YAGT: How Can I Shake the Money Effect?

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Zap Brannigan

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"Just the way playas play, all night everyday........."

Much to learn you still have.........

You could get played in so many ways regardless of your or someone elses money.

In closing, "playas" of the world can suck my balls. lol
 

magomago

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Date women from other places?

Although to be honest...I don't like the idea of excluding people based on their income; just give it a whirl. I wouldn't go out of my way to HIDE everything, but I would appear humble. IT should be fairly easy if a women wants to take advantage of you due to monetary reasons and you shouldn't have a problem spotting it. Once they do - drop them.
 

BooGiMaN

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hey i got an idea...why not move to a place where peopel make the same or more than you...oh right..then you cant look down on people to make yourself fell better...
 

Stunt

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Originally posted by: BooGiMaN
hey i got an idea...why not move to a place where peopel make the same or more than you...oh right..then you cant look down on people to make yourself fell better...
If I looked down on them, why would I date them :p

I just don't want their emotions skewed by my financial situation.
 

Mill

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I'd do the same I'd do anywhere else in a first world country. It is easy to tell if people are taking advantage of your for money. Especially women.
 

Stunt

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Originally posted by: magomago
Date women from other places?

Although to be honest...I don't like the idea of excluding people based on their income; just give it a whirl. I wouldn't go out of my way to HIDE everything, but I would appear humble. IT should be fairly easy if a women wants to take advantage of you due to monetary reasons and you shouldn't have a problem spotting it. Once they do - drop them.
Good Advice :beer:

I am very humble about this with women.

Dating from other places is very difficult to do.
 

Zap Brannigan

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Originally posted by: BooGiMaN
hey i got an idea...why not move to a place where peopel make the same or more than you...oh right..then you cant look down on people to make yourself fell better...

Not to mention posting about it on a public forum as well.......lol

Hope he does'nt squander all his riches on swedish penis enlargers......
 

DCFife

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Originally posted by: Stunt
Originally posted by: spidey07
WTH would you ever tell a woman what you make?

That's just asking for trouble. Plus it's rude.
I don't tell them what I make...
It's obvious that I'm well off with $5k living room furniture, 42" plasma, new computer, new car, nice diningroom and bedroom set.

It's actually quite hard to hide what I make...
The average income here is $30k per person (not household), I'm at $62k and likely will be at high 60's in Feb.

I like to pat myself on the back sometimes and this results in an obvious sign of wealth in a poorer community.

Just so you know, people who make minimum wage have 42" plasmas, new computers, and new cars. If you never told anybody how much you make, they'd just figure you're like everyone else and you owe your life to the finance industry.
 

Perknose

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I have seen you make quite a number of intelligent and perceptive posts on P&N.

This is not one of them.

For advice I'm tempted to tell you to rush home each day from work in your shiny new Cavalier, lock your front door behind you, and hug your 42 incher in a fetal position while repeatedly making a mental inventory of all your tres cool posessions until blessed sleep overtakes you . . . but I'm quite above such an obvious cheap shot. ;)
 

Stunt

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Originally posted by: DCFife
Originally posted by: Stunt
Originally posted by: spidey07
WTH would you ever tell a woman what you make?

That's just asking for trouble. Plus it's rude.
I don't tell them what I make...
It's obvious that I'm well off with $5k living room furniture, 42" plasma, new computer, new car, nice diningroom and bedroom set.

It's actually quite hard to hide what I make...
The average income here is $30k per person (not household), I'm at $62k and likely will be at high 60's in Feb.

I like to pat myself on the back sometimes and this results in an obvious sign of wealth in a poorer community.
Just so you know, people who make minimum wage have 42" plasmas, new computers, and new cars. If you never told anybody how much you make, they'd just figure you're like everyone else and you owe your life to the finance industry.
Canadian institutions are not as forgiving with debt levels.
That sort of stuff is atypical for a guy my age.
 

halik

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Originally posted by: Stunt
Originally posted by: spidey07
WTH would you ever tell a woman what you make?

