YAGT: I have no... idea...

[2Xtreme21]

So last night I was out with the girl I've been seeing for about 2-3 weeks and she was rather.. open with me about her prior sexual partners (she was pretty blitzed). She came out and told me that she's been with 12 guys in 2 years. I was pretty nonchalant about it given my state of mind but today it kinda hit me and I'm appalled. She's kind of avoiding me it seems too... Thing is, I really like this girl and I've hit it off better with her than with anyone in my life.

I don't know what to do... my heart feels like it's been ripped out. I doubt I could find someone with a better personality but at the same time, I don't know if I can even look at her the same way anymore.

 

[KillerCharlie]

That doesn't surprise me... the way the people talk on these forums, she's practically a virgin.

 

[FoBoT]

see if she'll bring you a note from her doctor

 

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: 2Xtreme21
So last night I was out with the girl I've been seeing for about 2-3 weeks and she was rather.. open with me about her prior sexual partners (she was pretty blitzed). She came out and told me that she's been with 12 guys in 2 years. I was pretty nonchalant about it given my state of mind but today it kinda hit me and I'm appalled. She's kind of avoiding me it seems too... Thing is, I really like this girl and I've hit it off better with her than with anyone in my life.

I don't know what to do... my heart feels like it's been ripped out. I doubt I could find someone with a better personality but at the same time, I don't know if I can even look at her the same way anymore.

would you think differently if it were a guy telling you he had sex with 12 girls in 2 years time?

 

[James3shin]

whats in the past is in the past.

 

[2Xtreme21]

Originally posted by: moshquerade

Originally posted by: 2Xtreme21
So last night I was out with the girl I've been seeing for about 2-3 weeks and she was rather.. open with me about her prior sexual partners (she was pretty blitzed). She came out and told me that she's been with 12 guys in 2 years. I was pretty nonchalant about it given my state of mind but today it kinda hit me and I'm appalled. She's kind of avoiding me it seems too... Thing is, I really like this girl and I've hit it off better with her than with anyone in my life.

I don't know what to do... my heart feels like it's been ripped out. I doubt I could find someone with a better personality but at the same time, I don't know if I can even look at her the same way anymore.

would you think differently if it were a guy telling you he had sex with 12 girls in 2 years time?

No I wouldn't. The difference is, though, that I'm not going to be getting with the dude...

 

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: 2Xtreme21

Originally posted by: moshquerade

Originally posted by: 2Xtreme21
So last night I was out with the girl I've been seeing for about 2-3 weeks and she was rather.. open with me about her prior sexual partners (she was pretty blitzed). She came out and told me that she's been with 12 guys in 2 years. I was pretty nonchalant about it given my state of mind but today it kinda hit me and I'm appalled. She's kind of avoiding me it seems too... Thing is, I really like this girl and I've hit it off better with her than with anyone in my life.

I don't know what to do... my heart feels like it's been ripped out. I doubt I could find someone with a better personality but at the same time, I don't know if I can even look at her the same way anymore.

would you think differently if it were a guy telling you he had sex with 12 girls in 2 years time?

No I wouldn't. The difference is, though, that I'm not going to be getting with the dude...

well yeh, but i was pointing out the double standard which most people wouldn't deny.


bright side is... plan on getting lucky soon if you stay with her.

 

[2Xtreme21]

A double standard exists, no doubt, but 12 is a lot for anyone in my opinion.

 

[James3shin]

man, i'm telling you if you can't get over her being with so and so amount of people, go find a virgin. Good luck with that! I'll say it again, whats in the past is in the past.

 

[Corporate Thug]

thats a lot of partners, regardless of sex (male or female).

 

[Pocatello]

Before thinking about "getting lucky" make sure she hasn't had any STD. This gal has been around the block.

 

[zerocool84]

Originally posted by: 2Xtreme21
So last night I was out with the girl I've been seeing for about 2-3 weeks and she was rather.. open with me about her prior sexual partners (she was pretty blitzed). She came out and told me that she's been with 12 guys in 2 years. I was pretty nonchalant about it given my state of mind but today it kinda hit me and I'm appalled. She's kind of avoiding me it seems too... Thing is, I really like this girl and I've hit it off better with her than with anyone in my life.

I don't know what to do... my heart feels like it's been ripped out. I doubt I could find someone with a better personality but at the same time, I don't know if I can even look at her the same way anymore.

