Originally posted by: DearQT
Originally posted by: BD2003
Translation: blah blah blah, I know everything, blah blah blah. Blah blah blah girls are special, we should be treated like princesses, bowed down to blah blah.
If theyve already transitioned to being engaged, albeit a long time ago, there should be no more of this "I need space". Nothing about what he said implies that he's needy, clingy or dependent. And believe me, I know that when I see it. It sounds like you shouldnt have been engaged in the first place. But most importantly, this is NOT the first time this has happened. Its been twice in less than a year. Why youre engaged for two years and not married is beyond me, but its starting to sound like maybe thats a good thing.
Its one thing if things need to be discussed, but if she doesnt want HER FIANCEE calling her at night, alarms should be going off.
I say give her her space, on your terms, not hers.
Of course, you're damn right: I believe girls and women should be treated as princesses. Heaven forbid I accept any man/boy who doesn't treat me like a princess. However, I only think he should treat me like a princess because I deserve it and proved it. I haven't said a trashy girl should be treated like a princess.
Red is the one acting desperate. My position is that she doesn't even want to be with him
at the moment. She just wants him to call it off, but he won't do it. So since he's chosen to suck up to that crap, then he should at least learn to give her a breathing space if he ever wants it to work. He's the one that proposed to her, not she to him. I don't think the engagement means anything anymore, since she's indicated that she's not sure of herself. How many more ways must she put it? It's ridiculous to force someone to commit because they accepted your engagement some time ago. Things change and people change. Engagements are conditional; they aren't marriages. At the very least, give her some breathing space to come to terms with her commitment. Or if he's smart and realistic, he could call it off now. I'm sure he has good intents, but....