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badmouse

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Originally posted by: KC5AV
I'd have dropped her off at the police station.
I thought about it, but decided I don't want to put my son thru anything like that. Yet.

And yes, she's nice-looking.

 

Mill

Lifer
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Originally posted by: badmouse
Originally posted by: KC5AV
I'd have dropped her off at the police station.
I thought about it, but decided I don't want to put my son thru anything like that. Yet.

And yes, she's nice-looking.

Damn. If I was your son I'd go live with my dad! ;)
 

RbSX

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Originally posted by: badmouse
My son (14) met this girl (21) last week. She's been calling him, etc. (Yes, she knew he was 14)

Last nite, Saturday, he asked if she could come over. I said no. At 7:30 he went for a "short" walk. At 11:30 he called, said he was at his dad's house & was going to spend the night there. I heard giggling.

(I'm divorced, dad is out of town)

I go to his dad's house. Girl is there, of course. I drive her home (half-hour away) and tell her that if she contacts my son again I'll call the police. (I DON'T rip her apart with my bare hands, but I wanted to.)

I also call my son's mutual friend who introduced them, and say the same thing: she stays away or else.

Son is grounded for life, or at least until I stop being livid.

ps.s Sorry no pix of girl but I wasn't thinking about a camera at the time.

Oh get over it, the girl is 21 nothing is going to happen, I'd be less worried about scorning her and more worried about your son. It kind of like there might be a pattern that could erupt from this.

Don't forget that this is typical teenage behaviour typically cause by

overbearing and over protective parenting which you certainly seem to have downpat.
 

TheLonelyPhoenix

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Calling someone 'overbearing' or 'overprotective' for not letting their 14 year old shack up with a girl 7 years older than him is a bit out of line, I think.
 

Pandaren

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:roll:

Lets use some common sense here... most 14 year old guys would not refuse the opportunity to nail a slutty 21 year old if she's offering. A parent has an obligation to make sure her child doesn't get into a situation he isn't ready to be in. What if the girl got pregnant?

I don't see that badmouse is being unreasonable here.

Originally posted by: RyanSengara
Oh get over it, the girl is 21 nothing is going to happen, I'd be less worried about scorning her and more worried about your son. It kind of like there might be a pattern that could erupt from this.

Don't forget that this is typical teenage behaviour typically cause by

overbearing and over protective parenting which you certainly seem to have downpat.

 

Descartes

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I think she's doing the right thing, and I say that realizing how I was when I was 14.

IMO, if she's 21 and acting that irresponsibly, then I wouldn't rely on her to be safe, either. I wouldn't trust a 14 year old guy to protect himself, so I wouldn't be surprised if she ended up pregnant; the protoman just isn't thinking clearly. It's just a bad situation all around.
 

Wahsapa

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your never gonna be able to stop him, the harder you try the worst it will be
 

shimsham

Lifer
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Originally posted by: RyanSengara
Originally posted by: badmouse
My son (14) met this girl (21) last week. She's been calling him, etc. (Yes, she knew he was 14)

Last nite, Saturday, he asked if she could come over. I said no. At 7:30 he went for a "short" walk. At 11:30 he called, said he was at his dad's house & was going to spend the night there. I heard giggling.

(I'm divorced, dad is out of town)

I go to his dad's house. Girl is there, of course. I drive her home (half-hour away) and tell her that if she contacts my son again I'll call the police. (I DON'T rip her apart with my bare hands, but I wanted to.)

I also call my son's mutual friend who introduced them, and say the same thing: she stays away or else.

Son is grounded for life, or at least until I stop being livid.

ps.s Sorry no pix of girl but I wasn't thinking about a camera at the time.

Oh get over it, the girl is 21 nothing is going to happen, I'd be less worried about scorning her and more worried about your son. It kind of like there might be a pattern that could erupt from this.

Don't forget that this is typical teenage behaviour typically cause by

overbearing and over protective parenting which you certainly seem to have downpat.

im sure you would be the first one to criticize her parenting if the thread had read "my 14 yo got a girl pregnant. i didnt keep an eye on him, because hes gonna do it anyway right? i didnt want him to rebel".

great job, badmouse. and thanks for sharing. those of us with young children benefit from the experience of those dealing with it before us.
 

LtPage1

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Jan 15, 2004
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Originally posted by: badmouse
Originally posted by: GtPrOjEcTX
why do you think there was interest between them?
What did he see in her - are you kidding? She's a breathing, live female. Her in him - I think it was manipulation. Bitch.

good job stopping this before she managed to mess him up.
 

Brutuskend

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Originally posted by: badmouse
Originally posted by: GtPrOjEcTX
why do you think there was interest between them?
What did he see in her - are you kidding? She's a breathing, live female. Her in him - I think it was manipulation. Bitch.

