The reasons guys cheat

[shiner]

Originally posted by: Booster

No, he is saying that his mommy wouldn't let him stop breastfeeding until he was six and now he has a lot of pent up sexual issues that he vents by saying that sex is bad and that people who do it are evil unless they do it under some ideal virginal type arrangement that doesn't live outside of his naive fantasy world.

I'm not trying to prove anything to anyone, these are just my current views on these issues. And I'm not saying that sex is bad, I just don't think that it's all that good either. At least I haven't seen a single person or heard a story when having uncontrolled sex helped any person or made him/her happier unless they're in love, in a marriage etc.

I had a LOT of sex when I was in college with a LOT of different girls, God bless those sororities, and I was a very happy person because of it.

 

[Flatline]

AAAHHH...key words at last - "uncontrolled sex"

 

[alkemyst]

Originally posted by: Beau
Sorry.. I have to disagree.

Sex is a privillege - not a right - only to be shared with the one person you love. It's the defining characteristic of an intimate and committed relationship. If you didn't save sex for them, what would set your relationship different from that of yours and, say, your best bud?

Just MHO. You don't have to agree with me.

hmmm that's only if you are putting the weight on sex, which I think is definitely stupid, actually I'd say utterly retarded. People who think that way usually have had very few or no sex partners. Once you been with a half dozen women even, you begin to realize how little sex matters in determining a life long partner. This believe is one of the major contributing factors to divorce/cheating....people marry their 'first' and then wonder why they start wanting to go out later on in life alone.

Another trend is no one wants things to be difficult/work at things anymore. You simply replace your TV, Computer, Partner...with a new model once things don't work out.

The main things in determining a partner should be absolute compatiblity...this doesn't mean you have to like the same things, just that those differences you are ok with...also the knowledge that whoever you choose would help you with the most difficult things you may face and want to see you excel in your interests. There is a lot more of course, but whether or not they were your only lay or whether or not they have been with 100-200 partners shouldn't really be an issue.

When I go out clubbing, there are many women that are married looking for sex and only sex, no relationship...some won't even give you their real name or number. I have gone along with it a few times and it's always great sex. The things I have heard is mostly when they get wild in the bedroom it turns into a 'where did you learn this?' 'why are you doing this now? Are you seeing someone else?" etc, also their mates claim they are too tired for sex constantly or belittle their wants for it (are you an adult or a teenager? was one thing this chicks husband always said to her).

Their loss is my gain.

 

[DurocShark]

Humans *are* animals. The ONLY difference between us and the rest of the animal kingdom is that we have the intelligence to come up with morals and rules and such.

It's our INTELLIGENCE (or lack thereof...depends on your point of view..heh) that makes us want to change our physical natures to reach a moral goal.

(BTW: I'd be willing to bet the reason religion has pushed monogamy for so long was because a monogamous couple is a bit less likely to catch STD's... Think about it.)

 

[EXman]

Viewing sex as something different than it is currently thought of does not in any way make stupidity a good thing. Just because you can, doesn't mean you should. And that should apply to both parts of this, both the sex with multiple partners and the assumption of idiocy by EXman.

Should I also assume you don't think their are not any idiots out there? Or that this senario has not already played out? Because it has many times over. plah leez I am just trying to state that would be a painfully akward moment that tragically didn't have to happen. that is all.

 

[Booster]

I had a LOT of sex when I was in college with a LOT of different girls, God bless those sororities, and I was a very happy person because of it.

And tell me these girls are now happily married with kids, have a loving and faithful husband. I don't buy it.

 

[Arkitech]

wow the lid on this can of worms is definitely off

 

[shiner]

Originally posted by: Booster

I had a LOT of sex when I was in college with a LOT of different girls, God bless those sororities, and I was a very happy person because of it.

And tell me these girls are now happily married with kids, have a loving and faithful husband. I don't buy it.

The ones I have kept in touch with are. In fact one of them is married to a minister now and they have 3 kids. Oh my God......that means....say it isn't so....that means she and her husband had sex.....but...but....that's a sin right? How in the world can a minister live with himself for being so sinful??? Ohhh the horror!!!!

