Chances are she's already screwing him. Don't find out the hard way and follow her! You Stalky McStalkStalk, you.
scott916
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She got mad because she wants to be alone with the guy. If she wanted you to be there, she would have invited you in the first place. If she had no bad intentions, she would NOT have been so defensive. Simple fact.
People are playing devil's advocate here bro, but the truth is right in front of your face. You can accept it now or wonder in two weeks why she comes home with her breath smelling lightly of latex.
People are playing devil's advocate here bro, but the truth is right in front of your face. You can accept it now or wonder in two weeks why she comes home with her breath smelling lightly of latex.
What the ****** is wrong with all of you in this thread....
I can't believe I just went through NINE freaking pages here and didn't see one single person ask for .......
PICS!!!!!
Unless I overlooked it you guys are just slack.
I can't believe I just went through NINE freaking pages here and didn't see one single person ask for .......
PICS!!!!!
Unless I overlooked it you guys are just slack.
and the fact that she so readily accepted and only told you last minute... fsck that is wrong dude...
sorry man no dude would wanna go out strictly 1 on 1 with any girl unless there are alterior motives... seriously... i know i wouldn't...
but seriously try to tag along and if she really objects then, i know this is tough, break up with her. tell her you're not an idiot and bail. it'll be easier than suffering and not knowing and finding out later from someone else.
her209
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Unless of course she was manipulating you into breaking it off with her. Fact is she's emotionally moved onto another guy. Now, she's just fishing for an excuse to get out of the current relationship so that she doesn't come off looking like the bad person here. A lot of times, the new relationship will turn sour quick as the new person was stringing her by her emotions to get sex. When she figures this out, she'll come crawling back.
Josh123
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First off, shes majoring in Radiology. The amount of studying she HAS to do is insane. We talk every night and see each other every weekend. It's retarded how EVERYONE thinks long distance relationships never work. This isn't even long distance. Whats even more retarded is how some people think they know everything about relationships. Honestly OP there isn't any right or wrong decision, whats going to happen is going to happen no matter what. As for me, if me and my current GF don't work out, who cares. Obviously she wouldn't be the right one then.
flexy
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jeeezzzusss....you defend your GF and blame YOURSELF....tho its clearly a mistake on her side to "seek out" and insists on a 1:1 meeting with some "dude".
You very very RIGHT in getting angry....the dudes "motives" are clear and your GF's being upset is NOT OK.....as said if you were in a trustworty relationship and love and sunshine and happiness she would NEVER get mad over you getting angry.
"Controlling/posessive"...my ***....did you realize AT ALL that "some dude" came along and probably wants to **** your GF.....she said "yes!"...and now you are on a guilt-trip and she made YOU feeling guilty and make you believe your being possesive and controlling (in this case) is uncalled for ?
Truth is..in this case there is every reason to being posessive and controlling....sadly it even came to that point in the first place.
I want to see your face wehn you finally give in (because you feel uncalled for "posessive")...she goes out with that dude (because she convinced you)....and then she starts a relationship with the new one.
AND OF COURSE she will complain about you "being posessive" and "controlling" etc. and the whole thing. ----> What do you expect ?
That guy asking her out...she wanting to....you say "NO"...and she agreeeing with you and thank you ?
The only "chance: you have right now is that your anger showed her actually what she means to you - so this COULD be a good thing as a certain extent of "posssesive might be a good thing. Women want to feel cared for, defended, etc..etc... feel that you care what she's doing...as opposed to "whatever"..... <--- to a certain extent !
But it is MORE LIKELY that from now on she will continue doing this...and keep quiet.....as said the problem is already why she was pushing for the 1:1 in the first place......and she AGREED.
And another problem is (i guess) your naivity and self-confidence.
Guess how many of your male friends wouldnt think twice about having sex with you if they had the chance? All of them, unless they're gay.
It's human nature, we're sexual beasts!
lol. Is she going to a strict all girls catholic school? Her major has nothing to do with anything. The first 2 years are all your core classes anyways. No sometimes long distance relationships work but usually amongst mature adults not 20 something college kids who don't even know who they are yet. good luck tho.
