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Hyperblaze

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Originally posted by: chin311
ok, sunday. the day after she got home.

she breaks up with him, said shes tired of how he treats her and she's not happy anymore. every time they've broke up before, they are usually back together the same day, but this time it's for good, she promises that. she wants to wait for me to be with her and is gonna come down in april to visit for a week or so. so we can see where things go, but she's not gonna be with anyone else and we are basically together just waiting to be with each other in the flesh.

any questions? things i should think about? she did this and wants to be with me, so that is kinda crazy, i didn't think it would happen, not this fast. she must be serious?

so where is she living right now?

and only time will tell how things go.
 

chin311

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oh sorry.

she's still gonna live at the same house as he does... only because they are friends and he's not some ass thats just gonna kick her out. he's allowing her to stay until shes done with school in a few months.

 

Hyperblaze

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Originally posted by: chin311
oh sorry.

she's still gonna live at the same house as he does... only because they are friends and he's not some ass thats just gonna kick her out. he's allowing her to stay until shes done with school in a few months.


then I repeat my last phrase.

Only time will tell how things go.

Don't be suprised if she gets back together with him though. Even if it's just for sex.
 

lavaheadache

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Originally posted by: gsaldivar
Hit it on the d.l.

I second this! Also are you sure you really want to be with a chick that has no problem hooking up with someone(you) while being a live in mate for a year. I think this girl would get tired of you too and look for some other pole to spin on. Get yourself a mail order, That way if she cheats you can have her deported!
 

Don't relocate for a woman at your age, that is a surefire way to bring about disaster.
 

chin311

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Originally posted by: Hyperblaze
Originally posted by: chin311
oh sorry.

she's still gonna live at the same house as he does... only because they are friends and he's not some ass thats just gonna kick her out. he's allowing her to stay until shes done with school in a few months.


then I repeat my last phrase.

Only time will tell how things go.

Don't be suprised if she gets back together with him though. Even if it's just for sex.

yeah. i know what your saying. i really dont think she will. because she said if anything gets awkward or messy that my cousin's mom said she could stay there with them until she's outta school, so hopefully all will work out :) i'll see her in a month and and half, feels crazy far away, but i guess its not THAT bad.
 

Ryuson99

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Let her stay with her BF and you freeload on the ass. Trust me you don't want a relationship with her; keep her as your hoe.

Think about it this way "you're getting ass for free".

Edit: spelling
 

Ryuson99

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Originally posted by: chin311
Originally posted by: Hyperblaze
Originally posted by: chin311
oh sorry.

she's still gonna live at the same house as he does... only because they are friends and he's not some ass thats just gonna kick her out. he's allowing her to stay until shes done with school in a few months.


then I repeat my last phrase.

Only time will tell how things go.

Don't be suprised if she gets back together with him though. Even if it's just for sex.

yeah. i know what your saying. i really dont think she will. because she said if anything gets awkward or messy that my cousin's mom said she could stay there with them until she's outta school, so hopefully all will work out :) i'll see her in a month and and half, feels crazy far away, but i guess its not THAT bad.

Yes it is. This relationship you so call claim will dwindle in time.
 

y2kc

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Originally posted by: chin311
UPDATE

ok, sunday. the day after she got home.

she breaks up with him, said shes tired of how he treats her and she's not happy anymore. every time they've broke up before, they are usually back together the same day, but this time it's for good, she promises that. she wants to wait for me to be with her and is gonna come down in april to visit for a week or so. so we can see where things go, but she's not gonna be with anyone else and we are basically together just waiting to be with each other in the flesh.

any questions? things i should think about? she did this and wants to be with me, so that is kinda crazy, i didn't think it would happen, not this fast. she must be serious?


1. she's too young to be "serious"
2. she's on the rebound

my advice: make no promises, don't fall in love (with this one), expect her to go back to bf and enjoy the ride(s).
 

lavaheadache

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Originally posted by: chin311
oh sorry.

she's still gonna live at the same house as he does... only because they are friends and he's not some ass thats just gonna kick her out. he's allowing her to stay until shes done with school in a few months.

Maybe you should ask the boyfriend if they are broken up or not. I'm sure he'd give you a different answer. This thread sounds just like my pre-adult years! I still think you should hit it, and whateva else you can. Once you settle down, you might as well cut it off.
 

