what should i have done? *UPDATE*

[zinfamous]

Originally posted by: nerdress

Originally posted by: scott916
Although you probably did the right thing, he deserved to get his ass kicked. I would've lost it if he spit on me, but cheers to you for your restraint. Next time kick him in the balls or call the cops on him.

The last time I tried hitting him, he beat me until I couldn't stand anymore.

Foster care almost took me away when I was in high school :\

:Q WTF?

no one has taught you the "grab, yank, and twist" technique? I wouldn't bother waiting for him to spit on you again or anything, just go up to him later today or tomorrow and apply technique to his balls when he least suspects it. Repeat for added effect.

 

[dabuddha]

Originally posted by: nerdress

Originally posted by: waffleironhead
MYOB. I always figured people lost the tattle tale tendency once they were out of grade school. Guess I was wrong. If your parents catch him doing something wrong all on their own so be it. But stay the hell out of it.

The guy is 21 years old, free loads and is ruining a house doing something he's not supposed to do--maybe if he paid my parents rent so they don't lose their house, then I wouldn't have said anything. But as far as I'm concerned, if he wants the privilege of having people over, he should take some responsibility and a) get a job b) pay my parents rent and c) stop acting like such an asshole.

The worst part is that my brother is damn near genius; if he knew I would be staying on Sunday, he wouldn't have had the party. He's a cunning little prick and he knows it too.

waffleironhead head it on the head (no pun intended ) You know this is how he is. You know how your parents are. I know it's family but if you keep getting yourself involved when even your parents don't seem to care, you're just asking for trouble. Move on.

EDIT: This is assuming that you don't live at home still. If you do, move out and move on.

 

[nerdress]

Originally posted by: Cattlegod
How old are you? Why don't you just move out and let your parents know that you moved out because of him. You will be much happier.

I'm almost 23, and I don't live at home anymore. But since I drove to Reno and couldn't leave my car in San Francisco for the night (where I live = no parking, at all, and tickets are wayyy too prevalent, I can't afford them), so my parents said to stay at their house and just drive to work in the morning, then drive back to their house and they'd drive me home.

It's a pain in the ass, but at least I got a little vacation...

 

[zinfamous]

Originally posted by: ivan2

Originally posted by: SagaLore

Originally posted by: skim milk

Originally posted by: nerdress

Originally posted by: waffleironhead
MYOB. I always figured people lost the tattle tale tendency once they were out of grade school. Guess I was wrong. If your parents catch him doing something wrong all on their own so be it. But stay the hell out of it.

The worst part is that my brother is damn near genius; if he knew I would be staying on Sunday, he wouldn't have had the party. He's a cunning little prick and he knows it too.

:roll: everyone thinks their child/sibling/parent/whoever they are related to is a "genius"

It was sarcasm. An entire thread and that is one thing you thought to comment on?

dude's first reply got no attention.

and deservedly so. though I'm surprised that frito's first response had yet to be responded to with the "Fritolays.jpg" link.

 

[nerdress]

Originally posted by: dabuddha

Originally posted by: nerdress

Originally posted by: waffleironhead
MYOB. I always figured people lost the tattle tale tendency once they were out of grade school. Guess I was wrong. If your parents catch him doing something wrong all on their own so be it. But stay the hell out of it.

The guy is 21 years old, free loads and is ruining a house doing something he's not supposed to do--maybe if he paid my parents rent so they don't lose their house, then I wouldn't have said anything. But as far as I'm concerned, if he wants the privilege of having people over, he should take some responsibility and a) get a job b) pay my parents rent and c) stop acting like such an asshole.

The worst part is that my brother is damn near genius; if he knew I would be staying on Sunday, he wouldn't have had the party. He's a cunning little prick and he knows it too.

waffleironhead head it on the head (no pun intended ) You know this is how he is. You know how your parents are. I know it's family but if you keep getting yourself involved when even your parents don't seem to care, you're just asking for trouble. Move on.

EDIT: This is assuming that you don't live at home still. If you do, move out and move on.

My parents DO care; they're literally at the tale end of things they've done. He's been on medications, been psychologically evaluated in a hospital for a week, went to a boarding school for people with behavioral problems for 2 years, was expelled from a school where expelled people go, extensive therapy sessions, etc. I could go on for months. It's been 10 years and he's just gotten worse; although his physical violent outbreaks have subsided for the most part.

I just hope he doesn't break and hit my father, my dad is fragile in his old age

He one time told my mother to "divorce my dad and they could go live together somewhere, because my dad is an asshole and my brother only cares about her."

Something is seriously wrong here.

 

[randay]

Originally posted by: zinfamous

Originally posted by: nerdress

Originally posted by: scott916
Although you probably did the right thing, he deserved to get his ass kicked. I would've lost it if he spit on me, but cheers to you for your restraint. Next time kick him in the balls or call the cops on him.

The last time I tried hitting him, he beat me until I couldn't stand anymore.

