Fiance doesn't think I should be mad after she smashed my car

[Garet Jax]

Originally posted by: Lucky
....

You have every right to be pissed as long as you're an ass. Once you get married, have kids and actually start dealing with really important things in life, you will very quickly realize a car is just a car while the rest of your life is so important.

Move on and don't make this any bigger than you already have.

PS - Why do you have to get it fixed?

 

[cKGunslinger]

Originally posted by: tfinch2

Originally posted by: SampSon
Everyone on this forum must be zen masters, or just full of sh!t up to their eye balls.

Finally some sense in this thread.

And you need to stay on her ass. If you just let it slide she'll start to think it's okay to fvck up, and stuff like this starts to become a regular occurance.

LOL. And I guess everyone else in this thread are 14yo virgins who get all their "advice" from Tom Likus and reruns of The Man Show. Do you guys also plan to keep a small hickory club by the bed to "straighten your woman out" every once in a while, too? :laugh:

 

[NaOH]

Originally posted by: cKGunslinger

Originally posted by: tfinch2

Originally posted by: SampSon
Everyone on this forum must be zen masters, or just full of sh!t up to their eye balls.

Finally some sense in this thread.

And you need to stay on her ass. If you just let it slide she'll start to think it's okay to fvck up, and stuff like this starts to become a regular occurance.

LOL. And I guess everyone else in this thread are 14yo virgins who get all their "advice" from Tom Likus and reruns of The Man Show. Do you guys also plan to keep a small hickory club by the bed to "straighten your woman out" every once in a while, too? :laugh:

I guess you could jump to that conclusion since it is inhuman to be upset over such material things as a car.....:roll:

 

[cKGunslinger]

Originally posted by: AMDUALY

Originally posted by: cKGunslinger

Originally posted by: tfinch2

Originally posted by: SampSon
Everyone on this forum must be zen masters, or just full of sh!t up to their eye balls.

Finally some sense in this thread.

And you need to stay on her ass. If you just let it slide she'll start to think it's okay to fvck up, and stuff like this starts to become a regular occurance.

LOL. And I guess everyone else in this thread are 14yo virgins who get all their "advice" from Tom Likus and reruns of The Man Show. Do you guys also plan to keep a small hickory club by the bed to "straighten your woman out" every once in a while, too? :laugh:

I guess you could jump to that conclusion since it is inhuman to be upset over such material things as a car.....:roll:

Hey, you guys are the one who made the jump to "Well, since you forgive her for this, I guess you'll just forgive her when she sucks off some other guy."

I mean, no one was saying that he was wrong to be upset, but the OP was talking about barely being able to control himself from smashing out her truck's windows with a golf club in a fit of blind rage. It alarms me greatly that so many of you "manly men" see nothing wrong with that. :disgust:


I mean, FFS, this whole thread has jumped off into absurd Hyperbole-Land, I just thought I'd jump aboard as well. 😀

 

[Azraele]

It's natural to feel upset, but it doesn't fix anything to yell at her, and it was an accident. If you're so mad that you want to take a golf club and smash windows in, you need to get that anger in check. Yes, it will cost money to fix, but in the long run, it's just a car.

 

[DaShen]

Originally posted by: cKGunslinger
Hey, you guys are the one who made the jump to "Well, since you forgive her for this, I guess you'll just forgive her when she sucks off some other guy."

I mean, no one was saying that he was wrong to be upset, but the OP was talking about barely being able to control himself from smashing out her truck's windows with a golf club in a fit of blind rage. It alarms me greatly that so many of you "manly men" see nothing wrong with that. :disgust:


I mean, FFS, this whole thread has jumped off into absurd Hyperbole-Land, I just thought I'd jump aboard as well. 😀

FINALLY some real sense in this thread :thumbsup:

 

[NaOH]

Originally posted by: cKGunslinger

Originally posted by: AMDUALY

Originally posted by: cKGunslinger

Originally posted by: tfinch2

Originally posted by: SampSon
Everyone on this forum must be zen masters, or just full of sh!t up to their eye balls.

Finally some sense in this thread.

And you need to stay on her ass. If you just let it slide she'll start to think it's okay to fvck up, and stuff like this starts to become a regular occurance.

