This girl...

[0dd]

Originally posted by: Broohaha

Originally posted by: 0dd I can't believe that the majority of these posts indicate that the point of entering into a relationship is "getting laid".

Not necessarily.... I think what many of our peers are saying is that he needs a woman so he can get out of his self-induced misery. I was in that same stage before I had my frist girlfriend; I was totally hooked on one girl and was endlessly depressed. Once you finally hook up with that first girl, your whole world changes. You suddenly feel like a superhero and you have the confidence to do anything. Thus, "you need to get laid" doesnt necessarily mean sex, per se. Just that he needs to get out of this rut he is in.

So your are saying that your happiness is dependent on someone else?

 

[Peetoeng]

Originally posted by: idNut
Alright fvcka's, you've actually motivated me to do something about my obseity. I got me and two other friends that're going to take me weight lifting with them every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday. People say I have a lot of mass and it'd be better that I try to turn it into muscle rather than just losing it completely. I presently weigh about 230lbs and I'm looking to get down to 180lbs or 190lbs. Not so much for girls but because I have soooooooooo many gaming shirts that I've grown out of and I've spend a fortune on getting that I won't let go to waste.

Just go talk to her, dammit! Get it over with. If you want to lose weights, better your grades, maintain emotional balance, keep good finance, yada yada yada, you should do them because you want them period! Don't make then prerequisites to talk to her. She's friend with you now. Even if she turns down your asking her out for a date, big deal, she's still gonna be a friend. If she doesn't like you cuz you're fat, so be it.

Remember what Stuart Smalley says: "I deserve good things. I am entitled to my share of happiness. I refuse to beat myself up. I am attractive person. I am fun to be with."

 

[billandopus]

Originally posted by: Jellomancer
Weightlifting won't make you lose weight. You have to use energy to burn fat.

So, you're not using "energy to burn fat" while weightlifting? Do all weightlifters stay at the same bodyfat levels regardless of their lifting regime? What's the point in going to the gym at all? :roll

Simply put, weightlifting tremendously increases your basal metabolic rate.. Judicious lifting coupled with a decent but not overzealous cardio (increases the overcatabolization of muscle tissue), good diet/nutrition, sleep and less stress will help in the recruitment of fat stores to be converted into energy to power your body's energy needs for the day/workouts.

 

[DiamondJ]

I don't know what to say man, Go for it if you REALLY want it.

 

[TNTrulez]

pics?

 

[DeviousTrap]

Originally posted by: TNTrulez
pics?

Lets see this person

 

[FrustratedUser]

Originally posted by: Scarpozzi

Originally posted by: Zakath15
You need to get laid.

True that.

 

[MadRat]

Originally posted by: bill_n_opus
So, you're not using "energy to burn fat" while weightlifting? Do all weightlifters stay at the same bodyfat levels regardless of their lifting regime? What's the point in going to the gym at all? :roll

Jellomancer is right. Weightlifters get to the defined look through starvation regimes, not workouts. Workouts enhance the muscle tone, not the caloric consumption.

Originally posted by: bill_n_opus
Simply put, weightlifting tremendously increases your basal metabolic rate.. Judicious lifting coupled with a decent but not overzealous cardio (increases the overcatabolization of muscle tissue), good diet/nutrition, sleep and less stress will help in the recruitment of fat stores to be converted into energy to power your body's energy needs for the day/workouts.

Metabolism is raised by exerting "power", which is work over time. You build muscle tone with highly repetitive and low resistance types of exercises, not from heavy repititions. The bodybuilder also defines individual muscles and therefore spends alot of time working relatively little muscle mass at any one time. The powerbuilder, a stark contrast to the bodybuilder, also burns few calories relative to most whole body exercises - the powerlifter will burn relatively few calories in comparison to a jogger or distance runner. Heck, even walking through water uses more power than that typically used for lifting weights. Its all about the time and effort you put into it.

 

[Ime]

Originally posted by: Zakath15
You need to get laid.

 

[idNut]

Originally posted by: Peetoeng

Don't make then prerequisites to talk to her.

Remember what Stuart Smalley says: "I deserve good things. I am entitled to my share of happiness. I refuse to beat myself up. I am attractive person. I am fun to be with."

The first part is very well put but what Stuart Smalley said I don't really agree with. "I am an attractive person. I am fun to be with."? I know both aren't true. I'll talk to her tomorrow damnit. I really wish I had some confidence but I just feel like this cardboard standup that can be knocked down with mere words. There is no voice in me that says "Oh well, move on." but rather "You fvcked it up moron.".

