Maybe he's not as bad as you say. Maybe if he were your neighbor you'd be over for dinner regularly. You never know about such things. It takes time to get to know people and we are limited here to short posts that focus on narrow points sometimes presented to have a particular effect.
One thing, for example, I have in common with conservatives is the notion of pulling yourself up by your own boot straps, being self sufficient, as it were. Where I differ is in my opinion as to what holds so many people back from doing that. What many of them might refer to as weakness and lack of character, gumption and all that shit, I see as damage to self image, the inculcation in childhood of worthlessness, the feeling that help from the self is the last place anything worth anything could come. I believe that too many conservatives have come to hate weakness because they too feel worthless, but were not totally destroyed by it. Instead they have big egos because they were lucky enough to succeed. Well they were lucky and that's about it, but the methodology, to take care of yourself is still right. So you can drive yourself to succeed because you were made to hate yourself, or you can fail because of a slightly different form of self hate, but the real winner is he who succeeds in life because he loves doing things out of the personal accomplishment it brings.