Originally posted by: Stumps
Does she live with you?
If she does, have her stuff waiting for her on the front lawn after she returns from her "date".
But honestly I can say I have been in your situation before, and I knew what the other guy's intention's were before she went out with him, although afterwards it was pretty clear that she did too, but it was too late for her, she arrived home to find all of her crap laying from one end of the street to the other...that work great for me because the flat we where renting was only in my name so she didn't have a leg to stand on when she tried to make me leave instead.
trust me dude ditching her will be the best thing you can do...I did and I haven't looked back and now 6 years later I have a fiancee and a baby girl on the way, and things just keep looking up
It's not yours.
Josh123
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Shes already had her core classes. Radiology is completely different from most other majors. I mean, shes been looking at apartments for next May when shes done for us to move in together. And her209, I too had doubts about our relationship working since its long distance. So far its been great, you end up REALLY missing them and once the weekend comes you don't want to do anything but be with your SO.
I do know that there are chances it wont last, but theres always going to be some chance any realationship isn't going to work.
OP,
Look at the percentages here. If you really think your GF is innocent, start buying lottery tickets, it's about the same odds.
Despite the claims of woman-hating, I think on average the posts have been too easy on women in these situations. Most of the blame seems to be pointed at men for having motives. In my experience, women have the same motives, they are just more capable of self-delusion about their own thoughts and feelings. This makes it all the more convincing when they protest innocence, because in some way they really believe it.
I don't think men are any better, just different.
The sad stats are, a majority of people cheat at some point. Finding one who doesn't makes you lucky, not the other way around. And it is so true about *many* women arranging the next job before giving notice.
Yu have been warned. Many times. By people with more experience than you.
Look at the percentages here. If you really think your GF is innocent, start buying lottery tickets, it's about the same odds.
Despite the claims of woman-hating, I think on average the posts have been too easy on women in these situations. Most of the blame seems to be pointed at men for having motives. In my experience, women have the same motives, they are just more capable of self-delusion about their own thoughts and feelings. This makes it all the more convincing when they protest innocence, because in some way they really believe it.
I don't think men are any better, just different.
The sad stats are, a majority of people cheat at some point. Finding one who doesn't makes you lucky, not the other way around. And it is so true about *many* women arranging the next job before giving notice.
Yu have been warned. Many times. By people with more experience than you.
Unless "Radiology" is something in Grad School....don't put too much faith in a relationship if she just left and its an undergrad. A lot of them don't last simply because the time apart really distances things. Ultimately you have 2 days a weekend and maye an hour a night to interact, whereas other guys get personal interaction atleast 8 hours a day.
That and if its her first year undergrad...regardless of what sha majors in most likely she is taking just math, physics, chemistry and maybe some starting bio classes....the amount of work actually isn't that much and its not insane...people just don't study cause it is the first year
as for the original guy...yeah i would'nt be comfortable. Speak to her and hear what she think and you need to tell her what you think - if you get mad and ignore her and cut off communication that will destroy everything
btw:
we were told that this situation is really difficult to maintain in college in a required class that all incoming undecided freshman had to take called "freshman experience"...in fact the teacher even encouraged us to "explore"...and explore she will
Even if she didn't say no the first time, when she stopped to think about it, she should have called him up and said no. I was having lunch with some friends from work last thursday and some girl just came up and asked for my number as we were leaving. I gave it to her, then when I got in the car I realized what I'd done, and when she called I told her that I was sorry if I gave her the wrong impression but I'm seeing someone. I didn't schedule a "1 on 1" meeting with her...
liquidblue
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I laff at all those who bring up "trust issues." Who the hell let's their SO go on 1 on 1 dinners with the opposite sex?? That's 'going on a date' territory. No I didn't feel like reading 10 pages of posts and risk saying what other have already said.
Either let her know how you feel about all this or start thinking about moving on...
Either let her know how you feel about all this or start thinking about moving on...
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