Is 13 too younge for a belly ring?

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Babbles

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Originally posted by: Paddington
N***a is you crazy? :confused:

:thumbsup:

Originally posted by: Nebor
No, don't pay attention to the uber conservatives of ATOT. You'll go a lot further being the "cool" dad than the mean dad.

More important than a belly button ring is BIRTH CONTROL. In a year or two, you and your wife should start asking her every month if she wants to start on the pill. That's responsible parenting.

This is about the biggest boatload of stupid I've seen in weeks here on ATOT. He is better off being the "cool dad"?? Holy hell, are you really that stupid or is this some dim-witted sarcasm? Please let it be sarcasm because I don't want to think that you are this clueless and idiotic.

You obviously have no idea at all what it takes to be a responsible parent yet you get up on your soap box giving clueless advice. Please do us all a favor and don't breed.

I simply still can't wrap my head around the mere idea that a parent would even consider allowing their 13 year old girl to get a belly button ring. Frankly it's quite the absurd notion.
 

DaiShan

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Originally posted by: Citrix
Originally posted by: mugs
I'd let her do it. Telling her she can't have it will only make her want it more. Just don't let her dress like a skank ho.

she dresses respectful and no way would we allow skank clothes.


?? So you're thinking that she is going to get a a belly button ring and not walk around in tube tops with her mid-riff exposed? Do you really want your 13 year old wearing clothes like this?
 

DaiShan

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Originally posted by: Nebor
No, don't pay attention to the uber conservatives of ATOT. You'll go a lot further being the "cool" dad than the mean dad.

More important than a belly button ring is BIRTH CONTROL. In a year or two, you and your wife should start asking her every month if she wants to start on the pill. That's responsible parenting.

LOL hahahahah ROFLOL hahahhaha If you're seriously considering taking parenting advice from Nebor you're beyond saving IMO. By his logic you should buy her some dank bud too, after all you want to be the cool dad right? It's fine to want to be your child's friend, but someone has to enforce discipline, and always caving into what she wants will pretty much ensure that she'll become a useless member of society later.
 

DaiShan

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Originally posted by: Hyperblaze
Originally posted by: KarmaPolice
I saw no. The only reason she would want one is if she is planning on showing it off, by wearing clothes that show it off....at that age that is not needed.

Belly Buttons are sexy...a 13 year old does not need to be sexy.

the bolded part is completely argueable. It all comes down to personal tastes.


Wrong. If 13 year old guys find it hot, then it's hot, regardless of what his daughter thinks.
 

ATLien247

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Originally posted by: Nebor
I grew up getting whatever I wanted and I turned out fine by society's measures. Of course privately I'm a self-conscious, depressed, selfish narcissist with a superiority complex and a blazing hatred for authority.

That's debatable... :D
 

waggy

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i do not care to be the "cool dad" at all. i want to be the "good dad".
 

SagaLore

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13 - ears pierced.
16 - more than one earring/stud in each ear.
18 - belly button piereced.
21, or living on own - anything else pierced.
 

shadow9d9

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Originally posted by: dug777
Originally posted by: Citrix
This has turned into a interesting converstation. I had no idea a belly ring is a gateway piercing to nipple rings, dressing like a slut and being a whore. I guess i should back up and actually say that getting her ears pierced at 10 was the real gateway to damnation.

Get over yourself mate.

You obviously have no problem with it, so get her the ring, put her on birth control, and get her out there.

Some of us don't agree with you allowing your daughter to 'sex herself up' when she's just turning 13, but ignore us, we're old fashioned & boring ;)

& if you can't see the difference between an ear piercing & a belly-button ring (one which basically all women in society have, and which looks classy & pretty, and the other which has become synonomous with trashy chicks, alongside those lower back tats) then good luck with ya...at least she doesn't want a tattoo, but it sounds like you'd be fine with that too...