That's just asking for trouble. Plus it's rude.
I don't tell them what I make...
It's obvious that I'm well off with $5k living room furniture, 42" plasma, new computer, new car, nice diningroom and bedroom set.

It's actually quite hard to hide what I make...
The average income here is $30k per person (not household), I'm at $62k and likely will be at high 60's in Feb.

I like to pat myself on the back sometimes and this results in an obvious sign of wealth in a poorer community.


HA! No offense man, but I don't think you've got much to worry about as far as your wealth...

Just about any city/town in the US has income in that range and you're definitely not rolling in the cash to the point that you need to worry about others. I'm 4 months out of college and beat you by a decent margin...
 

Stunt

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Originally posted by: Perknose
I have seen you make quite a number of intelligent and perceptive posts on P&N.

This is not one of them.

For advice I'm tempted to tell you to rush home each day from work in your shiny new Cavalier, lock your front door behind you, and hug your 42 incher in a fetal position while repeatedly making a mental inventory of all your tres cool posessions until blessed sleep overtakes you . . . but I'm quite above such an obvious cheap shot. ;)
Thanks for the bolded :)

So should I try to hide my financial situation or not, if there is indeed a significant difference? :p
 

Stunt

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Originally posted by: BarneyFife
LOL!! The money effect. You don't even make that much money.
I know that.
But for a guy my age (23) and relative to those i date...there's a huge difference.
Should I hide or shouldn't I hide...clear question.
 

EKKC

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Originally posted by: Stunt
Originally posted by: spidey07
WTH would you ever tell a woman what you make?

That's just asking for trouble. Plus it's rude.
I don't tell them what I make...
It's obvious that I'm well off with $5k living room furniture, 42" plasma, new computer, new car, nice diningroom and bedroom set.

It's actually quite hard to hide what I make...
The average income here is $30k per person (not household), I'm at $62k and likely will be at high 60's in Feb.

I like to pat myself on the back sometimes and this results in an obvious sign of wealth in a poorer community.

i make 100k and i only recently spent 2k couch, a 45" plasma and a XPS computer i bought for cheap. other than that i have nothing you listed. with the mortgage and everything i spend the rest and either put into savings or invest into stocks. i have no other way of showing it :p

that's the difference for ya, i live in NYC :( 100k is nothing
 

yowolabi

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You don't need to worry about hiding anything. You just need to learn to be a discerning judge of character. If you spend enough time with a woman and ask the right questions, you'll soon find out if she is a golddigger. Until you spend that time with her, don't have unprotected sex. If you're really worried, don't have sex at all until you're sure of her.


But beyond discerning her personality, like you would be wise to do no matter how much you make, you're fine. Having more money will make you more attractive to any girl, and that's okay. What you need to worry about are the girls that like you only because of your money.

One other thing. Don't take a girl to the most expensive restaurants and expensive places, or buy her lavish gifts while you're just getting to know her. If you flaunt your money like that, you can expect to attract gold diggers. The early dates should be pretty cheap and should focus on getting to know her.
 

halik

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Originally posted by: EKKC
Originally posted by: Stunt
Originally posted by: spidey07
WTH would you ever tell a woman what you make?

That's just asking for trouble. Plus it's rude.
I don't tell them what I make...
It's obvious that I'm well off with $5k living room furniture, 42" plasma, new computer, new car, nice diningroom and bedroom set.

It's actually quite hard to hide what I make...
The average income here is $30k per person (not household), I'm at $62k and likely will be at high 60's in Feb.

