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YAGT! Drinking and cheating....UPDATE! Just got a letter from her...UPDATED AGAIN!!! ANOTHER UPDATE X4!NOW WITH POLL!!

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Originally posted by: TheBDB
Originally posted by: Compton
I think your main goal should be to get the ring back.
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ouch
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Ouch indeed, but that was my thought as well. Getting the ring back is going to be hard. The relationship is over, but her being overseas could make it difficult to get back that ring.
 
i dont see what you are asking. she's cheating on you and only you know if you want to be with someone unfaithful. i've never had the urge to be with someone other than my bf when i've been drinking. i hate that excuse!!
 
sounds like she is trying to cover up...I don't have anything to add that hasn't already been said...but I will add this

no disrespect any women out there but....


women are like buses...one comes along every 15 minutes...


You have to seriously ask yourself if this is someone you could see yourself with for the rest of your life...I remeber when I was 21 and thinking the girl I was with was the one...man...only years of experience have shown me how wrong I was...I am now married to a very beautiful women and could be happier...

you can learn alot from other peoples mistakes...take these peoples advice...they are logical...and make very good points...
 
Originally posted by: leeland
sounds like she is trying to cover up...I don't have anything to add that hasn't already been said...but I will add this

no disrespect any women out there but....


women are like buses...one comes along every 15 minutes...


You have to seriously ask yourself if this is someone you could see yourself with for the rest of your life...I remeber when I was 21 and thinking the girl I was with was the one...man...only years of experience have shown me how wrong I was...I am now married to a very beautiful women and could be happier...
you can learn alot from other peoples mistakes...take these peoples advice...they are logical...and make very good points...
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Everyones advice is basically leave because she HAS CHEATED. But i need to know she has before i do anything. We have(had) a very strong relationship, and very honest. When i do talk to her i am going to find out the truth. If she has cheated or leaves me to think she has, then its over. If she just said it to piss me off, get me to stop drinking, or whatever then i love her enough to work through the bullshit.

And did you mean you couldn't be happier? me confused.
 
You're in denial, man. When someone asks a question like "should I dump her" or "should I quit my job", the answer is usually YES.
 
Originally posted by: KEV1N
You're in denial, man. When someone asks a question like "should I dump her" or "should I quit my job", the answer is usually YES.
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did i ever ask if i should dump her?
 
Originally posted by: bigredguy
Originally posted by: KEV1N
You're in denial, man. When someone asks a question like "should I dump her" or "should I quit my job", the answer is usually YES.
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did i ever ask if i should dump her?
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No, but you do need to dump her. She has already been nailed by at least two different guys over there.
 
Originally posted by: minendo
Originally posted by: bigredguy
Originally posted by: KEV1N
You're in denial, man. When someone asks a question like "should I dump her" or "should I quit my job", the answer is usually YES.
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did i ever ask if i should dump her?
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No, but you do need to dump her. She has already been nailed by at least two different guys over there.
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pics?
 
Originally posted by: bigredguy
Originally posted by: leeland
sounds like she is trying to cover up...I don't have anything to add that hasn't already been said...but I will add this

no disrespect any women out there but....


women are like buses...one comes along every 15 minutes...


You have to seriously ask yourself if this is someone you could see yourself with for the rest of your life...I remeber when I was 21 and thinking the girl I was with was the one...man...only years of experience have shown me how wrong I was...I am now married to a very beautiful women and could be happier...
you can learn alot from other peoples mistakes...take these peoples advice...they are logical...and make very good points...
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Everyones advice is basically leave because she HAS CHEATED. But i need to know she has before i do anything. We have(had) a very strong relationship, and very honest. When i do talk to her i am going to find out the truth. If she has cheated or leaves me to think she has, then its over. If she just said it to piss me off, get me to stop drinking, or whatever then i love her enough to work through the bullshit.

And did you mean you couldn't be happier? me confused.
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ha ha ha see what happens when you stare at the screen for 8 hours...it should be couldn't be happier...as in my wife is great and I love her very much

you know why ? because she and I have a mutual respect for each other...we try to see things from each others shoes...and based on the factual evidence that you have provided for us I don't believe your fiancee is very respectful of you...now I may be wrong...won't be the first time...but just her e-mail alone...the WTF light goes on and I would have to put a stop to that Sh!t quick fast and in a hurry...

