Holy crap I'm divorced!

spidey07

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This sucks.

To start off my mom has been terminally ill for about a year. I loved my mate so much that when she said some girlfriends wanted her to go on a cruise with them I said "sure, I love you...have fun!" That was in late august.

Two weeks after the cruise she says she's leaving and has all our finances and assets divied up. After 5 years I never spied on her and trusted her to no end. I read some of her e-mails (I just had to know what was going on) and apparantly she met somebody on the cruise and has been talking to him constantly. He fed her the typical "you deserve better", "I think you know there is something more out there for you", "you won't be alone because I'm here for you" crap.

And she bit it hook line and sinker. We've been under a lot of stress with my Mom and our careers but jeez. So she quits her 90K/yr job, moves 200 miles away (from her family, friends and me) and marries this slimball who's already been divorced twice. Go figure. Oh and mom passed away shortly after she left. I was her only child and we were extremely close as she only lived 10 minutes away. God bless you mom, may you rest in piece now. Hehe, when I told mom what was going on (and she is a sweet, sweet lady) her exact words were "Here's that b!tch's money now get her out of your life"

-cliff notes-
1) she goes on cruise which I of course have no problems with
2) Meets some guy on cruise and tells me she's leaving two weeks later
3) Is out of the house one week after that
4) Everything is final 8 weeks after cruise - she requested that I get her money from my dying mother...real classy woman there.
5) She and this loser get married 10 weeks after cruise, scary part is I'm sure she'll be pregnant soon.
6) Mom passed away 11 weeks after cruise to which the ex's only response was "oh"

I never did tell that story:(
 

MystikMango

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No use crying over spilt milk, you just need to find a big enough rag to clean up the mess.

Time to enjoy your life now. Cheers! :beer:
 

PanzerIV

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Your ex sounds like the spawn of Satan. Sit back, relax and watch how all her bad little decisions come to make her life a living hell soon and you'll get to enjoy the show ;)

Tough break man..but somebody better is out there for you.
 

spidey07

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Originally posted by: PanzerIV
Your ex sounds like the spawn of Satan. Sit back, relax and watch how all her bad little decisions come to make her life a living hell soon and you'll get to enjoy the show ;)

Tough break man..but somebody better is out there for you.

heh, fast forward 4 years and here's where she'll be - loveless marriage with nothing in common and three kids.
 
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Originally posted by: spidey07
4) Everything is final 8 weeks after cruise - she requested that I get her money from my dying mother...real classy woman there.
:(:| That's cold hearted. Your mother should have given the money to another family member temporarily until the divorce was final.
 

vi edit

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Christ...another one?!?!

What's up with the divorce/cheating spouse/dying parent threads lately? :(
 

Jhill

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Look on the bright side. This guys been divorced twice already. I can almost guarantee she won't be happy for long, if at all. When she comes crawling back, say BHAAHAHAHAHAHAHAA.

If your wife didn't want to work it out with you, she won't want to work it out with someone else. Same goes for the guy. ALL marriages take a lot of work to survive.

Did you mom owe her money? I don't understand the part about the money?
 

yobarman

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jesus christ that's terrible! i hope that bitch pays for what she did and that guy completely fawks her over.

For the love of all that is principle, never take her back.
 

spidey07

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Originally posted by: KnightBreed
Originally posted by: spidey07
4) Everything is final 8 weeks after cruise - she requested that I get her money from my dying mother...real classy woman there.
:(:| That's cold hearted. Your mother should have given the money to another family member temporarily until the divorce was final.

LOL! When my dad gave me the check he said "I want to come down there with you and look her in the eye"
 

Red Dawn

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Originally posted by: vi_edit
Christ...another one?!?!

What's up with the divorce/cheating spouse/dying parent threads lately? :(
Sounds like there is a correlation between time spent on ATOT and cheating wives! Are you sure you want to go to AZ and leave your wife behind Josh??

J/K
 

spidey07

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Originally posted by: yobarman
jesus christ that's terrible! i hope that bitch pays for what she did and that guy completely fawks her over.

For the love of all that is principle, never take her back.

no way, no how. But I'm sure there will be a sobbing phone call in a year or two.

What's even worse a few months after I found out about mom's illness I sat her down and talked to her saying "this is going to be very, very rough on me and probably us as well. I need for you to stick by me during this difficult time. Can you do that?"
 

Triumph

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I don't understand this money. Why is your mother giving her money?

Very sorry about your mother, btw. I know what it's like to lose a mom.
 

spidey07

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Originally posted by: Jhill
Look on the bright side. This guys been divorced twice already. I can almost guarantee she won't be happy for long, if at all. When she comes crawling back, say BHAAHAHAHAHAHAHAA.

If your wife didn't want to work it out with you, she won't want to work it out with someone else. Same goes for the guy. ALL marriages take a lot of work to survive.

Did you mom owe her money? I don't understand the part about the money?

division of joint assets. Financyially it was better for me to pull from my trust fund than to re-finance and be upside down on a house. Plus I didn't want to touch savings/investments. I kept the house and most of the stuff in it. She left behind almost all of her belongings like pictures, stuff her mom made her, etc.

 

conjur

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So, you got the papers?

Time for a party and to get on with your new lease on life!
 

spidey07

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Originally posted by: conjur
So, you got the papers?

Time for a party and to get on with your new lease on life!

She left behind all her legal stuff as well. I have her whole history on file.

She cashed our escrow refund check (I found out because I called the mortgage company) and decided not to tell me. So I call her at the jackasses house (she didn't know that I knew where she was living) and simply ask "Could you please mail me a check for half of the escrow, thanks"

I receive the check and low and behold she has a new last name...his!

So I called her folks and ask "did she marry that guy?" To which they begrudgingly answer "yes, yes, she did"
 

rh71

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I'm just curious if you gave her the attention you gave your mom, or at least close to it. I'm not trying to make excuses for her nor am I making accusations at you... but maybe she felt like she really did deserve a more devoted husband as well. I have a hard time believing a 5-year marriage can die simply from meeting a guy while away. Maybe she had been considering getting out since before then.

Either way, the situation as it stands does suck and you sound remarkably upbeat about it. The best thing is to forget her and move on with someone else. Plain and simple.

And some guys out there (this cruise guy) deserve to get the beating of their life.
 

blackdogdeek

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sorry to hear :(

the bright side is that you are now free to find someone better :)

and at some point in time, karma will take care of that b!tch ex-wife of yours.

:beer:
 

sygyzy

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Were you upset about the financial split? It seems like she contributed a good amount to your household income.
 

kenshorin

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I think all the ATOTers who are getting screwed by their craptacular females should unite and kick some ass! Strength in numbers!