moshquerade
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moshquerade
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moshquerade
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isn't there more commitment shown by both parties with a contract than just saying "I'll be with you always" and shaking on it?
moshquerade
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meltdown75
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reasons to get married
- you trust someone enough to sign a contract saying you will spend the rest of your life with them
- you can't see yourself ever being with another person or ever finding someone better
- you love the crap out of the person and want to commit to them forever
- financial stability, relationship stability, family stability
- desire to start a family
- desire to be a "team" forever - indestructible.
- the need to have a "home base" in someone that you can always return to and they will never walk out on you or leave you. "stand by your (wo)man"
- always having someone there
all that aside, I really love SonnyDaze's post, now that my wife has left me.
- you trust someone enough to sign a contract saying you will spend the rest of your life with them
- you can't see yourself ever being with another person or ever finding someone better
- you love the crap out of the person and want to commit to them forever
- financial stability, relationship stability, family stability
- desire to start a family
- desire to be a "team" forever - indestructible.
- the need to have a "home base" in someone that you can always return to and they will never walk out on you or leave you. "stand by your (wo)man"
- always having someone there
all that aside, I really love SonnyDaze's post, now that my wife has left me.
meltdown75
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was all of his writing that annoying? or are those just some thoughts he scribbled down and someone decided to put online just because it was the scribbles of Charles Darwin?
-It makes sense financially. Two incomes > one income. More financial security, more buying power.
-Children of married parents are more likely to suceed in academically.
-Children need two parents two raise them.
-It makes you look more stable that someone who is not married. It's a bit odd to be unmarried at 40+, and people may begin to assume things about that person's character.
-And finally, when you find that person whom you want to spend the rest of your life with, there is no reason not to.
-Children of married parents are more likely to suceed in academically.
-Children need two parents two raise them.
-It makes you look more stable that someone who is not married. It's a bit odd to be unmarried at 40+, and people may begin to assume things about that person's character.
-And finally, when you find that person whom you want to spend the rest of your life with, there is no reason not to.
GagHalfrunt
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Her inbred uncle Bubba has a shotgun pointed at your head.
No, wait, even that isn't a good enough reason. I'm stumped.
No, wait, even that isn't a good enough reason. I'm stumped.
Other than the benefits that are awarded to the spouse but government there really is no reason.
<-----been living together for 20 years.
<-----been living together for 20 years.
meltdown75
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sure you can, but would it ever be enough? have you seen "he's just not that into you"? see how Jennifer Aniston acts about not being married even though she is completely happy?
how else would they get their $5,000 rock and lavish reception? how else would they get your fucking balls forever and be able to stop giving blowjobs and having regular amazing sex?
in short, how else would they get what they fucking want? marriage isn't about the guy, it's just about fulfilling the WANTS and desires of the woman. i'm sure if men had it their way, there would be a lot less people getting married. unfortunately when your girlfriend of 5 years starts to piss and moan about not being married, you are faced with a real ultimatum - make her happy (if you are like me, this is all you care about - making her happy - and it will get you NOWHERE in the end) or not.
guys: don't ever try to please a woman. if they can't find happiness on their own then they will never truly experience it with you. it takes two happy people on their own coming together on their own terms to make a successful relationship. the moment you are bending to her will (or his, for women), you're in for a shitstorm of epic proportions.
Svnla
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I thought if you live in "common law" states, after a certain years that you live together with someone, both of you become husband and wive in the eyes of the law <half and half of everything you two own>??
To me to get married is to show commitment to make it work <Svnla is afraid of the C word>
So if living with someone is the same as getting married, and legally you get fucked over the same (at least up here in Canada you do), then why NOT get married?
Reasons why (considering that living with someone affords the same benefits/downfalls of marriage):
1) It's a celebration of the fact you've decided to spend the rest of your lives together
2) It's an important thing to do emotionally for women / their parents in terms of life transitions
3) An excuse for a bachelor party
4) Sharing a last name (makes things a lot less confusing IMO)
5) You learn a lot about a relationship once you add the stress of a wedding!!
x2 Mosh
And the only way to have a "binding commitment" is through marriage huh? Interesting.
I think that the legal contract helps to prevent divorces, because as IhateMyJob said divorce is too costly for the men (usually the ment at least) especially when kids are involved.
Originally posted by: moshquerade
*cues Tina Turner*
do you have to get married to prove love?
How many people have "loved" one another without getting married?
OP I am very interested in this thread, as my gf and I have had this conversation many times. I am of the mindset that there is nothing marriage provides, that's beneficial to me, that I can't get without the legal aspects. You want a ceremony for me to pronounce my love for you in front of friends, family, and all witnesses? Okay, then lets have a ceremony. I'm fine with that, and will do it tomorrow provided there are no legal contracts.
As a male, I don't see any benefit for me in marriage. Yes there are some benefits in the realm of tax breaks (although you pay more due to combined incomes), legal ones like spousal benefits (if I get sick or for wills and such), easier to get a house when both names are on it (but you can do this without being married AFAIK), and can add them to medical insurance. For me though, 75% of that doesn't matter. The tax breaks I don't need right now as I get a refund (due to school). I don't need spousal benefits (to give them to somebody), because if I died or something my mother is the one who would take care of all that. I'd like to get a house, but I don't know if I want both our names on it. If *only* my name is on it, then it's less likely I'd lose it if we did ever get divorced (although as with everybody I'd expect not to). My medical insurance allows me to add "domestic partners" to my insurance, so I don't need to worry about that.
So, with no benefits all I see are the possible risks which are huge. Lose my stuff, lose my income, lose my retirement, etc. The risk/reward ratio is all risk and little to no rewards.
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