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Sexless marriages
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NikPreviousAcct
No Lifer
I don't like the whole public's view on marriage, either, Nebor. Signing a stupid piece of paper somehow makes you MORE committed to them than making the same committment in your heart? Arg... don't get me started. 😛
Sadly, I'm in such a posistion right now. My Carol is going through severe depression and sex doesn't interest her at all because of her self-image. I end up trying to ignore the problem by working long hours and spending way too much time on AT. She refuses the idea counselling or therapy. 🙁
radioouman
Diamond Member
It is difficult to remain faithful. It seems to go in cycles.
Duration - 3 years so far
Assets are the most difficult part. I want her to have health insurance, a way to retire in 30 years, and I want her to be able to finish her grad school. Otherwise, I would have ended this a long time ago.
But there is more to life than sex.
How long would you stay married but faithful to someone who had no interest in sleeping with you ?
About two minutes
would you stay and remain faithful ?
Hell No
would you cheat ?
like a big dog
what would you do ? discuss !
I would give her about five minutes to get her s@it and to get out, any children in the marrage would be staying with me and I have my lawyer persue her for the child support and for emotional abandonment.
About two minutes
would you stay and remain faithful ?
Hell No
would you cheat ?
like a big dog
what would you do ? discuss !
I would give her about five minutes to get her s@it and to get out, any children in the marrage would be staying with me and I have my lawyer persue her for the child support and for emotional abandonment.
Geekbabe
Moderator Emeritus<br>Elite Member
The alimony for the cheating wife thread kicked off a lot of discussion around here and the side topic of why people cheat came up. I thought it was a discussion worth pursuing.
As for myself all I can say is that sex is 10% of a marriage when it works well but it's 90 % when it doesn't. There are many hardships in life Nik, if you can't find comfort and joy in an intimate way with your partner it makes life a lot harder.
Wolfsraider
Diamond Member
What about those that are incapable to perform even weekly (no pun intended)
Too many times its about I not we, Marriage does not guarentee anything.
It can test your willingness to endure, as well as stretch your understandings of the way things work.
Either way its a choice for most.But thats not love...It is choosing to love, And in my book thats a huge difference.
Judging ... without being in the situation is meaningless. Is marriage disposable? Is love?
If you answer yes then you were never prepared for marriage or love.
I am fortunate enough to have a very loving wife, who supports me.I never asked to be disabled...Would you?
She is my best friend. It does hurt my heart to know I may never give her the full satisfaction she deserves, But there isn't a day that goes by that I don't thank God that I was never put in front of a review board of questions to determine if I was / am worth spending the rest of her life with.
Some of you sound as if its the end of the world or a disease to be with someone that has a physical impairment. I hope when its your time... there is someone who can love you, without discarding you like yesterdays trash.
We have 3 children, 2 she brought into our relationship and one we had together, all of which call me dad.
Would they be better off fatherless?
I am thankfull that she is the one I fell in love with.
Sure we endure hard times, but we also enjoy living and having fun too.
I am not dead lol just disabled. I know that I may never be the father my children wanted, you know the one that can play outside, run, jump, ride bikes. But I can still love them and dry their tears, kiss their boo boos, and teach them to respect life and those in it.
Just thought you needed an opinion from the "FAR SIDE".
Mike
Too many times its about I not we, Marriage does not guarentee anything.
It can test your willingness to endure, as well as stretch your understandings of the way things work.
Either way its a choice for most.But thats not love...It is choosing to love, And in my book thats a huge difference.
Judging ... without being in the situation is meaningless. Is marriage disposable? Is love?
If you answer yes then you were never prepared for marriage or love.
I am fortunate enough to have a very loving wife, who supports me.I never asked to be disabled...Would you?
She is my best friend. It does hurt my heart to know I may never give her the full satisfaction she deserves, But there isn't a day that goes by that I don't thank God that I was never put in front of a review board of questions to determine if I was / am worth spending the rest of her life with.
Some of you sound as if its the end of the world or a disease to be with someone that has a physical impairment. I hope when its your time... there is someone who can love you, without discarding you like yesterdays trash.
We have 3 children, 2 she brought into our relationship and one we had together, all of which call me dad.
Would they be better off fatherless?
I am thankfull that she is the one I fell in love with.
Sure we endure hard times, but we also enjoy living and having fun too.
I am not dead lol just disabled. I know that I may never be the father my children wanted, you know the one that can play outside, run, jump, ride bikes. But I can still love them and dry their tears, kiss their boo boos, and teach them to respect life and those in it.
Just thought you needed an opinion from the "FAR SIDE".
Mike
PricklyPete
Lifer
That is a really tough question especially if you put children in the picture.
I think it would be very hard to feel in love with someone if they no longer had any interest in making love to me...or just being intimate period.
I could get by (as many people here do outside of their control) with just dealing with my sexual frustration on my own...but I think the rejection would be the real problem for me.
If my partner had a medical situation that kept them from having normal intercourse or performing other sexual acts, but was still intimate with me to what capacity they could...I think I could handle that happily.
If they just decided they don't want to sleep with me anymore for whatever reason...I would have to move on.
If you throw kids into the picture...I'd have to say that I'd want to make the decision based on what is best for the kids...which adds so many new variables, I don't think you could answer that question without being in that situation.
I think it would be very hard to feel in love with someone if they no longer had any interest in making love to me...or just being intimate period.
I could get by (as many people here do outside of their control) with just dealing with my sexual frustration on my own...but I think the rejection would be the real problem for me.
If my partner had a medical situation that kept them from having normal intercourse or performing other sexual acts, but was still intimate with me to what capacity they could...I think I could handle that happily.
If they just decided they don't want to sleep with me anymore for whatever reason...I would have to move on.
If you throw kids into the picture...I'd have to say that I'd want to make the decision based on what is best for the kids...which adds so many new variables, I don't think you could answer that question without being in that situation.
FrustratedUser
Lifer
A few months max.
No
Yes
????
Get pissed at wife.
ABitTooSpicy
Senior member
oh its not rape... its suprise sex... 😉
A wife of a good buddy of mine put on 60'lbs within a year and a half after giving birth to their son. She use to be a very attractive girl.. slim.. 5'6" roughly 125lbs. Now, he is so turned off by her weight gain, and even more turned off that she is not motivated to do anything about it. He's mentioned the "d word" to me a few times, and I know he's serious. He is no longer sexually attracted to his new wife, and that is very sad. He tells me he stays up late at night and doesn't go to be until he knows she's asleep, that way he won't feel pressure to have sex with her. Sad..
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