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child of wonder

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My sister is like that and she's 25.

Parents have kicked her out many times and keep letting her come back to live with them.

October 1st is the next "kick out date" but I'm sure she'll just go live with loser friends or shack up with some guy off the internet in exchange for sex. 6-8 weeks later when no one will put up with her stupid, free loading ass she'll come crawling back to mom and dad and they'll let her move right back in.
 

nerdress

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Originally posted by: OCguy
Originally posted by: nerdress
Originally posted by: scott916
Although you probably did the right thing, he deserved to get his ass kicked. I would've lost it if he spit on me, but cheers to you for your restraint. Next time kick him in the balls or call the cops on him.

The last time I tried hitting him, he beat me until I couldn't stand anymore.

Foster care almost took me away when I was in high school :\

Sorry to hear that. If you guys are ever in LA again, i'll just happen to come by and "talk" to him. ;)

Later in life he will regret being a little shit.

My brother is lucky my boyfriend wasn't there; he was on the phone the entire time and damn near drove out from Reno to deck some consequence into him.
 

thegimp03

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Violent little prick isn't he? Hope he doesn't have a girlfriend because she should take how he treats his sister as an indication of how he'll treat her. You probably should have kicked him in the balls and dropped him. A baseball bat would have come in handy too. If he hits you back, in front of his friends (which he probably wouldn't) call the cops. They'll haul him off in about 3 seconds and he can sit in jail next to guys that are twice his size and four times stronger than he is.

In the meantime, make your parents kick him out.
 

OCGuy

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Originally posted by: nerdress
Originally posted by: OCguy
Originally posted by: nerdress
Originally posted by: scott916
Although you probably did the right thing, he deserved to get his ass kicked. I would've lost it if he spit on me, but cheers to you for your restraint. Next time kick him in the balls or call the cops on him.

The last time I tried hitting him, he beat me until I couldn't stand anymore.

Foster care almost took me away when I was in high school :\

Sorry to hear that. If you guys are ever in LA again, i'll just happen to come by and "talk" to him. ;)

Later in life he will regret being a little shit.

My brother is lucky my boyfriend wasn't there; he was on the phone the entire time and damn near drove out from Reno to deck some consequence into him.

And if he ever actually touched you I hope your BF would be on the highway in an instant.
 

nerdress

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Originally posted by: child of wonder
My sister is like that and she's 25.

Parents have kicked her out many times and keep letting her come back to live with them.

October 1st is the next "kick out date" but I'm sure she'll just go live with loser friends or shack up with some guy off the internet in exchange for sex. 6-8 weeks later when no one will put up with her stupid, free loading ass she'll come crawling back to mom and dad and they'll let her move right back in.

this, except my brother is a hypochondriac and won't have sex with random people. The only reason I'm not freaking out right now is because of that.

But he's a fucking free loader. I'm pretty sure this was it, though. Spitting in your sister's face? Was he trying to set a record of how low he could go?
 

skyking

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Sorry to hear that kind of thing. No matter how bad it has been you still care for him in some way and it is hard to feel that way about a brother. I hope he gets his shit together for everyone's sake.
The only thing to do for you and your parents is to let him know that you care and love him and will always be there, when he can come back to be a human being. Till then he needs to GTFO.
 

vi edit

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Buy a taser? And post videos of you using it on him?
 

nerdress

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Originally posted by: OCguy
Originally posted by: nerdress
Originally posted by: OCguy
Originally posted by: nerdress
Originally posted by: scott916
Although you probably did the right thing, he deserved to get his ass kicked. I would've lost it if he spit on me, but cheers to you for your restraint. Next time kick him in the balls or call the cops on him.

The last time I tried hitting him, he beat me until I couldn't stand anymore.

Foster care almost took me away when I was in high school :\

Sorry to hear that. If you guys are ever in LA again, i'll just happen to come by and "talk" to him. ;)

Later in life he will regret being a little shit.

My brother is lucky my boyfriend wasn't there; he was on the phone the entire time and damn near drove out from Reno to deck some consequence into him.

And if he ever actually touched you I hope your BF would be on the highway in an instant.