Ryuson99

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Originally posted by: lavaheadache
Originally posted by: chin311
oh sorry.

she's still gonna live at the same house as he does... only because they are friends and he's not some ass thats just gonna kick her out. he's allowing her to stay until shes done with school in a few months.

Maybe you should ask the boyfriend if they are broken up or not. I'm sure he'd give you a different answer. This thread sounds just like my pre-adult years! I still think you should hit it, and whateva else you can. Once you settle down, you might as well cut it off.


So your saying the same thing I said ;)
 

chin311

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Originally posted by: y2kc
Originally posted by: chin311
UPDATE

ok, sunday. the day after she got home.

she breaks up with him, said shes tired of how he treats her and she's not happy anymore. every time they've broke up before, they are usually back together the same day, but this time it's for good, she promises that. she wants to wait for me to be with her and is gonna come down in april to visit for a week or so. so we can see where things go, but she's not gonna be with anyone else and we are basically together just waiting to be with each other in the flesh.

any questions? things i should think about? she did this and wants to be with me, so that is kinda crazy, i didn't think it would happen, not this fast. she must be serious?


1. she's too young to be "serious"
2. she's on the rebound

my advice: make no promises, don't fall in love (with this one), expect her to go back to bf and enjoy the ride(s).

1. i meant like serious about "US" or being with me etc
2. i dont know if thats true or not, shes not really a dependant type person
 

Kev

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You should probably just marry her, you're pretty much soulmates right now. Gosh.
 

gigapet

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here is a more in depth analysis.

upon hooking up with you this girl left her self open on two fronts

1) if she didnt persue a relationship with you she would be labeled a slut for giving up the p00n

2) if she didnt break up with her bf the day she got back she would also be labeled a cheater and nobody wants to have a relationship with a cheater


She is covering her ass so she does not have to admit she is a cheating slut. So bang her for a while then make her go away. Unless she is your soulmate you should treat this girl like the cheating slut she is.
 

cressida

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Originally posted by: chin311
UPDATE

ok, sunday. the day after she got home.

she breaks up with him, said shes tired of how he treats her and she's not happy anymore. every time they've broke up before, they are usually back together the same day, but this time it's for good, she promises that. she wants to wait for me to be with her and is gonna come down in april to visit for a week or so. so we can see where things go, but she's not gonna be with anyone else and we are basically together just waiting to be with each other in the flesh.

any questions? things i should think about? she did this and wants to be with me, so that is kinda crazy, i didn't think it would happen, not this fast. she must be serious?

There are too many factors invovled and in the end it's more than likely things won't work out. ATOT will seem to be negative but there is some truth behind it. We may not be able to change your mind and you may need to figure out things on your own. But moving to a new city is a BIG transition and a BIG risk when you are moving for someone that may walk out of your life anytime.

I have a few friends that were in a similar situation and left for another state with/for someone they cared about and they ended coming back broken hearted, emptied pockets, and miserable.

You'll also notice that her ex won't leave that easily .... her baggage will show up and she will call you for comfort. You'll have your chance to shine to her but once the rains and clouds come what will she do next?
 

kranky

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Man, I don't want to hurt your feelings, but this girl has some serious issues. She's 18 and has no idea what she wants. Think about it - does it really make sense to uproot your entire life over a girl you knew for 6 days? It does not.

Yes, it's exciting, but that doesn't mean there's any future here. And although there are a lot of posters who reflexively say "keep hitting it" - that's not going to help. Keep that up and I predict you'll get to be an eyewitness to her full-out psycho mode someday.

There are a lot of people here who think that getting sex is worth anything, and I just don't understand that. People, have some pride.
 

lavaheadache

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[/quote]

1. i meant like serious about "US" or being with me etc
2. i dont know if thats true or not, shes not really a dependant type person[/quote]

what the hell are you talking about! she is very dependent, the only person she isnt depending on is herself. Being in school I doubt she has the income to help pay rent!


*actually I'm not sure if you mentioned she was in school.
 

chin311

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Originally posted by: lavaheadache

1. i meant like serious about "US" or being with me etc
2. i dont know if thats true or not, shes not really a dependant type person[/quote]

what the hell are you talking about! she is very dependent, the only person she isnt depending on is herself. Being in school I doubt she has the income to help pay rent!