WTF how can you feel that your heart has been ripped out after only going out with her for a couple weeks??? So she has sex with people, you should too. You're the one that should be bragging about your sexual conquests and making the girl feel bad not the other way around. I swear, all these YAGT's really reinforce all those stereotypes about geeks and women. And for god sakes use a rubber. If all else fails:

DATING RULES!!!!

 

[2Xtreme21]

Originally posted by: zerocool84

Originally posted by: 2Xtreme21
So last night I was out with the girl I've been seeing for about 2-3 weeks and she was rather.. open with me about her prior sexual partners (she was pretty blitzed). She came out and told me that she's been with 12 guys in 2 years. I was pretty nonchalant about it given my state of mind but today it kinda hit me and I'm appalled. She's kind of avoiding me it seems too... Thing is, I really like this girl and I've hit it off better with her than with anyone in my life.

I don't know what to do... my heart feels like it's been ripped out. I doubt I could find someone with a better personality but at the same time, I don't know if I can even look at her the same way anymore.

WTF how can you feel that your heart has been ripped out after only going out with her for a couple weeks??? So she has sex with people, you should too. You're the one that should be bragging about your sexual conquests and making the girl feel bad not the other way around. I swear, all these YAGT's really reinforce all those stereotypes of geeks and women.

Yeah, God forbid you actually have morals.

 

[HaxorNubcake]

Originally posted by: 2Xtreme21

Originally posted by: zerocool84

Originally posted by: 2Xtreme21
So last night I was out with the girl I've been seeing for about 2-3 weeks and she was rather.. open with me about her prior sexual partners (she was pretty blitzed). She came out and told me that she's been with 12 guys in 2 years. I was pretty nonchalant about it given my state of mind but today it kinda hit me and I'm appalled. She's kind of avoiding me it seems too... Thing is, I really like this girl and I've hit it off better with her than with anyone in my life.

I don't know what to do... my heart feels like it's been ripped out. I doubt I could find someone with a better personality but at the same time, I don't know if I can even look at her the same way anymore.

WTF how can you feel that your heart has been ripped out after only going out with her for a couple weeks??? So she has sex with people, you should too. You're the one that should be bragging about your sexual conquests and making the girl feel bad not the other way around. I swear, all these YAGT's really reinforce all those stereotypes of geeks and women.

Yeah, God forbid you actually have morals.

morals are just excuses

 

[KarenMarie]

Why do you care what she did before she met you? It was just that... BEFORE.

If she is with you now... that is all that matters.

I am curious though... seriously... why do you care? Are you worried about what other ppl might think? Are you afraid that she will compare you to them and you will not be the best? Would you feel different if it was a guy who was with 12 in 2 years? Seriously... why does it bother you.

As long as she is monogamous with you... isnt that all that matters?

 

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: 2Xtreme21

Originally posted by: zerocool84

Originally posted by: 2Xtreme21
So last night I was out with the girl I've been seeing for about 2-3 weeks and she was rather.. open with me about her prior sexual partners (she was pretty blitzed). She came out and told me that she's been with 12 guys in 2 years. I was pretty nonchalant about it given my state of mind but today it kinda hit me and I'm appalled. She's kind of avoiding me it seems too... Thing is, I really like this girl and I've hit it off better with her than with anyone in my life.

I don't know what to do... my heart feels like it's been ripped out. I doubt I could find someone with a better personality but at the same time, I don't know if I can even look at her the same way anymore.

WTF how can you feel that your heart has been ripped out after only going out with her for a couple weeks??? So she has sex with people, you should too. You're the one that should be bragging about your sexual conquests and making the girl feel bad not the other way around. I swear, all these YAGT's really reinforce all those stereotypes of geeks and women.

Yeah, God forbid you actually have morals.

you probably should stop seeing her. i don't think you are going to get past her past.

 

[zerocool84]

Originally posted by: HaxorNubcake

Originally posted by: 2Xtreme21

Originally posted by: zerocool84

Originally posted by: 2Xtreme21
So last night I was out with the girl I've been seeing for about 2-3 weeks and she was rather.. open with me about her prior sexual partners (she was pretty blitzed). She came out and told me that she's been with 12 guys in 2 years. I was pretty nonchalant about it given my state of mind but today it kinda hit me and I'm appalled. She's kind of avoiding me it seems too... Thing is, I really like this girl and I've hit it off better with her than with anyone in my life.

I don't know what to do... my heart feels like it's been ripped out. I doubt I could find someone with a better personality but at the same time, I don't know if I can even look at her the same way anymore.

