Fiance doesn't think I should be mad after she smashed my car

[Lucky]

Originally posted by: funboy42

Originally posted by: Pocahontas
And the fiancee finally speaks...........
I went forward and back 6-8 times slowly working around my truck.
Anytime I was ever unsure I could make it, I have ALWAYS had him back it out..
So needless to say, I didn't deserve all the yelling, but I did enjoy the make-up flowers I later got for the incident.
Yes, its only a car but we don't have children and it is his baby, I get it..totally!!
And yes, he has gotten laid since so it wan't that bad : )

I call shens the wife actually wrote this. You did trying to get your man card back in the eyes of all who said you were being an ass

uh huh. i created an account 18 months ago and posted 250 times just for this thread.

 

[Pocahontas]

Okay, here I am : )



For every nerd wondering, here is my picture!!! I love how you think Neal has a senior account for his "damage control" and then his lifer account also..LOL

 

[shadow9d9]

Originally posted by: Lucky
So my fiance was taking my scion tc to the doctor today, in a hurry I might add. I had parked it in the garage, so she had to back it out and around her truck, which was parked perpendicular to the garage. It's a pretty hard thing to do, you have to do it very slowly and carefully; I have to use the little panoramic stick on mirrors.

So she comes inside 5 minutes after leaving the house, tells me to come outside and not to be angry. She had dented the rear side panel on the car against the bumper of her truck. On the tC, since it's a coupe, this isn't a small thing. It's probably the largest piece of sheet metal on the entire car.

I am fuming, screaming at her while she is trying to tell me "it's just a dent, it will pop out". Uh, no. I popped out the interior panels, tried to see if it would pop out. It did, but only partially, and the sheet metal is creased for a good 2 feet. She would have HAD to have kept backing up even after hitting her truck because there are bumper scrapes for the entire length of the crease. I've tapped her bumper before backing out, but I go so slow, I realize it, stop immediately without damage, and back around it again.

So I'm still fuming when she comes home (after taking her truck) and she's catty at ME because she doesn't think I should be so upset about it. "It's only a car". Seems cavalier about how much this is going to cost us like money grows on a fvking tree. Doesn't understand why I haven't taken it to a shop already, when I'm trying to calm myself down so I don't take a golf club to the windows of her truck.

So, the question is, are you able to calm down, write it off as an accident, and put a happy face on less than an hour after this happens?



:|

To be honest, I wouldn't care.. a car is a car... a small dent means nothing.

 

[russoxley187]

i would make her pay for it in bed...
work it off...

 

[Wolfsraider]

If you are considering marriage to this special person, for better or worse, get it "right" now.

Money is the one major thing that affects every relationship.

Would you want her screaming at you for a stupid blunder that can be fixed, or would you appreciate a little forgiveness at an already depressing moment.

IMHO, if you can't forgive her, and not yell, you aren't ready for the commitment of marriage.

.

 

[Wolfsraider]

Originally posted by: russoxley187
i would make her pay for it in bed...
work it off...

Yep, thats what I'd do too

 

[Duddy]

Originally posted by: Lucky
So my fiance was taking my scion tc to the doctor today, in a hurry I might add. I had parked it in the garage, so she had to back it out and around her truck, which was parked perpendicular to the garage. It's a pretty hard thing to do, you have to do it very slowly and carefully; I have to use the little panoramic stick on mirrors.

So she comes inside 5 minutes after leaving the house, tells me to come outside and not to be angry. She had dented the rear side panel on the car against the bumper of her truck. On the tC, since it's a coupe, this isn't a small thing. It's probably the largest piece of sheet metal on the entire car.

I am fuming, screaming at her while she is trying to tell me "it's just a dent, it will pop out". Uh, no. I popped out the interior panels, tried to see if it would pop out. It did, but only partially, and the sheet metal is creased for a good 2 feet. She would have HAD to have kept backing up even after hitting her truck because there are bumper scrapes for the entire length of the crease. I've tapped her bumper before backing out, but I go so slow, I realize it, stop immediately without damage, and back around it again.

So I'm still fuming when she comes home (after taking her truck) and she's catty at ME because she doesn't think I should be so upset about it. "It's only a car". Seems cavalier about how much this is going to cost us like money grows on a fvking tree. Doesn't understand why I haven't taken it to a shop already, when I'm trying to calm myself down so I don't take a golf club to the windows of her truck.

