So..you know what can happen after you just pay off your house?

[IndyColtsFan]

Originally posted by: spidey07
It's your house. Make her move out. Tell your lawyer she was emotionally abusive. Strike first, strike hard and DO NOT LET UP. Any move you make should be directed by your lawyer.

This. Don't be a nice guy here -- she is out to screw you and you have to take the offensive now.

 

[Born2bwire]

I have a distinct feeling that a divorce lawyer would have some choice words about the OP's plan.

 

[IndyColtsFan]

Originally posted by: dmcowen674

Originally posted by: spidey07
It's your house. Make her move out. Tell your lawyer she was emotionally abusive. Strike first, strike hard and DO NOT LET UP. Any move you make should be directed by your lawyer.

I normally don't agree with anything by this guy but listen here.

DO NOT MOVE and never let up.

You have to find the best hard nose lawyer and never listen to the bitch again.

The world must be ending.....I actually agree with Dave for once!

 

[sutahz]

She still gets to keep the house for a few more years though, sounds like she still wins in the short run.
Why not fight for custody of your children? Go for the throat man, take everything from her.

 

[Juddog]

Yeah if you leave the house to her, thinking you can live near your kids, she'll get the divorce, get the house since you moved out, then sell off the house and MOVE with all that money. Why would she want to live down the street from you, OP?

 

[yhelothar]

I was gonna come in and say hookers and blow..

but dayum, best of luck to you op.

 

[Adrenaline]

Originally posted by: WA261

Originally posted by: HappyPuppy
OP: U R rong! Any money you put into communal assets are half hers. Also, if you put any part of your inheritance into a bank account or checking account anything that money was spent on is half hers. Have fun with your divorce. You sound like a real asshole.

Maybe where you live, but not here. As I have said...I have already spoken to a lawyer.
And dude...you are the one who sounds like an asshole.


The only reason I am letting her stay is so that some stability can remain in the kids lives. I can afford to buy another house close by, so I they can walk to my house daily. There is nothing she can do to retaliate about not being able to keep the house. She does love the kids as much as me and will do what she can to make them not hurt. She knows they love me and need a father, so even though she is a wise and beautiful woman she wont do anything more that will hurt the kids...besides what she has done.

I would have one of the best divorce attorney's I could find and follow his instructions. I surely would not let her live in the house with the kids and buy a new house with your family's hard earned money. I would also fight for the kids as she has shown a side of extreme selfishness and greed when it comes to herself and only herself. She "conned" you into paying off the house and other debt BECAUSE she wants to live there along with having a fresh start. Nothing she has done that I see was for you or the kids, just her. She has not hesitated to stick it to you, stick it to her.

There may be some tenant law is you allow her to stay in the house temporarily that may become permanent eventually so watch yourself.

 

[OutHouse]

Originally posted by: HappyPuppy
OP: U R rong! Any money you put into communal assets are half hers. Also, if you put any part of your inheritance into a bank account or checking account anything that money was spent on is half hers. Have fun with your divorce. You sound like a real asshole.

it depends on what state you live in asshole. it appears he knows more than you do about the divorce/inheritance laws of Utah. so shut the fuck up and stop assuming the laws in your state applies to him and his situation. Stop posting legal advice prick.

 

[JS80]

Originally posted by: HappyPuppy
OP: U R rong! Any money you put into communal assets are half hers. Also, if you put any part of your inheritance into a bank account or checking account anything that money was spent on is half hers. Have fun with your divorce. You sound like a real asshole.

I hope you are fed your own puppies before you die in a very horrible death.

Good luck to OP. Take her deer hunting with Cheney.

 

[dainthomas]

Good thing OP doesn't have a prenup. That would've been so un-romantic.

 

[Ruptga]

Originally posted by: MotF Bane
Go for custody of the kids. If you take custody, then you can stay in your house, and stay with your kids, plus the bitch is gone.

This does seem to be the most reasonable thing to do

 

[Via]

Jesus Christ.

Call a locksmith and don't leave the house until the locks are changed.

I learned that lesson pretty cheaply, in retrospect.

When I was 22 I met an 18 year old college freshman with family issues (her parents had gotten divorced when she was about 10). She dropped out of school, moved in with me, and somehow (it all happened so fast I can barely recall how) we ended up married 6 months later.

Reader's Digest version: another 6 months go by, I come home from work and find the locks changed. Seriously - I was locked out of my own fucking apartment. I had to wake up a friend at 11 pm to have a place to sleep.

The only clue I had at all something was wrong was a few weeks earlier I came home to find her crying on the phone to her mom. But she explained it away.

The resolution: luckily her dad was a pretty nice, reasonable guy and fixed the situation. I was also lucky that my boss at work had just gotten divorced. When I told him what had happend he nearly flew through the roof; he helped me out as well.

 

[Adrenaline]

Prenups usually become null and void after a certain time frame, in some states the birth of a child. Wikipedia is a powerful thing.

 

[Papagayo]

Buy a smaller house for her.
You move into your current house.

 

[Adrenaline]

Originally posted by: Papagayo
Buy a smaller house for her.
You move into your current house.

Why does she deserve anything other than an apartment right around the corner?

 

[JS80]

Originally posted by: Via
Jesus Christ.

Call a locksmith and don't leave the house until the locks are changed.

I learned that lesson pretty cheaply, in retrospect.

When I was 22 I met an 18 year old college freshman with family issues (her parents had gotten divorced when she was about 10). She dropped out of school, moved in with me, and somehow (it all happened so fast I can barely recall how) we ended up married 6 months later.

Reader's Digest version: another 6 months go by, I come home from work and find the locks changed. Seriously - I was locked out of my own fucking apartment. I had to wake up a friend at 11 pm to have a place to sleep.