WTF how can you feel that your heart has been ripped out after only going out with her for a couple weeks??? So she has sex with people, you should too. You're the one that should be bragging about your sexual conquests and making the girl feel bad not the other way around. I swear, all these YAGT's really reinforce all those stereotypes of geeks and women.

Yeah, God forbid you actually have morals.

morals are just excuses

If every guy that posted YAGT's had some balls, we wouldn't have the threads.

 

[James3shin]

it's not about morals. It's about whether or not you can get over the fact that this girl has been with multiple people. Sounds like you two hit it off, and if you're letting something from her past get to you, then just move on homie.

 

[spidey07]

Originally posted by: 2Xtreme21
A double standard exists, no doubt, but 12 is a lot for anyone in my opinion.

WTF!

That's like a whopping....*gasp* 6 people per year.

1st date, kissing
2nd date, petting
3rd date, sex
4-8th date realize the guy is a loser and bad in the sack to boot. Then move on to the next.

12 in 2 years is TOTALLY normal. 12 in 3 months = cause for concern. But two freakin' years???? Here's a news flash for ATOT, women like sex....ALOT.

 

[2Xtreme21]

Originally posted by: KarenMarie
Why do you care what she did before she met you? It was just that... BEFORE.

If she is with you now... that is all that matters.

I am curious though... seriously... why do you care? Are you worried about what other ppl might think? Are you afraid that she will compare you to them and you will not be the best? Would you feel different if it was a guy who was with 12 in 2 years? Seriously... why does it bother you.

As long as she is monogamous with you... isnt that all that matters?

What you speak is true, though unless every one of the guys she was with were one night stands, there's a good chance she was seeing two at a time, give the 2 years thing. I don't know, maybe she realized she's done doing that kind of stuff and ready to settle down and what not. If so I guess I should consider myself lucky.

 

[Hyperblaze]

Originally posted by: HaxorNubcake

Originally posted by: 2Xtreme21

Originally posted by: zerocool84

Originally posted by: 2Xtreme21
So last night I was out with the girl I've been seeing for about 2-3 weeks and she was rather.. open with me about her prior sexual partners (she was pretty blitzed). She came out and told me that she's been with 12 guys in 2 years. I was pretty nonchalant about it given my state of mind but today it kinda hit me and I'm appalled. She's kind of avoiding me it seems too... Thing is, I really like this girl and I've hit it off better with her than with anyone in my life.

I don't know what to do... my heart feels like it's been ripped out. I doubt I could find someone with a better personality but at the same time, I don't know if I can even look at her the same way anymore.

WTF how can you feel that your heart has been ripped out after only going out with her for a couple weeks??? So she has sex with people, you should too. You're the one that should be bragging about your sexual conquests and making the girl feel bad not the other way around. I swear, all these YAGT's really reinforce all those stereotypes of geeks and women.

Yeah, God forbid you actually have morals.

morals are just excuses

So basically, your imposing YOUR lifestyle on him?

I guess respecting other people's morals is not too high on some people's scales.

 

[DAGTA]

Originally posted by: KarenMarie
Why do you care what she did before she met you? It was just that... BEFORE.

If she is with you now... that is all that matters.

I am curious though... seriously... why do you care? Are you worried about what other ppl might think? Are you afraid that she will compare you to them and you will not be the best? Would you feel different if it was a guy who was with 12 in 2 years? Seriously... why does it bother you.

As long as she is monogamous with you... isnt that all that matters?

Why do people care? Because actions speak louder than words and a person's past DOES influence who they are and says much about their character.

 

[zeruty]

i know a girl who had sex with 8 people in one week! males and females...

 

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: zeruty
i know a girl who had sex with 8 people in one week! males and females...

orgy!!!

 

[James3shin]

Originally posted by: DAGTA

Originally posted by: KarenMarie
Why do you care what she did before she met you? It was just that... BEFORE.

If she is with you now... that is all that matters.

I am curious though... seriously... why do you care? Are you worried about what other ppl might think? Are you afraid that she will compare you to them and you will not be the best? Would you feel different if it was a guy who was with 12 in 2 years? Seriously... why does it bother you.

As long as she is monogamous with you... isnt that all that matters?

Why do people care? Because actions speak louder than words and a person's past DOES influence who they are and says much about their character.

You're right, actions do speak louder then words. I judge people on who they are today, not what they were.