Yeah, he would have. Undoubtedly. He was on the phone the entire time my brother and I were screaming at each other, and that would have been one major thud if he hit me in the face. His fist could have simultaneously broken my nose and given me two black eyes in one swift right hook. The boyfriend tried telling me to leave the house because he didn't think I was safe there...I didn't feel safe either, but I was too tired and in hysterics to be on the road.
 

waffleironhead

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MYOB. I always figured people lost the tattle tale tendency once they were out of grade school. Guess I was wrong. If your parents catch him doing something wrong all on their own so be it. But stay the hell out of it.
 

randay

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slap to the face and kick to the balls, then kick out his friends. your brother needs some tough love, and youre not helping him any by being passive. show him whats up, and if he lays a finger on you, the other guys in his cell can show him whats up.
 

nakedfrog

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Originally posted by: waffleironhead
MYOB. I always figured people lost the tattle tale tendency once they were out of grade school. Guess I was wrong. If your parents catch him doing something wrong all on their own so be it. But stay the hell out of it.

What? :confused:
How is this not her business?
 

nerdress

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Originally posted by: waffleironhead
MYOB. I always figured people lost the tattle tale tendency once they were out of grade school. Guess I was wrong. If your parents catch him doing something wrong all on their own so be it. But stay the hell out of it.

The guy is 21 years old, free loads and is ruining a house doing something he's not supposed to do--maybe if he paid my parents rent so they don't lose their house, then I wouldn't have said anything. But as far as I'm concerned, if he wants the privilege of having people over, he should take some responsibility and a) get a job b) pay my parents rent and c) stop acting like such an asshole.

The worst part is that my brother is damn near genius; if he knew I would be staying on Sunday, he wouldn't have had the party. He's a cunning little prick and he knows it too.
 

AstroManLuca

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Originally posted by: waffleironhead
MYOB. I always figured people lost the tattle tale tendency once they were out of grade school. Guess I was wrong. If your parents catch him doing something wrong all on their own so be it. But stay the hell out of it.

MYOB doesn't really apply when he starts using physical violence against his own sister. When he's living there and is a constant physical threat, it is very much her business.
 

waffleironhead

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Originally posted by: nakedfrog
Originally posted by: waffleironhead
MYOB. I always figured people lost the tattle tale tendency once they were out of grade school. Guess I was wrong. If your parents catch him doing something wrong all on their own so be it. But stay the hell out of it.

What? :confused:
How is this not her business?

His interactions with parents and their rules is none of her business. So what if he has people over. Is she some enforcer or something? Never understood this "Ima gonna tell on you" mentality.
 
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You should of been on ATOT posting in real time.

"my brother is drunk and screaming with friends"

"update he now has his pants down and is dry humping a sculpture my mom made"
 

Crusty

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Originally posted by: waffleironhead
MYOB. I always figured people lost the tattle tale tendency once they were out of grade school. Guess I was wrong. If your parents catch him doing something wrong all on their own so be it. But stay the hell out of it.

I'm all for MYOB, except when it's a family member. There's no excuse for her brother to treat her family the way he does, period.
 

AstroManLuca

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Originally posted by: waffleironhead
Originally posted by: nakedfrog
Originally posted by: waffleironhead
MYOB. I always figured people lost the tattle tale tendency once they were out of grade school. Guess I was wrong. If your parents catch him doing something wrong all on their own so be it. But stay the hell out of it.

What? :confused:
How is this not her business?

His interactions with parents and their rules is none of her business. So what if he has people over. Is she some enforcer or something? Never understood this "Ima gonna tell on you" mentality.

What about the fact that he had a bunch of loud, rowdy friends over and she couldn't sleep? Is her own sleep also not her business? And again, what about the threat of bodily harm?
 

waffleironhead

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Originally posted by: nerdress
Originally posted by: waffleironhead
MYOB. I always figured people lost the tattle tale tendency once they were out of grade school. Guess I was wrong. If your parents catch him doing something wrong all on their own so be it. But stay the hell out of it.

The guy is 21 years old, free loads and is ruining a house doing something he's not supposed to do--maybe if he paid my parents rent so they don't lose their house, then I wouldn't have said anything. But as far as I'm concerned, if he wants the privilege of having people over, he should take some responsibility and a) get a job b) pay my parents rent and c) stop acting like such an asshole.