*actually I'm not sure if you mentioned she was in school.[/quote]

i wouldnt be with her until after she's out of school. and then yes, she would help pay rent, i wouldnt cover for anyone but myself.
 

JulesMaximus

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Originally posted by: SampSon
Don't relocate for a woman at your age, that is a surefire way to bring about disaster.

Eh, why not? If it doesn't work out he can always move back down to FL. That's the nice thing about being young. Moving around isn't such a big ordeal.
 

ajskydiver

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Originally posted by: chin311
oh sorry.

she's still gonna live at the same house as he does... only because they are friends and he's not some ass thats just gonna kick her out. he's allowing her to stay until shes done with school in a few months.

This makes no sense.

Fact* 1 - She's "tired of how he treats her" and isn't happy anymore.

Reality - He's probably a great guy who has no idea his relationship is over because she never said a word to him.

Fact* 2 - He treats her badly but is a nice enough guy that he'll let her stay at his place.

Reality - She still hasn't broken up with him and she's manipulating two guys...proving he has no idea his relationship is over AND she's cheating(ed) on him - otherwise she'd be out.

Fact* 3 - She's being honest with you.

Reality - She's a cheating liar and you're believing everything she tells you when you actually have no idea at all what her relationship was like with her current BF.

* - from the girl's perspective

She *might* be telling you the truth...but is someone who doesn't even has the decency to break off their current relationship before beginning another that trustworthy/honest?

You're going to believe whatever you want to believe (what she's telling you) because that's what you want. Reality won't be so kind when your illusions about her are shattered when you become the jerkoff boyfriend who treats her badly and she's off with some other guy and telling everyone she knows what a tool you are.

~AJ
 

chin311

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Originally posted by: cressida
Originally posted by: chin311
UPDATE

ok, sunday. the day after she got home.

she breaks up with him, said shes tired of how he treats her and she's not happy anymore. every time they've broke up before, they are usually back together the same day, but this time it's for good, she promises that. she wants to wait for me to be with her and is gonna come down in april to visit for a week or so. so we can see where things go, but she's not gonna be with anyone else and we are basically together just waiting to be with each other in the flesh.

any questions? things i should think about? she did this and wants to be with me, so that is kinda crazy, i didn't think it would happen, not this fast. she must be serious?

There are too many factors invovled and in the end it's more than likely things won't work out. ATOT will seem to be negative but there is some truth behind it. We may not be able to change your mind and you may need to figure out things on your own. But moving to a new city is a BIG transition and a BIG risk when you are moving for someone that may walk out of your life anytime.

I have a few friends that were in a similar situation and left for another state with/for someone they cared about and they ended coming back broken hearted, emptied pockets, and miserable.

You'll also notice that her ex won't leave that easily .... her baggage will show up and she will call you for comfort. You'll have your chance to shine to her but once the rains and clouds come what will she do next?

i dunno about the baggage..... maybe time wiill tell, but from what i've gathered they've been together so long that they don't even like enjoy each other, and all they have done is fight for a long time and she told him they should go their seperate ways, he was more distraught then her from what ive heard. she called me for comfort and what not, but also was just saying how noone has ever treated her as good as i have and shes never met anyone like me and just wants to be with me no matter what, and she will wait because it will be worth it......
 

cressida

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Originally posted by: chin311
Originally posted by: cressida
Originally posted by: chin311
UPDATE

ok, sunday. the day after she got home.

she breaks up with him, said shes tired of how he treats her and she's not happy anymore. every time they've broke up before, they are usually back together the same day, but this time it's for good, she promises that. she wants to wait for me to be with her and is gonna come down in april to visit for a week or so. so we can see where things go, but she's not gonna be with anyone else and we are basically together just waiting to be with each other in the flesh.

any questions? things i should think about? she did this and wants to be with me, so that is kinda crazy, i didn't think it would happen, not this fast. she must be serious?

There are too many factors invovled and in the end it's more than likely things won't work out. ATOT will seem to be negative but there is some truth behind it. We may not be able to change your mind and you may need to figure out things on your own. But moving to a new city is a BIG transition and a BIG risk when you are moving for someone that may walk out of your life anytime.

