DivideBYZero
Lifer
- May 18, 2001
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Maybe open marriages would be easier to keep together. And there are plenty of religious people to remind us of what sin is.
I tell you, it's not just BS. Of course, it's still IMO, but sex does change a person. And it's not only for the better.
Sorry.. I have to disagree.
Sex is a privillege - not a right - only to be shared with the one person you love. It's the defining characteristic of an intimate and committed relationship. If you didn't save sex for them, what would set your relationship different from that of yours and, say, your best bud?
Just MHO. You don't have to agree with me.
Sex is a privillege - not a right - only to be shared with the one person you love. It's the defining characteristic of an intimate and committed relationship. If you didn't save sex for them, what would set your relationship different from that of yours and, say, your best bud?
Just MHO. You don't have to agree with me.
Well said (thumbs up).
You can explain cheating all you like, but I still think it's pretty fvcking low, unless you have a "open" marriage like Electric Amish. I wouldn't be comfortable with that myself, but that's their choice that makes them happy.
Anyway, I admit to having a somewhat overactive sex drive just like most guys my age (I'm 23), but I can restrain my urges to go cheat on my wife because I love her too much to do that. She's a beautiful woman and we have a great relationship that I'd be an idiot to screw up.
That said, I am a man and I do like looking at other women just as much as I did when I was single. I don't want to start a flamewar about whether porn is good or bad, but I personally look at it as a safety valve to help let off the pressure. It may not be the same as making love to my wife, but at least I can relieve any urges that my wife hasn't satisfied....
OK, I won't comment on these issues any more. I see how much obsessed with sex some people are, they accept no criticism of their actions.
both sexes cheat. and its called 'cheat' for a reason. its about getting something on the side selfishly and and without honor. you can't fault a person for wanting something different. BUT what gets me is that cheaters 'cheat' and don't just break off their existing relationships to play the field fair and square. this in itself tells me that cheaters are cowards who are insecure about themselves and must have a 'stable' relationship to fall back upon in the event that their cheating ways betray them sometime down the line.
so, iMO the reason is that guys are cowards. but the same reason applies to women.
so, iMO the reason is that guys are cowards. but the same reason applies to women.
Interesting that sex is physical for males, and emotional for females AS A RULE which is often broken.
Example: Sex is amazing when I'm with my wife, whom I love (as that other thread shows). Before her, sex was more like going through the motions for me. A physical release, and nothing else. But with my wife, it's huge. Wonderful. Tha shizit!
So, for me, cheating just isn't worth it. I love appreciating hot women, and thinking about them, but it's almost like appreciating an expensive car. Nice, but not mine.
Example: Sex is amazing when I'm with my wife, whom I love (as that other thread shows). Before her, sex was more like going through the motions for me. A physical release, and nothing else. But with my wife, it's huge. Wonderful. Tha shizit!
So, for me, cheating just isn't worth it. I love appreciating hot women, and thinking about them, but it's almost like appreciating an expensive car. Nice, but not mine.
Why don't you tell us what's so bad about sex instead of just repeatedly asserting that it is bad?
I'm sure it leads to degradation of a person if a man has had many 'girlfirends' and if he just has sex way too often.
She doesn't have a hairy back.
The mental and emotional attatchment is what is different between a relationship and sex. The emotional and mental attraction can be a part of sex, but generally, if those two pieces are present, the relationship is a little more important than just the occassional poon.
I would think that a lot of men who do cheat, cheat because they aren't satisfied with the sex life from their SO. If they were satisfied, then they woudn't cheat in their first place. This is just my 50 cents...
What are you talking about? Multiple female partners was an accepted practice for many many years, especially at the dawn of mankind. Psysiologically the male of the human species has the urge to breed with anything it can. That has not changed. If you want to get into it religiously, God made us this way, would He have done that if He would be admitting He was wrong later?
Why would it? Doesn't it really all depend on the character of that person in the first place? If he/she is a self-centered jackass to begin with then his/her sex life will reflect this? I, for example, had my fair share of partners in my single days (both long-term relationships and the odd random hookup here and there) but I've now been with the same woman for going on 14 years and am completely faithful. I would never in a million years cheat on her. Shouldn't I be out banging hookers on the weekends by your logic?
Who speaks of bodily fluids and stuff like that... A human isn't an animal. Rules of life are different for animals and humans. Maybe for an animal it's OK to have as much sex as they can get, but if you look closely at the problem you'll find out that animals also live by very strict rules regarding sexual actions. They do it usually on specified times, like once a year or something like that. It isn't like the only thing they're doing is thinking about sex or having it.
GasX
Lifer
- Feb 8, 2001
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No, he is saying that his mommy wouldn't let him stop breastfeeding until he was six and now he has a lot of pent up sexual issues that he vents by saying that sex is bad and that people who do it are evil unless they do it under some ideal virginal type arrangement that doesn't live outside of his naive fantasy world.
Frankly, the reason anyone cheats on anyone is weakness. If you're not getting what you need from your SO, then talk to her/him about it; if they're not willing to give you what you need, end it. Don't sleep around and then try to justify it.
If both people are willing to have an open relationship, by the way, it neatly fits into what I said...they are willing to give you what you need by letting you go elsewhere to get it.
That said, I have been with my GF for 3.5 years; I have never cheated on her. I have actually never cheated on a GF because it goes against my (dear God, I DO have these...who knew?) principles.
If both people are willing to have an open relationship, by the way, it neatly fits into what I said...they are willing to give you what you need by letting you go elsewhere to get it.
That said, I have been with my GF for 3.5 years; I have never cheated on her. I have actually never cheated on a GF because it goes against my (dear God, I DO have these...who knew?) principles.
Just wanted to say I do not think cheating is a good thing, but I don't believe monogomy works either.
Whaaaaat? I don't get this at all. How does having multiple sex partners or getting laid frequently "degrade" a person?
If you're talking about someone who cheats on his wife/girlfriend/etc. with multiple partners constantly, or someone with a legitimate psychological problem (e.g. sex addiction) that could constitute degradation, I suppose.
I'm not trying to prove anything to anyone, these are just my current views on these issues. And I'm not saying that sex is bad, I just don't think that it's all that good either. At least I haven't seen a single person or heard a story when having uncontrolled sex helped any person or made him/her happier unless they're in love, in a marriage etc.
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