LOL. And I guess everyone else in this thread are 14yo virgins who get all their "advice" from Tom Likus and reruns of The Man Show. Do you guys also plan to keep a small hickory club by the bed to "straighten your woman out" every once in a while, too? :laugh:

I guess you could jump to that conclusion since it is inhuman to be upset over such material things as a car.....:roll:

Hey, you guys are the one who made the jump to "Well, since you forgive her for this, I guess you'll just forgive her when she sucks off some other guy."

I mean, no one was saying that he was wrong to be upset, but the OP was talking about barely being able to control himself from smashing out her truck's windows witha golf club in a fit of blind rage. It alarms me greatly that so many of your "manly men" see nothing wrong with that. :disgust:

I mean, FFS, this whole thread has jumped off into absurd Hyperbole-Land, I just thought I'd jump aboard as well. 😀

Take that back....or I'll do you like I do my woman.. ::firm backhand::

😛

 

[DaShen]

Originally posted by: jbourne77

Originally posted by: Doboji
What you should really do:

Buy the woman some flowers... tell her you're sorry for yelling at her. Tell her she's far more important than the car. Then call the insurance company and get your car fixed...

/thread

Your balls called. They want their body back.

To call Doboji balless takes a lot of balls and no sense in my opinion. He plays Rugby (about the most manliest sport out there) and he is the size of a lineman. Good luck in rehab if you ever meet Doboji. 😉

 

[rasczak]

Originally posted by: DaShen

Originally posted by: jbourne77

Originally posted by: Doboji
What you should really do:

Buy the woman some flowers... tell her you're sorry for yelling at her. Tell her she's far more important than the car. Then call the insurance company and get your car fixed...

/thread

Your balls called. They want their body back.

To call Doboji balless takes a lot of balls and no sense in my opinion. He plays Rugby (about the most manliest sport out there) and he is the size of a lineman. Good luck in rehab if you ever meet Doboji. 😉

Doboji has hit it right on the head. You have to apologize for the extreme behavior if you value your relationship enough. She may start having seconds thoughts about being your fiancee after seeing a tirade like that.
good luck, and don't listen to the macho bullsh!t going on around here. Btw, your insurance should not go up 50 bucks. $45.99 maybe, but not $50. just get the car fixed 🙂

 

[Geekbabe]

being upset is fine but being angry to the point of wanting to smash out her truck windows is over the top imho.

OP, the fact that she was afraid to tell you and had to ask you not to lose it before she did should serve as a big red flag to you about yourself. You're talking about marrying this woman and she shouldn't be afraid to come and tell you things, particularly if they are things which are/were accidental and for which she's prepared to pay to fix/apologise for.

You might need some anger managment help- think about it or you'll end up with a wife who hides problems from you till it's too late to fix them.

 

[Queasy]

Originally posted by: Lucky
I am fuming, screaming at her while she is trying to tell me "it's just a dent, it will pop out". Uh, no. I popped out the interior panels, tried to see if it would pop out. It did, but only partially, and the sheet metal is creased for a good 2 feet. She would have HAD to have kept backing up even after hitting her truck because there are bumper scrapes for the entire length of the crease. I've tapped her bumper before backing out, but I go so slow, I realize it, stop immediately without damage, and back around it again.

So I'm still fuming when she comes home (after taking her truck) and she's catty at ME because she doesn't think I should be so upset about it. "It's only a car". Seems cavalier about how much this is going to cost us like money grows on a fvking tree. Doesn't understand why I haven't taken it to a shop already, when I'm trying to calm myself down so I don't take a golf club to the windows of her truck.

So, the question is, are you able to calm down, write it off as an accident, and put a happy face on less than an hour after this happens?

Ya know, my sister backed into my minivan at our parent's house a couple of weekends ago and caused similar damage. A couple of dents, a nice gouge, and plenty of paint damage down the passengar side.

I was in my parent's backyard videotaping my son and his two cousins playing with my Dad and Brother on the Slip-N-Slide when we heard her bust against the mini-van. My Dad just kind of threw up his hands on his head and looked down shaking his head. My brother just kind of stood there shocked. I ran around to see what had happened and saw my sister get out of her car visibly upset and starting to cry.

