YAGT: So my girlfriend wants to make "new" friends...

[Iron Addict]

Originally posted by: dxkj

Originally posted by: Iron Addict

Originally posted by: dxkj

Originally posted by: Iron Addict
I'd just like to say that many here think that my gf has alterior motives but i can 100% say that she doesn't... The only concern was the dude's motive and the reason why my gf got mad was not because she couldn't hang out with the dude, rather i was too controlling or possessive.. Not as her bf, yet as a fellow human being, i can truly say that she is honest and altruistic person that wouldn't fit into many categories of "female" as you guys described...

you = denial

she wants to spend time with him alone, and gets mad when you show that you would rather her not....

The dude offer 1on1. My gf offered me to tag along with them if I couldn't trust the dude...

Then what is the issue? Why didn't you tag along?

I'm really not the type to go chill with some dude that wanted to go have a dinner with my gf... Talk about akwardnessssssss!

 

[Stumps]

Denial is an evil thing....It clouds your judgement...makes you weak....you need to step back and have a good look at the situation.

she doesn't want to have sex

she want's to have 1 on 1 time with another guy who you suspect want's her ass

ummm this has CHEATER writen all over it

but it is your life...

but I will be looking for the YAGT "she cheated on me" thread from you ....cause I have a big fat I told you so just for you

 

[stars]

youre missing the point... the best way to learn is the hard way, that way you will never forget.

 

[Iron Addict]

she doesn't want to have sex
Found that she was having her period...

she want's to have 1 on 1 time with another guy who you suspect want's her ass
She doesn't care if it's 1 on 1 or 1000 on 1000, I suspect his motives but my girl's only upset because i came out too strong that she can't go hang out with him...

 

[Stumps]

Originally posted by: Iron Addict
she doesn't want to have sex
Found that she was having her period...

she want's to have 1 on 1 time with another guy who you suspect want's her ass
She doesn't care if it's 1 on 1 or 1000 on 1000, I suspect his motives but my girl's only upset because i came out too strong that she can't go hang out with him...

like I said..it's your life, have fun

 

[iamme]

you need to talk w/ your gf and explain your feelings. ask her how she would feel if a girl wanted to have "1 on 1" time with you. she might trust you completely, but she definitely won't trust this other girl.

if she doesn't understand and doesn't see a problem, she's being naive and stupid. as a guy, you don't ask a girl with a boyfriend to go out alone, unless you're looking to hit it.

 

[stars]

i think its important to acknowledge you shouldnt have to have this conversation with your gf to begin with

 

[Iron Addict]

Originally posted by: stars
i think its important to acknowledge you shouldnt have to have this conversation with your gf to begin with

exactly. she lacks common sense.

 

[BUrassler]

Originally posted by: Iron Addict

Originally posted by: stars
i think its important to acknowledge you shouldnt have to have this conversation with your gf to begin with

exactly. she lacks common sense.

Yea..... I don't think she is the only one.

 

[iamme]

Originally posted by: Iron Addict

Originally posted by: stars
i think its important to acknowledge you shouldnt have to have this conversation with your gf to begin with

exactly. she lacks common sense.

sounds like she lacks self-control.

my guess is that she was flattered by a new guy wanting to get to know her. she wanted to explore and you guys had a fight. either she's going to change or next time she'll just explore behind your back.

women get hit on all the time. it's up to them to respect their husbands/boyfriends, not to act on the emotions. if she wants to pursue every guy who wants to get to know her better......good luck to ya.

 

[freegeeks]

some of you guys really have a very screwed up opinion about women
I can't imagine that the Belgian women are so different then their American sisters

some of you really have serious trust issues

 

[jlbenedict]

oh my fvcking goodness.. OP, you have alot to learn

"girlfriend wants to make "new" friends" = She wants to fvck someone else



Dude.. you are history

 

[Iron Addict]

Originally posted by: jlbenedict
oh my fvcking goodness.. OP, you have alot to learn

"girlfriend wants to make "new" friends" = She wants to fvck someone else



Dude.. you are history

u kno there other people who genuinely mean what they say...

 

[MichaelD]

Originally posted by: Ronstang
Anyone in a serious relationship has no business going out to a "1 on 1" dinner with someone of the opposite sex they have recently met. If they do then the current relationship is already toast from their point of view.