 

[Booster]

The ones I have kept in touch with are. In fact one of them is married to a minister now and they have 3 kids. Oh my God......that means....say it isn't so....that means she and her husband had sex.....but...but....that's a sin right? How in the world can a minister live with himself for being so sinful??? Ohhh the horror!!!!

What I don't like in this story is that a minister married that woman. I wouldn't have.

 

[Descartes]

Originally posted by: Booster

I had a LOT of sex when I was in college with a LOT of different girls, God bless those sororities, and I was a very happy person because of it.

And tell me these girls are now happily married with kids, have a loving and faithful husband. I don't buy it.

You are seriously, seriously naive. You have an unfortunate malformed perception of women these days, and some day you'll get a rude awakening; when you find our your SO *was* one of these women.

Many of those professional women of ostensible high moral character that you might know were plenty "freaky" back in school, or at some point earlier in their life. Yes, and many of these women are now in committed, monogamous relationships.

 

[Flatline]

You're gonna have a hard time finding a girl who's still a virgin to marry.

 

[Booster]

You are seriously, seriously naive. You have an unfortunate malformed perception of women these days, and some day you'll get a rude awakening; when you find our your SO *was* one of these women.

Maybe that's why I don't have a girlfriend/wife. I don't want to waste my time on such a woman who's been sleeping around with everybody else but me. Thinking about it makes me feel really pissed off. Of course, I do know I have sexual issues like I said. Maybe I'm too jealous. To each his own, but I can't overcome this part of my personality.

 

[shiner]

Originally posted by: Booster

The ones I have kept in touch with are. In fact one of them is married to a minister now and they have 3 kids. Oh my God......that means....say it isn't so....that means she and her husband had sex.....but...but....that's a sin right? How in the world can a minister live with himself for being so sinful??? Ohhh the horror!!!!

What I don't like in this story is that a minister married that woman. I wouldn't have.

Puuuuuhlease. How would you know about her past? Are you going to interrogate anyone unfortunate enough to think about becoming your wife? Lie detector test and sodium penathol aren't cheap you know.

Who cares what someone did in their sexual past? I mean unless of course they are screwing AIDS infected monkeys in Zaire or sleeping with the 1991 Denver Broncos.

 

[GasX]

Originally posted by: Booster

You are seriously, seriously naive. You have an unfortunate malformed perception of women these days, and some day you'll get a rude awakening; when you find our your SO *was* one of these women.

Maybe that's why I don't have a girlfriend/wife. I don't want to waste my time on such a woman who's been sleeping around with everybody else but me. Thinking about it makes me feel really pissed off. Of course, I do know I have sexual issues like I said. Maybe I'm too jealous. To each his own, but I can't overcome this part of my personality.

recognizing that YOU have the problem is the first step.

Step two is going to a singles bar after ingesting the following:

3 martinis
XTC
Viagra

 

[shiner]

Originally posted by: Booster

You are seriously, seriously naive. You have an unfortunate malformed perception of women these days, and some day you'll get a rude awakening; when you find our your SO *was* one of these women.

Maybe that's why I don't have a girlfriend/wife. I don't want to waste my time on such a woman who's been sleeping around with everybody else but me. Thinking about it makes me feel really pissed off. Of course, I do know I have sexual issues like I said. Maybe I'm too jealous. To each his own, but I can't overcome this part of my personality.

Why do I get the feeling that somewhere in your house/apartment there is a VERY crusty towel?

 

[Descartes]

Originally posted by: Booster

You are seriously, seriously naive. You have an unfortunate malformed perception of women these days, and some day you'll get a rude awakening; when you find our your SO *was* one of these women.

Maybe that's why I don't have a girlfriend/wife. I don't want to waste my time on such a woman who's been sleeping around with everybody else but me. Thinking about it makes me feel really pissed off. Of course, I do know I have sexual issues like I said. Maybe I'm too jealous. To each his own, but I can't overcome this part of my personality.

Eventually you're going to have to, or find a woman who's never been with another man. Then of course you run the risk of her need to "explore." I bet the percentage of women who remain abstinent and then remain with the same man for their entire sexual lives is extremely low.