I looked over the damage and just gave her a hug and told her it was OK. No big deal just some paint and body damage. We were kind of joking about it the rest of the weekend and I kept telling her to not worry about it the whole time until we left. Since then, her insurance is taking care of repairing the minivan and we should get it back by the end of this week.

Was I upset? Sure. Was I gonna scream and yell at my sister over it and hold it against her the rest of her life? No. Maybe I'm just easy-going with this kind of stuff but a little car damage that comes from an accident isn't much to get worked over about.

 

[cKGunslinger]

Originally posted by: AMDUALY

Originally posted by: cKGunslinger

Originally posted by: AMDUALY

Originally posted by: cKGunslinger

Originally posted by: tfinch2

Originally posted by: SampSon
Everyone on this forum must be zen masters, or just full of sh!t up to their eye balls.

Finally some sense in this thread.

And you need to stay on her ass. If you just let it slide she'll start to think it's okay to fvck up, and stuff like this starts to become a regular occurance.

LOL. And I guess everyone else in this thread are 14yo virgins who get all their "advice" from Tom Likus and reruns of The Man Show. Do you guys also plan to keep a small hickory club by the bed to "straighten your woman out" every once in a while, too? :laugh:

I guess you could jump to that conclusion since it is inhuman to be upset over such material things as a car.....:roll:

Hey, you guys are the one who made the jump to "Well, since you forgive her for this, I guess you'll just forgive her when she sucks off some other guy."

I mean, no one was saying that he was wrong to be upset, but the OP was talking about barely being able to control himself from smashing out her truck's windows witha golf club in a fit of blind rage. It alarms me greatly that so many of your "manly men" see nothing wrong with that. :disgust:

I mean, FFS, this whole thread has jumped off into absurd Hyperbole-Land, I just thought I'd jump aboard as well. 😀

Take that back....or I'll do you like I do my woman.. ::firm backhand::

😛

:shocked:


😎

 

[edro]

It's in the past. There is nothing you can do.

Getting mad only worsens the situation.

Yesterday I was in a store and a little kid broke a $300 lamp. His mom was screaming bloody murder at the kid and then they both started crying.

I was like... WTF. Calm down.

I guess it takes a lot to get me excited.

 

[Miramonti]

Originally posted by: Lucky

Originally posted by: DougK62

Make her pay the deductible.

That's doesn't much matter when our bank account is shared. I'll be paying for it regardless. BTW, the estimate was $860.

WTF, only $860???...you said she "smashed" the car!

Drama queen. :roll:

 

[saymyname]

Originally posted by: Lucky
So my fiance was taking my scion tc to the doctor today, in a hurry I might add. I had parked it in the garage, so she had to back it out and around her truck, which was parked perpendicular to the garage. It's a pretty hard thing to do, you have to do it very slowly and carefully; I have to use the little panoramic stick on mirrors.

So she comes inside 5 minutes after leaving the house, tells me to come outside and not to be angry. She had dented the rear side panel on the car against the bumper of her truck. On the tC, since it's a coupe, this isn't a small thing. It's probably the largest piece of sheet metal on the entire car.

I am fuming, screaming at her while she is trying to tell me "it's just a dent, it will pop out". Uh, no. I popped out the interior panels, tried to see if it would pop out. It did, but only partially, and the sheet metal is creased for a good 2 feet. She would have HAD to have kept backing up even after hitting her truck because there are bumper scrapes for the entire length of the crease. I've tapped her bumper before backing out, but I go so slow, I realize it, stop immediately without damage, and back around it again.

So I'm still fuming when she comes home (after taking her truck) and she's catty at ME because she doesn't think I should be so upset about it. "It's only a car". Seems cavalier about how much this is going to cost us like money grows on a fvking tree. Doesn't understand why I haven't taken it to a shop already, when I'm trying to calm myself down so I don't take a golf club to the windows of her truck.

So, the question is, are you able to calm down, write it off as an accident, and put a happy face on less than an hour after this happens?



:|

You need to chill out.

 

[gregshin]

you just need to chill its just a minor accident...now she owes you great make up sex...but now i dunno

 

[FrancesBeansRevenge]

I am in the 'it's just a car' camp...
I would have laughed it off as an accident (they do happen you know), kissed my girl and told her not to worry about it.
Then again I'm just a hippy and place far more value on peace and happiness in my life than I do on any possessions.