The only clue I had at all something was wrong was a few weeks earlier I came home to find her crying on the phone to her mom. But she explained it away.

The resolution: luckily her dad was a pretty nice, reasonable guy and fixed the situation. I was also lucky that my boss at work had just gotten divorced. When I told him what had happend he nearly flew through the roof; he helped me out as well.

Dude. ASPLAIN.

 

[zinfamous]

Originally posted by: alkemyst

Originally posted by: Insomniator
Can someone remind me what the point of getting married is?

for most a false belief in stability and a pillar for their co-dependance.

you know, it's threads like this that make me wonder why anyone could be so opposed to gay marriage.

Hell, if they want to give themselves the same opportunity to destroy their lives...let them! right?

 

[Via]

Originally posted by: JS80

Originally posted by: Via
Jesus Christ.

Call a locksmith and don't leave the house until the locks are changed.

I learned that lesson pretty cheaply, in retrospect.

When I was 22 I met an 18 year old college freshman with family issues (her parents had gotten divorced when she was about 10). She dropped out of school, moved in with me, and somehow (it all happened so fast I can barely recall how) we ended up married 6 months later.

Reader's Digest version: another 6 months go by, I come home from work and find the locks changed. Seriously - I was locked out of my own fucking apartment. I had to wake up a friend at 11 pm to have a place to sleep.

The only clue I had at all something was wrong was a few weeks earlier I came home to find her crying on the phone to her mom. But she explained it away.

The resolution: luckily her dad was a pretty nice, reasonable guy and fixed the situation. I was also lucky that my boss at work had just gotten divorced. When I told him what had happend he nearly flew through the roof; he helped me out as well.

Dude. ASPLAIN.

First off - He still lived locally while his ex-wife had remarried and moved to LA. I think his ex-wife pulled similar crap on him when they got divorced (hence the advice I'm assuming she gave her daughter). +1 for via right there.

Secondly - he liked me and was a pretty well-connected guy (VP of a utility company).

Believe it or not, in person I'm a pretty likeable guy.

 

[zinfamous]

Originally posted by: dainthomas
Good thing OP doesn't have a prenup. That would've been so un-romantic.

my GF was telling me last night that in her country--"pre-nup" is the law when you get married. What is yours and what is theirs before marriage can never be bargained for in future divorce proceedings. Only assets that accrue during the marriage, and jointly. Nothing to sign or discuss beforehand as it is part of the marriage license/contract.

Of course, she's from one of them "socialist" countries that gives everyone health care.

:thumbsup:

 

[dainthomas]

Originally posted by: Adrenaline
Prenups usually become null and void after a certain time frame, in some states the birth of a child. Wikipedia is a powerful thing.

I would hardly say "usually". UPAA is valid in 27 states including Utah, hence no sunset statute.

 

[dud]

Assuming your story is true ... why would you advertise it, in all it's glory, here?

No good can come from this.

 

[PimpJuice]

Originally posted by: Corporate Thug

Originally posted by: HappyPuppy
OP: U R rong! Any money you put into communal assets are half hers. Also, if you put any part of your inheritance into a bank account or checking account anything that money was spent on is half hers. Have fun with your divorce. You sound like a real asshole.

Please stop posting.

Fixed

 

[Codewiz]

Originally posted by: dainthomas

Originally posted by: Adrenaline
Prenups usually become null and void after a certain time frame, in some states the birth of a child. Wikipedia is a powerful thing.

I would hardly say "usually". UPAA is valid in 27 states including Utah, hence no sunset statute.

I don't have a prenup, HOWEVER, my wife nor I had anything going into the married. Our families also have nothing.

We both work and make equal pay. So if we were to divorce, it would be 50/50 anyways.

However, I see the need for a prenup in most marriages. By all means, you are getting into a BUSINESS relationship with your partner. That is what a marriage is. It is a business partnership. What type of business starts without any type of agreement going in? None.

 

[JS80]

Originally posted by: Via

Originally posted by: JS80

Originally posted by: Via
Jesus Christ.

Call a locksmith and don't leave the house until the locks are changed.

I learned that lesson pretty cheaply, in retrospect.

When I was 22 I met an 18 year old college freshman with family issues (her parents had gotten divorced when she was about 10). She dropped out of school, moved in with me, and somehow (it all happened so fast I can barely recall how) we ended up married 6 months later.

Reader's Digest version: another 6 months go by, I come home from work and find the locks changed. Seriously - I was locked out of my own fucking apartment. I had to wake up a friend at 11 pm to have a place to sleep.

The only clue I had at all something was wrong was a few weeks earlier I came home to find her crying on the phone to her mom. But she explained it away.

The resolution: luckily her dad was a pretty nice, reasonable guy and fixed the situation. I was also lucky that my boss at work had just gotten divorced. When I told him what had happend he nearly flew through the roof; he helped me out as well.

Dude. ASPLAIN.

First off - He still lived locally while his ex-wife had remarried and moved to LA. I think his ex-wife pulled similar crap on him when they got divorced (hence the advice I'm assuming she gave her daughter). +1 for via right there.

Secondly - he liked me and was a pretty well-connected guy (VP of a utility company).

Believe it or not, in person I'm a pretty likeable guy.

Yes, but HOW did he fix the situation?

 

[Adrenaline]

Originally posted by: dainthomas

Originally posted by: Adrenaline
Prenups usually become null and void after a certain time frame, in some states the birth of a child. Wikipedia is a powerful thing.

I would hardly say "usually". UPAA is valid in 27 states including Utah, hence no sunset statute.

Some people here act like all 50 states have a lifetime on their prenups. Just realize that there are some states that they become null and void in when certain statutes are met.

I honestly hoe the OP sticks it to his soon to be ex who tried to totally screw him over in a horrible way.