I think my girlfriend is pregnant

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TheFamilyMan

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You gotta love the immaturity of the new generation..."Hey, let's have all the casual sex we want to. If you happen to get pregnant, we'll just kill it like nothing ever happened. We won't tell your parents and we won't tell mine. Forget about the long-term where, one day, you'll conceive a child but always wonder about the one you threw away like dishwater. It's okay...anything that allows us to just get it on like animals with no recourse. Go ahead baby...do it...get the abortion. I don't want my life ruined right now."

OP, why don't you grow the fvck up and become a man. You laid down with this woman and should have known that one of the consequences of it could be pregnancy...nothing is 100% other than abstinence. Instead of being a man about it and thinking about what it would be like to look into the eyes of a child who is yours and knowing love like you've never known, you'd rather b!tch and whine about how inconveinent it would be for you to have to grow up right now. Selfish bastard.
 

jlbenedict

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Originally posted by: gwrober
Originally posted by: chuckywang

WTF is that?

Dude are you serious? Internet much?? :confused:

I think it's good that you and your gf have talked things over, and discussed what would be best for both of you. It's also mature to realize that things can go south quick with parents, college, new baby, etc all at once. But it's also mature to own up to your responsibilities, if it comes to that. Nothing wrong at all with taking care of a child that you helped bring about!

Good luck, but I (also) agree that it's probably a UTI, and that she has pee in her urine.

My urine always has pee in it

 

skace

Lifer
Jan 23, 2001
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Originally posted by: TheFamilyMan
you'll conceive a child but always wonder about the one you threw away like dishwater. It's okay...anything that allows us to just get it on like animals with no recourse. Go ahead baby...do it...get the abortion. I don't want my life ruined right now."

Only if you think about it that way. Assuming you had the child you could wonder about the 2nd child you decided not to have and what they will never become. Or you could wonder about the 3rd child you weren't planning on having but could have had. Or the 4th, or the 5th, or you could wonder about all the children you'd have with another person. Uh, see the trend? In other words, big deal.
 

moshquerade

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Nov 1, 2001
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Originally posted by: jlbenedict
Originally posted by: gwrober
Originally posted by: chuckywang

WTF is that?

Dude are you serious? Internet much?? :confused:

I think it's good that you and your gf have talked things over, and discussed what would be best for both of you. It's also mature to realize that things can go south quick with parents, college, new baby, etc all at once. But it's also mature to own up to your responsibilities, if it comes to that. Nothing wrong at all with taking care of a child that you helped bring about!

Good luck, but I (also) agree that it's probably a UTI, and that she has pee in her urine.

My urine always has pee in it
yeh, i saw that too, and assumed he meant blood.
 

sixone

Lifer
May 3, 2004
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Originally posted by: TheFamilyMan
You gotta love the immaturity of the new generation..."Hey, let's have all the casual sex we want to. If you happen to get pregnant, we'll just kill it like nothing ever happened. We won't tell your parents and we won't tell mine. Forget about the long-term where, one day, you'll conceive a child but always wonder about the one you threw away like dishwater. It's okay...anything that allows us to just get it on like animals with no recourse. Go ahead baby...do it...get the abortion. I don't want my life ruined right now."

OP, why don't you grow the fvck up and become a man. You laid down with this woman and should have known that one of the consequences of it could be pregnancy...nothing is 100% other than abstinence. Instead of being a man about it and thinking about what it would be like to look into the eyes of a child who is yours and knowing love like you've never known, you'd rather b!tch and whine about how inconveinent it would be for you to have to grow up right now. Selfish bastard.

You got that right.
 

jlbenedict

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Jul 10, 2005
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Originally posted by: TheFamilyMan
You gotta love the immaturity of the new generation..."Hey, let's have all the casual sex we want to. If you happen to get pregnant, we'll just kill it like nothing ever happened. We won't tell your parents and we won't tell mine. Forget about the long-term where, one day, you'll conceive a child but always wonder about the one you threw away like dishwater. It's okay...anything that allows us to just get it on like animals with no recourse. Go ahead baby...do it...get the abortion. I don't want my life ruined right now."

OP, why don't you grow the fvck up and become a man. You laid down with this woman and should have known that one of the consequences of it could be pregnancy...nothing is 100% other than abstinence. Instead of being a man about it and thinking about what it would be like to look into the eyes of a child who is yours and knowing love like you've never known, you'd rather b!tch and whine about how inconveinent it would be for you to have to grow up right now. Selfish bastard.