Anger is a useless, destructive emotion. All that anger and venting and unpleasantries did no good because that dent is STILL in your car. Deal with it mate. 🙂

Besides, who cares if it has a dent? I dunno. Maybe it's just me, but I don't extract any of my self worth or pride from my possessions especially my car.
Man people are way too hung up on their sh*t.

 

[bsobel]

Originally posted by: SagaLore

Originally posted by: bsobel
That little response got me more &*()# with her (and a few of her friends with her blessing 😉 ) than anything.

:shocked:

Gotta have your hobbies 😉 There are better stress relievers than screaming for an hour....

 

[DaShen]

Originally posted by: FrancesBeansRevenge
Besides, who cares if it has a dent? I dunno. Maybe it's just me, but I don't extract any of my self worth or pride from my possessions especially my car.
Man people are way too hung up on their sh*t.

Some people like to compensate for their qualities with their possessions. 😉

 

[NanoStuff]

The woman smashing up your car is just the cost of being associated with a woman. You should have considered the consequences before you JYFIHP. Accidents happen, and they happen more often to women; I'd say it's more your fault for allowing her to drive the car if you weren't willing to accept the potential consequences.

 

[KK]

1. It's only a damn car, and a scion at that.
2. You GF has a truck, you have a pansy car.
3. She should beat the fvck out of you.

 

[HamburgerBoy]

Isn't she the same one that wouldn't allow you to punish the kids for ruining brand new carpet with chalk?

 

[jagec]

Originally posted by: Queasy
Ya know, my sister backed into my minivan at our parent's house a couple of weekends ago and caused similar damage. A couple of dents, a nice gouge, and plenty of paint damage down the passengar side.

I was in my parent's backyard videotaping my son and his two cousins playing with my Dad and Brother on the Slip-N-Slide when we heard her bust against the mini-van. My Dad just kind of threw up his hands on his head and looked down shaking his head. My brother just kind of stood there shocked. I ran around to see what had happened and saw my sister get out of her car visibly upset and starting to cry.

I looked over the damage and just gave her a hug and told her it was OK. No big deal just some paint and body damage. We were kind of joking about it the rest of the weekend and I kept telling her to not worry about it the whole time until we left. Since then, her insurance is taking care of repairing the minivan and we should get it back by the end of this week.

A few years ago, I was spending Christmas with a friend in Colorada. They got this farm way out in the middle of nowhere, and he had this '59 Chevy Bel Aire sitting around. So we get it all working except for the brakes, and him, his two sisters, and myself pile into it to take it around the block (1-mile square dirt roads with NO traffic in those parts). Anyway, we all take turns driving, and eventually his youngest sister is at the wheel. Now, since this car has no brakes, you have to downshift and slow down WAY ahead of time before turning. Anway, after a couple circuits, we're coming back to the farm entrance, but we're going really fast, so everyone's talking at once and telling her what to do. "Turn in here!" "No, you're going too fast, just go around again!" and so on. Anyway, she gets confused and sends the car into the ditch😛

No damage thanks to the gravel embankment, we push the car out and park it. But she's a mess because she "ruined" her brother's awesome car, despite all our reassurances that it's fine. When we fixed the brakes the next day, she didn't want to come. And the one time I tried to joke about it later...well, it didn't go well.

I don't know what the point of that story was, but your story reminded me of that incident.😛

 

[Lucky]

Originally posted by: HamburgerBoy
Isn't she the same one that wouldn't allow you to punish the kids for ruining brand new carpet with chalk?

We don't have kids.

 

[JinLien]

Wow!

Sorry to hear your mishaps, but she is right that it is only a car. Would you prefer that your lover hurts in the accident?

Personally I would be glad that my GF isn?t hurt and yeah it cost some money but that isn?t any thing to worry about.

My ex-gf spun out, scraped my car bumper, and blow out a tire because she was going way too fast on a logging road. She worried that I would be angry with her when she told me about it, and was surprise that I said that I?m glad that the car got hurt instead of her.

Worldly procession can be replaced, but you can never replace people.