It sucks, but it's reality.

 

[Booster]

Puuuuuhlease. How would you know about her past? Are you going to interrogate anyone unfortunate enough to think about becoming your wife? Lie detector test and sodium penathol aren't cheap you know.

Who cares what someone did in their sexual past? I mean unless of course they are screwing AIDS infected monkeys in Zaire or sleeping with the 1991 Denver Broncos.

Heck I know my views are wrong. At least that couple you mentioned had three kids, that explains it all. But I do get that shivering feeling, I feel like my feet don't hold me anymore when I imagine I finally found the woman I been waiting for my whole life and she's been a sleep around. No, that wouldn't be easy to accept. Of course, it's important to make the right decision, maybe a deal with yourself... At least she'd stay with you, not with those ones... But I think I'd still feel somewhat cheated. Heck maybe I'm just crazy, I know that.

I know nobody cares, but just for the heck of it I'll explain it. I'm not like some guy who looks for a virgin to marry, I'm not. I don't need just a virgin for a happy marriage, I need a woman whom I'll love and who will love me. Of course, it would be a huge plus if she'd be a virgin. And in case not (most likely) well... I don't know but I feel I wouldn't split up with the woman I love just b/c she's not a virgin like some dumb/overly jealous people do. But I can guarantee I would feel bad about it, maybe for a very long time.

Why do I get the feeling that somewhere in your house/apartment there is a VERY crusty towel?

Projecting the image of your towel on me? 😉 Please don't. Heck, how do you know that I even have any towels or not. You know only you own towels and talk about them 😉 No offense meant, BTW.

 

[superjohnny]

Funny how nobody has mentioned how trust and respect enter into the equation. That's why I don't cheat, because I trust my wife and respect her. It is a part of the foundation that allows us to build our relationship.

How would you like it if some dude was spreading his seed in your wife? Would you just say, "Hey, it's a natural animal instinct. Let me know when you two are finished cause I'd really like to take a nap."

 

[Flatline]

It has been mentioned...that was just before the thread turned into the twisted monster that it has become.

 

[Kev]

it's an evolutionary reason why men cheat. they naturally want to increase their reproductive potential by impregnating as many females as possible. this increases their number of offspring and thus their fitness.

women on the other hand, naturally want to raise their children and find a mate who can provide for her to increase her offsprings' chance of survival, hence they are less likely to cheat.

i'm not trying to be sexist, it's just evolution.

 

[Electric Amish]

Originally posted by: superjohnny
Funny how nobody has mentioned how trust and respect enter into the equation. That's why I don't cheat, because I trust my wife and respect her. It is a part of the foundation that allows us to build our relationship.

How would you like it if some dude was spreading his seed in your wife? Would you just say, "Hey, it's a natural animal instinct. Let me know when you two are finished cause I'd really like to take a nap."

Funny, that's what allows our marriage to be open. Trust and respect.

I trust my wife to love me and spend her life with me just as she trusts me to do the same.

I respect my wife enough to allow her to make her own decisions, just as she respects me.

amish

 

[shiner]

Originally posted by: Booster

Projecting the image of your towel on me? 😉 Please don't. Heck, how do you know that I even have any towels or not. You know only you own towels and talk about them 😉 No offense meant, BTW.

None taken. I don't need a towel. I go home to her every night.

 

[Arkitech]

Originally posted by: superjohnny
Funny how nobody has mentioned how trust and respect enter into the equation. That's why I don't cheat, because I trust my wife and respect her. It is a part of the foundation that allows us to build our relationship.

How would you like it if some dude was spreading his seed in your wife? Would you just say, "Hey, it's a natural animal instinct. Let me know when you two are finished cause I'd really like to take a nap."

Thats precisely why I don't fool around, although the thought crosses my mind

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

There's only one reason that men cheat, and it's quite simple. They do not have discipline/self control.

 

[shiner]

Originally posted by: FFMCobalt
There's only one reason that men cheat, and it's quite simple. They do not have discipline/self control.

This from a man that lives in Beaverton.

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