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DainBramaged

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Made me love her. Guilt tripped me into doing what I didn't want to. Thats about it, nothing great.
 

Kelvrick

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Originally posted by: ColdFusion718
I'm sure I told this one before so I'll be brief, if you want details, PM me.

1). Met the girl in college
2). Fell in love *gag*
3). Dated for nearly 5 years, got engaged
4). Girl was cheating with another guy (told me he was a silly kid friend, like a brother)
5). Found out 6 months before graduation, had already turned down jobs from companies like Intel, HP, etc. to move to her country (New Zealand)
Girl had her friends cover for her lie, girl's sister unknowingly gave me timeline of events--pieced truth together
Girl used her best friend in the lie--told me girl was hooking up said guy with her best friend, when asked best friend knew of no such thing.
Girl mails back engagement ring in padded envelope with no insurance, delivery confirmation, nothing.
Girl never told me what happened even till this day, this was about 3 years ago.

I know it's not good to dwell on the past, but despite having learned a valuable lesson, it still hurts/angers me when I remember--that was almost 5 years of my life I'll never get back.

Sucks. Glad to have you back in the US though and hopefully on your feet.
 

FilmCamera

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Originally posted by: SmoochyTX
Like guys are so wonderful and respectful. :roll:

Some are. Hopefully you find one some day who knows how to treat a woman. Sadly, most don't.
 

ColdFusion718

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Originally posted by: PeeluckyDuckee
Originally posted by: Coquito
Originally posted by: Sluggo
Originally posted by: Coquito
Told my friends I wasn't good in bed.

Was she fibbing, or are you just pissed the truth got out?

She hadn't enough experience to be judging. Barely teenagers, but apparently it made the rounds. I didn't get many dates afterwards till I switched high schools.

Originally posted by: ColdFusion718
I'm sure I told this one before so I'll be brief, if you want details, PM me.

1). Met the girl in college
2). Fell in love *gag*
3). Dated for nearly 5 years, got engaged
4). Girl was cheating with another guy (told me he was a silly kid friend, like a brother)
5). Found out 6 months before graduation, had already turned down jobs from companies like Intel, HP, etc. to move to her country (New Zealand)
Girl had her friends cover for her lie, girl's sister unknowingly gave me timeline of events--pieced truth together
Girl used her best friend in the lie--told me girl was hooking up said guy with her best friend, when asked best friend knew of no such thing.
Girl mails back engagement ring in padded envelope with no insurance, delivery confirmation, nothing.
Girl never told me what happened even till this day, this was about 3 years ago.

I know it's not good to dwell on the past, but despite having learned a valuable lesson, it still hurts/angers me when I remember--that was almost 5 years of my life I'll never get back.

Cold. :(

Very cold indeed. Cripes.

Yeah, it did change me as a person. I used to be the hopeless romantic guy who always chose love over money. I find it very hard to trust women now. I also don't talk about it with them.

On the other hand, almost every woman I've asked out these few years have yet to say no to me, probably because I don't give a crap hehe. If I need a "romance fix," well I either go and watch a chickflick or one of those sad Korean love story movies.

Might I also add that after I got the engagement ring back, I had my sister sell it back to the jeweler. The jeweler and my sister cried when she asked her what had happened and my sister told the story.

When I got the money back, I used it to buy a 23" LCD monitor hehe. I've since given that away to my friend since I didn't want to have any memories of what happened (OK, I gave it away so I could have an excuse to upgrade).

Stupid holidays! Now I am feeling the loneliness yet the idea of having a gf makes me sick to my stomach. It's time to go spend some money!
 

stars

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Dated a girl for 6 years, engaged during the last year. Left work early one day, walked in on her and a guy having sex while our 1 month old daughter was asleep in the playpen, in the same room.
 

animalia

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Dec 15, 2006
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I havent had enough relationships to answer this question. i only had :brokenheart: once and it sucked.
 

txrandom

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Originally posted by: stars
Dated a girl for 6 years, engaged during the last year. Left work early one day, walked in on her and a guy having sex while our 1 month old daughter was asleep in the playpen, in the same room.

