Sleeping with your spouse is way overrated.

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Lifer
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Originally posted by: dullard
You may think that sleeping with your spouse overrated. But you've never felt the other side of the story.

I'm a person who really craves physical touch - hand holds, hugs, cuddles, etc. Ever since I can remember I've wanted to sleep in spoon position with a woman. I had an 11 year realtionship (6 married) in which I never once had slept cuddling her. Even on the Honeymoon she needed a 5 foot long body pillow AND a quilted blanket between us at all times when sleeping. It just eats and eats at you that you can't cuddle while sleeping. And it really kills any chance at middle of the night or early morning sex.

Just last weekend I finally slept in the spoon position with my GF. It was the most heavenly thing I've ever done. Skin on skin, arms and legs tangled. All night long. Sure my arm fell asleep 3 hours before I could. Sure I was a bit hot at times. But it was pure joy. Instant intimacy the instant we woke up too. That never happened with the ex and the layers of pillows/sheets/blankets between us. I can't wait for the weekend to try it again!

Don't bash it, you may one day lose it and regret it.

Man I agree... sleeping cuddled with your GF is one of the greatest feelings ever
 

dullard

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Originally posted by: NuclearNed
<-- eyes dullard suspiciously

Is someone slipping you a little estrogen?
I long ago realized that the "macho" men were the ones who are too chicken$hit to do what they want, to afraid to say what they want, too wimpy to tell the truth. I say what I want and do what I want if it benefits me.

I'm not too afraid to say I like touching women. Call me girly, call it estrogen, I don't care. At least I have the balls to say the truth. ;)

My other estrogen moments:
[*]I like ballroom dancing because dozens of hot women beg for the opportunity to press their chest tightly against mine each night.
[*]I liked being in band, one of 3 males in a class of over 100 females.
[*]I was a manager on the swimming team - with the job of videotaping the women in their skimpy swimsuits.

I hope those "macho" men enjoy spending time alone with other men, slapping other men on the ass. I myself enjoy having women draped on me. Note: I realise what you said was a joke.
 

BKLounger

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I know your pain with the blanket hogging. I started keeping a blanket next to the bed because when i suddenly wake up freezing and notice she is wrapped up like a cocoon then i just reach down and get my spare blanket so i can stay warm.
 

Aquaman

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Remember........ as Windogg always used to say..............always claim "No Wet Spot" after coitus ;)

Cheers,
Aquaman
 

DaShen

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Originally posted by: dullard
You may think that sleeping with your spouse overrated. But you've never felt the other side of the story.

I'm a person who really craves physical touch - hand holds, hugs, cuddles, etc. Ever since I can remember I've wanted to sleep in spoon position with a woman. I had an 11 year realtionship (6 married) in which I never once had slept cuddling her. Even on the Honeymoon she needed a 5 foot long body pillow AND a quilted blanket between us at all times when sleeping. It just eats and eats at you that you can't cuddle while sleeping. And it really kills any chance at middle of the night or early morning sex.

Just last weekend I finally slept in the spoon position with my GF. It was the most heavenly thing I've ever done. Skin on skin, arms and legs tangled. All night long. Sure my arm fell asleep 3 hours before I could. Sure I was a bit hot at times. But it was pure joy. Instant intimacy the instant we woke up too. That never happened with the ex and the layers of pillows/sheets/blankets between us. I can't wait for the weekend to try it again!

Don't bash it, you may one day lose it and regret it.


Then one of you farts, and the moment ends. ;) :p
 

Aquila76

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That gal is all thigh. Or is it ass? It kinda all blends together somewhere I don't want to see, and think nobody has or will for a loooong time.

Back on topic. Yeah, the wife does the same thing. Except she HAS to sleep with a 'clutch pillow' (WTF is that?), always pulls the dog on the bed, and the cat curls up on there sometime during the night, too. I usually wake up on the last 10th of our full-size bed in some kind of position that makes contortionists cry and chiropractors smile.
 

z42

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Originally posted by: NuclearNed
Don't get me wrong - I love my wife dearly and enjoy her close physical proximity, just so long as I'm not trying to reach a blissful state of unconsciousness. And I'm not trying to pretend that every accusation I'm about to make doesn't apply to me as well. I think my problem is that at age 35, I've finally gotten over the instant thrill of being in a large bed with my scantily-clad wife at those times when I know the only goal is not sex but instead to pass out into oblivion.

First there is the snoring. Its a girly, soft snore that doesn't happen all that often, but it is still there occassionally. Then there is the waking up with a pointy elbow firmly lodged in either my throat or one of my eye sockets. Don't get me started on the never-ending struggle that is blanket-hogging. Also, somehow my "half" of the bed ends up being the 1/7th portion that is on the very edge of the mattress. When she's restless, she flops around like a fish out of water. Each and every one of the many times she gets up to go to the restroom each night, I bolt straight up, convinced in my groggy half-awakedness that Charles Manson has come to visit. And her body temperature is something like 178 degrees, so If I'm within five feet of her I'm baking in my own juices.

All I want is cool, peaceful, quiet snooze time. Is that so wrong???

I feel bad about my earlier joking remarks. Let me help you with your troubles.

My personal choice is the Zalman 900. Apply a thin layer of Arctic Silver........
 

ElFenix

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anyway, even though i live with my gf we have separate bedrooms. she likes to pass out at odd times. plus the dogs sleep in my bed. and her mattress is horrible. worst evar! and she likes to take up the middle of the bed. and twist up the sheets. all in all it just doesn't work sleeping together on an every night basis.
 