There would be no way in HELL I would be sticking with a women that implies she *might* cheat on me let alone even ponder it...

To be honest I think her priorities are in a different place and I feel sorry for you...but at the same time the world isn't going to stop and hopefully you will get to the bottom of this and be able to make a decision that is best for YOU !!!

Leeland
 
UPDATE?!?!?! Did you patch things up? Did you drown her in the English Channel? Did you have "THE TALK"? The suspense is killing me...........

jc
 
Didn't read most of the responses but it all boils down to this...

"Don't put yourself in compromising situations"

If she's getting herself into one or getting a bad vibe then she should just leave, call a cab or just go home. I've been in a whole hell of a lot of "compromising situations" and it wasn't that hard to realize what it was and simply leave...much like you and the co-worker.

But dumping a fiance' over a singular event is pretty stupid IMHO.
 
Seriously don't jump the gun. Make sure you talk to her about all this and get some closure. Make sure you get to the bottom of this mess before you make the decision.

good luck.
 
UPDATE!

I called her and we talked for a very long time. Apparently someone i know had e-mailed her saying that i was cheating on her with my co-worker (i haven't figured out who, but can only be one of a few people). She thought i was cheating so she tried pushing my buttons trying to get me to confess to something i never did. Basically we both thought the other was cheating or atleast would before her stay in the UK was over. So bad communication equals relationship problems. Once we both explained everything and tried to picture the situation from each others shoes we put it all together.

I am planning on going to see her in september and i hope everything stays ok until then.
 
Originally posted by: bigredguy
UPDATE!

I called her and we talked for a very long time. Apparently someone i know had e-mailed her saying that i was cheating on her with my co-worker (i haven't figured out who, but can only be one of a few people). She thought i was cheating so she tried pushing my buttons trying to get me to confess to something i never did. Basically we both thought the other was cheating or atleast would before her stay in the UK was over. So bad communication equals relationship problems. Once we both explained everything and tried to picture the situation from each others shoes we put it all together.

I am planning on going to see her in september and i hope everything stays ok until then.
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it will be fine. I just hate to see people mucking with other peoples lives like this. you should trust each other's word above all else. for some reason there are those out there that gain pleasure from mucking with other peoples happiness and do things to ruin it.

communication dude - never assume anything.
 
Originally posted by: bigredguy
UPDATE!

I called her and we talked for a very long time. Apparently someone i know had e-mailed her saying that i was cheating on her with my co-worker (i haven't figured out who, but can only be one of a few people). She thought i was cheating so she tried pushing my buttons trying to get me to confess to something i never did. Basically we both thought the other was cheating or atleast would before her stay in the UK was over. So bad communication equals relationship problems. Once we both explained everything and tried to picture the situation from each others shoes we put it all together.

I am planning on going to see her in september and i hope everything stays ok until then.
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Thank god.

I'm glad this had a happy ending.

Just remember long distance relationships completly screw with most couples minds. I've been in similar situations myself and while it's not ever easy it may end up being worth it. Was with my wife 😉
 
Originally posted by: bigredguy
UPDATE!

I called her and we talked for a very long time. Apparently someone i know had e-mailed her saying that i was cheating on her with my co-worker (i haven't figured out who, but can only be one of a few people). She thought i was cheating so she tried pushing my buttons trying to get me to confess to something i never did. Basically we both thought the other was cheating or atleast would before her stay in the UK was over. So bad communication equals relationship problems. Once we both explained everything and tried to picture the situation from each others shoes we put it all together.

I am planning on going to see her in september and i hope everything stays ok until then.
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Sounds like someone you know needs a good A$$ kicking!
 
She didn't give you the name?

Until she gives you the name of the person who said this, I would assume that she's just trying to turn the situation away from her fuck-up.

If she values your relationship, she should have no problem with giving you the name of the person who said this to her.
 
Originally posted by: nan0bug
She didn't give you the name?

Until she gives you the name of the person who said this, I would assume that she's just trying to turn the situation away from her fuck-up.

If she values your relationship, she should have no problem with giving you the name of the person who said this to her.
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The address wasn't anyone either of us recognized, anyways i am pretty sure i know who did it and why.
 
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