What ended up happening?
 

nospittingfan

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Originally posted by: ColdFusion718
I'm sure I told this one before so I'll be brief, if you want details, PM me.

1). Met the girl in college
2). Fell in love *gag*
3). Dated for nearly 5 years, got engaged
4). Girl was cheating with another guy (told me he was a silly kid friend, like a brother)
5). Found out 6 months before graduation, had already turned down jobs from companies like Intel, HP, etc. to move to her country (New Zealand)
Girl had her friends cover for her lie, girl's sister unknowingly gave me timeline of events--pieced truth together
Girl used her best friend in the lie--told me girl was hooking up said guy with her best friend, when asked best friend knew of no such thing.
Girl mails back engagement ring in padded envelope with no insurance, delivery confirmation, nothing.
Girl never told me what happened even till this day, this was about 3 years ago.

I know it's not good to dwell on the past, but despite having learned a valuable lesson, it still hurts/angers me when I remember--that was almost 5 years of my life I'll never get back.


Can we all agree: Guys are stupid. Girls are EVIL.
 

nospittingfan

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Originally posted by: ariafrost
Nothing bad has happened to me... yet. Just turned 20 and I've never dated a girl... (yes, by choice). I figure give them a bit of time to mature so I don't get griefed and torn apart like some people in this thread...


Wow awesome! You are wise beyond your years. :)
 

animalia

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Originally posted by: shortylickens

"Excuse me miss, my friend had to go do some stuff and she wanted me to return this item for her. She only used it once and didnt like it. Can she get a refund? Heres the papers."
She takes the cold cream and says "sure let me go do something first".

5 minutes later she comes back.
"Sir, this isnt Estee Lauder cold cream. This is Jergens thats been in the fridge overnight."
Me: "Huh?!?"
"Yessir, she used up all of our product and then put Jergens in there.
You need to tell her she cant do that and then return it."
Dumbass: "OK, thanks ma'am."

About 500 hours later she finally gets done with skirts and blouses and everything and she finds me on the bench by the Orange Julius. Told her what happened and she played dumb, not to mention angry.

I just looked at her.

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Maybe SHE DID ONLY USE IT ONCE? maybe the clerk was lying to you just to be a jerk. There is the female you probably shouldnt have trusted. Maybe your friend wasn't lying. How the hell could the clerk tell it was jergens? She was probably in an entirely different dept. Ever think maybe that was the case before entirely changing your bias? the bias I might add you based on one experience.

 

stars

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Originally posted by: txrandom
Originally posted by: stars
Dated a girl for 6 years, engaged during the last year. Left work early one day, walked in on her and a guy having sex while our 1 month old daughter was asleep in the playpen, in the same room.

What ended up happening?

I calmly asked the guy to leave and he dressed himself and left without speaking a word. Which I'm glad because I was very upset at the time. I spent about an hour or so there after he left before leaving myself. The guy she was sleeping with died a week later in some type of mishap at a mental institution - apparently he had severe problems and was seeking treatment when it occured. It really scared me knowing that he was around our daughter just a week earlier.

I tried to be civil about it all due to us having a child and offered to fully support her while she got her life in order. This approach failed and I took her to court repeatedly over a 2 year period. This was in the early 90s and at the time a father was pretty much screwed unless he was married to the female. I offered child support and every rational thing a caring father could do to see his child when taking her to court. She kept declining my offers and basically used our child as a pawn to hurt me. Eventually I dismissed it all and went on with my life. It was my only option at this point because it was killing me. To this day I've never seen our daughter since the day I left and really doubt I ever will.
 

nospittingfan

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Originally posted by: stars
Originally posted by: txrandom
Originally posted by: stars
Dated a girl for 6 years, engaged during the last year. Left work early one day, walked in on her and a guy having sex while our 1 month old daughter was asleep in the playpen, in the same room.

What ended up happening?

I calmly asked the guy to leave and he dressed himself and left without speaking a word. Which I'm glad because I was very upset at the time. I spent about an hour or so there after he left before leaving myself. The guy she was sleeping with died a week later in some type of mishap at a mental institution - apparently he had severe problems and was seeking treatment when it occured. It really scared me knowing that he was around our daughter just a week earlier.

