So..you know what can happen after you just pay off your house?

[waggy]

the OP is a idiot. he is leaving her the house and not going after the kids and what she did to him? yeah thats going to look great in court...

 

[Via]

Originally posted by: JS80

Yes, but HOW did he fix the situation?

The biggest thing he did was simply talk to everyone and calm them down.

When I first talked to her/her mom's lawyer he was pretty harsh, even wanting me to agree to "mental cruelty".

After her dad talked to him the lawyer took a different, gentler tone. Eventually the divorce was a no fault divorce.

I think he saw his daughter acting out what she had seen as a 10 year old and didn't see any reason to ruin anyone's life about it, espescially since we had no property or savings to speak of.

 

[SunnyD]

Um... don't let her keep the house. Make her pay rent. DO NOT, under ANY circumstances give it to her. Hell, you should be fighting for custody of the kids.

I wouldn't be surprised if she ended up putting the house on the market the day after you settle, just to spite you and move / attempt to move with the kids.

 

[JeffreyLebowski]

Originally posted by: iGas

Originally posted by: God Mode
You're nuts. Why are you letting her stay? You lose man.

If you have kids you would understand.

Uh, no. It's called leverage. You have a place to live, she doesn't. Who has a better chance of keeping the kids. The guy with a house, or the wise and beautiful woman with no where to live?

 

[Platypus]

wow, hell hath no fury like a woman

I left off the scorned part since it's a seemingly random behavior.

 

[69Mach1]

Originally posted by: waggy
the OP is a idiot. he is leaving her the house and not going after the kids and what she did to him? yeah thats going to look great in court...

She's got really good hostages. Anything he does to her is going to splash on the kids. I understand his point because I have a son and an ex too. Believe me when I say children are not stupid, and will remember who was nice and who was an asshole. I can understand not wanting to fuck up the kids lives, and in Utah he has very little chance of custody. You try to make the best of the situation, and not fight just for the sake of revenge. It will almost certainly pay off later, when the kids are old enough to choose where they want to live.

 

[GoPackGo]

Never put her in a position of power, never negotiate...fight from day one or she will hose you over and over.

 

[Krazy4Real]

Definitely get a really good lawyer. This really sucks man. I hope you come out of this ok.

 

[mugs]

I don't know why there is so much discussion of prenuptial agreements here; if you just read the OP you'll see that he does not need a prenuptial agreement to keep his inheritance.

Originally posted by: Codewiz
However, I see the need for a prenup in most marriages. By all means, you are getting into a BUSINESS relationship with your partner. That is what a marriage is. It is a business partnership. What type of business starts without any type of agreement going in? None.

You keep using that word; I don't think it means what you think it means.

 

[TecHNooB]

Holy crap. Kick her out asap. Don't let her plot against you in your own house.

 

[nick1985]

Get a lawyer.

I wouldn't even fart around that bitch unless your lawyer says to. Keep your mouth shut.

 

[hanoverphist]

Originally posted by: JeffreyLebowski

Originally posted by: iGas

Originally posted by: God Mode
You're nuts. Why are you letting her stay? You lose man.

If you have kids you would understand.

Uh, no. It's called leverage. You have a place to live, she doesn't. Who has a better chance of keeping the kids. The guy with a house, or the wise and beautiful woman with no where to live?

my ex told me she wanted me to move out of our house. i told her no, me and the kids are staying. if youre unhappy, gtfo. she did. i have custody of the kids and the house.

OP, dont leave voluntarily, kick her to the curb if you want to keep your house. once you leave its abandonment, you lose a bit of leverage.

 

[lupi]

Originally posted by: 69Mach1

Originally posted by: waggy
the OP is a idiot. he is leaving her the house and not going after the kids and what she did to him? yeah thats going to look great in court...

She's got really good hostages. Anything he does to her is going to splash on the kids. I understand his point because I have a son and an ex too. Believe me when I say children are not stupid, and will remember who was nice and who was an asshole. I can understand not wanting to fuck up the kids lives, and in Utah he has very little chance of custody. You try to make the best of the situation, and not fight just for the sake of revenge. It will almost certainly pay off later, when the kids are old enough to choose where they want to live.

