should I leave my g/f of 8 years?

[JDrake]

yes

 

[imported_Superdude]

Here SiR I will help you out:
http://forums.anandtech.com/messageview...atid=38&threadid=1870810&enterthread=y

It is a swinger thread. Now you can have other girls without feeling guilty of breaking up.

/thread

 

[Spineshank]

Im approaching the same position as you so i more or less know exactly how you feel right now.

 

[neovan]

www.enotalone.com

 

[Patt]

Get out now ... for both your sakes. If you don't get along with families and friends, and you're unsure of your feelings, how can it persist? If it comes down to that, don't phone her the next time you "need" tail, just hit the clubs with some good friends and take it from there.

 

[junkerman123]

on a side note...sup Patt? how's the swing?

 

[Zysoclaplem]

Originally posted by: zachtos

Originally posted by: DannyLove

are you for real? posting on relationships for help?

Leykis 101 ftw, good f'ing luck

I honestly just need outside people to look in... Everyone else around us is biased one way or another, but most of them say leave. The only ones that say stay are ones that regret leaving someone.

I really just want to see other people... but I'm worried that down the road I would want to come back... that's a big problem. I don't want to make empty promises or hurt her more. I think I'm emotionally dead inside. The last time I broke up w/ her a few weeks ago, she threw herself in the driveway and sobbed hysterically when I tried to leave... It made me feel sad that I didn't feel sad... what is wrong with me?

You are all she knows, and she is all you know.

She is losing her life here. There is no easy answer.
Someone is going to suffer here.

 

[Howard]

Originally posted by: AgentEL

Originally posted by: zachtos

Originally posted by: Papagayo
Be lazy, be late all the time, be inconsiderate, be mean, be a looker front of her, be terrible in bed, look at porn..

Do these things and she will be distant, upset, and will start hating you, which should make it easier for break up.

I think alot of problems started happening after I got out of college... i thought I would be less stressed out. But then I started getting pressure to get a job so we could live together. She bought her own engagement ring and forced me to proposed.

wow, I already have been doing that stuff for a long time now... maybe because I'm unhappy? (but the terrible in bed thing I'm hoping has been mental?)

this is too crazy to be true.

GEEEEEEET OOOOUOUUUUUTTT!!!

 

[LukFilm]

Get out IMMEDIATELY!

 

[spidey07]

After the "she bought an engagement ring and forced me to propose" comment.

You had better not have sex with her ever again. She'll try her darndest to get preggers and then you're screwed. Heck I'm not so sure she probably isn't trying now without telling you.

 

[orakle]

It's was pretty unanimous before the engagement ring thing, but with that in mind I think almost everyone agrees that she's a psycho and you should GET THE FVCK OUT of that relationship.

 

[mikej007]

Don't be afraid to leave thinking that you'll want back in somewhere down the road. It doesn't sound like there's much for you to return to... you WILL NOT be happy in the end, if you stay with her because you feel guilty. You will resent her even more if you feel she's forcing you to stay.

It will be damn hard, but break it off. Hang out with your friends/family A LOT and keep busy. Like someone else said, if it helps, move away. At least that way you're in a new place and nothing will remind you of her. You're still young enough to find someone else.

 

[mugs]

You haven't married her after 9 years, ditch her and find another chick and let her find someone worth staying with.

 

[DannyLove]

I'm done with this thread. He's going to learn the hard way. Some people just have to go through that to really realize their mistakes in life. I bet you don't speak to your father anymore. I bet you didn't have a father figure throughout your life. You need someone to kick your ass for these ridiculous mistakes. You need to look out for yourself not her. If she goes crazy, guess what, that is her problem, not yours; you're not married to her, you don't have any kids with her, you owe her absolutely nothing. If I was your father, I would kick the living sh|t out of you.

 

[Accipiter22]

Originally posted by: astrocase
Nothing is wrong with you. The relationship is over. It's been over for a long time.

yup. they die a slow death...


and zachtos, the weird thing when you break up with her will be this: You'll secretly be relieved, and maybe feel guilty over this relief, but when people say it's like a ton of weight being lifted off of you, they're not kidding! it's suuuuch a good feeling, friend. Best wishes

 

[Accipiter22]

Originally posted by: DannyLove
I'm done with this thread. He's going to learn the hard way. Some people just have to go through that to really realize their mistakes in life. I bet you don't speak to your father anymore. I bet you didn't have a father figure throughout your life. You need someone to kick your ass for these ridiculous mistakes. You need to look out for yourself not her. If she goes crazy, guess what, that is her problem, not yours; you're not married to her, you don't have any kids with her, you owe her absolutely nothing. If I was your father, I would kick the living sh|t out of you.

i agree, but in a less harsh manner. OP You sound totally whipped....and usually the girls that say they're obsessed with you are the ones that have been unfaithful....get out of there OP, and if it hurts, drop me a PM, It's a familiar feeling to me.