I tried to be civil about it all due to us having a child and offered to fully support her while she got her life in order. This approach failed and I took her to court repeatedly over a 2 year period. This was in the early 90s and at the time a father was pretty much screwed unless he was married to the female. I offered child support and every rational thing a caring father could do to see his child when taking her to court. She kept declining my offers and basically used our child as a pawn to hurt me. Eventually I dismissed it all and went on with my life. It was my only option at this point because it was killing me. To this day I've never seen our daughter since the day I left and really doubt I ever will.


*speechless* Wow.
 

Aimster

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Got a girl an engagement ring, she told me she was going to marry me, I supported her..

she cheated on me behind my back

Crushed me, I cried like a little baby. Felt like the end of the world.

In the end best thing that ever happened to me. I put 120% of my attention on myself. Did great in school. Got a new car. Got a wonderful job. Accomplished everything I ever wanted to do.

With women in my life I realized I am weak.
 

Stumps

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Jun 18, 2001
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Originally posted by: stars
Originally posted by: txrandom
Originally posted by: stars
Dated a girl for 6 years, engaged during the last year. Left work early one day, walked in on her and a guy having sex while our 1 month old daughter was asleep in the playpen, in the same room.

What ended up happening?

I calmly asked the guy to leave and he dressed himself and left without speaking a word. Which I'm glad because I was very upset at the time. I spent about an hour or so there after he left before leaving myself. The guy she was sleeping with died a week later in some type of mishap at a mental institution - apparently he had severe problems and was seeking treatment when it occured. It really scared me knowing that he was around our daughter just a week earlier.

I tried to be civil about it all due to us having a child and offered to fully support her while she got her life in order. This approach failed and I took her to court repeatedly over a 2 year period. This was in the early 90s and at the time a father was pretty much screwed unless he was married to the female. I offered child support and every rational thing a caring father could do to see his child when taking her to court. She kept declining my offers and basically used our child as a pawn to hurt me. Eventually I dismissed it all and went on with my life. It was my only option at this point because it was killing me. To this day I've never seen our daughter since the day I left and really doubt I ever will.


For me this is a completly unacceptable outcome for my present situation. If it comes to the worst (which is heading to very fast) I will have no hesitation in using my GF's medical conditions against her to obtain custody of my daughter.

I can't think of myself in my current circumstance and just cut and run ,which despite being completly wrong, I have thought of.

To me, My daughter must come first, I have to protect her and I will do anything in my power to do so.

Unfortunately for me, the law is also working against me, I just can't take my daughter and leave despite the fact that she is in some danger if her mother keeps going the way she is going, If I leave with my daughter...I can be charged with kidnapping and face jail.

The law also works against my GF get the help she needs, I have tried and tried to get her the help, but unless she actually requests it or is a direct danger to somebody (she needs to attempt to harm somebody before she is considered dangerous) nothing can be done.

so now I have to wait out the legal system and hope that custody(which I am trying to do behind my GF's back, but as soon as a court date is set, sh!t will hit the fan) is awarded to me before something horrible happens to my daughter.

I don't want to take my daughter away from my GF, but I must think of my daughters safety...I don't want to sneak around as well, but if she finds out before I can get my little Emily to safety bad things will happen.

For now Emily spends a lot of time staying with my parents, allowing my GF to get some "rest" from Emily.

 

Ricemarine

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Sep 10, 2004
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Well, never was in a relationship...

But..
Worst is being hit with drum stick on the head...
Those hurt...
 

MmmSkyscraper

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Turned up on my doorstep with a black eye, crying and shaking. After I flipped out and wanted to stab mad peeps, she confessed she'd been to first aid training, the black eye was makeup and she thought it'd be "funny" :confused:

Har de fvcking har :| Never forgave her.
 

stars

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Feb 27, 2002
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I wish you the best Stumps if your current situation becomes worse. I could not have seen my daughter legally. I would have had to broken the law myself and most likely taken others lives to raise her. A fugitive really cant father a child under good conditions. It really wasnt a matter of accepting the circumstances or a definite outcome, instead it was doing what was best for the child and myself at the time.
 

