The reasons guys cheat

Arkitech

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I hear this talked about and discussed all the time (mostly by women) at work. If you've ever wondered why for the most part the answer is men have unnaturally strong sex drives. I've talked to friends, coworkers and relatives who's cheated on their S.O's or either came close to it and for the most part it all boiled down to wanting to enjoy sex with another person other than the one they normally sleep with.
Personally I've never cheated on my wife but I can sometimes relate to why someone would cheat. Its not that there's an agenda to hurt the one you're with but its more of an urge to satisfy a physical craving. Its almost like people who long for sweets, sure you don't need it but its an pleasurable indulugence.

I love my wife and I would'nt dream of hurting her by swinging with other women, but I'll be honest if our society viewed sex differently and it was ok to pursue sex outside of a marriage I would do it. Again its not that you're trying to disrespect your loved one but its a matter of experience.

Variety is what makes life so enjoyable, people don't limit themselves to one kind of food, one friend or only one style of music. People don't usually wear the same clothes everyday of the month or watch the exact same movie or television program over and over. So why would sex be the exception to this rule? Sure there's a special bond between two people who love each other and it expressed at times through lovemaking, but the same can be said for engaging conversations.



let the flaming commence

 

Electric Amish

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Works for me.

You just need to realize that sex and love are two different things. Love can enhance sexual pleasure, but just plain sex with no love can be good too.

amish
 

GasX

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I have a standing arrangement with my fiance. I have a free pass with any NFL cheerleaders and she has a free pass with any NYC firefighters.

While she has far more access to firefighters that I do cheerleaders, most of them are huge guys with moustaches and are not her type at all...
 

Vette73

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Originally posted by: Mwilding
I have a standing arrangement with my fiance. I have a free pass with any NFL cheerleaders and she has a free pass with any NYC firefighters.

While she has far more access to firefighters that I do cheerleaders, most of them are huge guys with moustaches and are not her type at all...


Never know, she might be a moustache ride kinda girl ;) I think yu came up real SHORT on this deal

 

Arkitech

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Originally posted by: EXman
Sorry honey I gave you AIDS from the skank down the street.

I blame AIDS on lack of education and cleanliness. If people were properly educated about sex and how to maintain good hygiene from a young age AIDS and other STDs would'nt exist. Instead what happens is a lot of teenagers are threatened about not having sex instead of having parents discuss with them what sex is really about. Then what usually happens is the kids sneak around trying to figure sex out on their own which eventually can lead to bad or unsafe practices which has resulted in the epidemic of AIDS that grips the world in fear right now.
 

nebula

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Just blame it on our subconscious!! Deep down all we want to do is spread our genes...
 

In nature the male is suppose go around impregnating anything it comes across. It's not natural to settle down with one person. The only problem is humans have the notion of love and the really does a good job of mixing up the pot.

Men are also programmed in their instincts to find young, fertile females. Big breasts are a sign of fertility.

In other words I am chasing 20-year old chicks with big'ums the rest of my left whether my wife likes it or not.
 

Arkitech

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Originally posted by: Electric Amish
Works for me.

You just need to realize that sex and love are two different things. Love can enhance sexual pleasure, but just plain sex with no love can be good too.

amish

I could'nt have said it better
 

blackdogdeek

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we're genetically and evolutionarily programmed to try to spread our genetic material to as many women as possible. that way we ensure our genes survive on to further generations.

marriage is a social institution.

that being said i love my wife dearly and would never cheat on her. i am committed to her for the rest of my life.

THAT being said i still maintain my top 5 list of people i'd be allowed to sleep with if i ever got the chance(like they did on friends). of course, i'd never act on it. my wife's list only has 1 person on it so far.
 

Descartes

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Both genders cheat, it just seems women do it for different reasons. A woman might cheat with a man who is real attentive, whereas a man will cheat simply because there's a naked woman in front of them.

A lot more women cheat than you might think, and a lot of them are the type of women you'd think would never.
 

jonmullen

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Originally posted by: Electric Amish
Works for me.

You just need to realize that sex and love are two different things. Love can enhance sexual pleasure, but just plain sex with no love can be good too.

amish

See Amish is lucky here because he has actually found his perfect match and she feels the same about this as he does...way to go man.
 

