What to do if girl violates you

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<< Ya know, now that's I've had a moment to think about this...

What were you thinking by putting yourself in this situation? How did you end up asleep next to this girl, alone? Who's fault was this really? >>



Yeh, his pants mysteriously unzipped themselves and her mouth just happened to be near his croch at the same time.

 

[911paramedic]

Send flowers?

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

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<< Ya know, now that's I've had a moment to think about this...

What were you thinking by putting yourself in this situation? How did you end up asleep next to this girl, alone? Who's fault was this really? >>



Yeh, his pants mysteriously unzipped themselves and her mouth just happened to be near his croch at the same time.

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No, but the thing is that if he didn't put himself in that situation to begin with, nothing would have happened. Maybe clairvoyance isn't something you're good at, but some people...



<< Yeah! That's it! Your both going to hell now. You evil sinners! >>

Say hello to Jerry Falwell for me...

nik

 

[Hammer]

And then get pissed off at her and kick her out, right? Brilliant.



<< I would have pretended to be asleep the whole time and let her finish. >>

 

[vi edit]

<< No, but the thing is that if he didn't put himself in that situation to begin with, nothing would have happened. Maybe clairvoyance isn't something you're good at, but some people... >>



I'm sorry but I don't agree. If he made it perfectly clear that he had no romantic/sexual interest in her, and he honestly thought that those differences were behind him, then I feel he is absolved of any responsibility.

Please stop criminalizing the victim here.

 

[vi edit]

Look at it this way - What if a girl has too much to drink at a party, wants to go home, and has a sober male friend who she trust take her home. He gets her home, waits for her to fall asleep and the rapes her.

What's your take on that? Is the girl at fault?

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

If he knew that she had the hots for him, why'd he take the chance anyway? If he's going to take the chance that she's going to or not going to do anything, he's partially responsible for what happens. Did he honestly think that she could put away those feelings if they were that strong or completely ignore them?

Me? I don't trust humans that well.

nik

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

<< Look at it this way - What if a girl has too much to drink at a party, wants to go home, and has a sober male friend who she trust take her home. He gets her home, waits for her to fall asleep and the rapes her.

What's your take on that? Is the girl at fault? >>

If she had someone else she could have called, perhaps a sibling or good female friend, then, yes, she's partially at fault. She made the decision to trust him. He broke it. He's responsible for the rape, but she opened herself to it.

nik

 

[Deeko]

You people who are seriously saying that he should have let her finish probably don't have a serious relationship and don't deserve one. I have a girlfriend, if I woke up and some other girl was doing that I would throw her across the room.

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

<< You people who are seriously saying that he should have let her finish probably don't have a serious relationship and don't deserve one. I have a girlfriend, if I woke up and some other girl was doing that I would throw her across the room. >>

haha - I would love to see my significant other get pissed and kick the sh!t outta some chick that was trying to force herself on me. That would be awesome.

But you know what they say... you can always tell a redhead's man by the "HE'S MINE" scratched into his back by her fingernails...

nik

 

[Stark]

1. Tell your girlfriend.
2. Enjoy the catfight.
3. Hope you don't have genital herpes.
4. Never be alone with the girl again.

Next time you might find yourself handcuffed to the bed with her enjoying you like a 25 cent kiddie ride outside a supermarket. Then you'll need to worry about pregnancy.

 

[Optimus]

Listen,

For everyone saying "Thank her!", "Let her finish!", etc - how would you feel if the situation were reversed - that your girlfriend fell asleep near a friend she trusted, and then she woke up to find him doing this to her?

Should she thank him? Send him flowers?

How would you, as the BF, feel about it?

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

<< Listen,

For everyone saying "Thank her!", "Let her finish!", etc - how would you feel if the situation were reversed - that your girlfriend fell asleep near a friend she trusted, and then she woke up to find him doing this to her?

Should she thank him? Send him flowers?

How would you, as the BF, feel about it? >>

I would say that the physical rehab center is going to need more funding from the hospital for his ensuing care (if the morgue doesn't get a phone call first).

nik

 

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<< If she had someone else she could have called, perhaps a sibling or good female friend, then, yes, she's partially at fault. She made the decision to trust him. He broke it. He's responsible for the rape, but she opened herself to it. >>



And once again, I disagree, and it's that same attitude that makes women feel like such pile of sh!t from society when they are raped.

A person should not have to live in fear that they will be sexually assaulted the minute they let their guards down...especially when in the company of someone they consider a friend.

