Personally, I must admit that I have always kind of liked the song, principally because I've always heard/seen it performed by m/f duets during which each person all but cooed at each other with genuine warmth and mutual affection.
As with many, many popular songs that have flashed into and out of my attention, I never really did a deep dive into all of the lyrics.
Now, as presented, I can see where some would find some of the lyrics, and therefore the overall tone of the song, problematical unto creepily offensive.
This is 2018. We are slowly, haltingly evolving out of a distinctly male dominated society . . . just as we are slowly and haltingly dealing with our racist and genocidal past. Be it a statue of R. E. Lee or this song, these changes will cause discomfort to those of us who never fully realized the pain and anger they have caused long less-enfranchised groups of our fellow citizens.
Those of us who grew up with racism and/or misogyny so prevalent and pervasive that it was inextricably woven into the very fabric of the culture all around us -- from statues in the square to songs on the radio -- simply have to suck it up and deal with this essentially positive societal change, because, once again:
To those used to privilege, equality feels like oppression.