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<< In short, Classy, stop being so defensive. I'm not out to get you, or any other black person. >>
Good advise Classy. Amused loves you and knows what's best for you. Drop your defenses and surrender to him. He'll make a great nanny.
Ah me, that was just a little dig at Amused telling him how much he reminds me of myself.
Seriously, the problem I see with your prescription, Amused, is the business of how to drop your defenses. You should ask yourself if you can do that before you ask it of somebody else. My suspicion, is that white people don't know what it's like to be black, generally speaking. I'm white so I can't know this for sure. It's just what I suspect, OK. So anyway, I suspect that racism is a daily experience, a frustrating and engaging experience from which there is no escape. Like all traumatic experiences, individuals react differently. Some walk out of it with fierce determination it won't get in their way. Some drown their sorrow in drugs. The point is that it affects people and generally not for the better. We have all been made to feel worthless, some more than others. When you add racism on top of that it creates extra pressure on self esteem. We are all wearing armor as a result. When you ask somebody to not be defensive, you're really asking them to drop the thing that saved them from destruction, the scaberous callus on their wound. You don't want to do that unless you can provide a rubber room and are prepared to deal with the volcananic eruption of a lifetime of supressed rage. And you will want to be doing your own work too so you don't wind up with a situation like So Africa where Mandella was lightyears ahead of most everybody else and had so few who could follow.
Classy is saying something in my opinion. He is screaming something in your face even. Why argue his numbers and dick around with ratios. This is all about feelings. Try hearing his and your own for a change. I say it's ok to be bitter, to be hurt, to be frustrated beyond belief as a black person. I say it's ok that some of you want to stuff it back down his throat for implicating you. We are all the same, but we have all had different experiences. Until we release some of the hidden pain we carry, we will always be at war. To do so we will need to learn to feel. To do that we will have to understand the nature and how deadly an enemy the armor that once saved us has become. >>
Moonie, I am understanding his feelings. I understand why he's defensive, but at the same time, this very defensiveness, projection and denial is destroying the black community and only perpetuating racism, not solving it. Hatred only eats up those who hate, be they black or white. And denial only serves to perpetuate the problem.
If you followed the Jesse Jackson/Decatur, IL fiasco, you'd understand what I'm trying to say in this thread.
Oh, BTW, Moonie, I'm not advocating legislating anything, or seeking to take anyone's freedoms away. There is a vast difference between you and me.