/QFT

Absolutely! And regardless of HIS intentions (though they are plainly clear to me) SHE should have more respect for you and your relationship than to even ask. :roll:

Trust = knowing that she won't be out at the club w/the girls, meet some guy and blow him in back seat of his car

Disrespect = your GF meeting some guy and then going out with him alone.

She should have told him; "I have a boyfriend that I love very much and I don't think it would be right to go out with you alone. But you're welcome to join my friends and I at the bowling alley on Friday."

*edit* I just read the entire thread. Some great replies. LMAO @ "Pussy whipped progressive faggots" comments. D HOW TRUE they are.

Never hand over your testicles, gentlemen. Find a good woman who will respect you...and let her borrow them...pet them...and take care of them. But never give them away by ALLOWING behavior like this guy's soon-to-be ex-GF tried.

When she got caught out there she nagged and got all defensive. Classic signs, folks. Classic signs that mentally, she's already out of the relationship.

Tell her to get the hell out of your life and stay out. Kick her to the curb first before you walk in on something you really don't want to see. Trust me on this one.

 

[slsmnaz]

Originally posted by: Iron Addict

Originally posted by: jlbenedict
oh my fvcking goodness.. OP, you have alot to learn

"girlfriend wants to make "new" friends" = She wants to fvck someone else



Dude.. you are history

u kno there other people who genuinely mean what they say...

Yeah but women don't fall into that category.

 

[CKDragon]

I searched through the thread for "age", so forgive me if this has been covered... but how old are the involved parties?

 

[Stumps]

Originally posted by: MichaelD

Originally posted by: Ronstang
Anyone in a serious relationship has no business going out to a "1 on 1" dinner with someone of the opposite sex they have recently met. If they do then the current relationship is already toast from their point of view.

/QFT

Absolutely! And regardless of HIS intentions (though they are plainly clear to me) SHE should have more respect for you and your relationship than to even ask. :roll:

Trust = knowing that she won't be out at the club w/the girls, meet some guy and blow him in back seat of his car

Disrespect = your GF meeting some guy and then going out with him alone.

She should have told him; "I have a boyfriend that I love very much and I don't think it would be right to go out with you alone. But you're welcome to join my friends and I at the bowling alley on Friday."

this is what she should have done...but instead she agreed to meet him, which means one of two things that come to the same conclusion

A) she is/was curious

B) she wants to be with the other guy

both of these come to the same conclusion in the end...it's plain as day to see

you need to ask yourself this "Why did she agree in the first place to have dinner with him" and "Why didn't she offer to let you tag along in the first place"

you should know that this isn't normal relationship behavour....even blind freddy can see that.

 

[MichaelD]

Originally posted by: Stumps

Originally posted by: MichaelD

Originally posted by: Ronstang
Anyone in a serious relationship has no business going out to a "1 on 1" dinner with someone of the opposite sex they have recently met. If they do then the current relationship is already toast from their point of view.

/QFT

Absolutely! And regardless of HIS intentions (though they are plainly clear to me) SHE should have more respect for you and your relationship than to even ask. :roll:

Trust = knowing that she won't be out at the club w/the girls, meet some guy and blow him in back seat of his car

Disrespect = your GF meeting some guy and then going out with him alone.

She should have told him; "I have a boyfriend that I love very much and I don't think it would be right to go out with you alone. But you're welcome to join my friends and I at the bowling alley on Friday."

this is what she should have done...but instead she agreed to meet him, which means one of two things that come to the same conclusion

A) she is/was curious

B) she wants to be with the other guy

both of these come to the same conclusion in the end...it's plain as day to see

you need to ask yourself this "Why did she agree in the first place to have dinner with him" and "Why didn't she offer to let you tag along in the first place"

you should know that this isn't normal relationship behavour....even blind freddy can see that.

Stumps, you and I were educated from the same book, my friend. :beer: I agree with you 100%.

 

[Iron Addict]

Originally posted by: CKDragon
I searched through the thread for "age", so forgive me if this has been covered... but how old are the involved parties?

im 22 shes 21

 

[Stumps]

Originally posted by: MichaelD

Originally posted by: Stumps

Originally posted by: MichaelD

Originally posted by: Ronstang
Anyone in a serious relationship has no business going out to a "1 on 1" dinner with someone of the opposite sex they have recently met. If they do then the current relationship is already toast from their point of view.

