So our priest denied our daughter's baptism...

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Cogman

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Fail logic.

In order for schools to be comparable to parishes, the school board would have to knowingly transfer teachers between schools to avoid getting the teacher into legal trouble.

THEN you can compare them.

However, the school thing isn't the same because the schools are going after the teachers and turning them in immediately --which is what even the Bible tells Catholics that they're required to do. Those priests need to be ejected from the priesthood and CRUCIFIED in the public eye in court for their crimes.

You're defending adults who are molesting children.

Think about what you're arguing.

I am NOT defending adults who are molesting children. I am defending an organization that has adults in it that have molested children. But nice try on the strawman.

Again, see my link above. Schools have been caught doing the same or similar things as the catholics did.

Again, I'm not defending the actions of the catholic church in regards to the molestation. I'm saying that any group large enough will see similar problems if you dig deep enough into it. The whole catholic church and ALL their priests are getting a bad name for the actions of a few of its members. That isn't right. You might as well condemn everyone in the US because some people have molested children.

Edit: Do you have children? How would you feel if one of your sweet children was molested by a school teacher, an uncle, some random guy off the street? Pretty bad I'm sure. That isn't an argument, that is an appeal to emotions.
 

Wyndru

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This thread should be locked.

I'm ok with this too. People gave me a lot to think about, and I appreciate that. After speaking with the priest as well friends and family, my wife and I have decided to seek out another parish. Hopefully we will have better luck getting our little one a christening.
 

Cogman

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I'm ok with this too. People gave me a lot to think about, and I appreciate that. After speaking with the priest as well friends and family, my wife and I have decided to seek out another parish. Hopefully we will have better luck getting our little one a christening.

Good luck. Hopefully you find a more reasonable parish.
 

Nik

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I am NOT defending adults who are molesting children. I am defending an organization that has adults in it that have molested children. But nice try on the strawman.

No, really. There are a LOT of people in the Catholic organization who may not have been the ones with their hand down the kid's pants, but they're just as responsible by hiding it. I really don't care any less about the Catholic criminalhood's misdoings just because someone else does it too. For God's sake, they're supposed to be holy and shit. :rolleyes:

Again, see my link above. Schools have been caught doing the same or similar things as the catholics did.

OH, okay I didn't see your link earlier. Well, that settles it. Schools do it too so Catholics shouldn't be held accountable for their actions. Gotcha.

Again, I'm not defending the actions of the catholic church in regards to the molestation. I'm saying that any group large enough will see similar problems if you dig deep enough into it. The whole catholic church and ALL their priests are getting a bad name for the actions of a few of its members. That isn't right. You might as well condemn everyone in the US because some people have molested children.

The rest of its members give it a bad name for other reasons. :p The point is that these "officers of the church body" who represent the church, who stand as a voice for the church and represent the church to the rest of the world, are the ones responsible for hiding their underling's evil. They ARE the face of the church and that face has a 2nd side.

Edit: Do you have children? How would you feel if one of your sweet children was molested by a school teacher, an uncle, some random guy off the street? Pretty bad I'm sure. That isn't an argument, that is an appeal to emotions.

It's not an appeal to emotions at all. It's an appeal to logic and reason. Those without kids or without interaction with kids do not understand as well as we do how precious and innocent kids are. I'd be willing to bet they care less about it than those with an investment in youth.

Are you trying to say that I should ignore my emotional contribution to my opinion just because it's emotional? If I remove that, I'm going to be comparing child molestation on the same crime level as a car jacking or a pick pocket's slimy fingers.

I'm sorry, but child molesters deserve a special level of hell, right next to wolves-in-priest-clothing who prey on the trust of others.
 
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Cogman

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No, really. There are a LOT of people in the Catholic organization who may not have been the ones with their hand down the kid's pants, but they're just as responsible by hiding it. I really don't care any less about the Catholic criminalhood's misdoings just because someone else does it too. For God's sake, they're supposed to be holy and shit. :rolleyes:
And there you go. This is why your argument is flawed. Because some people do bad things, Everyone in the organization is responsible.


OH, okay I didn't see your link earlier. Well, that settles it. Schools do it too so Catholics shouldn't be held accountable for their actions. Gotcha.
And you accuse me of logical falicies? That has been your whole argument is one giant strawman. Where, in any of my posts did I say "Molesters should get a free pass?" Where did I even infer it? By your logic, we should abolish schools, government, humanity. because OMG there has been a coverup! The only solution is to abolish it and ridicule anyone that is or was a member of that organization!