I have a few friends that were in a similar situation and left for another state with/for someone they cared about and they ended coming back broken hearted, emptied pockets, and miserable.

You'll also notice that her ex won't leave that easily .... her baggage will show up and she will call you for comfort. You'll have your chance to shine to her but once the rains and clouds come what will she do next?

i dunno about the baggage..... maybe time wiill tell, but from what i've gathered they've been together so long that they don't even like enjoy each other, and all they have done is fight for a long time and she told him they should go their seperate ways, he was more distraught then her from what ive heard. she called me for comfort and what not, but also was just saying how noone has ever treated her as good as i have and shes never met anyone like me and just wants to be with me no matter what, and she will wait because it will be worth it......

eh .... wouldn't it be obvious that the guy would be more distraught thant her??
 

chin311

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Originally posted by: Aj_UF
This makes no sense.

Fact* 1 - She's "tired of how he treats her" and isn't happy anymore.

Reality - He's probably a great guy who has no idea his relationship is over because she never said a word to him.

Fact* 2 - He treats her badly but is a nice enough guy that he'll let her stay at his place.

Reality - She still hasn't broken up with him and she's manipulating two guys...proving he has no idea his relationship is over AND she's cheating(ed) on him - otherwise she'd be out.

Fact* 3 - She's being honest with you.

Reality - She's a cheating liar and you're believing everything she tells you when you actually have no idea at all what her relationship was like with her current BF.

* - from the girl's perspective

She *might* be telling you the truth...but is someone who doesn't even has the decency to break off their current relationship before beginning another that trustworthy/honest?

You're going to believe whatever you want to believe (what she's telling you) because that's what you want. Reality won't be so kind when your illusions about her are shattered when you become the jerkoff boyfriend who treats her badly and she's off with some other guy and telling everyone she knows what a tool you are.

~AJ

i see where you are coming from.

from what i know, from my cousin and from her herself,

at least i have my cousin in this, she wont lie to me i know that.

so yes i know they are really broken up. sure i can't talk the guy himself but i have some knowledge. from what i know its just that they were always fighting about petty stuff and didnt really get along that much, that doenst mean he's gonna be the guy to boot her on the street. i wouldn't do that to one of my ex's, not if they were in a tough spot. if she didn't break up with him right away, i'd have a lot of trouble ever being with her, but as long as she stays apart from him and anyone else, i can see some chance of things working out.
 

lavaheadache

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Originally posted by: chin311
Originally posted by: cressida
Originally posted by: chin311
UPDATE

ok, sunday. the day after she got home.

she breaks up with him, said shes tired of how he treats her and she's not happy anymore. every time they've broke up before, they are usually back together the same day, but this time it's for good, she promises that. she wants to wait for me to be with her and is gonna come down in april to visit for a week or so. so we can see where things go, but she's not gonna be with anyone else and we are basically together just waiting to be with each other in the flesh.

any questions? things i should think about? she did this and wants to be with me, so that is kinda crazy, i didn't think it would happen, not this fast. she must be serious?

There are too many factors invovled and in the end it's more than likely things won't work out. ATOT will seem to be negative but there is some truth behind it. We may not be able to change your mind and you may need to figure out things on your own. But moving to a new city is a BIG transition and a BIG risk when you are moving for someone that may walk out of your life anytime.

I have a few friends that were in a similar situation and left for another state with/for someone they cared about and they ended coming back broken hearted, emptied pockets, and miserable.

You'll also notice that her ex won't leave that easily .... her baggage will show up and she will call you for comfort. You'll have your chance to shine to her but once the rains and clouds come what will she do next?

i dunno about the baggage..... maybe time wiill tell, but from what i've gathered they've been together so long that they don't even like enjoy each other, and all they have done is fight for a long time and she told him they should go their seperate ways, he was more distraught then her from what ive heard. she called me for comfort and what not, but also was just saying how noone has ever treated her as good as i have and shes never met anyone like me and just wants to be with me no matter what, and she will wait because it will be worth it......



OK, I hate to do this but I calling SHENS! I cant see how this could be real..... Prince Charming, not to knock you off your pedestal but if this is what you say it is I feel for ya. Your thinking with the wrong head and if you get too involved you are going to get burned. BTW, I hope you wrapped "it" up cause you dont want to end up with a ragging case of herpes from a girl like that!