Best post of this whole thread.

:thumbsup:

 

sao123

Lifer
May 27, 2002
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Originally posted by: TheFamilyMan
You gotta love the immaturity of the new generation..."Hey, let's have all the casual sex we want to. If you happen to get pregnant, we'll just kill it like nothing ever happened. We won't tell your parents and we won't tell mine. Forget about the long-term where, one day, you'll conceive a child but always wonder about the one you threw away like dishwater. It's okay...anything that allows us to just get it on like animals with no recourse. Go ahead baby...do it...get the abortion. I don't want my life ruined right now."

OP, why don't you grow the fvck up and become a man. You laid down with this woman and should have known that one of the consequences of it could be pregnancy...nothing is 100% other than abstinence. Instead of being a man about it and thinking about what it would be like to look into the eyes of a child who is yours and knowing love like you've never known, you'd rather b!tch and whine about how inconveinent it would be for you to have to grow up right now. Selfish bastard.

:thumbsup: Finally someone with some common sense...



**waits for the anti-abstinence, sex-should-be-as-casual-and-inconsequencial-as-a-handshake crowd to start screaming**
 

mooglekit

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Jul 1, 2003
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Originally posted by: TheFamilyMan
You gotta love the immaturity of the new generation..."Hey, let's have all the casual sex we want to. If you happen to get pregnant, we'll just kill it like nothing ever happened. We won't tell your parents and we won't tell mine. Forget about the long-term where, one day, you'll conceive a child but always wonder about the one you threw away like dishwater. It's okay...anything that allows us to just get it on like animals with no recourse. Go ahead baby...do it...get the abortion. I don't want my life ruined right now."

OP, why don't you grow the fvck up and become a man. You laid down with this woman and should have known that one of the consequences of it could be pregnancy...nothing is 100% other than abstinence. Instead of being a man about it and thinking about what it would be like to look into the eyes of a child who is yours and knowing love like you've never known, you'd rather b!tch and whine about how inconveinent it would be for you to have to grow up right now. Selfish bastard.
And suddenly my faith in humanity is restored, because somewhere out there the elusive human using his/her brain does still exist :thumbsup:

 

Roguestar

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I hereby demand the OP updates us when his life turns out to be a trainwreck of despair/when she discovers it's a UTI and they live happily ever after for six months.
 

gwrober

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Originally posted by: moshquerade
Originally posted by: jlbenedict
Originally posted by: gwrober

Good luck, but I (also) agree that it's probably a UTI, and that she has pee in her urine.

My urine always has pee in it
yeh, i saw that too, and assumed he meant blood.



If you mean me, I was making fun of a previous poster's typo....
 

Turin39789

Lifer
Nov 21, 2000
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Originally posted by: TheFamilyMan
You gotta love the immaturity of the new generation..."Hey, let's have all the casual sex we want to. If you happen to get pregnant, we'll just kill it like nothing ever happened. We won't tell your parents and we won't tell mine. Forget about the long-term where, one day, you'll conceive a child but always wonder about the one you threw away like dishwater. It's okay...anything that allows us to just get it on like animals with no recourse. Go ahead baby...do it...get the abortion. I don't want my life ruined right now."

OP, why don't you grow the fvck up and become a man. You laid down with this woman and should have known that one of the consequences of it could be pregnancy...nothing is 100% other than abstinence. Instead of being a man about it and thinking about what it would be like to look into the eyes of a child who is yours and knowing love like you've never known, you'd rather b!tch and whine about how inconveinent it would be for you to have to grow up right now. Selfish bastard.


Chill Walter, you really don't need to be getting all ridiculous and worked up over a UTI.


 

K1052

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Aug 21, 2003
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Originally posted by: TheFamilyMan
You gotta love the immaturity of the new generation..."Hey, let's have all the casual sex we want to. If you happen to get pregnant, we'll just kill it like nothing ever happened. We won't tell your parents and we won't tell mine. Forget about the long-term where, one day, you'll conceive a child but always wonder about the one you threw away like dishwater. It's okay...anything that allows us to just get it on like animals with no recourse. Go ahead baby...do it...get the abortion. I don't want my life ruined right now."

OP, why don't you grow the fvck up and become a man. You laid down with this woman and should have known that one of the consequences of it could be pregnancy...nothing is 100% other than abstinence. Instead of being a man about it and thinking about what it would be like to look into the eyes of a child who is yours and knowing love like you've never known, you'd rather b!tch and whine about how inconveinent it would be for you to have to grow up right now. Selfish bastard.