 

[Ctrackstar126]

Beat it and leave it


Oh wait to late for that. leave her chubby nagging doesnt like your jokes nor friends ass

 

[AmerDoux]

Originally posted by: S Freud
man I just got out of a situation almost identical to this, your never going to be sure unless you take the plunge and find out. You can't build or further a relatioship on guilt or obligation. If you have doubts then it will never work, from what you have descibed I think that you could do much better then her. And without the support of your families things will always be hard, follow your gut man, what do you have to lose. If she uses those threats as a way to keep you then that is her problem, sounds to me like she cares more about what she wants and having you then what you need.

just my .02

That's it in a nutshell. You are already miserable. The longer you put this off, the more miserable you will become and the messier the breakup is going to be.

 

[Nebor]

Originally posted by: DannyLove

Originally posted by: zachtos
this is depressing... I have another weekend to spend with her. I'm going to try posting on relationship sites for help. I dont know if I can "fix" how I feel. I really can't shake the feeling that I need to be with another woman.

are you for real? posting on relationships for help?
Do what is best for YOU. you are still young, you're barely 25... heck i'm 25, and you have a lot of learn through dating. WHY would you waste your time dealing with BS drama all those years? What is really sad is, most of the people that post YAGT's don't change at all. You are requesting opinions and help but you've already made the decision 99.9% of the time. You need to grow some balls, realize your dream and deal with YOUR life. Why someone allows themself to change for a woman is simply beyond me.

Leykis 101 ftw, good f'ing luck

Hahaha, Leykis 101. Tom's here in North Texas tonight at Lake Lewisville doing a kick off for summer w/ 105.3. I was thinking about going out there, but Tom sure is a dick.

 

[imported_Superdude]

DO NOT BREAKUP WITH THIS GIRL
You obviously love her by posting this thread here in front of everyone. You will break her heart. You wouldnt like it if it was you???

Okay I told you what you wanted to hear....

 

[IMaN00BieGF]

I feel kinda bad saying this, but even I think you should leave her. If you do end up marrying her soon, it will end knowing that you never got to see what else is out there. You obviously want out. When you said you had no amotions about leaving her except feeling sorry for her.. That was the hint for me. It's going to be hard for her, but you have to do it and when you leave for a while you'll know whether you truly love her or not. If it's meant to be she'll be there waiting for you in the end.

 

[iroast]

Do what you feel is right. Don't string her along. That would be wrong.

 

[Nebor]

Originally posted by: iroast
Do what you feel is right. Don't string her along. That would be wrong.

Yeah. She may be putting antifreeze in your koolaid.

 

[AMDZen]

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem

Originally posted by: zachtos

Originally posted by: DannyLove

are you for real? posting on relationships for help?

Leykis 101 ftw, good f'ing luck

I honestly just need outside people to look in... Everyone else around us is biased one way or another, but most of them say leave. The only ones that say stay are ones that regret leaving someone.

I really just want to see other people... but I'm worried that down the road I would want to come back... that's a big problem. I don't want to make empty promises or hurt her more. I think I'm emotionally dead inside. The last time I broke up w/ her a few weeks ago, she threw herself in the driveway and sobbed hysterically when I tried to leave... It made me feel sad that I didn't feel sad... what is wrong with me?

You are all she knows, and she is all you know.

She is losing her life here. There is no easy answer.
Someone is going to suffer here.

So?

People go through these kinds of things - its called LIFE

Just get rid of the fat b!tch, the only reason this isn't a simple descision of you is because you have no self esteem. WAHAHHHAHAHH I want to leave, but I'm worried I might be alone. STF what? You might come to realize that you like it, I wouldn't change single life for anything ATM. The last thing I need is a women to take up my time and resources.

 

[nakedfrog]

Originally posted by: Nebor

Originally posted by: iroast
Do what you feel is right. Don't string her along. That would be wrong.

Yeah. She may be putting antifreeze in your koolaid.

But only because it tastes so gosh-darn good, right?