I like to pat myself on the back sometimes and this results in an obvious sign of wealth in a poorer community.

i make 100k and i only recently spent 2k couch, a 45" plasma and a XPS computer i bought for cheap. other than that i have nothing you listed. with the mortgage and everything i spend the rest and either put into savings or invest into stocks. i have no other way of showing it :p

that's the difference for ya, i live in NYC :( 100k is nothing

jersey ftw.... my rent is 750 a mo :D
 

bleuless

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it is not a significant difference. 65k to 30k, you are all low income after tax. kinda like comparing a honda accord 6 cyclinder vs a 4 cylinder. whoopdeedo! my advice for you is to find a woman that makes 80+ otherwise remain single.
 

Stunt

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Originally posted by: EKKC
Originally posted by: Stunt
Originally posted by: spidey07
WTH would you ever tell a woman what you make?

That's just asking for trouble. Plus it's rude.
I don't tell them what I make...
It's obvious that I'm well off with $5k living room furniture, 42" plasma, new computer, new car, nice diningroom and bedroom set.

It's actually quite hard to hide what I make...
The average income here is $30k per person (not household), I'm at $62k and likely will be at high 60's in Feb.

I like to pat myself on the back sometimes and this results in an obvious sign of wealth in a poorer community.
i make 100k and i only recently spent 2k couch, a 45" plasma and a XPS computer i bought for cheap. other than that i have nothing you listed. with the mortgage and everything i spend the rest and either put into savings or invest into stocks. i have no other way of showing it :p

that's the difference for ya, i live in NYC :( 100k is nothing
Yeah...here I can bank (ie. save after all expenses) $2k a month; it's dirt cheap to live here.
 

EKKC

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Originally posted by: halik
Originally posted by: EKKC
Originally posted by: Stunt
Originally posted by: spidey07
WTH would you ever tell a woman what you make?

That's just asking for trouble. Plus it's rude.
I don't tell them what I make...
It's obvious that I'm well off with $5k living room furniture, 42" plasma, new computer, new car, nice diningroom and bedroom set.

It's actually quite hard to hide what I make...
The average income here is $30k per person (not household), I'm at $62k and likely will be at high 60's in Feb.

I like to pat myself on the back sometimes and this results in an obvious sign of wealth in a poorer community.

i make 100k and i only recently spent 2k couch, a 45" plasma and a XPS computer i bought for cheap. other than that i have nothing you listed. with the mortgage and everything i spend the rest and either put into savings or invest into stocks. i have no other way of showing it :p

that's the difference for ya, i live in NYC :( 100k is nothing

jersey ftw.... my rent is 750 a mo :D

in NJ, buying a house there is a bitch i heard. i dont like rent, throwing away money, you dont get a penny back. its not smart spending. i still cant understand why one of my high school friend who moved to new hampshire is RENTING... god.

i wonder what city the OP is referring to.
 

Stunt

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Originally posted by: yowolabi
You don't need to worry about hiding anything. You just need to learn to be a discerning judge of character. If you spend enough time with a woman and ask the right questions, you'll soon find out if she is a golddigger. Until you spend that time with her, don't have unprotected sex. If you're really worried, don't have sex at all until you're sure of her.

But beyond discerning her personality, like you would be wise to do no matter how much you make, you're fine. Having more money will make you more attractive to any girl, and that's okay. What you need to worry about are the girls that like you only because of your money.

One other thing. Don't take a girl to the most expensive restaurants and expensive places, or buy her lavish gifts while you're just getting to know her. If you flaunt your money like that, you can expect to attract gold diggers. The early dates should be pretty cheap and should focus on getting to know her.
Excellent Points :)
 

halik

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Originally posted by: Stunt
Originally posted by: BarneyFife
LOL!! The money effect. You don't even make that much money.
I know that.
But for a guy my age (23) and relative to those i date...there's a huge difference.
Should I hide or shouldn't I hide...clear question.

Seriously STFU... you only come off as a pretention jackass. 60K is out-of-college starting salary, so get over it. There is no money effect. Nada. Zip.
 

vi edit

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That's not exactly baller material. You aren't even any where near the magical 6 figure mark.

It's only going to be an issue if you make it one.