This girl was comfortable enough with you to tell you the truth.
Do not make her regret that decision.
Do not make her regret that decision.
Hyperlite
Diamond Member
- May 25, 2004
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Dude, it has been my experience that girls that are very open about past sexual endevours just add you to the list when they tell the next guy....she could be different, i hate making generalizations. I would say, try and get to know her a little better, than make a determination, but i would agree that 12 in 2 years is alot.
Originally posted by: Paratus
Could be worse she coulda sucked 37 d!cks.
(Hope everyone knows the reference)
heh, in a row!?
Gamingphreek
Lifer
- Mar 31, 2003
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First off let me say that I believe you should be married before you have sex- so obviously my opinions will be biased in that manner.
There are few people here on this forum mature enough to really handle that thread. You should probably head over to YAGT.org and see what they have to say.
As for your situation-How old are you guys? It sounds, for some reason, like you guys are in High School. If so, you guys need to go rethink your life and what you want to make of it. I'm not naieve enough to think that it doesn't happen, a whole bunch of my friends had sex in High School and are continuing to in College.
Second of all, forgive me but as a guy I couldn't let this one go:
It sounds like you disagree with her habits. You gotta ask yourself why you are with this person. If she looks good, hey thats pretty damn cool, but if you have doubts to her faithfulness or something than you should probably do one of the following:
1. End it right now
2. Do something all guys would hate to do- Talk to her about how you feel with regards to this issue. (If you are old enough drink a beer right afterwards to make up for it..jk )
Really take a step back and look at the relationship. I hope things work out for the best for you!
-Kevin
There are few people here on this forum mature enough to really handle that thread. You should probably head over to YAGT.org and see what they have to say.
As for your situation-How old are you guys? It sounds, for some reason, like you guys are in High School. If so, you guys need to go rethink your life and what you want to make of it. I'm not naieve enough to think that it doesn't happen, a whole bunch of my friends had sex in High School and are continuing to in College.
Second of all, forgive me but as a guy I couldn't let this one go:
Are you sure you are still a guy?? There are very very few instances where that word should be uttered by a man. A 3 week relationship surprise is NOT one of them.
It sounds like you disagree with her habits. You gotta ask yourself why you are with this person. If she looks good, hey thats pretty damn cool, but if you have doubts to her faithfulness or something than you should probably do one of the following:
1. End it right now
2. Do something all guys would hate to do- Talk to her about how you feel with regards to this issue. (If you are old enough drink a beer right afterwards to make up for it..jk
)Really take a step back and look at the relationship. I hope things work out for the best for you!
-Kevin
Dude, how small is your penis?
Cuz get over it and get over yourself.
If you think she's a whore, then she's a whore. Dump her, and find someone less whore-y.
If you can get over yourself for 15 seconds and realize that this has nothing to do with her and all about you and your feelings on inadequacy, you would probably realize you have nothing to feel inadequate about. She probably likes you. She probably like sex. That's what should matter. The fact that she doesn't like sex with ONLY you isn't her problem, it's yours.
I mean, I think the fact you're wondering what to do shows you don't really think she's a whore, you're just sorta bitter that the whole "who's she's boned thing" is an issue.
But you know what you SHOULD do? (And yes, I know you'll never do this). Actually TALK to her about it. You don't have to cop to everything, but let her know that her past makes you somewhat uncomfortable. But don't make it about her. She's allowed to have whatever past she wants. Make it about YOU. Tell her that this is YOUR problem, but you like her so you'd like her help in overcoming it. One of two things will happen: a). she'll call you a wimp/weenie/homo/whatever, and not like you because you're not confident enough. If this happens, you win because you learn early on you're not a match. OR b). she'll take your words to heart and do her best to let you know it's a non-issue (i.e. give you lots of compliments sexually, or whatever else you need to get over things). You win because you're boning a girl you like.
But, if acting like an actual adult is too much for you, feel free to just bitch more on ATOT.
/thread.
Cuz get over it and get over yourself.
If you think she's a whore, then she's a whore. Dump her, and find someone less whore-y.
If you can get over yourself for 15 seconds and realize that this has nothing to do with her and all about you and your feelings on inadequacy, you would probably realize you have nothing to feel inadequate about. She probably likes you. She probably like sex. That's what should matter. The fact that she doesn't like sex with ONLY you isn't her problem, it's yours.
I mean, I think the fact you're wondering what to do shows you don't really think she's a whore, you're just sorta bitter that the whole "who's she's boned thing" is an issue.
But you know what you SHOULD do? (And yes, I know you'll never do this). Actually TALK to her about it. You don't have to cop to everything, but let her know that her past makes you somewhat uncomfortable. But don't make it about her. She's allowed to have whatever past she wants. Make it about YOU. Tell her that this is YOUR problem, but you like her so you'd like her help in overcoming it. One of two things will happen: a). she'll call you a wimp/weenie/homo/whatever, and not like you because you're not confident enough. If this happens, you win because you learn early on you're not a match. OR b). she'll take your words to heart and do her best to let you know it's a non-issue (i.e. give you lots of compliments sexually, or whatever else you need to get over things). You win because you're boning a girl you like.
But, if acting like an actual adult is too much for you, feel free to just bitch more on ATOT.
/thread.
Scouzer
Lifer
- Jun 3, 2001
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What the hell?? 12 in 2 years is seriously considered a lot by the standards of this forum??
I'd consider that on the high end of average for my age group (19).
For my age, anywhere from 6-14 I'd consider about average for people who are sexually active.
Agreed 100% with scootermaster. Girls with higher numbers can be rather intimidating. Get over it, I did.