Stumps

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Originally posted by: stars
I wish you the best Stumps if your current situation becomes worse. I could not have seen my daughter legally. I would have had to broken the law myself and most likely taken others lives to raise her. A fugitive really cant father a child under good conditions. It really wasnt a matter of accepting the circumstances or a definite outcome, instead it was doing what was best for the child and myself at the time.

For me it's kinda strange....6 weeks ago my GF and myself were preparing for the birth of our first child....everything seemed OK, sure there were some problems in the first half of the pregnacy but the second half went very smooth, even the birth was uneventful and normal...now it's pure hell...and no matter what I do to try and help my GF it seems to make things much worse.

She has become a Psyhcotic paranoid freak, and she scares the living sh!t out of me. I worry for her all of the time, but at the same time I worry even more about Emily.

I had to take time off of work because she can't be left unsupervised with Emily and yet the fvcking Authorities won't do jack sh!t about it...she has to actually try to harm Emily or myself before they can get involved...how fvcked up can you get.

Her parents (not biological) wont do sh!t to help us because I won't let them have full custody of Emily...my GF's mother is half of her problem, she always screws with my GF's mind and makes up sh!t to cause trouble and I know if she get custody of Emily, she will turn out exactly like my GF.

I know it sounds very one sided...but it really is, my GF has become a screwball, her whole family is screwed up...it's just totally fvcked up.

It's funny how things never turn out how you plan them, all I ever wanted for Emily is the best and now I'm stuggling to make sure she will she her first birthday.

 

shortylickens

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Originally posted by: animalia
Maybe SHE DID ONLY USE IT ONCE? maybe the clerk was lying to you just to be a jerk. There is the female you probably shouldnt have trusted. Maybe your friend wasn't lying. How the hell could the clerk tell it was jergens? She was probably in an entirely different dept. Ever think maybe that was the case before entirely changing your bias? the bias I might add you based on one experience.
Thats a very good question and I'm glad somebody asked it because its the one part of the story lacking in details.

I found out later from my mom that the big guys (like estee lauder) have this stuff happen ALL the time. They always have to check to make sure they are getting quality product returned to them, (their crap is expensive).
Anywho, after getting ripped so much they finally came up with some chemical tests they can run right at the sales counter. When the lady disappeared for 5 minutes I thought she was trying to find the papers for doing a refund.
In fact she was running about 6 different quick&easy tests to see that my product was genuine, (litmus paper and similar stuff like mixing a drop with some bromide or something).
They had already experienced so many people using chilled jergens they knew what it was after the third test. I didnt believe my mom when she told me so I went back another day and the saleswoman confirmed it. (Different saleswoman that day.)
She also said the reason they didnt call the cops that night is because on more than one occasion they had seen a young guy come in and get used to do the womans dirty work for him. My little adventure was not even original.
It explained why I didnt even see my so-called friend for a long time. She was probably on the other side of the mall and waited for me to walk out free and clear.
 

stars

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Stumps, my past relationship is probably similar to what youre describing in your current relationship. The girl had a great background and family. She had zero warning signs etc. Then, bang it was like she snapped one day. I still cant comprehend it all, even after 11 years because it was such a series of unrational events. I do (for the most part from friends of my ex's family) know that my daughter is in good health and that she is a very intelligent, happy child - so, it brings some peace to me. My ex's parents ended up raising her for the first part of her childhood and my ex eventually straightened herself out and married. It's crazy how people are sometimes. Really, all we can do is handle ourselves just and accordingly regardless comes our way.
 

Dulanic

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1. Cheated
2. Asked me to prom and dumped me during prom. We were dating a while before prom, so it wasn't just to fvck with me.
 

Vegitto

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Being the girl of my dreams, seducing me (kissing, BJ etc) and then bursting out in laughter when I popped the question..

Stupid bitch.
 

SamurAchzar

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Now listen closely folks because this is important:
When you're 17 and cant play sports and dont get straight A's and arent even allowed to hang out with the nerds and the punks think you're too dull and the goths think you're too "brainwashed" and and the teachers think you're going nowhere and a beautiful girl says "Your gonna be somebody", then, well, I cant describe it.
You actually have to be there to understand.


Now I don't wanna sound like a chick or something, but I find that touching :thumbsup::brokenheart: