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What to do if girl violates you

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Shut up and just be glad your getting any. (Finals week sucks, girls get too stressed out)


If you feel that you can't work it out with her on a personal level, then just ignore her, she'll get the point. Rape charges are a bit much to do to a friend I think. >>



so you'd let a male friend 'violate' you and get away with it and not put rape charges on the person?

Sorry unless they had a 'very' good reason to violate me NO friend is getting off. Sorry but if he violates me then he gets a run in the cops.
 


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<< you fall asleep only to wake up to find her...ummm servicing you orally. >>



Am i the only one who doesn't find that to be a bad thing????? >>

Uhhh yeah. You apparently missed the part about his having a significant other and being in a committed relationship? >>



I'm still not seeing the bad side here 😀

There's no such thing as bad oral sex. Some is just better than others. >>



Yeah right, wait till she starts using the teeth!!!
 


<< Should you tell your signifcant other? >>


I would, if she found out about it without you telling her, she'd be really upset. If you do decide to tell her, sit her down and explain how relationships are about communication, and you have something to tell her. Make sure she understands what happened was done without your consent.


<< Should you ever even talk to your friend again? This is a complicated one. >>


Talk to her first and tell her just how upset you are. What she did was (again) without your consent and that could easily be construed as a rape situation. As to whether or not you stay friends, that is entirely up to you. If you do, however, I'd make sure I was never alone with her in such a way again to avoid a repeat of what happened.
 
btw you should stay away from your "friend". it'll be better for the both of you, she will get over you eventually, and then you guys can be friends again.
 
Definitely tell your girlfriend. She needs to know about this. Tell the other girl to come over to my place, I'll take care of her.
 


<< What if you were really good friends with a girl, but due to another relationship you were committed to you didn't want to be any more than just friends. Your friend wants it to be more than it is though, and you have some akward moments but think you have cleared everything up with a long long conversation one day. So several weeks later you are both watching TV and you fall asleep only to wake up to find her...ummm servicing you orally. Needlless to say you get really pissed and kick her out. What to do next? How do you handle this? Should you tell your signifcant other? Should you ever even talk to your friend again? This is a complicated one. >>



GOOD LORD. You must be gay? You kicked her out? If you truly were asleep and awoke to that you should of finished then never spoken of it again. It's not like you were looking to cheat, she just took advantage of you 🙂

On second thought. The other's made a good point. Since you rejected the girl who was blowin ya, she might go run and tell your g/f. So you might as well suck it up (hah) and go confess to your girlfriend how your "friend" orally raped you.

Relax!
 
How long have you been with your g/f, and how's the communication/trust level in that relationship? If you tell your g/f, the possibility is significant that she would leave you due to emotional distress (and probably tell you that you were stupid to get yourself into that situation in the first place).
 
I would:

1) Tell the friend that she violated your trust and you don't think you can be friends with her anymore.

2) You may or may not want to tell your girlfriend... you didn't do anything wrong, so it really depends on how supportive she would be.


I know a lot of guys can't see whats wrong with your dilemna, but when you have a commited relationship with someone else and when the behavior is so... odd like that - well, it isn't worth it.

Good luck!
 
Sure, explain to your significant other why you guys went to sleep right next to each other, presumable in the same bed - but nah, you were weren't interested in her attention.

This is probably why cops probably don't take date rape seriously if it happens to a guy, but nonetheless, its rape.
 


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<< you fall asleep only to wake up to find her...ummm servicing you orally. >>



Am i the only one who doesn't find that to be a bad thing????? >>



me

with my wife it's the other way, whenever we're in the hanky panky mood she falls asleep 🙁
 


<< apparently you've never had the pleasure of being chased by a girl you really don't want.

There were a few girls in college I could put in that category, but thankfully none of them were bold enough make a move like that. I really don't know what I would have done in that situation. >>



I would have pretended to be asleep the whole time and let her finish. 😀
 


<< Should you tell your signifcant other? >>

I would think that she deserves to know... cover your ass. Rumors are a bitch.




<< Should you ever even talk to your friend again? >>

Depends. You should probably talk to her and ask her why she doesn't respect you, respect your significant other, and respect herself. Talk to her when you're not pissed. Have a logical conversation with her. Let her know how you feel. If I were you, I would keep my distance from someone like that...

nik
 
Ya know, now that's I've had a moment to think about this...

What were you thinking by putting yourself in this situation? How did you end up asleep next to this girl, alone? Who's fault was this really?
 


<< Ya know, now that's I've had a moment to think about this...

What were you thinking by putting yourself in this situation? How did you end up asleep next to this girl, alone? Who's fault was this really? >>

GREAT point. Him for putting himself in the situation, but her for takin advantage of it. They're both at fault.

nik
 


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<< Ya know, now that's I've had a moment to think about this...

What were you thinking by putting yourself in this situation? How did you end up asleep next to this girl, alone? Who's fault was this really? >>

GREAT point. Him for putting himself in the situation, but her for takin advantage of it. They're both at fault.

nik >>



Yeah! That's it! Your both going to hell now. You evil sinners!
 
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