Someone thinks highly of themselves.
 

shadow9d9

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Originally posted by: goku
When I was in middle school, girls had belly rings, wasn't a big deal. Don't see why it's a big deal now, the mentality of keep away making one want it more is more true than you can ever imagine. It's when you have easy access to it is where you become disinterested in, this applies to things from video cards to women. If a woman is easy access, there is no desire, same with a girl wanting a guy, if he isn't easily available, she won't want him.

If the girl can get the belly ring easily, she may realize she won't want one, but even if she does, it's no big deal.


Because most people here are nuts.
 

JEDI

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Originally posted by: moshquerade
yes, it is too young. if you let her have a belly ring at 13 she will be asking for nipple rings at 14.

pics!
 

moshquerade

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Originally posted by: SagaLore
13 - ears pierced.
16 - more than one earring/stud in each ear.
18 - belly button piereced.
21, or living on own - anything else pierced.
:thumbsup:
 

moshquerade

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Originally posted by: tfinch2
LOL, regardless if you say yes or no, she's going to get one.
no, most likely she won't. if my parents forbade me to get a piercing at 13 y/o i would NOT be getting one. end of story.

 

Descartes

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Originally posted by: tfinch2
LOL, regardless if you say yes or no, she's going to get one.

This might be a stupid question, but don't they have to have a guardian present when they're a minor?
 

DaiShan

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Originally posted by: moshquerade
Originally posted by: tfinch2
LOL, regardless if you say yes or no, she's going to get one.
no, most likely she won't. if my parents forbade me to get a piercing at 13 y/o i would NOT be getting one. end of story.


Damn right, when I was 13ish I wanted an earing (I'm a guy) Thank GOD my dad laid down the law on that one.
 

lokiju

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Simply put it will draw attention to that region of her which is considered more of a "sexual" area than say ears.

That's the real issue.

 

Homerboy

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the day my daughter gets her belly button pierced at 13, 14, 15, 16, or 17 is the day I failed as a parent. Sorry, a belly button ring IS meant to be sexual. No question. Sorry anyone in this thread saying "ya let her do it" is simply not a parent (or at the least a very good one).

Edit: Citrix: You're a smart guy. I know you are. Did you REALLY have to post this thread to know the answer? You should already know the answer.
 

Homerboy

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Originally posted by: SagaLore
13 - ears pierced.
16 - more than one earring/stud in each ear.
18 - belly button piereced.
21, or living on own - anything else pierced.

actually that's pretty good timefram Sagalore, I think I will stick to it for my daughter.
 

Joemonkey

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Originally posted by: Homerboy
Originally posted by: SagaLore
13 - ears pierced.
16 - more than one earring/stud in each ear.
18 - belly button piereced.
21, or living on own - anything else pierced.

actually that's pretty good timefram Sagalore, I think I will stick to it for my daughter.

I've always thought that when my daughter is old enough to ask for something, and convince me it is a good idea, that's when I will do it. I do have some ground rules, like no tattoos before 17, but as far as piercing anything beyond the ears, she'll just have to convince me as to why she wants it. People ask why at 14mo she doesn't have her ears pierced, and i tell them it is because she hasn't asked us to get them pierced yet. Same with why she isn't baptized.
 

Homerboy

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I've always thought that when my daughter is old enough to ask for something, and convince me it is a good idea, that's when I will do it. I do have some ground rules, like no tattoos before 17, but as far as piercing anything beyond the ears, she'll just have to convince me as to why she wants it. People ask why at 14mo she doesn't have her ears pierced, and i tell them it is because she hasn't asked us to get them pierced yet. Same with why she isn't baptized.

and you thought I wouldn't like that response?
It's a perfectly FINE response... the trick to it being that she "has to convince you" not just ask. That's a HUGE freaking difference. If my kid at 8 can "convince" me she should get her ears pierced then I'm sure my rules will change... will she convince me at 8? Doubtful, but I'll certainly give her a shot.

As far as how that relates to a belly button piercing at 13... sorry, no argument in the world, short of a hand written note from Jesus Christ would convince me that my daughter should have her belly button pierced.

Long story short, they will have to convince me of ANYTHING before I agree to it while they are on my dime and under my roof... I think thats resonable. When they become responsible adults, then they can make responsible decisions.