PARENTING IS HARD WORK!!! update: she keeps calling

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Pliablemoose

Lifer
Oct 11, 1999
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Statutory rape, she's an adult & he's too young, and could perhaps get her pregnant...

I'd call the police too, you need to make a formal complaint & have the idiot arrested.
 

eakers

Lifer
Aug 14, 2000
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i think you did the right thing.
this girl sounds like TRASH. the last thing you want is a grandchild from her *shudder*

talk to your son and find out wtf he is thinking and make sure you tell him all about how getting her pregnant will ruin his life and how all women are crazy evil bitches.
 

CraigRT

Lifer
Jun 16, 2000
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Originally posted by: badmouse
Originally posted by: GtPrOjEcTX
Originally posted by: ZeroEffect
What did the girl have to say for her self when you were driving her home?

Why didn't she have her own car?

Had they been alone at his father's house, or was the father home?
Good point. How the heck did the girl get to your ex's house if you drove her home and she lived over a half hour away? Bus? Taxi?
Evidently she bummed a ride from someone to go shopping at the mall, which is a short walk away. She shares an apartment, doesn't have a car, is between jobs. She spent the time driving home trying to (a) deny things (b) make excuses (c) tell me her life sucks (d) ask to borrow money (e) lie about where she lived, but I had already driven her home once before (f) blame the mutual friend for ruining her life etc.

Definitely evil. Then again, it wasn't the best time for rational conversation.
And no, dad wasn't home.

uh, yeah.. that girl definitely sounds like a loser... good work! LOL
 

Gnurb

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Mar 6, 2001
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i'm rooting for the girl and your son fwiw. attraction/love/lust always win.
 

PMFleXXX

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Tell your son to start saving up child support $$$ by tutoring ATOT looooosers like cttrain, skywalker, antman530 and waynetek on how to bag some a$$.[/quote]

 

FinalFantasy

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Aug 23, 2004
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Originally posted by: eigen
None of this thread matters. All the posts about morality and religon etc... are wasted. In the time between the OP and now, you know this kid has nailed her.YOU KNOW HE HAS.when you guys were wasting time being idealistic and debating subjective ethics, this kid was dealing with realpolitik and being pragmatic and in return got some 21yr old punnany. This whole attitude is the problem with aids prevention in Africa: What people "should do" ( dont fvck) versus what they are gonna do ( fvck like bunnies)

Take the stick out of your a$$ man...lol
 

DT4K

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Jan 21, 2002
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good job badmouse. You absolutely did the right thing.

Ignore the idiots saying you should have let it go. I wouldn't blame your son for wanting to hook up with an older woman. That is pretty much every teenage boy's ultimate fantasy. But just because he wants to do it, doesn't make it right. One of the biggest problems we have in this country is fvcking idiots like PrinceOfWands who think that telling a kid no is a bad thing and we should just let everyone do whatever they feel like doing regardless of the consequences.

The woman is the one at fault here because she is the one who is old enough that she should know better. Not to mention the fact that she would be committing a FELONY. She is a sick twisted pathetic person who is willing to take advantage of a young boy to satisfy her own unhealthy emotional needs. She is no better than some 50 year old guy trying to molest teenage girls because he gets off on it. If she EVER calls your house again, I suggest you report it to the police and get a restraining order against her.

Correction to your title: GOOD parenting is hard work. Crappy parenting is easy. There are obviously a lot of people here that would choose the easy way.
 

PingSpike

Lifer
Feb 25, 2004
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Originally posted by: eigen
He is still gonna be able to do her if he/she still wants.

Plausible scenario:

Your son borrows friend cell phone at school
Calls girl
Son:Hey whats up
girl: not much
Son:can I come over
girl " dont you have class
son: I will skip 6th and 7th period
girl:eek:kay


son gets on the bus or bums a ride then knocks the bottom out of this psycho..You have no concept of what a 14yr boy will do to nail a 21 yr old. I hooked up with a 19 yr old when I was 15 and I would have murdered my whole family to sneak out at nite with her.My mom didnt care cause she wa just happy I wasnt gay.

I think this guy knows what he's talking about. When I was that age I was so horny and desperate I would have done anything if I had a glimmer of getting some. It sucks then because you're still a dumbass little punk, probably with acne, if you've gotten your height you're probably gangly and all the girls your age are boning the upperclassmen. Its no lay city, and a hungry man will eat anything and crawl over his dead grandmother to get it.

I would have focused on getting him to bag his sh|t. Told him that girl was probably crazy and he should stay away from her. Explained that pregnancies are a hell of a mess, layed it down hard. Screaming at the nutbag girl isn't going to do any good...she's already fvcked up beyond repair and you can't undo that sh|t with a 1 hour car ride that you pretend to be her mother on. Plus, its not your job to tell her what to do. And she's nuts! The fact that she's pissing you off will probably just make her want to do it more.

I think you should focus on trying to get your son's head on straight about the situation at hand or at least repeatedly explain the importance of always bagging it when nailing a physco. Focusing on the woman is easy because you can relate to women better being one yourself...but you've got to try and teach your kid to deal with this stuff on his own because you aren't always going to be there.

You can't always be there to cock block your son. You've got to lay your case on him, really lay the condom thing on him...fvck, buy the kid some and stick them in his god damn lunch box. You have to make him understand how fvcked up things can get. There will always be physco girls that 'forget their birth control' or something and he'll have to learn to deal with that eventually. You might as well try and guide him now.

 

Siva

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Mar 8, 2001
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You moralist people a just plain crazy. Weren't you EVER young? Perhaps badmouse did the right thing, but honestly I don't think that it makes a difference either way. If the kid wants to get with this girl, he's going to, one way or another, that's how teenage boys are. He'd probably give an arm and a leg as long as his penis was happy.

In any case, relationships these days are f-ed up one way or another. Sex is so commonplace among youth, it doesn't matter if she's 14 or 21, its still gonna happen. The right idea is to teach your child about responsibility. If the boy learns the fundamentals; what's a healthy relationship, proper technique for birth control, prevention of STDs, and most importantly how to treat the opposite sex, he should be able to make his own choices. Once your kid hits 13, if you force him/her into something they do not like, they are just going to rebel. There's no stopping kids unless you lock them up and destroy their lives. Instead you have to be honest with them and teach them in order to TRUST them.

No, I'm not a parent, but I'm not very far removed from being a teenager. I know the other end of the spectrum, and overbearing parenting solves nothing.
 

NogginBoink

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Feb 17, 2002
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Badmouse, I'm on your side too. You're doing the right thing.

I'd probably threaten the chick with arrest for statutory rape.