The rest of its members give it a bad name for other reasons. :p The point is that these "officers of the church body" who represent the church, who stand as a voice for the church and represent the church to the rest of the world, are the ones responsible for hiding their underling's evil. They ARE the face of the church and that face has a 2nd side.
Your right, officers of the church did do some reprehensible things. Your right, those that did it should be punished. What you are sorely mistaken in is your belief that every catholic is evil and the whole catholic church is evil as a result. That just does not hold weight with me.


It's not an appeal to emotions at all. It's an appeal to logic and reason. Those without kids or without interaction with kids do not understand as well as we do how precious and innocent kids are. I'd be willing to bet they care less about it than those with an investment in youth.
I actually have 40 nieces and nephews, and yes, I would be absolutely devastated if any of them were molested. I would seek to get the molester prosecuted to the full extent of the law (and hope to extend the extent of the law.)

That being said. If the person was a plumber, I wouldn't try to abolish all plumbers. If the boss of the plumber covered it up, I would litigate him to the full extent of the law, but I still wouldn't try to abolish all plumbers. If the head of the plumbers union was some how involved and tried to cover it up, I would try to prosecute him to the full extent of the law, but I STILL wouldn't try to abolish all plumbers.

Get the picture? Condemn the people that do the wrong, not the organization the individuals belong to.

Are you trying to say that I should ignore my emotional contribution to my opinion just because it's emotional? If I remove that, I'm going to be comparing child molestation on the same crime level as a car jacking or a pick pocket's slimy fingers.

That is absolutely what I am saying. Emotion has no place in a logical debate. All that it does is cloud your judgment and caue you to make rash statements.

I'm sorry, but child molesters deserve a special level of hell, right next to wolves-in-priest-clothing who prey on the trust of others.
I completely agree with this statement. I think child molesters should be eligible for the death penalty.
 

Nik

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I'm tired of saying "only Group-A is responsible" and you saying "you're blaming everyone" which isn't the case. Obviously.

Beyond your first paragraph, I didn't read the rest of your post and I refuse to keep arguing this with you if you're not even going to bother reading my posts. If you'd rather cram words down my throat, fine, but you'll have to find someone else to do it to.
 

ichy

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Today we spoke to the priest and explained our situation, I explained how I have been with the parish since I was a baby, was confirmed there, married there, etc. I also explained that during our 20's we moved a lot, and were not even in the area for a while so we weren't really going to church a lot except the major holidays. I also explained that we were interested in attending more frequently and would like to raise our daughter into the same parish.

Why would anyone voluntarily go to church more frequently? Church is a place you get dragged to by your parents as a kid.
 

LumbergTech

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I am NOT defending adults who are molesting children. I am defending an organization that has adults in it that have molested children. But nice try on the strawman.

Again, see my link above. Schools have been caught doing the same or similar things as the catholics did.

Again, I'm not defending the actions of the catholic church in regards to the molestation. I'm saying that any group large enough will see similar problems if you dig deep enough into it. The whole catholic church and ALL their priests are getting a bad name for the actions of a few of its members. That isn't right. You might as well condemn everyone in the US because some people have molested children.

Edit: Do you have children? How would you feel if one of your sweet children was molested by a school teacher, an uncle, some random guy off the street? Pretty bad I'm sure. That isn't an argument, that is an appeal to emotions.

The catholic church as an organization actively covered this shit up and propagated much more of it. The catholic church has a lot of problems..including the pope...It isn't just this scandal that has people disliking the catholic church
 

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You can sugar coat it, but you're still antagonizing someone for, seemingly, no reason other than to antagonize them.

Just sayin.

After reading your posts back and forth with Cogman you call me antagonistic? Just sayin, :D
 

Nik

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After reading your posts back and forth with Cogman you call me antagonistic? Just sayin, :D

Yes. See? You're not involved in the conversation between him and I, yet you feel the need to inject yourself with a jab, trying to incite riot.

I'm not antagonizing him in the slightest. I even decided to leave the conversation. That's hardly antagonizing him.
 

dfuze

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Just tell the priest that you are fully commited to going to church on Sundays ... after football season ;)
 

MovingTarget

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Wow ,some serious thread crapping douchebaggery going on here. A new low, even for ATOT.

Agreed.

OP, please post an update after you go try another parish. There are many of us who actually want to know how this is resolved despite the anti-Catholic trolling that has transpired here. Best of luck to you.
 

Phokus

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Agreed.

OP, please post an update after you go try another parish. There are many of us who actually want to know how this is resolved despite the anti-Catholic trolling that has transpired here. Best of luck to you.

"trolling"
 

preslove

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I am NOT defending adults who are molesting children. I am defending an organization that has adults in it that have molested children. But nice try on the strawman.

Again, see my link above. Schools have been caught doing the same or similar things as the catholics did.