I think you have that part back wards. THAT'S where the real interest lays.

(You did good BTW! Though your SON will NEVER EVER see that.)

 

imported_Salvatore

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I would have told the 21 year old girl(If I was the boy) not to tell my damn mother that she was 21. I just don't go home and brag to mother about how I bagged an older one. That's what Dad is for.
 

rh71

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umm was the girl good looking ? What kind of 21 year old girl goes for underage boys ?
 
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I hate to say it, but you just guaranteed they're gonna hook up. I understand feeling nervous, I have a daughter myself. But you can't expect others to live by your morals...not even when those people are your children and those morals also happen to be laws.

There is NO greater force in the universe than that which drives a man and woman together. Call it love, call it sex, call it reproduction...whatever you call it it's more powerful than laws, government, society, family, intellect, reason...anything.
 

RagingBITCH

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Originally posted by: RyanSengara
Originally posted by: badmouse
My son (14) met this girl (21) last week. She's been calling him, etc. (Yes, she knew he was 14)

Last nite, Saturday, he asked if she could come over. I said no. At 7:30 he went for a "short" walk. At 11:30 he called, said he was at his dad's house & was going to spend the night there. I heard giggling.

(I'm divorced, dad is out of town)

I go to his dad's house. Girl is there, of course. I drive her home (half-hour away) and tell her that if she contacts my son again I'll call the police. (I DON'T rip her apart with my bare hands, but I wanted to.)

I also call my son's mutual friend who introduced them, and say the same thing: she stays away or else.

Son is grounded for life, or at least until I stop being livid.

ps.s Sorry no pix of girl but I wasn't thinking about a camera at the time.

Oh get over it, the girl is 21 nothing is going to happen, I'd be less worried about scorning her and more worried about your son. It kind of like there might be a pattern that could erupt from this.

Don't forget that this is typical teenage behaviour typically cause by

overbearing and over protective parenting which you certainly seem to have downpat.

You're a complete dumbass. You wouldn't know the first thing about parenting, muchless the proper way to keep your kids in line. I'm sure you wouldn't be saying this if the guy was 21 and her daughter was 14, now would you? Jackoff. :roll: Wait till you have kids buddy.
 
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Originally posted by: rh71
umm was the girl good looking ? What kind of 21 year old girl goes for underage boys ?

I dated a 29yr old when I was 17. It happens more often than you'd think.
 

mugs

Lifer
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Originally posted by: RyanSengara

Oh get over it, the girl is 21 nothing is going to happen, I'd be less worried about scorning her and more worried about your son. It kind of like there might be a pattern that could erupt from this.

Don't forget that this is typical teenage behaviour typically cause by

overbearing and over protective parenting which you certainly seem to have downpat.

You are a child, hence you are not qualified to give parenting advice.
 

Yolner

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Nice job soccer mom!! Im sure your son wont remember this for the rest of his life and hate you for it. Instead of being an ....... you should tell him to wrap his stick. Problem solved.
 

Yolner

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Originally posted by: RagingBITCH
Originally posted by: RyanSengara
Originally posted by: badmouse
My son (14) met this girl (21) last week. She's been calling him, etc. (Yes, she knew he was 14)

Last nite, Saturday, he asked if she could come over. I said no. At 7:30 he went for a "short" walk. At 11:30 he called, said he was at his dad's house & was going to spend the night there. I heard giggling.

(I'm divorced, dad is out of town)

I go to his dad's house. Girl is there, of course. I drive her home (half-hour away) and tell her that if she contacts my son again I'll call the police. (I DON'T rip her apart with my bare hands, but I wanted to.)

I also call my son's mutual friend who introduced them, and say the same thing: she stays away or else.

Son is grounded for life, or at least until I stop being livid.

ps.s Sorry no pix of girl but I wasn't thinking about a camera at the time.

Oh get over it, the girl is 21 nothing is going to happen, I'd be less worried about scorning her and more worried about your son. It kind of like there might be a pattern that could erupt from this.

Don't forget that this is typical teenage behaviour typically cause by

overbearing and over protective parenting which you certainly seem to have downpat.

You're a complete dumbass. You wouldn't know the first thing about parenting, muchless the proper way to keep your kids in line. I'm sure you wouldn't be saying this if the guy was 21 and her daughter was 14, now would you? Jackoff. :roll: Wait till you have kids buddy.

Its a whole different thing with guys. If you really have kids you should know that.
 

FoBoT

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Originally posted by: PrinceofWands
But you can't expect others to live by your morals...not even when those people are your children and those morals also happen to be laws.

yes you can, especially when it is your child

follow the rules or hit the road