That's kind of delusional. If a girl had sex once before, or even several times before, you finally found the ability to get a hard-on then she's a skank whore? What has the number of times a girl's had sex in the past have to do with caring about her as long as she treats herself with respect? On the flip side, should girls who've had sex before view a virgin male as an inept, impotent loser?
She should drop him.
I think virginity is important to SOME guys because they are insecure. They really don't know how they match up in the scheme of things and don't want someone else to be able to judge them. I imagine, if he were to become more comfortable with himself, it wouldn't be such an issue.
Please don't think all guys are like this.
I think virginity is important to SOME guys because they are insecure. They really don't know how they match up in the scheme of things and don't want someone else to be able to judge them. I imagine, if he were to become more comfortable with himself, it wouldn't be such an issue.
Please don't think all guys are like this.
I knew a guy in college who lied and told girls he was virgin as a way to get them to sleep with him.
LOL, I was going to put, "...view a virgin male as the inept, impotent loser he is?", but I thought I would be nice about it.
She needs to dump this loser. :frown:
He's simply pressuring her to do a sexual act she's not comfortable with.
And he would most likely drop her afterwards.
He's simply pressuring her to do a sexual act she's not comfortable with.
And he would most likely drop her afterwards.
I mean if I was a virgin I'd prolly wanna have sex w/ a virgin for the first time...just cuase I'd be all insecure and everything...but the fact that hes going on the offensive and accusing her is shady as hell...the best defense is a good offense...
It'd be like if I couldn't get it up and I accused the girl of not being able to turn me on enough...then it makes it so shes too busy defending herself and feeling bad about herself to realize that I can't get it up...
It'd be like if I couldn't get it up and I accused the girl of not being able to turn me on enough...then it makes it so shes too busy defending herself and feeling bad about herself to realize that I can't get it up...
Any one that wants to get laid and can't is probably not asking anyone. They think the girl is going to ask them, obviously. No matter how you ask, if you ask enough times, someone will have sex with you. (Unless there's something horribly wrong with you, in which case you just need to lower your standards of who you ask.)
Geekbabe
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She should drop him... and be sure to alert family and friends so they can keep an eye on her,this type can and does often get nasty and tries to force the issue when you tell em to hit the road.. shudder
I don't think a lot of females understand how fragile the male ego can be. My first impression was to think, like others have noted, that he just wants to do her in the ass (and who wouldn't? It's fun!). But there probably is a small, albeit messed up and convoluted kernel of truth to this guy's story. To whit:
He probably thinks that by his girl giving up something very intimate (and something she's not likely to give up to m/any guys) he will have a special place in her heart (and head), and more importantly, they will have some sort of bond that is not likely to break any time soon (since these kids are obviously not very experienced/clueless, I'm guessing the girl isn't gonna wanna dump the guy and have to tell her next boyfriend that she takes it in the ass).
I guess I'm just saying that you shouldn't be so quick to dismiss what he's saying. He probably has severe sexual self-esteem issues, and if this girl was to give in to what he wants, he'd feel a little better. Now, I'm not saying he's going about it the right way (everyone's right, he's a complete idiot), I'm just saying that I can see his position.
What you should have your "friend" do is just simply TALK to him. Does she ever say that she likes sex with him? Does she ever compliment him? She needs to make him feel like she could have slept with 54355654 people, but that she chooses to sleep with him. If she makes a good effort to do that and he STILL persists, well, then it's time to drop him.
I'd rather have a virgin any day.. I can teach them how to please any way I want with no prior garbage to erase. However, I don't want emotional dependence - so that part of a virgin is undesirable.
Also, with a virgin, you do not get diseases. When one out of three (supposed statistics from UF) college students have herpes, I am glad I have only ever slept with two people. The more people someone has slept with, the higher chance. It's all about probability.
BTW, the only reason for wanting the rear is if the front isn't tight enough. Maybe if he got a proper adapter, then the front would feel as tight as the rear.
Also, with a virgin, you do not get diseases. When one out of three (supposed statistics from UF) college students have herpes, I am glad I have only ever slept with two people. The more people someone has slept with, the higher chance. It's all about probability.
BTW, the only reason for wanting the rear is if the front isn't tight enough. Maybe if he got a proper adapter, then the front would feel as tight as the rear.
HeroOfPellinor
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I believe the real underlying question is "Why is virginity important?" If you say he shouldn't be concerned that she's given up her virginity then you're implying that her virginity is something not to be considered important.
I hope I never have sex with a virgin, seriously. I'd much rather get into bed with someone that was as adept at pleasing me as I am with pleasing them, than with someone who doesn't have a clue.
HeroOfPellinor
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That's sex. This couple is in a relationship. In that context, virginity isn't just a physical state, it's, potentially, a very special and important symbol of intimacy.
Sorry to offend you. I guess I'd be uptight too if I was married for 9 years.
You want a serious response from me? It's simple and no fun but here goes: If she doesn't like it, tell him. If he persists, move on and stop dating A-holes (no pun intended - seriously).
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