 

[idNut]

Originally posted by: computer89

Originally posted by: TNTrulez
pics?

Lets see this person

I don't have any pictures of her.

EDIT: But she has shoulder length blond hair and is pretty tall. Green eyes I believe but it was her @ss that drew me to her to tell you the truth back in 6th grade. I'm changed but I still like that aspect of her very much.

 

[WinkOsmosis]

Originally posted by: bill_n_opus

Originally posted by: Jellomancer
Weightlifting won't make you lose weight. You have to use energy to burn fat.

So, you're not using "energy to burn fat" while weightlifting? Do all weightlifters stay at the same bodyfat levels regardless of their lifting regime? What's the point in going to the gym at all? :roll

Simply put, weightlifting tremendously increases your basal metabolic rate.. Judicious lifting coupled with a decent but not overzealous cardio (increases the overcatabolization of muscle tissue), good diet/nutrition, sleep and less stress will help in the recruitment of fat stores to be converted into energy to power your body's energy needs for the day/workouts.

Lifting weighs isn't nearly as effective for losing weight as running and such.

 

[idNut]

Originally posted by: Jellomancer

Originally posted by: bill_n_opus

Originally posted by: Jellomancer
Weightlifting won't make you lose weight. You have to use energy to burn fat.

So, you're not using "energy to burn fat" while weightlifting? Do all weightlifters stay at the same bodyfat levels regardless of their lifting regime? What's the point in going to the gym at all? :roll

Simply put, weightlifting tremendously increases your basal metabolic rate.. Judicious lifting coupled with a decent but not overzealous cardio (increases the overcatabolization of muscle tissue), good diet/nutrition, sleep and less stress will help in the recruitment of fat stores to be converted into energy to power your body's energy needs for the day/workouts.

Lifting weighs isn't nearly as effective for losing weight as running and such.

Well I shouldn't say just lifting weights because when I went before we used to run stairs, bikes (stationary), and run around the football field.

 

[SnapIT]

Originally posted by: Jellomancer
Weightlifting won't make you lose weight. You have to use energy to burn fat.

LOL!

 

[SnapIT]

Originally posted by: bill_n_opus

Originally posted by: Jellomancer
Weightlifting won't make you lose weight. You have to use energy to burn fat.

So, you're not using "energy to burn fat" while weightlifting? Do all weightlifters stay at the same bodyfat levels regardless of their lifting regime? What's the point in going to the gym at all? :roll

Simply put, weightlifting tremendously increases your basal metabolic rate.. Judicious lifting coupled with a decent but not overzealous cardio (increases the overcatabolization of muscle tissue), good diet/nutrition, sleep and less stress will help in the recruitment of fat stores to be converted into energy to power your body's energy needs for the day/workouts.

Actually, you can lift as much as you want and run as much as you like, there is only one way to reduce fat, you have to expend more calories than you consume...

Eating less will do it, increasing your muscle mass will help, cardio will expend more energy, but no excersise or food in the world can ever take that fact away...

 

[SnapIT]

Originally posted by: Jellomancer

Originally posted by: bill_n_opus

Originally posted by: Jellomancer
Weightlifting won't make you lose weight. You have to use energy to burn fat.

So, you're not using "energy to burn fat" while weightlifting? Do all weightlifters stay at the same bodyfat levels regardless of their lifting regime? What's the point in going to the gym at all? :roll

Simply put, weightlifting tremendously increases your basal metabolic rate.. Judicious lifting coupled with a decent but not overzealous cardio (increases the overcatabolization of muscle tissue), good diet/nutrition, sleep and less stress will help in the recruitment of fat stores to be converted into energy to power your body's energy needs for the day/workouts.

Lifting weighs isn't nearly as effective for losing weight as running and such.

Lifting weights IS more effectiv in the long run... not for the moment, but as with any good weight loss plan you don't plan for a week, you plan for years ahead...

The problem most people have is that they want to loose it all in a short period of time, it never works...

 

[blahblah99]

Originally posted by: brunswickite

Originally posted by: Zakath15
You need to get laid.

had to reinforce this again

ditto.

 

[db]

idNut, since SHE is initiating conversation, you have an opening. You could take this approach:
At the least, maybe we will be friends.
The only way you can have a decent relationship with her is if it's real--that means you have to remain yourself, and not say stuff just cuz you think she would like to hear it. Let me say that again: You have to stay and be yourself. Remember, she started talking to you, so she must see s/t about you that's "ok" w/her.
If you stay real, at the very least you will have a friend who perhaps is an awesome friend.
OTOH, if True Love is going to happen, it can only happen if you are friends first.
Just don't expect True Love, otherwise that will taint the friendship. If it's going to happen, it will develope and happen.
You win either way.