Again, I'm not defending the actions of the catholic church in regards to the molestation. I'm saying that any group large enough will see similar problems if you dig deep enough into it. The whole catholic church and ALL their priests are getting a bad name for the actions of a few of its members. That isn't right. You might as well condemn everyone in the US because some people have molested children.

Edit: Do you have children? How would you feel if one of your sweet children was molested by a school teacher, an uncle, some random guy off the street? Pretty bad I'm sure. That isn't an argument, that is an appeal to emotions.

You are in serious denial as to the actual actions of the Catholic hierarchy.
 

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Not that I'm disputing what Cogman is saying, however, I thought I'd read the article he linked to. "Wow," was my first thought as I was reading through it. I didn't realize there was such a problem (and I'm in that field.)

But, when I got to the final paragraph:
In 2004, a report from the Catholic League for Religious and Civil Rights revealed that teachers are more likely than priests to sexually abuse minors. The report said that previous studies from the early 1980's to 1991 showed that one in four girls and one in six boys is sexually abused by a teacher by age 18.
I suddenly felt betrayed by reading an article that apparently used sources that are a bit... sketchy?
 

MovingTarget

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Yes, it is trolling to point out that the same organization that the OP wants to involve his child with, and is having bureaucratic problems with, covered up for and enabled the widespread molestation of children...

http://andrewsullivan.theatlantic.c...-vaticans-watergate-follow-the-money-ctd.html

http://andrewsullivan.theatlantic.c.../the-vaticans-watergate-follow-the-money.html

Considering the context of the OP and the tone that the thread has taken, yes. Debating the theological positions on infant baptism, regular church attendance, or even the sacrament of baptism itself would be related and would likely result in a rewarding conversation/debate on those issues and the OP's situation.

We are all aware of what has happened with the church regarding this issue as it has been repeated ad nauseum both here and in the media. You have to keep a perspective on the issue as many here have tried to point out. This does not mean condoning it in any way, shape, or form. The CC has put in place many programs/procedures for those even remotely involved with church activities (even parents) to both recognize and report any instances of impropriety or suspected impropriety regarding children, probably moreso than similar organizations because of what has happened. But that isn't seen/discussed. Yet, many keep pointing out the issue as exhibit #1 to shut down the church entirely anytime anything even remotely involving the CC comes up and is posted. That, to me, is trolling.

The OP choses to raise his child in the church despite this. It is past time that the abuse scandal stops popping up in every. single. thread. involving Catholics. Catholicism is much more than an abuse scandal, as is Christianity as a whole.
 

Cogman

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Not that I'm disputing what Cogman is saying, however, I thought I'd read the article he linked to. "Wow," was my first thought as I was reading through it. I didn't realize there was such a problem (and I'm in that field.)

But, when I got to the final paragraph:

I suddenly felt betrayed by reading an article that apparently used sources that are a bit... sketchy?

:) sorry, I really did pull the first link that looked relevant from google without doing a thorough reading. (I did skim it). However, I'm pretty sure a little more digging would reveal a cover-up in teacher child abuse somewhere.

http://www.ncregister.com/site/article/7970
http://www.cbsnews.com/stories/2006/08/24/opinion/main1933687.shtml

Here are a couple of articles that may be better (I put a little more effort into looking them up :)) The CBS one is especially good.
 

Cogman

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Considering the context of the OP and the tone that the thread has taken, yes. Debating the theological positions on infant baptism, regular church attendance, or even the sacrament of baptism itself would be related and would likely result in a rewarding conversation/debate on those issues and the OP's situation.

We are all aware of what has happened with the church regarding this issue as it has been repeated ad nauseum both here and in the media. You have to keep a perspective on the issue as many here have tried to point out. This does not mean condoning it in any way, shape, or form. The CC has put in place many programs/procedures for those even remotely involved with church activities (even parents) to both recognize and report any instances of impropriety or suspected impropriety regarding children, probably moreso than similar organizations because of what has happened. But that isn't seen/discussed. Yet, many keep pointing out the issue as exhibit #1 to shut down the church entirely anytime anything even remotely involving the CC comes up and is posted. That, to me, is trolling.

The OP choses to raise his child in the church despite this. It is past time that the abuse scandal stops popping up in every. single. thread. involving Catholics. Catholicism is much more than an abuse scandal, as is Christianity as a whole.

Well said. Catholicism isn't nearly as evil as catholic bashers try to make it out to be (And no, I'm not catholic).
 

Gibson486

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LOL....how did I know that this thread would turn into some debate about good an evil.

Some of you guys are pathetic.

Just let people believe what they want to believe.
 
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