Deadbeat wifes son is moving out in Spring...actually forced out

[SunSamurai]

Social Security is dieing because of ideals like that. Some socialism isnt a bad thing. Democracy doesn't work by itself people.

The OP is really as retarded as the kid. Whos suppose to be the adult here? At least he has the excuse of being young and stupid. Whats yours?

 

[JEDI]

minor update

can u add your updates in your post as well as updating your OP?

i dont want to go back to page 1 when i'm on page 6 already

 

[JEDI]

Of course you don't care. Its not your kid. You're so concerned about someone paying you rent every month. But then you're a "step" parent so he's just a bastard to you.

why r u sticking up for that bum kid?

i think u are missing it.

unless u r also a deadbeat that plays WOW all day, whose daddy also threatened to threw out into the streets?

 

[alkemyst]

you guys should submit your story to springer. Dude harboring low rentals and not reporting it, woman having several baby's daddys and some loser son doing the best with the parents he was given.

IT'D BE PURE GOLD I TELL YA, GOLD!

 

[Red Squirrel]

Why is everyone hard on the OP? I've seen other similar threads and normally people say kids should be out of the house by 18 lol.

 

[Lizardman]

I had a roomate for 2 years that sounds alot like your son. After living with him 2 years I had a girlfriend move in with me. He thought things were going to stay the same and he could just keep on playing WOW for the rest of his days. It was a big surprise when I told him he had to find a new place to live. He could not understand that just him staying there was depresessing to my girlfriend and I. Much like your story I could start a hold thread on mine so I will not get into too much detail. Oh well.

Stay the course Mrrman, use force if you have to kick the deadbeat out!

 

[mrrman]

I had a roomate for 2 years that sounds alot like your son. After living with him 2 years I had a girlfriend move in with me. He thought things were going to stay the same and he could just keep on playing WOW for the rest of his days. It was a big surprise when I told him he had to find a new place to live. He could not understand that just him staying there was depresessing to my girlfriend and I. Much like your story I could start a hold thread on mine so I will not get into too much detail. Oh well.

Stay the course Mrrman, use force if you have to kick the deadbeat out!

thanks for the support...like I said in previous post about getting a job...I had numerous full time well paying jobs for him to go to...he refused to go because he didnt want to work...he is simply a lazy person...I dont hate him, I want him to get his shit together and get on with his own life. Its time for him to support himself and see what life is like. I just dont respect him. and he has to earn that and so far its not happening. The guy is so useless he cant even cook eggs or turn on a laundry machine...5 weeks and counting....I love countdowns....

 

[nick1985]

I love countdowns....

 

[mrrman]

thats good lol

 

[AMDZen]

Wow. Both you and your wife seem like solid parents. I guess you are clueless to the fact that what everyone here is saying is true. He will get out, stumble on his ass and be back in your house in no time.

 

[Adul]

reminds me of my gf sister's BF. I wish she leave the bum.

 

[Raduque]

12k a year is fucking expensive for a tiny one-room place.

 

[chusteczka]

This boy recently lost his father. This deceased father never provided direction for life. This boy's mom has now replaced his departed father with another man. This new man is a pain in the ass, difficult, and unnecessarily harsh. He just does not understand.

This kid needs direction, a friend and a guidance counselor. He needs a father. At some point, the mom's maternal love for her children will overcome her need for the OP to support her. Then life will really become difficult but not if the OP becomes a father figure for her children.

Sit down, talk with him about options whether they are work, trade school, military, or community college. Explain that he needs to pick one and act on it. If action is not taken, life will become difficult in the home. Give him rules and responsibilities in the home. Give him an alarm clock and wake him up at 6am with cold water dumped on him in his bed if he does not act on any of the discussed options. If he is not in school, then he needs to be working. Disconnect the internet at night or remove his access from the internet.

Give him positive motivation by reminding him of the fun things in life that he cannot partake in with no money. How will he purchase his next car, his next computer, or get a girlfriend with no job and no money?

Forbid his loser friends from entrance in the home and explain why these friends are losers and not welcome. Get him to understand the traits that make these people intolerable.

Forcing him out of the house is not a solution. He is now the OP's responsibility, not society's. He will only get into worse trouble and more people will see the problems in this home as these problems become public. Police visitations will become uncomfortable with an illegal basement unit.

 

[Gibson486]

Why on earth would you marry into that? It's your fault for getting into that drama. To think that he will change or your wife will pick him over you is dumb. Let me put it straight, when the time comes, he will win over you if your wife has to choose.

 

[nick1985]

This boy recently lost his father. This deceased father never provided direction for life. This boy's mom has now replaced his departed father with another man. This new man is a pain in the ass, difficult, and unnecessarily harsh. He just does not understand.

This kid needs direction, a friend and a guidance counselor. He needs a father. At some point, the mom's maternal love for her children will overcome her need for the OP to support her. Then life will really become difficult but not if the OP becomes a father figure for her children.

