like the commitment we made to each other.

She's watching you and telling you "Are you sure you want to sleep on the couch again tonight?" as you were typing this wasn't she?

Fixed

I missed GB and her "I got more free stuffs" threads.

 

[Nik]

Originally posted by: lokiju

Originally posted by: moshquerade

Originally posted by: lokiju
Because you love someone and want to spend the rest of your life with them.

That's all gooshy-gooshy romantic, but it's been reasoned that you can love someone and spend the rest of your life with them married or not.

It's also been reasoned that it's symbolic and also has legal aspects (such as if they're injured and you need to make decisions for them in a hospital setting).

Just because a part of it is symbolic doesn't me that symbolism has no meaning or weight.

Power of attorney can be granted to anyone, not just a spouse. Everyone, whether they're married or not, should have a will and have paperwork ready to sign over power of attorney to a predesignated loved one.

If you're not married, you can file paperwork for *everything* except social security benefits. That is the *only* legal benefit to getting married besides taxes (and parental rights if children are involved).

 

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: lokiju

Originally posted by: moshquerade

Originally posted by: lokiju
Because you love someone and want to spend the rest of your life with them.

That's all gooshy-gooshy romantic, but it's been reasoned that you can love someone and spend the rest of your life with them married or not.

It's also been reasoned that it's symbolic and also has legal aspects (such as if they're injured and you need to make decisions for them in a hospital setting).

Just because a part of it is symbolic doesn't me that symbolism has no meaning or weight.

ummm... you can set up to be a health proxy for anyone. you don't have to be married to them.

 

[Lamont Burns]

When you get married you symbolically close that window that someday some extremely hot chick will want sex from you, and you will say sure, I'm not married.

Or something.

 

[sash1]

there's no reason to get married!

/thread

 

[lokiju]

Originally posted by: moshquerade

Originally posted by: lokiju

Originally posted by: moshquerade

Originally posted by: lokiju
Because you love someone and want to spend the rest of your life with them.

That's all gooshy-gooshy romantic, but it's been reasoned that you can love someone and spend the rest of your life with them married or not.

It's also been reasoned that it's symbolic and also has legal aspects (such as if they're injured and you need to make decisions for them in a hospital setting).

Just because a part of it is symbolic doesn't me that symbolism has no meaning or weight.

ummm... you can set up to be a health proxy for anyone. you don't have to be married to them.

I understand that. Just one thing that comes as a given with marriage.

I'm not trying to convince anyone that they should get married when they feel they shouldn't. If a person has that mindset then chances are it won't end well anyway (IMO of course).

For me personally it's not an empty show of commitment to make my wife feel better, it's because I do love her and I do want to spend the rest of my life with her and the same is true with her. But I get it, it's not for everyone and that's fine by me.

 

[Atomic Playboy]

Because you have completely given up using your brain.

 

[shopbruin]

Originally posted by: Nik

Originally posted by: Red Dawn
I dunno but I do like being married to my wife. I guess I like the commitment we made to each other.

Indeed, but a legally binding contract isn't necessary to make, keep, or feel any differently about said commitment.

It helps.

I was with my husband for over six years before we got married. It was something we both wanted to do. The wedding is a different issue. If you want to get married, you accept the "risks" of doing so.

Sure it's easier to walk away without all the legal obligations, and apparently, that's all a lot of people on here care about in these responses - how easy it is.

Not that anyone that responds to this thread would care about why people actually want to get married - they're too busy breaking them down. If you never want to legally bind your union (if you are able to do so), then don't. You'll see if the person you want to be with sticks around. Don't be surprised if some of them leave. That's all. And don't call them biznitches for doing so - to some people, it's pretty darn important. And if you fail to see that, then it's just not important for you. Let it be and don't call her a biznitch for leaving.

Call it pressures of society, parents, religion, whatever. A piece of paper is important to some people. A college diploma is a piece of paper, and many go through so many hoops just to get it.

 

[MixMasterTang]

Originally posted by: krunchykrome
-Children of married parents are more likely to suceed in academically.

-Children need two parents two raise them.

Does this mean your parents were not married? j/k

 

[dsity]

i think the only problem is finding someone with these same 'unorthodox' views.

all these wimin want to get married and have kids, they've come to think love should be exactly like a hollywood chick flick.

 

[alkemyst]

to find out where penis goes.

 

[Nik]

Originally posted by: freesia39

Originally posted by: Nik

Originally posted by: Red Dawn
I dunno but I do like being married to my wife. I guess I like the commitment we made to each other.