The worst part is that my brother is damn near genius; if he knew I would be staying on Sunday, he wouldn't have had the party. He's a cunning little prick and he knows it too.

His relationship between the parents is none of your business. ITS NOT YOUR HOUSE. You acted like a child and deserved to be treated like one.
 

skim milk

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Originally posted by: nerdress
Originally posted by: waffleironhead
MYOB. I always figured people lost the tattle tale tendency once they were out of grade school. Guess I was wrong. If your parents catch him doing something wrong all on their own so be it. But stay the hell out of it.

The worst part is that my brother is damn near genius; if he knew I would be staying on Sunday, he wouldn't have had the party. He's a cunning little prick and he knows it too.

:roll: everyone thinks their child/sibling/parent/whoever they are related to is a "genius"
 

AstroManLuca

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Originally posted by: waffleironhead
Originally posted by: nerdress
Originally posted by: waffleironhead
MYOB. I always figured people lost the tattle tale tendency once they were out of grade school. Guess I was wrong. If your parents catch him doing something wrong all on their own so be it. But stay the hell out of it.

The guy is 21 years old, free loads and is ruining a house doing something he's not supposed to do--maybe if he paid my parents rent so they don't lose their house, then I wouldn't have said anything. But as far as I'm concerned, if he wants the privilege of having people over, he should take some responsibility and a) get a job b) pay my parents rent and c) stop acting like such an asshole.

The worst part is that my brother is damn near genius; if he knew I would be staying on Sunday, he wouldn't have had the party. He's a cunning little prick and he knows it too.

His relationship between the parents is none of your business. ITS NOT YOUR HOUSE. You acted like a child and deserved to be treated like one.

Even if you believe that she is in the wrong for THREATENING to call their parents (note that she did not ACTUALLY call them; the entire incident was set off by the mere threat of it), what about the fact that he spat in her face and threatened to beat her up if she did anything about it?

Until you answer this question you are a gigantic douchebag.
 

waffleironhead

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Originally posted by: AstroManLuca
Originally posted by: waffleironhead
Originally posted by: nakedfrog
Originally posted by: waffleironhead
MYOB. I always figured people lost the tattle tale tendency once they were out of grade school. Guess I was wrong. If your parents catch him doing something wrong all on their own so be it. But stay the hell out of it.

What? :confused:
How is this not her business?

His interactions with parents and their rules is none of her business. So what if he has people over. Is she some enforcer or something? Never understood this "Ima gonna tell on you" mentality.

What about the fact that he had a bunch of loud, rowdy friends over and she couldn't sleep? Is her own sleep also not her business? And again, what about the threat of bodily harm?

He spit and "almost punched" No physical harm found. Plus she started with the disclaimer that she was all "hormonal". I'm siding with the brother on this one.
 

Chryso

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Originally posted by: OCguy
And if he ever actually touched you I hope your BF would be on the highway in an instant.

Having a boyfriend get involved in a family squabble is a huge mess waiting to happen. You just don't know how the parents will react to having an outsider come into their house and kick their sons ass however much he may deserve it.
 

nerdress

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Originally posted by: waffleironhead
Originally posted by: nakedfrog
Originally posted by: waffleironhead
MYOB. I always figured people lost the tattle tale tendency once they were out of grade school. Guess I was wrong. If your parents catch him doing something wrong all on their own so be it. But stay the hell out of it.

What? :confused:
How is this not her business?

His interactions with parents and their rules is none of her business. So what if he has people over. Is she some enforcer or something? Never understood this "Ima gonna tell on you" mentality.

My parents have told me that I'm allowed to stay over at their house anytime I wish; it's still "my house". When it comes to my brother, they don't even want him over. They kick him out constantly. I'm not an "enforcer", but my parents trust me to the point where they can rely on me to make sure if something goes on in our house that isn't allowed, that I'll tell them.

If I did those things too, I wouldn't have said anything. But I hold a high respect for the amount of money, blood, sweat, tears and effort my mother put into it to make it a sort of sanctuary for our family to retreat to, and I'll be damned if my asshole brother ruins it.