/QFT

Absolutely! And regardless of HIS intentions (though they are plainly clear to me) SHE should have more respect for you and your relationship than to even ask. :roll:

Trust = knowing that she won't be out at the club w/the girls, meet some guy and blow him in back seat of his car

Disrespect = your GF meeting some guy and then going out with him alone.

She should have told him; "I have a boyfriend that I love very much and I don't think it would be right to go out with you alone. But you're welcome to join my friends and I at the bowling alley on Friday."

this is what she should have done...but instead she agreed to meet him, which means one of two things that come to the same conclusion

A) she is/was curious

B) she wants to be with the other guy

both of these come to the same conclusion in the end...it's plain as day to see

you need to ask yourself this "Why did she agree in the first place to have dinner with him" and "Why didn't she offer to let you tag along in the first place"

you should know that this isn't normal relationship behavour....even blind freddy can see that.

Stumps, you and I were educated from the same book, my friend. :beer: I agree with you 100%.

unfortunately, as I have explained to Iron Addict, I have been here before so I know what red flags to look for.

 

[ZOOYUKA]

Originally posted by: Stumps

Originally posted by: MichaelD

Originally posted by: Ronstang
Anyone in a serious relationship has no business going out to a "1 on 1" dinner with someone of the opposite sex they have recently met. If they do then the current relationship is already toast from their point of view.

/QFT

Absolutely! And regardless of HIS intentions (though they are plainly clear to me) SHE should have more respect for you and your relationship than to even ask. :roll:

Trust = knowing that she won't be out at the club w/the girls, meet some guy and blow him in back seat of his car

Disrespect = your GF meeting some guy and then going out with him alone.

She should have told him; "I have a boyfriend that I love very much and I don't think it would be right to go out with you alone. But you're welcome to join my friends and I at the bowling alley on Friday."

this is what she should have done...but instead she agreed to meet him, which means one of two things that come to the same conclusion

A) she is/was curious

B) she wants to be with the other guy

both of these come to the same conclusion in the end...it's plain as day to see

you need to ask yourself this "Why did she agree in the first place to have dinner with him" and "Why didn't she offer to let you tag along in the first place"

you should know that this isn't normal relationship behavour....even blind freddy can see that.

Some girls are just naive. She might just want to be friends and completely oblivious to his intentions.

 

[MichaelD]

Originally posted by: Iron Addict

Originally posted by: CKDragon
I searched through the thread for "age", so forgive me if this has been covered... but how old are the involved parties?

im 22 shes 21

Don't take this the wrong way, but that's typical behavior for an early 20-something college chick.

Typically, women "settle down" mentally long before men do. In my case...it took a really long time. BUT, man, trust me. She's not ready for a relationship now.

Even though she didn't meet the guy, don't let your guard down. It's over, man. It's BEEN over for awhile now, even though things have been "normal" to you. In her mind, she's moved on already. I suggest you do the same and quickly.

Sometimes, you've just gotta slap your pecker on the table and say "See this? I'm the MAN, dammit! You have disrespected my completely and royally f*cked up and you're SO OUTTA HERE! Now get out of my face and don't ever call me again!"

And mean it.

 

[iamme]

am i the only one who thinks the gf saying that he can come with them was a bluff? with her hoping that he will feel stupid coming along, and (in her hopes) tell her to just go alone?

 

[MichaelD]

Originally posted by: iamme
am i the only one who thinks the gf saying that he can come with them was a bluff? with her hoping that he will feel stupid coming along, and (in her hopes) tell her to just go alone?

Nope, you're not alone. I agree with you and I'm sure Stumps does too. She was trying to use reverse psychology. Stupid, cheating broad.

 

[iamme]

Originally posted by: ZOOYUKA
Some girls are just naive. She might just want to be friends and completely oblivious to his intentions.

point is, if she's this naive, she's not ready to a relationship. if she doesn't have the sense to say, "i have a bf, i'm sorry" to an advancing guy.....she's shouldn't have a bf to begin with.