I'd consider that on the high end of average for my age group (19).
For my age, anywhere from 6-14 I'd consider about average for people who are sexually active.
Agreed 100% with scootermaster. Girls with higher numbers can be rather intimidating. Get over it, I did.
You need to put your pride aside for a minute, get over your supersized EGO and get laid. You knew she wasn't a virgin from the get go probably, you knew that you were not the christopher colombus of this girl. you are not discovering new lands and conquering local tribes.
If std's concern you get tested together.
If std's concern you get tested together.
So do her from behind. This is a sure thing d00d. If she was "blitzed" why didnt you do her then?
BTW, TTIWWPs
Hes not "forcing" anything. He is just pointing out the obvious. Is he trying to pass legislation forcing people to have casual sex? Nope. Unlike your ilk trying to the opposite. If anyone is "forcing morals" its your camp/religious wrong.
Aikouka
Lifer
- Nov 27, 2001
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You know, I always love seeing the amount of people on this forum that have no ability to see outside of themselves... they try to superimpose their own self onto everyone else and attempt to tell them to live their own life of debauchery or sainthood (whichever it may be). God, I think Dr. Phil could give better advice than half of these people :roll:. You people need to look at the OP to get an idea not say crap like, "Well, that's not a lot for me, I'd hit it like Mack truck." That's obviously not how he is...
Sigh, with that over... OP, there's a good chance that you'll never be happy overall. From what it sounds like, it may constantly loom over you to the point where instead of seeing yourself as her boyfriend, you just see yourself holding a number and there forming a metaphorical line behind you. I know how you feel in this matter as I've had it bother me. It isn't an ego problem, it's someone's personal preference. Although even for myself, I can't tell you exactly why it bothered me... maybe I found them too... "outgoing?" It's quite possible that you see her as willing to sleep with anyone she likes (meaning as more than a friend) and that's not how you are. Based on your posts here about morality, I'd say that is probably why it bothers you... you've got a higher sense of morals and you see her cock count raising how immoral she is. It's also possible that her being so forthcoming with the information is a bit bothersome as well.
Sigh, with that over... OP, there's a good chance that you'll never be happy overall. From what it sounds like, it may constantly loom over you to the point where instead of seeing yourself as her boyfriend, you just see yourself holding a number and there forming a metaphorical line behind you. I know how you feel in this matter as I've had it bother me. It isn't an ego problem, it's someone's personal preference. Although even for myself, I can't tell you exactly why it bothered me... maybe I found them too... "outgoing?" It's quite possible that you see her as willing to sleep with anyone she likes (meaning as more than a friend) and that's not how you are. Based on your posts here about morality, I'd say that is probably why it bothers you... you've got a higher sense of morals and you see her cock count raising how immoral she is. It's also possible that her being so forthcoming with the information is a bit bothersome as well.
If you feel this way about her past, then it'll definitely creep up as an issue further down the road should you two pursue a serious relationship. Keep it platonic, I say.
If a girl had 12 partners in 2 years, that's every 2 months someone new comes along. Why is she changing people so often? Not satisified? Bored? Just wants to play the field?
You have to ask yourself, do you think you will be the one (she will stick with longer)? Are you comfortable dating her for 2 months before she moves on? If you really like her, and want to be with her more than 2 months, the chances are, you won't. You will be heart broken. Don't get wrapped up with her. Keep her at arms length, play with her boobies for awhile and don't expect it to go anywhere.
You can tell alot about a girls past. People don't change over night. What they have been the last 2 years will probably be what they in the immediate future. I fought this battle with women in my past, and you know what, you will always lose...
You have to ask yourself, do you think you will be the one (she will stick with longer)? Are you comfortable dating her for 2 months before she moves on? If you really like her, and want to be with her more than 2 months, the chances are, you won't. You will be heart broken. Don't get wrapped up with her. Keep her at arms length, play with her boobies for awhile and don't expect it to go anywhere.
You can tell alot about a girls past. People don't change over night. What they have been the last 2 years will probably be what they in the immediate future. I fought this battle with women in my past, and you know what, you will always lose...
Most people already have it. And if you don't, the odds are you will by the time you are 40. Actually, herpes were so prevalent that most STD test don't include them. Just ask any doctor..
In addition, must people with herpes don't even have symptons.. a lot of people have it and don't even know about it...
She'll probably be pretty loose. It'll probably feel like screwing a shoe box full of feathers and cotton balls.
Um, you were probably being sarcastic, but he's right.
Now, you're probably taking what he said to mean "screw anyone you want without worrying about it because you're gonna get something anyway". That's not what he's saying at all.
Ever kissed anyone? Then you likely have oral herpes. 70-85% of the adult population does. Doesn't matter if you "don't get sores" or whatever. Like the man said, you pretty much have to beg a doctor to give you a blood test for herpes because there really is no point in getting tested.
The point is is you EVER have unprotected sex -- with anyone -- you've probably been exposed. You can shed the virus without ever having symptoms. To sweeten the pot a little bit...remember that 70-85% of people that have oral herpes? You like blowjobs? It can be transmitted that way.
You wear condoms every time someone goes down on you? Didn't think so.
The point is, yes, it makes sense to be aware of things, and to discuss STDs with your partner, but a girl having sex with 12 people in 2 years or whatever doesn't mean herpes any more than anything else.
heres what i was told about females from my father:
find them
fvck them
forget them
The three F's have worked . Over 30 girls and only 23.
find them
fvck them
forget them
The three F's have worked . Over 30 girls and only 23.
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