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Originally posted by: chin311
yes i know...... the whole cheating thing has drove me crazy. like if she wasn't with anyone and then we hooked up and she wantd me to come up there, it'd make more sense. but ill have to have a talk with her....because it seriously knocks the trust way down, i dont think she has ever cheated before, but i know she can't stand her bf.
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nothing is ever black and white huh?

Don't do anything which you might feel uncomfortable with....

also..i think what you have is infatuation....if you can wait till she is single...and still want to be with her....when you can think more clearly (with the upper brain) about the situation...

then maybe there is a chance it will work out
 
Originally posted by: kranky
You can't be "semi-serious" since it was only 6 days. I'm sure she's a nice person, but my advice is to just let it go. Forget about her and resume normal activities. She has too many issues to deal with. She lives too far away. You barely know her.

Too many people want to hang on to something that cannot work.
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this is the truth.... i guess im just not thinking right because she just left. but she was like 8903285923 too hot . oh well. . . we'll see what happens i guess, im just gonna say like.... unless you leave him like....now or soon. im not gonna be able to be with you and im not gonna come up there.
 
ok... i dont know if this will like help me out any, or you guys or whatever. but she's been txting and talking to me like constantly basically since she left.... and saying how she misses me and doesn't wanna go home to her bf and that all she wants to do is be with me etc etc. like i think she is serious, but ill have to keep talkin to her to see how things go of course....i can't like assume anything now or plan anything, just see what happens... i mean if i waited til JUNE to move, i mean alot of stuff could happen between now and then, for her or for me.... so im not sure whether to even think about it or not.
 
you've known her for a week and she wants to live with you. if that doesn't set off the fvcking alarm bells you are in sad shape my friend.
 
oh, its made me think, trust me.

but its not like that really..... the only reason we'd have to go from not being together to living together is because of her situation, and it wouldn't be just me & her, itd be like me and my cousin, and her. because she has to leave her bf and then she wont be able to live there, so then we'll all get a place together... cuz she can't move home because her parents are like crazy crazy strict.
 
Originally posted by: chin311
moved up there she said she would live with me for sure because she wants to be with me
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For some reason that sentence really worried me. You barely know this girl (and I know that you feel deep down that you "know everything about her"--but let's be realistic here).

If you:
1) Confess your love to this girl
2) Get involved with her
3) ....
4) You don't profit!

 
I agree with the general sentiment that you would be a freakin' idiot to go out with this girl on a long-term basis.
 
do an experiment: totally ignore her calls and texts for 72 hours straight, then see how she acts afterward. if she becomes a crazy b!tch then you have yet another reason to drop it.

and listen to yossarian.
 
Originally posted by: jpeyton
Cheated once, she'll cheat again.
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correctomundo. How can you put trust in her if she is being untrue to her current bf? She has a commitment to him currently, and if she gets with you, what makes you think she wont do the same to you?
 
ok. so basically the whole opinon is taht noone thinks this would work out EVER NO MATTER WHAT?

and... ok ill try ignoring her txts, usually if i dotn answr within about 30 minutes of them, she like says "are you going to write back, what are you doing? or "ok talk to you later then".

and for some thought, here are some sample txt msgs.

1. "i would leave my bf for you, i told you that. uhm i did have sex with you, i made him wait 5 months, that has to say something. i am 2 going to be sad."

2.. "i jus woke up bc ur call. i know i just met u but i love u brady. i was reaming bout u when u called. but im going 2 bed call me tomm nite."

3. i know i hate thinkin i have 2 go home 2 him 2. all i want is 2 be with you.

4. my heart hurts, i miss you horribly.


so i guess now you guys can say its even crazier for us? i dunno 🙁 be real tho.
 
Hit it while you can. However, until she moves to FL and committs to you, don't even consider that it will work out. Just see where things lead. If you get too caught up in it, you're just setting yourself up for more heartbreak. Remember, if you can score with her, you can score with other chicks and it's definitely possible to find someone as good or better. Obviously, if she has a bf and she's cheating on him...she'd cheat on you down the road.

-Scar
 
Originally posted by: chin311
ok. so basically the whole opinon is taht noone thinks this would work out EVER NO MATTER WHAT?

and... ok ill try ignoring her txts, usually if i dotn answr within about 30 minutes of them, she like says "are you going to write back, what are you doing? or "ok talk to you later then".

and for some thought, here are some sample txt msgs.

1. "i would leave my bf for you, i told you that. uhm i did have sex with you, i made him wait 5 months, that has to say something. i am 2 going to be sad."

