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ViviTheMage

ViviTheMage

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Originally posted by: Baked
Originally posted by: ViviTheMage
if I say no, she will not go...I know that, she would stay if I said no.

I would find out when she got back if she cheated on me, she would confess in a shamble of tears
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Bwhaahhahahahaha, so naive.
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and young! (19)

edit : since we are all in my thread, go post my FS/T stuff <3.
 
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Modular

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Originally posted by: mattpegher
The point is she doesn't want you along, so like it our not she plans on engaging is something she doesn't want you to know about. Since there seems to be no ligitamate reason for you not to be there, she is showing you that she cannot be trusted. There is no way you will know if she tells you the truth when she get back. Just cut your losses and tell her to go. When she returns, end the relationship. You and this relationship cannot win.
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There's some truth to this.

The only way that this relationship will work out now is if you tell her she can go, but express the way that it makes you feel. If you give her the OK, and she understands what it will do to you and still goes, then there was no hope for the relationship in the first place and she should be dropped like a bad habit.

If, however, you tell her she can go, but express what it will do to you and she ends up making the decision to stay...well then my friend she is a keeper. That would be proof that she values you and your relationship more than any of her old friends/possibility she will be "used" upon her return.

 
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MikeMike

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Originally posted by: Modular
Originally posted by: mattpegher
The point is she doesn't want you along, so like it our not she plans on engaging is something she doesn't want you to know about. Since there seems to be no ligitamate reason for you not to be there, she is showing you that she cannot be trusted. There is no way you will know if she tells you the truth when she get back. Just cut your losses and tell her to go. When she returns, end the relationship. You and this relationship cannot win.
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There's some truth to this.

The only way that this relationship will work out now is if you tell her she can go, but express the way that it makes you feel. If you give her the OK, and she understands what it will do to you and still goes, then there was no hope for the relationship in the first place and she should be dropped like a bad habit.

If, however, you tell her she can go, but express what it will do to you and she ends up making the decision to stay...well then my friend she is a keeper. That would be proof that she values you and your relationship more than any of her old friends/possibility she will be "used" upon her return.
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or she takes you with her.

there are only 2 good outcomes from this.

she takes you with, so she can introduce you to old friends, because, if she really does want to be with you, you will get to know her friends.
if she stays home, thats good too.

 
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SpanishFry

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make sure you get some goodbye sex before she goes. make sure the other guy gets sloppy seconds
 
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rgwalt

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Seriously ask her what she would say to you in a similar situation... Say you were going to a college party at a girl's house and planned to crash there for the night. Would she have a problem with it? Would she be worried?

I understand that you trust her, I feel the same way about my GF. Like you, I don't trust the guys out there. At the end of the day though, you can't control her, and if she wants to go she should go. You can express your dissaproval, and ultimately you can make the decision as to whether or not you are going to be in the relationship. Remember, it is a two way street... You can always break it off with her if you don't feel that she is making wise decisions or if you don't feel like she respects you and/or the relationship.

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rgwalt

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Originally posted by: kmr1212
make sure you get some goodbye sex before she goes. make sure the other guy gets sloppy seconds
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Alternatively, I really like this idea combined with the idea of calling the cops... :D

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Kadarin

Kadarin

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Nov 23, 2001
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Yep, this is not looking good for the OP here. Personally, I tend to look at these things by reversing the situation: How would she react if you told her you were going to spend the night at some girl's house after a party? I'm betting that there's a high probability that she's got a double standard here.
 
DougK62

DougK62

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Mar 28, 2001
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The fact that she doesn't want you to go to the party with her is bad. Your relationship is basically doomed.

 
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Blazin Trav

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Originally posted by: DougK62
The fact that she doesn't want you to go to the party with her is bad. Your relationship is basically doomed.
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Yeah.

OP you can tell me the address of the party, and if it is closeby to me I can go spy on it for you. Maybe I'll even bring a camera so you can break up with her even easier.
 
funboy6942

funboy6942

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Nov 13, 2001
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Yeah I would trust a girl at another guys house sure. And I never did a girl that was "just friends" that had slept over neither. She is asking if your cool with her sleeping with another guy as she strokes his junk and puts his hoo hoo dilly in her cha cha and has your permission. Yup spending the night with "friends", party, beer, drunk, your 2 hours away, what he doesnt know wont kill him, and Im so drunk lets have a gang bang. Who wants to put it in my belly button? WEEEEEE. OH its soooooooo much bigger then my boyfriends!
 
eits

eits

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Jun 4, 2005
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i'd want to see a picture of the guy before i said "ok".... if he looked anything like jlgatsby, i'd tell her to have a great time. however, if he was attractive, i'd tell her that i wasn't comfortable with the idea.

why the hell does brandon live 2 hrs away and why does she want to go so badly? how does she know brandon?

either way, you should be like, "oh, sweet... that works out perfectly. i was afraid you'd say no, so i never asked. but now that you're going to sleep over at brandon's, my friend tiffany's having a party that same weekend and she invited me to sleep over.... some of the guys are gonna be there, too. i dunno why i was so afraid you'd say no.... hehe... stupid me."
 
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mattpegher

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There seems to be a great deal of gullible folks here. Sure we all know you can't trust the guys. The'll bang her the second they get the chance, most of us would given half a chance. The problem is that many of you think that they can trust there girlfriend dispite the fishy circumstances. And the 1/2 beer that she blames here behavior on will be a total bulls**t excuse.
 
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djheater

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Mar 19, 2001
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Originally posted by: notfred
She's not your fvcking wife, it's not like you really get any say in the matter.
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Succinct. I like it.

:thumbsup:

I'd like to add, the fact that you even think you have a say means the relationship is doomed.

Who wants subservience in a partner? Op's got issues.
 
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