We have to understand that the fundamentals of our society are evil, that we evolved as an around thirty member tribe affiliation where everybody was born with purpose and played some part in the group survival. These days we expect each person to be a bacon alpha male and the rest of us are shit. The glue of existential reality, the visible experience of interdependence has been lost. I can support myself and the world around me runs on auto pilot. I don't give a shit who lives or dies. I don't need them and they don't need me. I am all alone in my insanity. I am best off personally without moral obligations. The less I help others the better off I am, that is until the psychotic nature of the world I create some worthless piece of shit who scales the wall of my gated community and ups and out-competes me with a gun or a blade.
So job one is going to have to be reversing the individualistic binge capitalist competition has created in the form of a religious worship. The ego gratification I get from being more successful than most is going to have to trend back to a realization that my greater capacity is narrowly focused. I don't like to waste my time teaching kids but I need them to know enough not to kill me as teens, so I am just going to have to pay somebody to do these lesser tasks and enough that they are content to do it.
So first our attitude has to change.
Then we have to know how to help, know what help is and what isn't.
That will mean we have to see that gifting isn't helping if it's not emergency aid.
We will also have to understand what people really feel and how what they feel determines who they believe they are.
The only worthwhile person, the only one you can trust, the only person who can exercise true personal responsibility is somebody with self respect. All the rest of us are vacuum cleaners attempting to fill the hole in our self respect with money sex drugs etc.
Just as respect can't be forced, self respect can't be given; it has to be earned.
This is why it is vital that all welfare be designed to create self respect, the feeling we get with self capacity, in ANYTHING. Anything productive and proper that you do builds self esteem just as any knowledge that you gain from self analysis as to why you don't like yourself also build it.
So the answer to welfare is simple. Provide the broken with mental health that focuses on self understanding how we were destroyed as children, and provides a path for productive self expression. But the best way to do it is anonymously. We need to find ways for people to feel they are helping themselves rather than that we are the ones doing the helping. You only value what you yourself earn.
This means that all help, again other than emergency aid, must be earned, that it is not help but salary. This means also that the government has to create work for those who are not fit for the rat race meaningless life we have created. Almost everybody can do something. Teach people how to make nail soup. Do you know what nail soup is?