If she cared anything about the kids and assuming he's not an abusive prick, she wouldn't proceed with the gold digger divorce till they were at the 18yo level.

As she has made her intentions clear, any pulling the punches on his part is a prescription for fuking himself.

 

[Kadarin]

I didn't read through all of this thread, but from your original post it looks like your wife deliberately planned this. My suggestion would be to not make any spur of the moment emotional decisions and to instead step back and take stock of things, and communicate with your wife (ex wife?) via the lawyer. You're going to have to fight to protect your assets, because it sounds like she wants to take them from you.

 

[soulcougher73]

Originally posted by: God Mode
You're nuts. Why are you letting her stay? You lose man.

I agree. Dont give this bitch an inch.

 

[69Mach1]

Originally posted by: lupi

Originally posted by: 69Mach1

Originally posted by: waggy
the OP is a idiot. he is leaving her the house and not going after the kids and what she did to him? yeah thats going to look great in court...

She's got really good hostages. Anything he does to her is going to splash on the kids. I understand his point because I have a son and an ex too. Believe me when I say children are not stupid, and will remember who was nice and who was an asshole. I can understand not wanting to fuck up the kids lives, and in Utah he has very little chance of custody. You try to make the best of the situation, and not fight just for the sake of revenge. It will almost certainly pay off later, when the kids are old enough to choose where they want to live.

If she cared anything about the kids and assuming he's not an abusive prick, she wouldn't proceed with the gold digger divorce till they were at the 18yo level.

As she has made her intentions clear, any pulling the punches on his part is a prescription for fuking himself.

This is absolutely true, however as long as YOU care about your kids, it's not as easy as it sounds. You have to take a real hard look and decide if the fight is worth the collateral damage. As long as she's more willing to fuck with the kids than you are, she's got you. BUT, in every case I've seen the kids always know the score, and have eventually chosen to go live with the parent most willing to sacrifice to keep them happy. Do you go for short term or long term?

 

[oiprocs]

Originally posted by: BriGy86
I would definitely make her move out. How do you know she wont burn/pawn/throw out all your stuff when you're gone.

 

[oiprocs]

You gotta kick her out bro. Letting her stay is the last thing you want to do. Fuck the kids sake. How old are they anyways?

If we're talking toddlers, maybe. But anywhere from 8 and up, I say kick her out, keep your house, do NOT buy another one, and tell them how dumb Mommy is.

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: hanoverphist

Originally posted by: JeffreyLebowski

Originally posted by: iGas

Originally posted by: God Mode
You're nuts. Why are you letting her stay? You lose man.

If you have kids you would understand.

Uh, no. It's called leverage. You have a place to live, she doesn't. Who has a better chance of keeping the kids. The guy with a house, or the wise and beautiful woman with no where to live?

my ex told me she wanted me to move out of our house. i told her no, me and the kids are staying. if youre unhappy, gtfo. she did. i have custody of the kids and the house.

OP, dont leave voluntarily, kick her to the curb if you want to keep your house. once you leave its abandonment, you lose a bit of leverage.

How did it feel to know that she hated you so badly that she would willingly walk away from everything?

Bottom line here is this.. the OP might well protect the monies he inherited but in a marriage of any duration both parties are going to be entitled to share in the marital assets.

OP's best move at this point is to get a great lawyer.. and ask the mods to trash this thread.

 

[ixelion]

This thread depresses me I will never get married. For anyone who speaks ill of middle aged single people, i will point them here.

 

[JoeBleed]

just a quick reply before i read the rest of the posts.

If you haven't filed for divorce already, do so before she does. She was probably just trying to trick you into giving up a bunch of your stuff. Talk to that lawyer again and file if it hasn't already been done.

And demand custody of the kids and go ahead and start talking to them about the divorce so that wise and beautiful woman doesn't start feeding the bullshit lies.

Edit: oh, and kick her ass out of the house. Use the cops if she doesn't want to go on her own. Never even raise a hand in anger beyond this point. After she is out, use the lawyer for any communication regarding the divorce.

This is all assuming your name and your name only is on the deed.