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

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<< If she had someone else she could have called, perhaps a sibling or good female friend, then, yes, she's partially at fault. She made the decision to trust him. He broke it. He's responsible for the rape, but she opened herself to it. >>



And once again, I disagree, and it's that same attitude that makes women feel like such pile of sh!t from society when they are raped.

A person should not have to live in fear that they will be sexually assaulted the minute they let their guards down...especially when in the company of someone they consider a friend. >>

If you're going to let someone drive you home, your judge of character should have given you clues a long time before that you can trust them with your life when you're drunk. Because that's what you're doing essentially. There are rape cases where the woman is completely innocent... but are you gonna fight just as much for those women as the ones who go to work in a strip bar, flirt like hell with some old man hoping to get an extra buck, the get raped in the back by the same old man? I should hope not...

nik

 

[olds]

<< I would buy a lottery ticket. >>


LOL
That got you a 10.

 

[vi edit]

Take some criminology and psychology classes and you'll understand.

Rape is not about sexual or romantic interest. It's about domination and control. Hell, many rapists don't even reach sexual climax during the assult.

 

[eyecandy]

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<< You people who are seriously saying that he should have let her finish probably don't have a serious relationship and don't deserve one. I have a girlfriend, if I woke up and some other girl was doing that I would throw her across the room. >>

haha - I would love to see my significant other get pissed and kick the sh!t outta some chick that was trying to force herself on me. That would be awesome.

But you know what they say... you can always tell a redhead's man by the "HE'S MINE" scratched into his back by her fingernails...

nik >>


You know I would, too. No one else touches my man!
And that "He's mine" didn't stay in your back for too long!
~Chels

 

[pyonir]

<< Take some criminology and psychology classes and you'll understand.

Rape is not about sexual or romantic interest. It's about domination and control. Hell, many rapists don't even reach sexual climax during the assult. >>


or read any book by John Douglas (although he is full of it for the most part)

You are correct sir.

 

[AreaCode707]

I think you guys are rather ridiculous, saying it's his fault. Why on earth would he believe that some chick that had a crush on him would go so far as to orally rape him? How many of you are that wary of people that you know? What's the statistic, some absurd number of rapes are committed by people that the victim knows. The guy had no reason to believe his friend would do anything like this - she's responsible for it and he could probably press charges. I can't imagine why you'd blame him for this, especially given his immediate reaction.

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

<< Take some criminology and psychology classes and you'll understand.

Rape is not about sexual or romantic interest. It's about domination and control. Hell, many rapists don't even reach sexual climax during the assult. >>

My point is that there are some cases where the woman invites it, but the thread isn't about men raping women. I understand that most rapes are domination related. But I'm saying that you have to understand each and every case -you can't just say "she was raped? oh, he's a bad man and she's a perfect little angel" the same way you can't say that about this guy. He knew she wanted to jump his bones, reguardless of what conclusions he's come to, he shouldn't have compromised himself by putting himself in that situation.

nik

 

[Orsorum]

<< Ya know, now that's I've had a moment to think about this...

What were you thinking by putting yourself in this situation? How did you end up asleep next to this girl, alone? Who's fault was this really? >>



Try finding out your sister was raped, and say that to her. I'm sure you'd get a real positive response. Ignorant a$$holes.

The thing is, this is the same argument made against a LOT of women when they get raped. The fact is, people have the right to dress/act any way they want to - however, if they don't expressly give consent for an act like this, it's definable as rape.

I would bring this to the cops, personally. This counts as a form of sexual assault.

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

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<< Ya know, now that's I've had a moment to think about this...

What were you thinking by putting yourself in this situation? How did you end up asleep next to this girl, alone? Who's fault was this really? >>



Try finding out your sister was raped, and say that to her. I'm sure you'd get a real positive response. Ignorant a$$holes.

The thing is, this is the same argument made against a LOT of women when they get raped. The fact is, people have the right to dress/act any way they want to - however, if they don't expressly give consent for an act like this, it's definable as rape.

I would bring this to the cops, personally. This counts as a form of sexual assault. >>

Personally, I wouldn't accuse my sister of anything any time soon because she'd already be messed up from being raped. I would be there for support and her rehab. Jumping her sh!t would only push me away from her. The point is that he wasn't emotionally hurt from this whole ordeal, just probably pissed as hell. Therefore, someone comes right out and says that he should have paid a little more attention to what he was doing.

nik

 

[GSOYF]

count your blessings....any girl that is willing to blow you that easily is definitely worth keeping around....

word up

 

[abovewood]

<< who cares, since it didn't actually happen. >>