YAGT: but not really bad.

Gulzakar

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I'm not going to wimper, because this one isn't bad, I was just looking from some insight from some more relationship experienced folks...men or women. I will keep it as short as possible.

I met her (we shall call her sally, hehe) a few years ago at my former job...thought she was cute, but she had a BF. As it turns out we went to the same college...so from time to time I'd see her there or on the train...she'd always come share a cigarette and so forth...very friendly stuff. Shes pretty cool...she likes all the things I like, she called me a nerd and giggled, her birthday is only two days after mine...

We both graduated a year ago (Jan 2003), after that, I didn't see her at all. No biggie, she was just a friend.right?

In October of 2003 I saw some friends at OctoberFest in SF. These people were also friends with her and one of the girls ( a good friend) told me that "sally" had dumped her ex...

Fastforward again in Dec with the same people ( at a local bar), they say "hey, you should hook up with her". My reply "meh", because I knew how messy things can be after long relationships (though it has been 8 months already).

I had a friday of of work, so I decided to go visit my old co-workers (and her too, duh). I get there, say hello to everyone and then I bump into "Sally". She is very flirty, happy, just real nice to visit. I suggested we go hang out sometime, but she was leaving that night for new mexico. so I gave her my #.

Two weeks later I go back to my old work, but this time go visit her directly...I walk into the room and get a big hug, once again very flirty. she tells me how she met this guy on a plane and they really hit it off. (I'm thinking, god f_cking D_mmit). About how wonderfult his guy was, how she kissed him afterwards...(he lives in LA) all the while she still keeps making flirty gestures.

BUT, I did not give up, I got her number. So, I'd chat with her here and there, nothing big, but last friday, I picked her up and took her out to dinner with some friends. It was nice, she had a bad cold, but we still had fun. After dinner was over (I paid, much to her surprise), I took her back to her place...I started driving and then about 4 minutes later called her and asked "hey, you want to come over and watch a movie?". Much to my surprise she accepted.

Ok, so she came over, runny nose and all and we watched a movie. Cuddling, spooning, no kissing or anything like that, just cozy stuff. I rubbed her back, did all the "nice" things. I took her home the next day because I had to leave to go skiing. All was well.

I came home Sunday, called her and spoke to her for an hour. On Monday she called me around 9PM and asked if she could stop by...she was still sick, but was basically a repeat of Friday. She left at 1AM, got a little peck on the cheek. I was happy.

On tuesday I called her and asked if she wanted to come over, so I swung by her house and picked her up. Once again, another cozy evening. No kissing, just a peck on the cheek.

In an nutshell, I lay in bed with her and basically snugglle, an occasional tickle, hand holding, all very nice stuff...but I for some reason, past experiences have left me a little cautious... shes sick, so when I heard her utter the word "pamper", I started wondering if she was using me for attention. am I being paranoid?

I should add that once we started hanging out like this, the last two visits I heard nothing more about the guy from the plane. I'm just very confused...I've known her for a while and always thought that she would make the best gf...at least for me...shes THAT much fun.

 

spidey07

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dude...grow a pair and kiss her passionately.

-edit- oh and you're acting like a chick. Just remember that you are a man so act like it.

End pep talk
 
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Originally posted by: spidey07
dude...grow a pair and kiss her passionately.

-edit- oh and you're acting like a chick. Just remember that you are a man so act like it.

End pep talk

You missed the obligatory "Get your butt over to YAGT.org and post it there" :p

But yeah, that's about the summation of things. Make a move, dammit. :)

- M4H
 

spidey07

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best approach is a real nice smootch on the lips. Then if that goes well you can really start mackin'
 

nitsuj3580

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this was kind of the way my ex and I hit it off. just hanging out, cuddling, etc. no mention of another guy though in my case. eventually, i grew a pair and told her I thought more of her than just a friend and asked her out. she said yes as soon as the words came out of my mouth.

you do the same and hopefully, you'll get similar results.. good luck
 

angrymaxx

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welcome to cuddle-b!tch land, son. enjoy your stay. :D

I agree with spidey, grow a pair or be somebodys cuddle-b!tch
 

MaxDepth

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bend her over the couch and be done with it.


oh wait, that's what I did to her outside the airport a couple of weeks ago. you're right, she is fun. ;)
 

Papagayo

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I think she sees you as a nice backup. She's dangling you on a string until she finds someone better. If she doesn't find someone special, then she will just give up and probably settle for you.

I mean, you are a NERD.

 

spidey07

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Originally posted by: Papagayo
I think she sees you as a nice backup. She's dangling you on a string until she finds someone better. If she doesn't find someone special, then she will just give up and probably settle for you.

I mean, you are a NERD.

you have a lot to learn. A girl cuddling means take it.
 

djheater

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Originally posted by: spidey07
Originally posted by: Papagayo
I think she sees you as a nice backup. She's dangling you on a string until she finds someone better. If she doesn't find someone special, then she will just give up and probably settle for you.

I mean, you are a NERD.

you have a lot to learn. A girl cuddling means take it.

Unless of course it's Dezign.
 

spidey07

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Originally posted by: djheater
Originally posted by: spidey07
Originally posted by: Papagayo
I think she sees you as a nice backup. She's dangling you on a string until she finds someone better. If she doesn't find someone special, then she will just give up and probably settle for you.

I mean, you are a NERD.

you have a lot to learn. A girl cuddling means take it.

Unless of course it's Dezign.

she has a lot to learn as well.
 

Gulzakar

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And that was my fear...as much as she doesn t seem the type...

I may as well go for it. nothing to lose I suppose.
 

spidey07

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Originally posted by: Gulzakar
And that was my fear...as much as she doesn t seem the type...

I may as well go for it. nothing to lose I suppose.

Exactly. What do you have to lose? You should be able to see it in her eyes if she wants you to kiss her.
 

VictorLazlo

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Cuddling time is long over. Cold or no cold, you've got to take it to the next level, quick. Otherwise, she is going to come over to cuddle, and tell you about her new boyfriend.
 

DougK62

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A girl will cuddle with you for three reasons:

1. She "likes" you
2. She has known you for a really long time

If not one of those two, then:

3. She has mental issues

Go for it.
 

Balt

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Originally posted by: spidey07
dude...grow a pair and kiss her passionately.

-edit- oh and you're acting like a chick. Just remember that you are a man so act like it.

End pep talk

Couldn't have said it any better. If you don't make a move soon she will either:

1) Start ignoring you.
or
2) Place you in the "friend" category.

Kiss her you dolt! No more pecks!