 

[JoeBleed]

Originally posted by: WA261

The only reason I am letting her stay is so that some stability can remain in the kids lives. I can afford to buy another house close by, so I they can walk to my house daily. There is nothing she can do to retaliate about not being able to keep the house. She does love the kids as much as me and will do what she can to make them not hurt. She knows they love me and need a father, so even though she is a wise and beautiful woman she wont do anything more that will hurt the kids...besides what she has done.

Don't just believe her on this, it may be true, and i hope it is for the kids sake, but there are a lot of "mothers" that will use their kids for their own advances.

 

[DangerAardvark]

Originally posted by: soulcougher73

Originally posted by: God Mode
You're nuts. Why are you letting her stay? You lose man.

I agree. Dont give this bitch an inch.

Maybe that was the problem in the first place...

...get it?

 

[JEDI]

Originally posted by: WA261
Your wife FUCKS YOU by telling you she wants a divorce. No shit..I am gone for a week on the deer hunt and get home to a phone call telling me she wants a divorce. WHAT A wise and beautiful woman!!!! She tells me I need to GET OUT of the house (I JUST PAID IT OFF!!) that she is keeping it, and as long as I am cool with her she wont go after the stock. WTF!!!????? I am in shock for a day or 2, and know Utah is a 50/50 split asset state so I am fucked...grrrr. She tells me we don't need a lawyer to divided the other stuff (boat, motor-home, 4-wheelers, etc) we will just do it on our own. SO PISSED TO THINK THE wise and beautiful woman COULD DO THIS TO ME!! I cashed in a bit of the stock I was left from my gram to pay the house off. I was like fuck! My grand mother left that to me, I spent some of it to help out family and now I am getting fucked out of it.

SO I THOUGHT!!.......I called a divorce lawyer yesterday. Even though Utah is a 50/50 asset split state, IT DOES NOT apply to any items that are gifted in a will. So, all of the stock can not be touched by her, and ANY items that were purchased from cashing in some of the stock CAN NOT be touched by her!!!!! IT IS ALL MINE!!! WOOHOOOO!!!!! Stupid wise and beautiful woman lets me take out 50k at 1st to pay off credit cards and any debt we had (we have no debt at all now) put in a bunch of huge maples, build a big patio cover out back and THEN talks me into paying off the house. It was after this shit gets done that she tells me she wants a divorce. Hmmm, why do I think it was not a coincidence? Yeah, nice plan bitch! BACKFIRED up her ass!

She flipped out when I told her how I talked to the lawyer and she is not getting shit. She told me that it was HER HOUSE!!! Her mother got a divorce and she knows she gets 1/2 of everything!! I had to pull up a page on the net w/ laws regarding inheritance gifts and how the other spouses is not entitled to any of it. Wow, I then turned into the devil. She told me how horrible I was that I was not going to GIVE her the home. That I am such a bad person. And just on and on. It was a joke. I told her....you are the one who is ripping the family apart, I am not the bad one here.


But, since I love my kids more then the world, I am going to let the stupid wise and beautiful woman actually stay in the house. I don't want to to have to have her move and pull the kids out of their lives..friends, school, etc. It is going to be hard enough on the with just the divorce. I am buying another house just right up the street (like 6 houses away) so I can see girls every day and night.



CLIFFS:


Wife talks me into paying off house and all bills.
Wife then tells me she is divorcing me, keeping the house and kicking me out.
Wife thinks she is slick and I am screwed.
I talk to lawyer and find out that since the stock/$ used to pay off house was left to ONLY me in a will she does not get shit!
House is mine but I will let her live there till kids get old enough to move out.
Buying new house right next to old one to be with my girls.
I love it.

i call BS!

this was probably copied/pasted from another urban myth thing.

who the hell would let is divorced wife stay in the house after she tries to fvck him?!

 

[Mojoed]

Originally posted by: dmcowen674

Originally posted by: spidey07
It's your house. Make her move out. Tell your lawyer she was emotionally abusive. Strike first, strike hard and DO NOT LET UP. Any move you make should be directed by your lawyer.

I normally don't agree with anything by this guy but listen here.

DO NOT MOVE and never let up.

You have to find the best hard nose lawyer and never listen to the bitch again.

I normally don't agree with you either, Dave.

BUT I DO THIS TIME! WHAT IS THE WORLD COMING TO?! :laugh:

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