2.. "i jus woke up bc ur call. i know i just met u but i love u brady. i was reaming bout u when u called. but im going 2 bed call me tomm nite."

3. i know i hate thinkin i have 2 go home 2 him 2. all i want is 2 be with you.

4. my heart hurts, i miss you horribly.


so i guess now you guys can say its even crazier for us? i dunno 🙁 be real tho.
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Jesus now I just think she's crazy.
Stay away man - this girl has or will have issues.

Edit: clarity
 
Originally posted by: chin311
ok. so basically the whole opinon is taht noone thinks this would work out EVER NO MATTER WHAT?

and... ok ill try ignoring her txts, usually if i dotn answr within about 30 minutes of them, she like says "are you going to write back, what are you doing? or "ok talk to you later then".

and for some thought, here are some sample txt msgs.

1. "i would leave my bf for you, i told you that. uhm i did have sex with you, i made him wait 5 months, that has to say something. i am 2 going to be sad."

2.. "i jus woke up bc ur call. i know i just met u but i love u brady. i was reaming bout u when u called. but im going 2 bed call me tomm nite."

3. i know i hate thinkin i have 2 go home 2 him 2. all i want is 2 be with you.

4. my heart hurts, i miss you horribly.


so i guess now you guys can say its even crazier for us? i dunno 🙁 be real tho.
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that's just scary. yes, it means she is desperate.
 
Originally posted by: Hyperblaze
Are you sure you want to be with a freeloader?
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BINGO. you are falling head over heels in lust for her, and lust is no reason to move 1500 miles! keep it at what it is...a fling

who's to say she wont be bored with u after a year? and what does it tell you about her character when she doesnt want her bf, but is living with him regardless, but also is hooking up with you!!

if i were u, i wouldnt get into a relationship with her

edit: just read thru the thread. WOW...either you are an idiot, or your penis has taken over all your thought process. There are red FLAGS EVERYWHERE!!!

I would never get into a relationship with a girl who sleeps with me on the first night. She has no character
 
I don't know about you guys but as soon as a girl says that she has a boyfriend that's a huge red flag for me (i.e. stay the hell away). Plus, given that she's cheated on her current bf with you what makes you think she won't do the same when she's with you. Once a cheater, always a cheater. Stay the fsck away man, this girl sounds like she could ruin your life.
 
If you want to visit her in April like she suggested, fine. But do NOT even consider moving up there at this point. It's infatuation, pure and simple.

There is a high likelihood that the relationship would not work out, and if it didn't, then you'd be stuck in NY with few friends and no reason to be there.

I'm as much of a hopeless romantic as anyone, but even I wouldn't ever seriously think of doing this. Visit on a whim, sure, but not move. Especially not after having known someone only 6 days.

Talk on the phone and/or online. Get to know her. Take things one step at a time.

And yes, it does not bode well that she cheated on her boyfriend, whether or not she can stand him. She could've said that she really likes you, but her conscience won't let her go any farther until she breaks things off with the current guy. Anything short of that is pretty shady.

Edit: By the way, not to try and burst your bubble, but there's a good chance that the reason she's "feeling you" so much at the moment is because things aren't going well with her current bf. Once she's out of that bad situation, things with you might start to seem different to her. Be careful.
 
Originally posted by: chin311
Ok,

where to begin.

My cousin and her friend from NY come down, and im just expecting an ok hang out with them time....especially since my cousin's friend has a bf. buttttt we end up hooking up like 4 nites outta the 6 they are here....and like we both want to be with each other a lot a lot, im 19 almost 20 and shes 18. she lives in NY, me in Florida. big space i know. but the tough thing is, like if i moved up there she said she would live with me for sure because she wants to be with me, BUT, she isnt finished with school until june and the town where i could move (where my dad lives) in ny is about 45 min away from her school so she wouldnt be able to live with me until after school, now heres the tough part of the situation, shes been with her bf for over a year, doesnt want to be with him anymore etc, BUT she lives with him right now because she had to move out of her parents house and has nowhere else to go until she can get outta school and work and whatever else....so basically shes staying with him just because its a free and only place to stay until school is out, she says she doesnt want to be him and only me but cant leave until after schoooll, whattttttt do i dooooooo?

cliffs:
1. meet girl from ny that has bf
2. we hook up
3. she really wants me and i really want her🙁
4. shes stuck living with her bf until june when school is out
5. we can be together after that....
6. ...
7. WHAT NOW?!
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sounds like nothing but trouble....
 
haha u just met her and you really want to be with her, what makes you so sure that she won;t cheat on you, she just did it to her boyfriend, sit back and take it easy man, don;t be an idiot

Dogg
 
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