I am fscking tired of continually hearing about how irresponsible and immature our generation is. Like anyone over 30 never made a mistake, bad decision, or had fate/god/whatever deal them a sh!tty hand. The op is obviously very concerned about a number of things (actually about more her than him) and understandably a little freaked out. It is amazing to think that we invented causal sex, oh wait no we didn't. It has been around since man figured out where it goes in women (many thousands of years). If anything it is our parent's generation that is to blame for the recent explosion and social acceptance of casual sex (read 60s and 70s). Get off your high horse before you fall and hurt yourself.

Abstinence education is a total waste of time since nature wins almost every time. Instead of actually addressing what is going to inevitably happen (teenagers have sex, always have and always will) lots of people prefer to stick their fingers in their ears and hum loudly in the hope it will go away all on its own. Abortion is by no means a modern invention. It has been practiced for at least a couple millenia as far as I know. We do now however have the tools to prevent pregnancy or terminate it hours after it happens which is a major step forward from previous means.

 

Turin39789

Lifer
Nov 21, 2000
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Originally posted by: K1052
Originally posted by: TheFamilyMan
You gotta love the immaturity of the new generation..."Hey, let's have all the casual sex we want to. If you happen to get pregnant, we'll just kill it like nothing ever happened. We won't tell your parents and we won't tell mine. Forget about the long-term where, one day, you'll conceive a child but always wonder about the one you threw away like dishwater. It's okay...anything that allows us to just get it on like animals with no recourse. Go ahead baby...do it...get the abortion. I don't want my life ruined right now."

OP, why don't you grow the fvck up and become a man. You laid down with this woman and should have known that one of the consequences of it could be pregnancy...nothing is 100% other than abstinence. Instead of being a man about it and thinking about what it would be like to look into the eyes of a child who is yours and knowing love like you've never known, you'd rather b!tch and whine about how inconveinent it would be for you to have to grow up right now. Selfish bastard.

I am fscking tired of continually hearing about how irresponsible and immature our generation is. Like anyone over 30 never made a mistake, bad decision, or had fate/god/whatever deal them a sh!tty hand. The op is obviously very concerned about a number of things (actually about more her than him) and understandably a little freaked out. It is amazing to think that we invented causal sex, oh wait no we didn't. It has been around since man figured out where it goes in women (many thousands of years). If anything it is our parent's generation that is to blame for the recent explosion and social acceptance of casual sex (read 60s and 70s). Get off your high horse before you fall and hurt yourself.

Abstinence education is a total waste of time since nature wins almost every time. Instead of actually addressing what is going to inevitably happen (teenagers have sex, always have and always will) lots of people prefer to stick their fingers in their ears and hum loudly in the hope it will go away all on its own. Abortion is by no means a modern invention. It has been practiced for at least a couple millenia as far as I know. We do now however have the tools to prevent pregnancy or terminate it hours after it happens which is a major step forward from previous means.


But couldn't we go back to the old days when abortion was illegal but happened anyway and women turned up in the ER bleeding and dying on a regular basis? Pretty please?


 

K1052

Elite Member
Aug 21, 2003
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Originally posted by: Turin39789
Originally posted by: K1052
Originally posted by: TheFamilyMan
You gotta love the immaturity of the new generation..."Hey, let's have all the casual sex we want to. If you happen to get pregnant, we'll just kill it like nothing ever happened. We won't tell your parents and we won't tell mine. Forget about the long-term where, one day, you'll conceive a child but always wonder about the one you threw away like dishwater. It's okay...anything that allows us to just get it on like animals with no recourse. Go ahead baby...do it...get the abortion. I don't want my life ruined right now."

OP, why don't you grow the fvck up and become a man. You laid down with this woman and should have known that one of the consequences of it could be pregnancy...nothing is 100% other than abstinence. Instead of being a man about it and thinking about what it would be like to look into the eyes of a child who is yours and knowing love like you've never known, you'd rather b!tch and whine about how inconveinent it would be for you to have to grow up right now. Selfish bastard.

I am fscking tired of continually hearing about how irresponsible and immature our generation is. Like anyone over 30 never made a mistake, bad decision, or had fate/god/whatever deal them a sh!tty hand. The op is obviously very concerned about a number of things (actually about more her than him) and understandably a little freaked out. It is amazing to think that we invented causal sex, oh wait no we didn't. It has been around since man figured out where it goes in women (many thousands of years). If anything it is our parent's generation that is to blame for the recent explosion and social acceptance of casual sex (read 60s and 70s). Get off your high horse before you fall and hurt yourself.