So, the question is, are you able to calm down, write it off as an accident, and put a happy face on less than an hour after this happens?



:|

Yes because I have insurance. And my girlfreind is covered on it.

 

[funboy6942]

Originally posted by: Lucky

Originally posted by: funboy42

Originally posted by: Pocahontas
And the fiancee finally speaks...........
I went forward and back 6-8 times slowly working around my truck.
Anytime I was ever unsure I could make it, I have ALWAYS had him back it out..
So needless to say, I didn't deserve all the yelling, but I did enjoy the make-up flowers I later got for the incident.
Yes, its only a car but we don't have children and it is his baby, I get it..totally!!
And yes, he has gotten laid since so it wan't that bad : )

I call shens the wife actually wrote this. You did trying to get your man card back in the eyes of all who said you were being an ass

uh huh. i created an account 18 months ago and posted 250 times just for this thread.

No you got her password to her account and just posted in here making us think it was her

And if that trully was her and she is like that in the reply after you jumped all over her like you did then you two trully desierve each other then. I know that if I talked or threatened my wife as you did I wouldnt be on the internet because Id be in the park sleeping in my car.

 

[wasssup]

Some of you people are retarded. She smashed his car up and isn't sorry.

Not a reason to break up (for me anyway), but he has every right to at least be pissed.

 

[imported_Crusader]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
you'd rant and scream at me for all of about 2 minutes before you'd be handed my insurance agent's card and told that we were all done.

Oh great, feminazi action.. cant take a lil yelling. When us men go through a lifetime of fear, pain and guilt due to women.

What the OP needs to do is get rid of her truck, and get her a subcompact car that will be easy to fit outside in that spot.
Get a used Geo Metro or something. Thats pretty small and prob will be able to backout safetly everytime with that parked outside. Also it can have air.

Once your married she's going to be driving the nicest car all the time anyway.. so get something you can fit back there and get used to driving it yourself.

Originally posted by: jbourne77

Originally posted by: Doboji
What you should really do:

Buy the woman some flowers... tell her you're sorry for yelling at her. Tell her she's far more important than the car. Then call the insurance company and get your car fixed...

/thread

Your balls called. They want their body back.

ROFL

Honestly the best thing to do in alot of situations is to say you love her and hug her.. it catches them off guard and it also works when they are really angry with you and yelling. They are expecting you to defend yourself or yell back and it can melt the worst of them.
Dont apologize though for something she did tho. Thats just wrong.

 

[slvrsol]

Get some pdr quotes too. Could save you some money.

 

[Slacker]

Originally posted by: Pocahontas
Okay, here I am : )



For every nerd wondering, here is my picture!!! I love how you think Neal has a senior account for his "damage control" and then his lifer account also..LOL

I like this one better

Lucky, I have been reading your threads for years, and I have to tell you, if you sat down next to me on a plane, I would run for my life, you are the UN-Luckiest person EVAR!


Something for both of you to consider, he wasnt yelling at you, he was yelling at the old man who did this .

 

[DukeN]

Oh, no poor Maxima

(I have the same wheels, color, generation). I think your repair tag was higher because of an optional airbag if you had sides.

Originally posted by: JulesMaximus

Originally posted by: jbourne77

Originally posted by: LeoDioxide
Put another dent in the other side of your car for good measure. Seriously, a car's a car, people use it for transportation and they are F****** dangerous. Unless you have an image to uphold (salesman, CEO, that kind of thing) quit being superficial about it and move on with life.

Why does taking pride in one's things carry such a negative connotation with some people? If I spend tens of thousands of dollars on transportation, I'm damn well going to take care of it. Anything less is immature and irresponsible.

How do you get to that conclusion? Getting angry and holding a grudge isn't going to change anything. His car will still have a dent in it and his fiance will still resent him for the crap he's putting her through. Get it fixed and stop bitching about it.

You think that's bad, look at what my wife did to my car a few months ago!!! I didn't give her any grief about that.

 

[XZeroII]

Sorry if someone already said this, but you 100% mishandled the situation. This could have been a chance to score some real loving. When she came in, your first reaction should have been complete shock as you run out to look at your car. Then you should have started crying over it, and if you could manage, curl up into a little ball while you're crying. When she got back, you should have been sitting on the couch in the house with a heart broken look on your face. Imagine the face you might have made if someone had shot your dog. That's the look you're going for. When she tries to comfort you, you just act like you're fine and everything is fine, but continue the dead dog look. Keep this up as long as possible and act like your life just isn't worth living anymore, but you're going to try to survive somehow.