Indeed, but a legally binding contract isn't necessary to make, keep, or feel any differently about said commitment.

It helps.

I was with my husband for over six years before we got married. It was something we both wanted to do. The wedding is a different issue. If you want to get married, you accept the "risks" of doing so.

Sure it's easier to walk away without all the legal obligations, and apparently, that's all a lot of people on here care about in these responses - how easy it is.

Not that anyone that responds to this thread would care about why people actually want to get married - they're too busy breaking them down. If you never want to legally bind your union (if you are able to do so), then don't. You'll see if the person you want to be with sticks around. Don't be surprised if some of them leave. That's all. And don't call them biznitches for doing so - to some people, it's pretty darn important. And if you fail to see that, then it's just not important for you. Let it be and don't call her a biznitch for leaving.

Call it pressures of society, parents, religion, whatever. A piece of paper is important to some people. A college diploma is a piece of paper, and many go through so many hoops just to get it.

The question is openly "give me reasons" and nobody's given a good reason yet that can't be disproven (for lack of better word?).

Basically, what does signing the piece of paper really do for your marriage if both of the people aren't shallow enough to think legality matters in a relationship?

 

[Nik]

To sum up this entire thread:

Mosh: "Give me a reason!"
Entire Collective Forum: "We got nothin!"

 

[slsmnaz]

Originally posted by: Nik
To sum up this entire thread:

Mosh: "Give me a reason!"
Entire Collective Forum: "We got nothin!"

there are plenty of reasons provided you just don't agree with them. Marriage is a personal choice and people enter into it for different reasons.

 

[Fritzo]

After I got married, all of my clothes magically became folded in my drawers and hung in my closet, clean towels are always in the bathroom, my income doubled, and I get sex on a regular basis.

So far I'm for it.

 

[Baked]

I'll get back to you when I can find one.

 

[Lamont Burns]

Originally posted by: Fritzo
After I got married, all of my clothes magically became folded in my drawers and hung in my closet, clean towels are always in the bathroom, my income doubled, and I get sex on a regular basis.

So far I'm for it.

How long you been married? Sex on a regular basis after being married for a while? Blasphemous!

 

[DisgruntledVirus]

Originally posted by: nakedfrog

Originally posted by: DisgruntledVirus
No, because with a pay-as-you-go you can leave anytime, but make the choice to stay with them. With a 2 year contract, you can leave anytime still, but don't want to due to the financial consequences of breaking the contract. I stay with the 2 year contract, because I don't want to get hit with a $150+ early cancelation fee not because it makes me happy to stay in the contract. I might be miserable in the contract, but "tough it out" so I don't get penalized for breaking the contract. With the pay-as-you-go plan, the company actually has to work to ensure that I am happy and don't leave (as I have to make them happy from my end by buying their pay-as-you-go cards).

edit for formating

Yeah. It's a higher level of commitment. I never said you can't make a commitment to someone without getting married. Are we using different notions of the term "commitment" here or what?

Nope.

I personally believe that it shows more dedication that I stay with a person because I want to be with them, and not because I don't want to "get taken to the cleaner" in a divorce. For those who believe in marriage, and want it that's great and more power to them. I just don't personally see how marriage is a higher level of commitment, and believe the opposite is true.

 

[DisgruntledVirus]

Originally posted by: Lamont Burns
When you get married you symbolically close that window that someday some extremely hot chick will want sex from you, and you will say sure, I'm not married.

Or something.

Yeah, or you just do it because they are really hot/give you something you're not getting/not in love with your spouse anymore/any of many other reasons and have sex with said extremely hot person.

 

[Nik]

Originally posted by: DisgruntledVirus
I personally believe that it shows more dedication that I stay with a person because I want to be with them, and not because I don't want to "get taken to the cleaner" in a divorce. For those who believe in marriage, and want it that's great and more power to them. I just don't personally see how marriage is a higher level of commitment, and believe the opposite is true.

Ah, a great post. Marriage developed back in the day when women were seen as property. Marriage was a way to legally register your property. Marriage is an archaic, silly institution. I would love it if my significant other were staying with me because they wanted to, not because they were legally obligated to. Each and every day I can wake up knowing they're waking up next to me because they want to, not because they haven't saved up for a divorce yet.

 

[Red Squirrel]

I was sitting and thinking real hard as to why I should get a GF and eventually get married. I even got stuck at the GF part. I really can't think of anything. It's like asking me what is a good reason to setup a domain trust with an AD domain of a totally random company that is in no way affiliated with ours.