Originally posted by: XxPrOdiGyxX
The main problem is that society and the family unit is dysfunctional.
I'd have to agree. In a society where kids are raised in daycare, where both parents have to work, and then left out on the street in the teenage years takes its toll. I'm not going to even say its a "poor" problem. Even though poor people usually have a single parent, or both parents have to work to make ends meet. Because of the current state of society, kids don't learn the lessons they need while growing up. Daycare and school can't teach these things.
I have a friend of mine who made good money, his wife stayed home, they had a 3-4 year old boy. However, both parents were not really prepared for what it took to be a parent. While I was staying with them for awhile, dad comes home, and only wanted to zone out into the TV or football game after work. The boy comes up to him "Daddy lets play!!!!" And starts to hang on him and beg for his attention. Dad gets mad (face turns bright red in rage) and grabs the boy and starts shaking him "Leave me alone go play by yourself!"
Mom does equal treatment with the boy while she is doing house chores, etc. She did work part of the time and had the kid in daycare for awhile... But she treated the boy like the father did while she was home.
The kid while in a great position to be raised good was left to fend for himself it seemed.
While I stayed with them for the 2 months I was there, I was the only stable role model for the child. I played with him after dinner every single evening... We became "best buds." Even though he was young, I had to teach him simple manners to help mold him. He used to hit me all the time when things didn't go his way. His parents would just yell at him, tell him to go to his room. But never once took the time to explain to the kid why it was a bad thing. I simply asked him one daywhen he hit me "Why did you hit me?" ... "I was mad." "Do you know what happens when you hit your friends?" He said "No..." I said "They won't want to be your friend anymore. Friends don't like to get hit, maybe only when you are wrestling, but only when you are wrestling." His response "I thought I had to hit people that I wanted as friends." (I have no idea where he got that idea, probably some bully in daycare) "No, that's not how it works. You can't hit people to get your way and to get what you want, you have to play, sometimes you play my games, sometimes we play yours. But if you hit, you won't have anybody to play with, and you will be all alone and you won't have anybody to play games with..." He looks at me with a frown but then like a big lightbulb turns on in his mind "Ohh! I'm sorry! Let's play dinosaurs." He never hit me after that.
My bro has perfect kids, everytime they do something wrong, he sits them in the corner and explains to them what they did, why its wrong, and what the result will be if they continue that behavior. Now that they are 10 and 12, they act perfectly, no outbursts, no problems, and they never get into the corner anymore because they just know better at this point. They will likely grow up to be responsible adults as they have been learning those lessons all their life.
The moral of the story, parents never take the time anymore to sit down and talk with their kids and explain to them whats going on. It almost seems as if parents just give the kids a nintendo or barbie and tell them to get lost... /boggle.