I guarantee that you would get extra special, high quality loving for quite awhile. The longer you can keep up the dead dog look, the longer and better she will treat you.

This also works for less serious infractions too. Let's say that she accidentally steps on your foot. Do the same thing.

 

[bluemax]

Question: Did your girl blithely dismiss the whole thing as "nothing"? Did she OFFER to pay for the damages she caused? Did she offer to make it up in any way (other than sex - what a copout.)

If she wanted to make ammends she's a keeper. If she wonders why you haven't spent your money and filed your insurance yet - dump her now because she's a selfish gimme-gimme taker and would make a terrible wife and mother.

 

[shortylickens]

Originally posted by: JulesMaximus

Originally posted by: SampSon

Originally posted by: sniperruff

Originally posted by: Baked
Liars. So much easy to say how calm you'd be in the same situation when it's not you.

cars are easily replaceable (in this case, it's just dented), a woman who'd be with you is not.

Contrary to popular belief, women are easily replaceable. I've had more women than cars.
On top of that, women can (and almost always do) get fat, cars don't! heheh

No, they just get old, slow and outdated. And if you live in NY they rust to hell.

Yeah, those New York girls just dont stand up to abuse well.

 

[Kelemvor]

So why not back INTO the garage. THen when you need to get out you can just drive forwards. And maybe park the truck at a bit of an angle to give a bit extra clearance when trying to get around the truck with the Scion...

 

[KrillBee]

Originally posted by: Pocahontas
Okay, here I am : )



For every nerd wondering, here is my picture!!! I love how you think Neal has a senior account for his "damage control" and then his lifer account also..LOL

you are lookin good!

how old are you? My guess is young.

 

[Svnla]

OP, you have the right to be upset because it is your car but let me ask you this:

You can buy another identical car but can you get another gal like your fiance? Would you like to grow old with your car 50 years from now or with her?

She made a big mistake, yes, let fix/repair it and move on. Hopefully, 50 years from now, you two can look back at this and have a laugh together

 

[WiseOldDude]

She is going to dump your sorry @ss, and she will never look back, what a freeping looser

 

[Savarak]

Originally posted by: KrillBee

Originally posted by: Pocahontas
Okay, here I am : )



For every nerd wondering, here is my picture!!! I love how you think Neal has a senior account for his "damage control" and then his lifer account also..LOL

you are lookin good!

how old are you? My guess is young.

don't hit on the OP's future wife! =p

 

[bluemax]

Originally posted by: Pocahontas
And the fiancee finally speaks...........
I went forward and back 6-8 times slowly working around my truck.
Anytime I was ever unsure I could make it, I have ALWAYS had him back it out..
So needless to say, I didn't deserve all the yelling, but I did enjoy the make-up flowers I later got for the incident.
Yes, its only a car but we don't have children and it is his baby, I get it..totally!!
And yes, he has gotten laid since so it wan't that bad : )

Few women ever feel they "deserve" to be yelled at, even when they do. Screwing the guy instead of making ammends is such a cop-out. And it's you getting flowers instead of him? (getting the male equivalent of flowers anyway.) What was described was not just a bad bump but a hideous scrape half the length of the vehicle. I hope your acts of repentance included getting his car fixed and better parking solutions and maybe a drivers' refresher course and insurance coverage, etc.

Opening up your legs instead of apologizing and making ammends is so... cheap.

But then I supposed cheap, disposable relationships is what America is all about these days. Carry on then.

 

[DrPizza]

btw, you've been here almost 6 years and post a noob comment "page 12"?? wtf is that? 6 years, lifer status, and you still haven't figured out preferences?

 

[zixxer]

Even after all the comments - 90% of you are a bunch of giant pvssies that are going to get walked ALL OVER.


You can spew the garbage all you want - since you only have one chance of getting laid - married - etc you don't wanna mess up that one chance.




FSCK THAT. In all reality this is break up material. You know what that would say to me?? That she doesn't give a sh!t about my stuff. No way I'm going to be with someone that doesn't care about my things.


She fscked up, SHE should be coming back and apologizing.






I say - tonight - when going at it, slip 'up'. Then tomorrow be like wtf is your deal get over it already.

 

[NGC_604]