Accipiter22

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Originally posted by: GTaudiophile
Sex or no sex prior to falling asleep, my GF and I live to cuddle. We sleep WAY later than usual and even try to take naps together. Snoring is not a big issue for us, though body heat can be if the room is not properly cooled. On the whole it's wonderful. She's my cuddle bunny.

did your gf make you write that?
 

SuperSix

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Get a body pillow, put it between you, and also seperate balnkets, I prfere down comforters. Worked for me, before I kicked the bitch to the curb, that is.
 

GTaudiophile

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Originally posted by: Aquaman
Remember........ as Windogg always used to say..............always claim "No Wet Spot" after coitus ;)

Cheers,
Aquaman

What happened to Windogg?
 

Aquaman

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Originally posted by: GTaudiophile
Originally posted by: Aquaman
Remember........ as Windogg always used to say..............always claim "No Wet Spot" after coitus ;)

Cheers,
Aquaman

What happened to Windogg?

Off somewhere......... I've seen him arounnd here but not very often.

Cheers,
Aquaman
 

DainBramaged

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Originally posted by: GTaudiophile
Sex or no sex prior to falling asleep, my GF and I live to cuddle. We sleep WAY later than usual and even try to take naps together. Snoring is not a big issue for us, though body heat can be if the room is not properly cooled. On the whole it's wonderful. She's my cuddle bunny.

<arnold>Gurly Mann</arnold>

:D
 

TallBill

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I hate having someone else in my bed. I turn my back to my wife when I sleep.

I also have restless legs syndrome, and my legs get antsy, especially when I lay down.
 

classy

Lifer
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Originally posted by: NuclearNed
Don't get me wrong - I love my wife dearly and enjoy her close physical proximity, just so long as I'm not trying to reach a blissful state of unconsciousness. And I'm not trying to pretend that every accusation I'm about to make doesn't apply to me as well. I think my problem is that at age 35, I've finally gotten over the instant thrill of being in a large bed with my scantily-clad wife at those times when I know the only goal is not sex but instead to pass out into oblivion.

First there is the snoring. Its a girly, soft snore that doesn't happen all that often, but it is still there occassionally. Then there is the waking up with a pointy elbow firmly lodged in either my throat or one of my eye sockets. Don't get me started on the never-ending struggle that is blanket-hogging. Also, somehow my "half" of the bed ends up being the 1/7th portion that is on the very edge of the mattress. When she's restless, she flops around like a fish out of water. Each and every one of the many times she gets up to go to the restroom each night, I bolt straight up, convinced in my groggy half-awakedness that Charles Manson has come to visit. And her body temperature is something like 178 degrees, so If I'm within five feet of her I'm baking in my own juices.

All I want is cool, peaceful, quiet snooze time. Is that so wrong???


Yea ok. Well don't come in here crying when some guy comes along who wants to sleep in the same bed with her 24/7 and overlook all your little quibbles and she bonds with him to the point you come home and find all your stuff thrown outside. Your dirty clothes mixed in with your clean clothes all piled up by the curb, locks changed, and dude standing in the window hugging your wife while she's in her teddy, wearing your pjs, and sipping some tea out of your favorite cup with a little smirk on his face. Just remember this post about how overrated it is to sleep with your wife even if you ain't getting any. ;)
 

lokiju

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I know exactly what you're going through, I have some of the same issues with my fiancee, she always wants to put her arms around me which I'm fine with except for when I'm trying to fall asleep. Another thing that gets me is when if I'm laying on my side facing away from here and she'll lay facing toward me with her arm on me and breathing on my bare back, there is just no way I can sleep like that.


But it's a touchy subject, she takes it as me not wanting to be close to her but for me it's just that I want to sleep, and I don't see why we need to be cuddling while sleeping :confused:

 

rbV5

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22+ years together sleeping in the same bed and I wouldn't have it any other way. Perhaps its because we are both so busy, and don't seem to ever have much time together alone, but I really need her next to me at night.

Maybe when we're old and gray and together every waking moment we'll look at it differently?
 

IeraseU

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This entire thread is very disturbing to me. I have a really hard time with commitment as it is, and this is not making it any easier. I may just be a bachelor for life.
 

PlatinumGold

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Originally posted by: CVSiN
Originally posted by: NuclearNed
Don't get me wrong - I love my wife dearly and enjoy her close physical proximity, just so long as I'm not trying to reach a blissful state of unconsciousness. And I'm not trying to pretend that every accusation I'm about to make doesn't apply to me as well. I think my problem is that at age 35, I've finally gotten over the instant thrill of being in a large bed with my scantily-clad wife at those times when I know the only goal is not sex but instead to pass out into oblivion.

First there is the snoring. Its a girly, soft snore that doesn't happen all that often, but it is still there occassionally. Then there is the waking up with a pointy elbow firmly lodged in either my throat or one of my eye sockets. Don't get me started on the never-ending struggle that is blanket-hogging. Also, somehow my "half" of the bed ends up being the 1/7th portion that is on the very edge of the mattress. When she's restless, she flops around like a fish out of water. Each and every one of the many times she gets up to go to the restroom each night, I bolt straight up, convinced in my groggy half-awakedness that Charles Manson has come to visit. And her body temperature is something like 178 degrees, so If I'm within five feet of her I'm baking in my own juices.

All I want is cool, peaceful, quiet snooze time. Is that so wrong???

California King FTW!
dont have any of these problems when your girl is sleeping on the other side of a matress so big its got its own zipcode...


and man your wife snores... thats kinda weird.... none of my SOs have ever snored LOL..

if i remember correctly, california kings are longer and narrower than regular kings.

if he wants his wife farther away, than a regular king would serve the purpose better. ;)