 

[jjones]

Lose weight, clear up your complexion, have sex with something other than your hand. You'll be amazed at how quickly girls will notice the difference.

 

[SP33Demon]

Here's my advice to you... go to the gym and MAKE NEW FRIENDS. It will probably happen naturally once you've been there for a couple months. Hang out with your new friends outside of the gym, especially if they get alot of women. Learn from them, this will "up" your game. If possible, befriend as many attractive females as possible. Hang out with them at clubs and such, it's proven that women who see men around attractive women are more likely to talk to the guy if approached ("well if those women are friends with him, he can't be bad"). This will improve your social game tenfold.

Next, get a new haircut, or dye your hair. If you have glasses, get contacts, colored if you have to. If u have a geeky ski jacket you wear out, buy a new black leather bomber jacket. Learn how to tie a tie, and study the latest fashion trends of how to match a tie with a sleek shirt/suit. Wear black khaki's as opposed to jeans, matched with a contemporary button down shirt.

Third, which is optional, is drink alcohol at the club and learn the many different types of beers, mixed drinks, and spirits. This will serve as good conversation for meeting ladies, as well as help loosen you up if you're nervous. Bonus points to u if you take a bartending class or course...

Fourth, when socializing with a girl, make eye contact with her and smile alot. Studies show this is effective and that humans tend to "mirror" one another. Smiling is infectious. Keep the conversation flowing, first by complimenting her about x, y or z, and then asking her "safe" questions like "what type of music/movie/food do u like?". If she asks why, counter with, "b/c I was wondering where we were going on our first date" and smile. Just be slick, nothing more, nothing less. Your wittiness will increase as your social interaction does...

Fifth, discipline yourself. Make a schedule and stick to it regarding the gym, your goals, anything applicable. If you don't feel like going to the gym one day b/c it's raining, that's not an excuse. Discipline breeds success and results.

Sixth, do some community service like military reserves, or community volunteer work (state parks, fire dept, homeless shelters, church group, whatever). This will keep you active and improve your chances of increasing your social circle.

Seventh, limit your time on the computer. I know it's hard, but ever wonder why 75% of people you chat with online are fat or overweight? Doesn't take a genius to figure it out...

I could go to ten, but I'll stop with lucky #7. Good luck man.

 

[skace]

Is there a website people go to, where they click a button and it randomly generates a girl post? Because these posts come out so fricken similar that if there isn't, I'm going to make one.

 

[Nitemare]

I don't even think a whore would bang me if I payed her.

Shouldn't that be...I don't even think a whore would let me bang her if I payed her.


different strokes for different folks though I guess...

Get some confidence then get a girl or rent one. Girls dig guys that are confident yet aren't conceited. Find something that you do and do well(non computer related) that other people can see you doing it well(preferably non-geeky as well) This will boost your ego and help you succeed with women. It's not so much the looks(helps though) or physical fitness as it is having a good head on your shoulders and believing in yourself..


No one wants a loser not even another loser

 

[idNut]

I am just going to give up. It is pointless and foolish to be blatant with her. It is my face, my body that puts me at fault. Though she would deny such accusations--my type, my music, my interests, my morale--she would pronounce my character at flaw in her girlish way rather than the true and obvious reason of my appearance. But I do not care because I need no love, no sexual partner for I can manage without such. Even if she became my girlfriend it would only be by name and I would suffer from the domestic problem of artificial love. I will spare myself such grief and remain single. I needn't sex for what will it acheive me besides temporary pleasure? The loss of the identity of 'virgin'?

This statement is declarative and requires no response so spare me the blind, unconditional comfort talk.

 

[MadRat]

Its all between your ears.

You can be short, fat, bald and ugly and girls will flock to you. You just need to be good at something. It helps if making money is that something, but even music and art and things like that catch the ladies eyes. Most of all talking about things you have real passion for can set off a woman faster than anything. Its amazing how much communication can bridge those negatives you worry about. Then again girls like confidence, the very thing you lack right now. Confidence comes from success, something I am anticipating you are capable of, correct? Go out and get good at something!

 

[SnapIT]

would you guys stop writhing so much, only one sentence matters, get that one in there and erase everything else...