PatboyX

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Originally posted by: Spac3d
I know more girls that sleep around than guys.

maybe...
but it could also be the sociological concept that women shouldnt sleep around and so when they do, the information spreads more quickly/viciously. men that sleep around dont usually get whispered about...they do it, people know and thats about it.

but then again, maybe more women do.
 

Trygve

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Originally posted by: Spac3d
I know more girls that sleep around than guys.

Same here. I'd been under the impression that studies of the subject had generally showed that the frequency of "cheating" among married men and women was about the same.
 

Isla

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Originally posted by: Mwilding
I have a standing arrangement with my fiance. I have a free pass with any NFL cheerleaders and she has a free pass with any NYC firefighters.

While she has far more access to firefighters that I do cheerleaders, most of them are huge guys with moustaches and are not her type at all...


ROTFLMAO!!

I honestly don't know what to say about this one. All I know is that no matter what I have done, it's never enough. I've tried being a 24/7 enthusiastic sex partner/stress relief recepticle (depending on my energy level) and that wasn't enough. You can't satisfy a need that won't be satisfied. All you can do is be your best and hope that is enough. If it isn't... there is much more to life than having a man be faithful to you. It's up to a man to decide what he is going to do.

<---tired and no longer concerned about being responsible for Mr Happy's happiness
 

Mutilator

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Originally posted by: dwell
In other words I am chasing 20-year old chicks with big'ums the rest of my left whether my wife likes it or not.

If that's not good sig quote material I don't know what is. ;)


 

Isla

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Well, heck, don't let me kill the thread. I am sincerely interested in this subject! I won't say anything else, I'll just read and listen now, I promise.

<---really wants to understand and work successfully with the opposite sex
 

alkemyst

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Just because you are fooling around with other women, does not mean you are also getting STDs....you play safe and not all sex partners are skanks/sluts/etc. Most of my partners have been professionals/model types...some have also had STDs in their past and some had some I didn't want to risk.

Women also are out playing the field...the numbers are just about the same, except women are more subtle usually.

Some marriages are also open and the two people in them see no problem in the other having multiple sexual partners or even group sex.

Marriage is what you make it, society is what says it should be monogamous.
 

Arkitech

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Originally posted by: Isla
Well, heck, don't let me kill the thread. I am sincerely interested in this subject! I won't say anything else, I'll just read and listen now, I promise.

<---really wants to understand and work successfully with the opposite sex

lol don't worry you did'nt kill anything, however if my wife ever read this post she'd probably kill me. I guess the best way to understand guys (at least me anyway) is to imagine that you're horny at least 22 hours out the day. And the 2 hours that you're not horny you see something that makes you horny. And there you have it.

Heck I can't even sleep without having erotic dreams.
 

Booster

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I believe marriage & family life and sex revolution don't go together at all. It's a matter of what's a person is looking for - family or sex. See how many marriages split up nowadays, how many lonely people there are who will never get married even though they theoretically could. And compare it to 100 years ago, when sex was considered a sin (it's still now, I believe, but people have forgotten what a sin means since there are quite few religious people left). Apocalypse here it comes...
 

n0cmonkey

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Originally posted by: EXman
Sorry honey I gave you AIDS from the skank down the street.

Viewing sex as something different than it is currently thought of does not in any way make stupidity a good thing. Just because you can, doesn't mean you should. And that should apply to both parts of this, both the sex with multiple partners and the assumption of idiocy by EXman.
 

Fausto

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Originally posted by: Booster
I believe marriage & family life and sex revolution don't go together at all. It's a matter of what's a person is looking for - family or sex. See how many marriages split up nowadays, how many lonely people there are who will never get married even though they theoretically could. And compare it to 100 years ago, when sex was considered a sin (it's still now, I believe, but people have forgotten what a sin means since there are quite few religious people left). Apocalypse here it comes...
:confused:

I sincerely hope you don't author instruction manuals for a living.

 

Booster

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I sincerely hope you don't author instruction manuals for a living.

I don't. I think if I was witty and talented enough for that I could make some money as opposed to my current state of things...