Abstinence education is a total waste of time since nature wins almost every time. Instead of actually addressing what is going to inevitably happen (teenagers have sex, always have and always will) lots of people prefer to stick their fingers in their ears and hum loudly in the hope it will go away all on its own. Abortion is by no means a modern invention. It has been practiced for at least a couple millenia as far as I know. We do now however have the tools to prevent pregnancy or terminate it hours after it happens which is a major step forward from previous means.

But couldn't we go back to the old days when abortion was illegal but happened anyway and women turned up in the ER bleeding and dying on a regular basis? Pretty please?

There are indeed people who want that. Out of sight, out of mind.

Personally, I prefer to deal with that scary thing known as reality instead of attempting to sweep things the carpet that don't agree with my narrow belief of what is proper.
 

phantom404

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Nov 2, 2004
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Something like that happened to me except it was right after I graduated college. We were having sex, she got pregnant, we got married and this is what turned out
Tyler at 3yrs.

Now couldn't picture my life without them both. All I can say is if she is, time to step up to the plate and take on the responsibility. They do have programs to help people out with limited income and such. Might want to look into that.

In your case though it sounds like shes not so I wouldn't worry.
 

sixone

Lifer
May 3, 2004
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Originally posted by: K1052
Originally posted by: TheFamilyMan
You gotta love the immaturity of the new generation..."Hey, let's have all the casual sex we want to. If you happen to get pregnant, we'll just kill it like nothing ever happened. We won't tell your parents and we won't tell mine. Forget about the long-term where, one day, you'll conceive a child but always wonder about the one you threw away like dishwater. It's okay...anything that allows us to just get it on like animals with no recourse. Go ahead baby...do it...get the abortion. I don't want my life ruined right now."

OP, why don't you grow the fvck up and become a man. You laid down with this woman and should have known that one of the consequences of it could be pregnancy...nothing is 100% other than abstinence. Instead of being a man about it and thinking about what it would be like to look into the eyes of a child who is yours and knowing love like you've never known, you'd rather b!tch and whine about how inconveinent it would be for you to have to grow up right now. Selfish bastard.

I am fscking tired of continually hearing about how irresponsible and immature our generation is. Like anyone over 30 never made a mistake, bad decision, or had fate/god/whatever deal them a sh!tty hand. The op is obviously very concerned about a number of things (actually about more her than him) and understandably a little freaked out. It is amazing to think that we invented causal sex, oh wait no we didn't. It has been around since man figured out where it goes in women (many thousands of years). If anything it is our parent's generation that is to blame for the recent explosion and social acceptance of casual sex (read 60s and 70s). Get off your high horse before you fall and hurt yourself.

Abstinence education is a total waste of time since nature wins almost every time. Instead of actually addressing what is going to inevitably happen (teenagers have sex, always have and always will) lots of people prefer to stick their fingers in their ears and hum loudly in the hope it will go away all on its own. Abortion is by no means a modern invention. It has been practiced for at least a couple millenia as far as I know. We do now however have the tools to prevent pregnancy or terminate it hours after it happens which is a major step forward from previous means.

Slavery's not a modern invention either, but we know it's wrong. But maybe it's not so very wrong, if it comes from human nature. Perhaps you'd like to use the same "logic" to justify ownership of another human being.

You have free will. You can put your dick in any hole because the urge comes from nature, or you can pick and choose what risks to take with your life and someone else's. After all, it IS a baby if I want to keep it.

And the OP did take all reasonable precautions. And yet he's still terrified that his GF might be pregnant. So much for safe sex...
 

j00fek

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Dec 19, 2005
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Originally posted by: SampSon
How about you go get a couple pregnancy tests before you post on here?
Seriously, calm down and just think it through for more than 3 seconds.

:thumbsup:
 

manowar821

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Mar 1, 2007
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And here come the old coots!

I didn't know that loving sex between two partners was "casual" or "just sex".

Married couples aren't the only people who love eachother, get over yourselves.

Also, you can't control other people's decisions when it comes to abortion, no matter how hard you try.
 

JS80

Lifer
Oct 24, 2005
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Just don't let her wait until 3rd trimester to pull the baby's head out, crack it, and suck the insides out.