Sit down, talk with him about options whether they are work, trade school, military, or community college. Explain that he needs to pick one and act on it. If action is not taken, life will become difficult in the home. Give him rules and responsibilities in the home. Give him an alarm clock and wake him up at 6am with cold water dumped on him in his bed if he does not act on any of the discussed options. If he is not in school, then he needs to be working. Disconnect the internet at night or remove his access from the internet.

Give him positive motivation by reminding him of the fun things in life that he cannot partake in with no money. How will he purchase his next car, his next computer, or get a girlfriend with no job and no money?

Forbid his loser friends from entrance in the home and explain why these friends are losers and not welcome. Get him to understand the traits that make these people intolerable.

Forcing him out of the house is not a solution. He is now the OP's responsibility, not society's. He will only get into worse trouble and more people will see the problems in this home as these problems become public. Police visitations will become uncomfortable with an illegal basement unit.

Good post

 

[mrrman]

12k a year is fucking expensive for a tiny one-room place.

1300 sq ft 2 bdrm suite...bigger than your place I bet

 

[RbSX]

1300 sq ft 2 bdrm suite...bigger than your place I bet

Your attitude is laughable.

 

[OILFIELDTRASH]

Op sounds like an asshole.

 

[chusteczka]

Good post

 

[KMFJD]

This boy recently lost his father. This deceased father never provided direction for life. This boy's mom has now replaced his departed father with another man. This new man is a pain in the ass, difficult, and unnecessarily harsh. He just does not understand.

This kid needs direction, a friend and a guidance counselor. He needs a father. At some point, the mom's maternal love for her children will overcome her need for the OP to support her. Then life will really become difficult but not if the OP becomes a father figure for her children.

Sit down, talk with him about options whether they are work, trade school, military, or community college. Explain that he needs to pick one and act on it. If action is not taken, life will become difficult in the home. Give him rules and responsibilities in the home. Give him an alarm clock and wake him up at 6am with cold water dumped on him in his bed if he does not act on any of the discussed options. If he is not in school, then he needs to be working. Disconnect the internet at night or remove his access from the internet.

Give him positive motivation by reminding him of the fun things in life that he cannot partake in with no money. How will he purchase his next car, his next computer, or get a girlfriend with no job and no money?

Forbid his loser friends from entrance in the home and explain why these friends are losers and not welcome. Get him to understand the traits that make these people intolerable.

Forcing him out of the house is not a solution. He is now the OP's responsibility, not society's. He will only get into worse trouble and more people will see the problems in this home as these problems become public. Police visitations will become uncomfortable with an illegal basement unit.

The 'boy' is 24 fucking years old...OP is teaching the lazy bastard one of the best learning experiences he will ever get, and he will be thankfull to the OP when he grows up and see how he's wasted his life until then.

 

[BoberFett]

Why did you marry her if she's a deadbeat?

Edit: Wow, old thread. Thought it looked familiar.

 

[chusteczka]

The 'boy' is 24 fucking years old...OP is teaching the lazy bastard one of the best learning experiences he will ever get, and he will be thankfull to the OP when he grows up and see how he's wasted his life until then.

This 24 year old lazy bastard [sic] has not grown up and has the emotional maturity of a 15 year old. That is why I call him a boy.

A little positive understanding, caring, support, and guidance (strict if needed) for the boy will do him some good. Otherwise, he will only come to harm.

 

[Inferno0032]

Agree very much, goes along what I was saying. The kid needs some real guidance, help that actually is positive, not the "help" i'm sure OP gives him by being a pain in the ass.

And based off of his many condescending posts here, I can see why the kid would "rebel" by not doing shit. Now you are trying to show everyone how high and mighty you are that your "suite" is bigger than other peoples' places. I'm sure you do the same thing to the son, break him down with every little success he may see in his eyes. When you successes are belittled at every trial, well, humans will give up at some point if they don't need to try to survive.

Well, good luck, and I hope the son will find his own way, he will be much happier away from you, hell even being away from you might be all the "fixing" he needs.

 

[chusteczka]

...
And based off of his many condescending posts here, I can see why the kid would "rebel" by not doing shit. Now you are trying to show everyone how high and mighty you are that your "suite" is bigger than other peoples' places. I'm sure you do the same thing to the son, break him down with every little success he may see in his eyes. When you successes are belittled at every trial, well, humans will give up at some point if they don't need to try to survive. ...

I suspect the same.

It seems the kid is mentally broken. He may need positive energy, encouragement, motivation, and support to pull himself together.

Negative energy will only pull him down further.

 

[mugs]

Income Tax evasion is no different than stealing from the poor, expecially when it is thousands of dollars in tax evasion.

I take it you would have no problem if bill gates decided he no longer needed to pay taxes.

Income tax evasion is much worse than stealing from the poor - it's stealing from people who actually pay taxes.