Foster care almost took me away when I was in high school :\

:Q WTF?

no one has taught you the "grab, yank, and twist" technique? I wouldn't bother waiting for him to spit on you again or anything, just go up to him later today or tomorrow and apply technique to his balls when he least suspects it. Repeat for added effect.

agree, repeat until the pitch of his voice matches his bitch lifestyle.

and if you are incapable, time to get some self defense lessons.

 

[nerdress]

Originally posted by: randay

agree, repeat until the pitch of his voice matches his bitch lifestyle.

and if you are incapable, time to get some self defense lessons.

I did at one point. It didn't matter how much self defense I took, he could still take me one handed. :sigh:

 

[zinfamous]

Originally posted by: nerdress

Originally posted by: dabuddha

Originally posted by: nerdress

Originally posted by: waffleironhead
MYOB. I always figured people lost the tattle tale tendency once they were out of grade school. Guess I was wrong. If your parents catch him doing something wrong all on their own so be it. But stay the hell out of it.

The guy is 21 years old, free loads and is ruining a house doing something he's not supposed to do--maybe if he paid my parents rent so they don't lose their house, then I wouldn't have said anything. But as far as I'm concerned, if he wants the privilege of having people over, he should take some responsibility and a) get a job b) pay my parents rent and c) stop acting like such an asshole.

The worst part is that my brother is damn near genius; if he knew I would be staying on Sunday, he wouldn't have had the party. He's a cunning little prick and he knows it too.

waffleironhead head it on the head (no pun intended ) You know this is how he is. You know how your parents are. I know it's family but if you keep getting yourself involved when even your parents don't seem to care, you're just asking for trouble. Move on.

EDIT: This is assuming that you don't live at home still. If you do, move out and move on.

My parents DO care; they're literally at the tale end of things they've done. He's been on medications, been psychologically evaluated in a hospital for a week, went to a boarding school for people with behavioral problems for 2 years, was expelled from a school where expelled people go, extensive therapy sessions, etc. I could go on for months. It's been 10 years and he's just gotten worse; although his physical violent outbreaks have subsided for the most part.

I just hope he doesn't break and hit my father, my dad is fragile in his old age

He one time told my mother to "divorce my dad and they could go live together somewhere, because my dad is an asshole and my brother only cares about her."

Something is seriously wrong here.

not enough beatings, I'd say. Maybe no one took the time to put him in his place?

 

[dabuddha]

Originally posted by: nerdress

Originally posted by: dabuddha

Originally posted by: nerdress

Originally posted by: waffleironhead
MYOB. I always figured people lost the tattle tale tendency once they were out of grade school. Guess I was wrong. If your parents catch him doing something wrong all on their own so be it. But stay the hell out of it.

The guy is 21 years old, free loads and is ruining a house doing something he's not supposed to do--maybe if he paid my parents rent so they don't lose their house, then I wouldn't have said anything. But as far as I'm concerned, if he wants the privilege of having people over, he should take some responsibility and a) get a job b) pay my parents rent and c) stop acting like such an asshole.

The worst part is that my brother is damn near genius; if he knew I would be staying on Sunday, he wouldn't have had the party. He's a cunning little prick and he knows it too.

waffleironhead head it on the head (no pun intended ) You know this is how he is. You know how your parents are. I know it's family but if you keep getting yourself involved when even your parents don't seem to care, you're just asking for trouble. Move on.

EDIT: This is assuming that you don't live at home still. If you do, move out and move on.

My parents DO care; they're literally at the tale end of things they've done. He's been on medications, been psychologically evaluated in a hospital for a week, went to a boarding school for people with behavioral problems for 2 years, was expelled from a school where expelled people go, extensive therapy sessions, etc. I could go on for months. It's been 10 years and he's just gotten worse; although his physical violent outbreaks have subsided for the most part.

I just hope he doesn't break and hit my father, my dad is fragile in his old age

He one time told my mother to "divorce my dad and they could go live together somewhere, because my dad is an asshole and my brother only cares about her."

Something is seriously wrong here.

Yeah, like I said before, its your parents. I guess I should have said, they don't care enough to do what needs to be done. Either way, it's their home and their lives. Sucks that they're in the situation that they're in, but they have to be the ones to enforce any rules.

 

[hanoverphist]

Originally posted by: Queasy

Originally posted by: So

Originally posted by: krunchykrome
Give your brother the cold shoulder. Let him know that his behavior will stain your relationship with him unless he changes.

I think it's way too late for that. Clearly this guy has not felt a need to care for himself. If everything is as you described, your parents need to pay two months rent in an apartment and turn him out on his ass.

This. Walking away and just letting your parents know what he did is enough. Let them handle the situation since it is their house.

that.

and if you can beat his ass, do it. or super glue his sheets to the front side of his body while he sleeps it off.

 

[Fritzo]

After he spit in your face you yell "YOU'RE A SPITTER??? IS THAT WHY YOUR BOYFRIEND BROKE UP WITH YOU?????!!!!"

Then...i don't know...wipe it off or something.

 

[BoomerD]

Originally posted by: skim milk
you want to come over to my place and we can talk this over?

Are you gonna do her nails and hair to console her?



nerdress, you need to leave that house and not return until the brother is out...preferrably in jail or a mental institution, but OUT of the house for good.

This sounds like an unwinnable situation for you. If your parents won't kick him out, you're out of luck.
COULD you have called the cops for him spitting in your face? Yes, but odds are, the worst that would have happened is he'd get a ticket for simple assault at most, (unless the cop decided to charge him with drunk & disorderly, or posession of pot--unlikely) then he'd have been REALLY pissed at you.

It sounds like you live in Reno. GO HOME...tell your parents that as long as he lives with them, they have to come visit YOU...and leave him home.

 

[Golgatha]

Originally posted by: BoomerD

Originally posted by: skim milk
you want to come over to my place and we can talk this over?

Are you gonna do her nails and hair to console her?



nerdress, you need to leave that house and not return until the brother is out...preferrably in jail or a mental institution, but OUT of the house for good.

This sounds like an unwinnable situation for you. If your parents won't kick him out, you're out of luck.
COULD you have called the cops for him spitting in your face? Yes, but odds are, the worst that would have happened is he'd get a ticket for simple assault at most, (unless the cop decided to charge him with drunk & disorderly, or posession of pot--unlikely) then he'd have been REALLY pissed at you.

It sounds like you live in Reno. GO HOME...tell your parents that as long as he lives with them, they have to come visit YOU...and leave him home.

Next time he's smoking pot, call 911 and report a fire due to smoke coming from your brother's room.

 

[nakedfrog]

Originally posted by: Golgatha
Next time he's smoking pot, call 911 and report a fire due to smoke coming from your brother's room.

It's California, I'm not sure how much they'd do.

 

[ivan2]

Originally posted by: nerdress

Originally posted by: randay

agree, repeat until the pitch of his voice matches his bitch lifestyle.

and if you are incapable, time to get some self defense lessons.

I did at one point. It didn't matter how much self defense I took, he could still take me one handed. :sigh:

have you tried hitting him with your pointy elbow?

 

[kalrith]

Shoot him.

 

[moshquerade]

I have three brothers. We would have some rough and tumbles sometimes when we were kids but never ever did one spit in my face. There are childhood squabbles and then there is total blantant disrespect like your stoner brother showed you.

Your brother is pretty much low life scum I deduce from your description, but he didn't get that way all on his own did he? Your parents had to have enabled him.

He needs to be kicked out of the house. Tough love.

 

[zerocool84]

Sounds like your parents need better parenting skills.

 

[Bspendleton79]

Your parents need to kick him out now. There is no excuse for that behavior. If I was you I would have beat the sh** out of him for something like that, particularly in front of his friends.

 

[Regs]

Originally posted by: kalrith
Shoot him.

I wouldn't even joke about that crap. Are you crazy?

 

[yh125d]

Don't kill him, just nick his arm or something

 

[Gooberlx2]

See I came in here without looking at the thread OP, so my default response was going to be "punch him in the face".

However, my guess is you probably can't take him...so...yeah, being the bigger person is the safest thing to do. Cold shoulder and a call to the cops next time. While he's resting up in jail, you need to immediately phone your parents and convince them to throw his shit to the curb and change the locks. Even if it's 3AM, wake them up and get things settled.

Angry aimless freeloaders like that are just poison to a cohesive existence. Eventually, he'll probably start stealing from you or the 'rents, if he doesn't already. If he's willing to be violent, it's just that much worse. If the guy can't find it within himself to being a productive person, all he's going to do is drag you and your family down.

My wife and I had to learn all that the hard way ourselves, after trying to help her brother serve his parole. The end result was he brought drugs any shady people to our house, and became violent in our home. We kicked his ass out after nearly 10 months of battles, and trying to help him. Then he did some dumb shit with some dumb people and wound up with another 7 year sentence, after having just served 9. Fuck him. Fuck him for having no respect or gratitude for what we and my wife's parents did for him. Fuck him for blowing his opportunity to not be treated like a caged animal.

At some point you and your folks may find yourselves having to take that same attitude.

 

[Red Squirrel]

Record him with his friends (video or audio) and show to parents when they get back. You could maybe threaten to call the cops if he does anything physical to you but probably best not to as they'll come, leave, and you're screwed.

 

[nakedfrog]

Originally posted by: Regs

Originally posted by: kalrith
Shoot him.

I wouldn't even joke about that crap. Are you crazy?

I don't know, it sounds like it would be a good lesson in humility for him. Don't wound him fatally or anything. Just a flesh wound to give him perspective.
Probably better to just kick him out and let real life beat his ass, though.

 

[TehMac]

Originally posted by: Regs

Originally posted by: kalrith
Shoot him.

I wouldn't even joke about that crap. Are you crazy?

Sadly, it sounds like that is the only real solution